It’s hard to believe two years have passed. I miss you dearly my friend. There isn’t a day that goes by that you aren’t in my thoughts.  I can’t tell how many times I’m trying to fix something and ask myself, what would Scotty do? And, before you know it, the job is done! I feel your presence often and still want to reach for my phone to catch up. I’m looking forward to the day we can finally  have the chance to do that again.  Until then, your spirit will always be with me. 

The Wickstroms were family friends of the Hughes when I was a kid. Scotty was a year older than me and I remember him well although I hadn't seen him for at least 30 years. Our whole family is saddened by his passing and extend our best wishes to his family and friends. I wish I had heard about this sooner so I could have attended the service at St. Pius.

My clearest memory of Scotty was when we were on a family camping trip to memorial park with the Wickstroms. I was probably 10 or so. For some reason Scotty rode his bike with some buddies all the way to the park. When he got there we were playing around, and sliding down a hillside on the seats of our pants. Well, Scotty's pants were full of strike-anywhere matches, which ignited from the friction of sliding down. I have this recollection of Scotty popping up from his slide and running the rest of the way down the hill, streaming smoke and screaming like a banshee. In later years, he was always happy to show me the scar from that event on his derriere.

I'm so happy for Scotty that it looks like he had a great family, good friends, and a satisfying life which is about all we can ask for.  Take care, Scotty.

If a person has so much admiration and love given back, then must have done something right - need more in this world.

Uncle Scotty was the man. All my favorite memories of him are of him spoiling us or making us laugh. When we were little, he'd take us to the candy store and let us pick out anything we wanted. We could even get two things. I thought that was SO cool. He loved spoiling all of the cousins. I think it made it him really happy. I'll miss him saying, "Hello beautiful" when he saw me, the scent of his polo cologne mixed with mint nicorette gum, and his laugh. Love you forever Uncle Scotty

Dear God,
Wrap our brother Scotty in your loving arms.
Even though I know you have a plan, he was taken from us way too soon.
Please give him the best seat in the house to watch down upon,  Lori, Nicole, Samantha and Serena. Let them feel his presence, knowing he is beside them, sharing their joys and struggles throughout their lives.
Let him watch down upon his siblings, nieces and nephews, keeping them safe. We will forever cherish all our fond memories of Scotty and keep him alive in our hearts.
Let his presence be felt by my parents on a regular basis to ease their sorrow and pain.
Give him access to the best fishing spots, letting him catch the biggest fish ever!
Give him his favorite cigar with a tall glass of Jamison scotch. To top it off, lead him to a dance floor, he likes nothing better than to show others his unique dance style. He'll bring down the house!
Take him to an awesome golf course and let him get a hole in one.
Surround him with children so he can always be the fun guy.
Place him with a group of guys that love to share jokes!
Don't let him get bored. He loves to help others and fix things.
Give him one more hug for us and tell him we love him so much, one more time.
Let him know we'll be meeting him up there one day, but until then we will miss him every day of our lives.
Love, 
His big sister Kathy

Uncle Scotty, thank you for always saying hi to me and taking the time to talk with me at family parties.  You always made me feel special and cared for, and I'll never forget how giving you've always been to me and everyone you know.  From pulling my first wiggly tooth at grandma and grandpa's house to the annual Lake Shasta houseboating trips, you have created so many unforgettable memories for me.  I think one of the main reasons our family is so close is a result of your houseboating trips, and I am so grateful for that.  The last time I saw you, despite how busy you were, you insisted that you had time to let me look through your storage unit.  The whole car ride over, you were so sweet and made me laugh.  Before you got out of the car to say goodbye, you paused and said, I love you, sweetie.  The way you said that made me feel so loved and so lucky to have an uncle as loving as you that I instantly began to tear up.  Although I knew I was about to leave home and go back to college in a couple of hours, knowing that I had such a loving, supportive uncle made me feel so comforted that my sadness about leaving home felt so much smaller.  I am so thankful that I got to spend that moment with you, Uncle Scotty.  That one morning perfectly captures who you are.  Generous, thoughtful, and unbelievably loving.  I love you so much, Uncle Scotty.

