OBITUARY

Frances "Connie" Duttlinger

March 21, 1937January 25, 2019
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Frances "Connie" Duttlinger was born on March 21, 1937 and passed away on January 25, 2019.

  • FAMILY

  • Rita Anderson, Daughter
  • Darryl Duttlinger, Son
  • Coreen Aldama, Daughter
  • Tina Duttlinger, Daughter
  • Karla Cerrilo, Daughter

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  • Funeral Service Monday, February 4, 2019
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Frances "Connie" Duttlinger

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Biography

If there was ever a person who wanted to heal all the wrongs in the world, it was Frances Duttlinger. She was an idealist who sought to bring harmony to those around her. Even though "Connie" was enthusiastic and generous, it was sometimes difficult for her to boast about her accomplishments. "Connie" had strong personal convictions, making it hard for her to relinquish those ideals she held dearest to herself. Despite her outer strengths and beliefs, "Connie" sometimes struggled in her efforts to see the world as completely positive. "Connie"'s life motto was always to hope for the best and work hard towards that end, but be prepared for some of life's disappointments. This philosophy was a continual driving force in her life, but it did not extinguish the bright light that defined the dreamer in "Connie", something that was always there and that she readily shared with everyone around her.
"Connie" was born on March 21, 1937 at San Mateo General Hospital in San Mateo, California. Her parents were Joseph and Jennie Soto. "Connie" was raised in Redwood City, California. As a youngster, "Connie" demonstrated an excellent vocabulary and command of language. She was a compassionate person, a quality that she would carry with her throughout her life. Even at a young age, "Connie" was sensitive to her parents’ moods and worked hard to please them and live up to their expectations.
Throughout her life, "Connie" showed a remarkable ability to mend relationships. She was caring, diplomatic and tolerant of the feelings of those around her. This was true even with her five siblings. Although typical rivalries while growing up, “Connie” and siblings cared deeply for one another.
As a young girl, "Connie" lived a childhood filled with fantasy. She was generally in pursuit of her own identity, but she was also adaptable to almost any situation she faced. In her spare time she liked watching movies and wrestling with her dad.
High school was a time for "Connie" to seek out knowledge. She enjoyed learning and had a natural interest in gathering information. "Connie" had a flair for the poetic and was very expressive and articulate, especially when it came to her writing. "Connie" took her education seriously. She enjoyed some courses more than others, having favorite classes and teachers.
While those who did not know her well found "Connie" to be somewhat reserved until they got to know her, she was an authentic and devoted friend. "Connie" was a tranquil person, with an easygoing and open-minded attitude towards life. She presented a pleasant face to the outside world but concealed the pain and discomfort she felt over her own friends’ difficulties. "Connie" sought to achieve harmony with everyone and possessed the ability to mend conflicts and avoid interpersonal struggles. Later in life, she became friends with Judy, Chuy, and Rita.
The desire for romance was always present in "Connie"'s life. She succeeded in finding it on August 31, 1963, when "Connie" exchanged wedding vows with Karl Helmut Duttlinger in a Chapel in Reno, Nevada. "Connie" cared passionately for Karl. Her deep loyalty and a strong commitment to her vows brought a sense of completeness to their marriage.
"Connie" was a gentle person who held deep feelings for her children. She enjoyed having fun with her kids and was at times fiercely protective of them. "Connie" showed great empathy in her willingness to give every family member a voice in family decisions. She was blessed with five children, four daughters, Rita, Coreen, Tina, and Karla and one son, Darryl. They were also blessed with thirteen grandchildren, Jenny, Anthony, Alicia, Elijah, Jeremy, Joel, David, Brandon, James Ashley, Saleena, Celisia, and Douglas.
Blessed with a strong sense of integrity, "Connie" was as loyal and committed in her work as she was in the rest of her life. "Connie" always seemed to be able to get the job done. She was most comfortable working on the projects and jobs that she strongly supported. She was Self-Employed - Co-Owner/Bookkeeper of a Landscape Business. "Connie" always tried to be a team player, doing what was necessary in order to get the job done.
"Connie" enjoyed her leisure time by taking part in various hobbies. Her favorite pursuits were sewing, painting, shopping, and gambling. "Connie" was content to enjoy her hobbies alone but she was also willing to share her interests with others.
"Connie"'s tremendous enthusiasm for the activities she enjoyed also influenced the pleasure she drew from sports. She enjoyed watching baseball and basketball.
"Connie" enjoyed traveling and going away on vacations. Taking trips provided the chance for her to kick back and relax, to visit new places and see new things. Favorite vacations included going on cruises, and Colorado.
"Connie" was a lover of animals and cherished her pets. One of "Connie"'s favorites were Niña, a dog, and Lady, a cat. They were best friends for her entire life. Her family was rounded out by farm Animals.
Though "Connie" always appeared to be dreaming of greener pastures, she was accepting of retirement when it finally came in 2004. Long-range planning skills served her well in preparing for the “golden years. In retirement, she found new pleasure in continuing to shop and gamble, and decorating. Even in retirement, "Connie" continued to stay in touch with her old friends while making plenty of new acquaintances. She was active in the community and felt fulfilled with the opportunities that retirement offered her.
"Connie" passed away on January 25, 2019 at Home in Portola Valley, California. She is survived by five children, thirteen gandchildren , and seven great grandchildren.
Frances Duttlinger was someone who was able to see the world as a good and honorable place. She viewed the people who inhabited it as essentially good. A person who tended to see the world in terms of black and white, "Connie" tried to focus on the good she saw, knowing that there were times she would have to compromise. She was selfless and deeply committed to all things positive and good. "Connie" was a person who would keep her eye on tomorrow and constantly held onto her dreams. She was capable of being mystical at times, and she could be the seer or shaman of a group. It was this exceptional insight and quiet reserve that that became "Connie"'s trademark qualities for all who knew her, and it was one of the many reasons why all who knew her loved Frances “Connie” Duttlinger.