Thomas Edward Brearley

June 24, 1952September 9, 2020
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Tom “TB” Brearley, 68, passed away peacefully at home on September 9, 2020 with his family by his side, after a courageous battle with Glioblastoma Multiforme (GBM) brain cancer.

Tom was born on June 24, 1952 in Johnson City, NY to Ray and Arlene (Schild) Brearley. In what he often described as the greatest move of his life, he married Kathy Wall on August 7, 1976. Together they raised three sons, Mike (Jessi), Dan (Jamie) and Matt (Brittany). They have four loving grandchildren, Molli, Marilyn, William and Hudson. Tom is survived by his two sisters, Linda (Richard) Kromer and Beth (Joe) Kelly, lifelong friend and brother-in-law Rick (Bridgit) Wall, sisters-in-law Nancy (Tim) Woytek, Donna Wall, Mary (Randy) Whitehead, Aunt Ruth Warner, as well as many cousins, nieces, nephews and countless friends.

Tom graduated from Vestal High School in 1970 and went on to receive an Associate degree from Broome Technical College and earned both a Bachelor’s in engineering and MBA from Syracuse University. He had a distinguished 39-year career at IBM in Endicott, NY and Raleigh, NC in manufacturing, management and technical sales. His most recent role was an instructor for IBM’s Global Sales School where he enjoyed mentoring sales professionals and was surrounded by numerous outstanding colleagues.

Tom was passionate about car maintenance and DIY. He once painted a Corvette in a paint booth he set up in his parent’s garage, changed the clutch on a Datsun 240z with the help of his sons, and repaired a broken wheel on a Honda Accord using only a C-clamp. Tom’s knack for home repairs often made him the first call for neighbors, friends and family when they needed help around their homes. He was always happy to help.

Tom was proud of his family and enjoyed watching his boys grow up playing sports. He loved having his family close in Raleigh and spending time with them in Wrightsville Beach. He was a fan of the NC State Wolfpack and Syracuse Orange and could be found with close friends at football and basketball games. Tom honed his golf game on the hillsides of Endwell Greens and IBM Country Club in upstate New York. A round with his sons was his favorite foursome, especially playing Pinehurst No. 2 to celebrate his 60th birthday. He enjoyed golf trips with his friends to South Carolina, Florida and Pinehurst, and was a member of Brier Creek Country Club in Raleigh, where he enjoyed playing golf and tennis. Tom and Kathy were blessed to have traveled the world with their closest friends.

TB will be remembered as a great son, brother, husband, father, grandfather, uncle and friend whose witty sense of humor, analytical mind and playful nature brought a smile to everyone’s face.

Family will receive friends on Tuesday, September 15 from 4 until 7 p.m. at Mitchell Funeral Home, 7209 Glenwood Ave, Raleigh, NC. A private family memorial service will be held on Wednesday, September 16 at 10:30 a.m. The service will be live streamed publicly from Tom’s Facebook page as well this link:

The family would like to extend their deepest gratitude to the Preston Robert Tisch Brain Tumor Center at Duke Hospital and the Duke HomeCare & Hospice Team.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks you to consider expressions of sympathy be made to "StacheStrong", a non-profit organization supporting brain cancer research via in memory of Team TB.


  • Visitation

    Tuesday, September 15, 2020

  • Private Memorial Service

    Wednesday, September 16, 2020



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Jeff Beam

September 16, 2020

Tom was a wonderful man. I have known him since high school days and have many memories of time with him and Kathy back in our NY days. Gone to soon. Faye and I pass on our regrets Kathy to you and your family and pray that God will give you peace. You sure have a wonderful family.
Jeff & Faye Beam

Bob & Anita Boezi

September 16, 2020

Dearest Kathy & family,
It's so hard to find the words to express all of our feelings right that we send out to all of you. We have so many beautiful memories that we shared, laughter, love, special get together' s. Tom, your wit and that beautiful smile will always remain in our hearts. You are a truly a beautiful loving strong family. This past year you have done so many wonderful things together to share every moment you could spend with Tom. May you find peace from all your memories. God Bless You !
We love you.
Bob & Anita Boezi

Nancy Farhad

September 15, 2020

Dear Kathy & family,
My sincerest condolences at your loss. May your many joyful memories over the years sustain you. In light of Covid I regret I can not extend my symphony personally. Sending you healing light and positive energy. Blessings.
Nancy Farhad

Bernard & Judy Malewiacki

September 15, 2020

I had the privilege of being one of Tom's buddies for many years!
It was always wonderful memories when "The 4 Amigo's" got together on their annual outing to reflect on all our crazy times from the past and present.

We celebrate Tom's life, though he is physically gone his memories live on forever and may you find peace in knowing that Tom Loved his Family & Friends deeply and would have wished to stay longer. Treasure every moment of Tom!

Our sincerest sympathy goes out to Kathy and the Family.


September 14, 2020

We've heard it often..."a life well-lived". Whenever we hear it again, it's going to be Tom's smiling face we'll see. Husband, father, grandfather, loyal friend, do-it-yourself expert, competitor at ANYTHING, dessert connoisseur, sports commentator, rapier wit....he was effortlessly awesome at all of it. None of us know when our time will come although we plan as though it never will. The lesson we learn is to live each day 110% and love the people around you. Thank you, TB, for showing how it's done.

Joe and Carol Bramante

September 14, 2020

Kathy and family,

We are heartbroken for you and your family on the loss of Tom. He was a great
friend, husband, father and grandpa.
We will hold onto our very fond memories of the times we spent together and how he would always provide the gift of conversation and friendship. He truly treated his family like friends and his friends like family. We are happy to have been a part of his life.
Carol and Joe

Ed DeMulder

September 13, 2020

Dear Kathy & Family,
We were so sad to hear about Tom's passing. Tom was a wonderful friend and a terrific family man. The "Endicott years" involved working at IBM together, golf at the IBM CC, IBM Basketball and Softball. Tom kidded me for years about sitting down on the floor and resting in the middle of an IBM Basketball game despite having ruptured my achilles tendon! Deb immediately remembered his ever-present smile and laugh.
Tom will be remembered very fondly. You are in our prayers!
Debbie and Ed DeMulder

Chris and Jackie Evans

September 13, 2020

Our deepest sympathy to the Brearley family at this time of sorrow. We played golf and tennis with Tom at Brier Creek Country Club and we had many great times together. Tom was a member of our teams which won state tennis championships in 2014 and 2018. We will miss him.

Bob Eash

September 12, 2020

I am sad to hear of Tom’s passing. He was a great man and always a pleasant and positive person. He will be missed. Prayers for comfort to you and your family.

With sympathy,
Bob Eash

Vincent Papi

September 12, 2020

Tom always had a smile and a kind word for anybody he met. The senior golf group at BCCC will miss Tom and all that he brought to our group. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!

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