We are all so lucky to have known Scotty. We are forever indebted to him for sharing his wonderful family with us. I always loved watching him with my daughters - it always warmed my heart, even when they weren't very nice back to him. We will always remember Scotty with warmth, love, and laughter; we will miss his jokes, his smile, and his incredible cooking. 
We will forever miss Scotty and love the Wickstrom ladies as part of our own family! 
Love: Steve, Tori, Hailey, and Paige

Scotty always happy, always helpful, always funny. I will miss seeing how much you enjoyed life and cherishing every moment with your family. I will miss the annual houseboating trip with our families, and you telling me every year when I took off my shirt that you couldn't wait for the day that I got fat. I'll miss seeing every time that one of our nieces or nephews has a loose tooth that you will be ready to pull it out (even when it isn't quite ready) and rewarding them with $20. I'll miss seeing you fix anything and always helping anyone in need. You taught me that there are ways to fix things other than using duct tape.  Most of all, I am going to miss your friendship and joking with you at family parties. At the last family get-together, you said you would pay for anyone to educate themselves for as long as they wanted. I said, thank you and that I was going to quit my job and go back to school to be a doctor. You said, I don't mean you, you idiot...I'm talking about my girls! 

I am so thankful that I got to spend the last 28 years of my life with you and for how kind you always were to me and the family. I love you and miss you, Scotty.

Dearest Uncle Scotty, 
To say you were generous is an understatement.  You shared your love of life with everyone you met. You created special moments and bonds on our annual houseboating trips that we'll treasure forever. I think of you often and always with a smile! Love you always,
Carly

Uncle Scotty always made everyone feel so special. I can picture walking through the doors to any family party, to see Scotty grinning at me, his smile always made me feel so welcomed and happy. Hi beautiful he would always say, as he gave me a hug. Even his scent was comforting. He smelled like a mixture of mint gum, fresh laundry and the slight scent of cigars.  Periodically he would stop and and remind me you and me are the special little twins, he would giggle and wink the lucky ones. I always loved this and it really did make me feel special. Christmas eve was the last time I saw Scotty and as I was walking out the door to leave he told me one last time that that we were the special little ones. I remember smiling while walking out the door. I am so thankful to have had such an inspirational uncle. He always seemed so happy and he put a genuine smile on the face of every individual whom he interacted with. I love and miss you Uncle Scotty!

Dear Lori, Nicole, Sammy and Serena:

I've included a recent picture from Harry's dated Christmas 2016 - one of the last times I saw Scotty.  Ideally I wanted to post an older one. I've been looking through old albums for a picture of Scotty but I couldn't find one. :-(   Of course we didn't take pictures back then with the frequency and ease of photo taking today ... but the real reason is that Scotty was ALWAYS at work, especially when you girls were young. And he worked impossible hours - always striving for perfection - always wanting to provide the best product with the best service to his clients - always driven to be the best. And I mean THE BEST. And that included being the best husband and father to you all. When he committed himself to something or to someone - he only knew how to be "all in" - 120% - 100mph - he didn't have a "moderate" setting. I loved, enjoyed, respected and appreciated this quality about him and it will always be what I remember the most. His sole motivation to build his business was simple:  he wanted to give his family everything - he wanted you to have the best life he could provide.  You four were the most important people in his life and always will be. He never boasted about his business success; instead he bragged about his family. Your kindness, your intelligence, your work ethic and your strong sense of family are direct reflections of his efforts.  Lori, Scotty loved you with all of his heart; he especially loved your patience, support and strength and deeply admired your capacity to love and to serve. 

I will miss Scotty deeply - he will always be in our daily prayers, forever.  Love, Tracey, Kent, Stephanie, Mason and Walker

Uncle Scotty, I will be forever grateful for the memories you created for the cousins in Shasta every year. Your zest for life was contagious and I hope to carry your generous spirit with me forever. You will be so missed, but your legacy lives on through your amazing daughters. xxoox, Allie

Scotty, it's hard to put into words how much you mean to me and how much I miss you. 

You were there for me when my girls were little, being a father figure to them and rescuing me when my car broke down. You always had a smile on your face and never complained about what I might be pulling you away from. 

You always loved the babies, first it was my kids and all your nieces and nephews, then your own three sweet daughters. I know how much you loved Lori and your girls and know that I will always be there for them. 

When I think of you, I hear your laughter and see your smile. 

I will love you and miss you forever and hope that you are at peace, looking down on us and knowing how much we love you. 

All my love. XOXO

Well, I'm gonna miss ya Scotty! It's not often in life that one comes across a person that was so many things to so many people; great husband, great day, great friend, to name a few. While I will often think about the things we would have done, I will cherish the memories of the things we did together.
Love ya man...

Another memory I wanted to share...When I was 7 years old and Scotty was 14, we were home alone together.  Our oldest sister, Bebes, (Marybeth), was in the hospital delivering her first daughter, Tami.  I was terrified that my sister was in labor and so scared for her and I couldn't stop crying.  To distract me, Scotty said, let's make our niece a doll!  He got out the sewing machine and we spend the night together making a doll for Tami.  I remember it being so fun and it took my mind off everything.  In the end, we'd created the sweetest black and white checked doll with buttons for eyes.  Only Scotty would know how to work a sewing machine at the age of 14.

Scotty you kept us on our toes with your boundless energy and zest for life! You will be missed so much but know you loved us unconditionally!

I'm so thankful I spent 9 consecutive summers house boating with you, Scotty, because I can look back at those summers as the most special and memorable times we spent together.  The ride up to Lake Shasta was always exciting...you and Lori would fill the motorhome with everything we'd need for a week of fun, load your girls, their friends, nieces and nephews in the motorhome and I'd follow behind you in my car. Once we got to Shasta, you'd get out of the motorhome, happy as can be.  The temperature was usually in the 100's and you'd have ice cold, Coors Light ready for us in the ice-chest, we'd crack one together and start unloading.  After the boat was loaded with our supplies and you were driving to our spot you would steer from the top of the boat, light up a cigar and smile.  I can just picture the warm air blowing on us, the beautiful view of Lake Shasta, and sitting near you as we talked together.  During the trip, you gave all the kids the most fun and scariest tubing rides of their lives...they loved it!  And it didn't matter how many times it took for one of the kids to get up wakeboarding...you'd never complain and always encouraged them to keep trying.  You've always been so loving, supportive and accommodating to all of our kids. I have a video of us all singing Bohemian Rhapsody in the kitchen of the house boat.  You are laughing, singing and smiling from ear to ear and then you say loudly, worth every penny!  The happiness of all of our kids meant everything to you.  Thank you, Scotty, for creating everlasting memories and bonding our kids together each summer, for all the work you did while we were house boating, for walking by each of our daughters and saying hi, beautiful and for being such a giving, selfless, hilarious and amazing brother to me.  I will miss joking with you and everything about you.  I hope to carry on some of your selfless and loving attributes.  I love you so much, Scotty.  Love, your sister, Bridget.

Dear Scotty, 
We all miss you.  Our Lives were better because you were our friend.  We shared fun and challenging times, some how you always made things better.  We cherish all the parties, festivals and St. Pius Events we shared with you, Lori, Nicole, Sam and Serena.  You were so generous and fun. 
Love,
The Woropay Family

I am so grateful to have had Uncle Scotty in my life. He played such a big role in my childhood. I have many wonderful memories of house boating when I was a kid.  On those trips, he taught me how to fish.  I remember him taking me jet skiing for the first time.  He stayed by my side in the ER when they stitched up my busted lip in kindergarten. After being stitched up, he (and Lori) took me to Toys R Us to pick out any toy of my choice (a Cabbage Patch doll).   Of course, that made the busted lip totally worth it!  Uncle Scotty was always there for me as a father figure. I remember when I turned 16 and asked my dad if he would be able to give me a loan for a car. My dad was unable to help, so I approached Uncle Scotty.  When I asked, he immediately said yes. There was no hesitation to help me out. Not only did he loan me the money, he took me to go look at cars and helped with the purchase. He was always helping others, putting others before himself and was so generous.  
Marrying Lori and having their three daughters made his life complete.  The girls were the light of his life and he was the most devoted father. Making them happy, made him happy.  I know he was so proud of all of their accomplishments.  
The sadness and grief that I feel about not being able to see Uncle Scotty's big smile, feel his warm hug and contagious positive energy...is unbearable at times.  But I try to find solace in knowing that he is looking down on us and that someday, we will meet again. I know that he would not want us to grieve, but to find peace in the happy memories that we shared. I love you and miss you so much Uncle Scotty and you will always hold a special place in my heart.

I will always remember the way Scotty lived life to the fullest and his generosity and his smile! I will miss sharing time in Hawaii(especially the delicious mahimahi that he would fry up!) and Santa Cruz with him. He will not be forgotten, ever! He holds such a special place in John and my heart as does the rest of the family.

Lori, Serena, Sam and Nicole,
The loss of a person as wonderful as Scotty isn't going to be easy. The mark he left is a great one. I see his kindness and generosity through Serena. She has Scotty's zest for life and his loving spirit. Scotty must be so very proud of all his girls. I certainly am! You three girls and Lori are all full of love and grace and endearing commitment to the word FAMILY. Dear sweetie pie Serena, you know I adore you. I wish you comfort and peace.
All my love,
Sharon Valentine

To my friend, an eternal boy with more toys than anyone I ever knew - an amazing father - who clearly embraced the essence of family life- Will miss you but know you are drinking that silver oak in the sky  - Kathy Renschler

Uncle Scotty was much more than an uncle to me. When I was a little girl, he was like a dad to me and my sister. He lived next door to my sister, myself, and my mom, and was always there to lend a hand and fix my mom's car, restore a bike to beauty for my birthday, and have us over for fun 49er parties--back when the Niners were in their glory days! We could depend on Scotty to help us out when we needed it, and we knew we could count on him. He loved kids so much and we were so lucky to have him in our lives. My sister and I were/are so grateful that Scotty and Lori have been with us since our earliest memories. Swimming in the pool he put up in our shared backyard, complete with sigs telling us that he'd know if we'd peed in it, is something I will always look back on with a smile. The beautiful ten-speed bike he surprised me with when we lived on Valota Road was one of my all-time favorite gifts. He restored it himself, painting in a beautiful shiny silver-blue and I loved it. I remember taking it out for my first ride and accidentally falling over as I went down the curb on Carleton Court and giving it a scratch on its new paint. I felt so bad because it was so beautiful and pristine! What a generous gift from an uncle, because I could see the love and time that went into it. I think about that bike and what it meant to me often...It was so precious. 

When my eldest daughter was born fourteen years ago, she was the first of the great nieces and nephews. Scotty was so excited--as he was with every new life he encountered--and was one of the first to hold my baby girl. I was so happy to see the look of love and pride on his face when he was with her. I knew that he helped me so much as a child, and now he could be close to my own child. With each of my successive children, he shared the same joy and enthusiasm with them. My youngest, now five, told me that what she liked about Uncle Scotty was that "he liked to help little children and that he would aways help her." I think he was the biggest lover of kids I have ever and will ever know. He would always smile at them and use his cute and goofy baby talk with them. Kids loved him, and the feeling was undoubtedly mutual.

I will always miss you, Uncle Scotty, and cherish all of the memories I have of you in my heart. You will stay alive when we talk of the happy times we had with you, and my kids will never forget you. We will keep your devoted wife and daughters close to us and support them the best we can. I thank you for all you have done for me and for us, and for the love I feel in my heart when I think of you. I know that you are in the beautiful light and love of eternal peace and I am so grateful to think of you in a place of pure happiness and joy. Until our souls meet again, I will continue to think of you every day and keep you in my heart. I love you, Uncle Scotty. Goodbye for now...

We will always cherish the fun times we had with you...whether at one of our crazy supper club dinners....a Vegas or Hawaii trip ...and of course a wild trip on the boat ....rest in peace Scotty!!

I was lucky to have met Scotty at an IU parents weekend last year. We had such a great time with the Wickstrom family. JJ & Serena introduced Sharon and I to Scotty for the first time (we had previously met Lori) and after talking to Scotty for all of 15 minutes, out came the cigars. We had a great day getting to know each other, few cocktails, cigars, and talking with each other. After one afternoon of having so much fun with Scotty & Lori, I felt like I've known them for 20 years. I will forever remember Scotty for his fun loving personality as he was the life of our party that day.

What can I say. Best friend. A father that LOVED his  family unconditionally and lived his life to the fullest.  I was looking forward to so many more good times together. 
I will miss Scotty the rest of my days. ❤

"Effervescent" is the word that pops up when I think of Scotty. We had already fallen in love with Nicole when we met her parents. When I met Lori, I immediately felt at ease, comfortable and welcomed. Scotty introduced himself, and I couldn't help but meet his sparkly -eyed grin with a big smile of my own. "Oh, he's going to be fun!" Scotty's energy radiated endless possibilities to share experiences, care for each other and truly connect through meaningful play and work. We didn't need to know Scotty for a long time to cherish him deeply.  We offer gratitude and love to Lori, Nicole, Sam and Serena for allowing us to share in this journey.  You are always in our hearts, Kris and Dave

He offered to teach me how to dive into the swimming pool (but it was off the back deck to the pool below.  I must have been too sober, because I didn't take him up on it.  (And he was only half kidding)

My most recent memory of Mr. Wickstrom was during our senior Dad's Weekend this past fall. I remember he had such a great laugh and made every moment a good time. When we all came home after a long day of tailgating and going to the bars, he was at the apartment decompressing and laughing with us. Just hanging with the girls:) When the weekend was over I remember my parents couldn't stop talking about how much fun they had being around him and getting to know him better. I feel so blessed and lucky to have met him and so thankful for his daughter's friendship.

I was fortunate enough to get to know Scotty through Serena, one of my closest friends and sorority sister. The most time I spent with him was during our sorority's Dads' weekends. Scotty had an infectious warmth, a vibe that was often complimented by a thick cigar and the dopest Sunglasses. His presence was familiar and inviting, and I always loved catching up with him. 

I can also tell you what an amazing treat it is to be friends with Serena, his daughter. She is a dedicated, considerate, funny, and inquisitive friend, and I can only be grateful for the role Scotty played in making her who she is. 

Rest easy, Scotty. And thanks :)

My favorite memories are of Scotty and Joe S trying to out bid one another at the St Pius auction. Every year those two would go at it. Scotty would be all animated and Joe was Mr Joe Cool. All for a great cause. They would let each other win every other year or so. It was so much fun to watch.  Rest In Peace Scotty.

One of my best times at a craps table was with Scotty Too Hottie !!!  It was about 10 years ago at the Mandalay Bay Casino in Las Vegas and we had the table surrounded.  Scotty had the dice and boy was he hot that nite.  He rolled forever and I know if he would have hit that Hard 10 we would have brought the house down.  Thanks for such a memorable nite.  You rocked my friend !!! The Cuban Chic will miss you.

Scotty,

I will miss your laugh, kindness & pure generosity. Thank you for treating me like another daughter for nearly 20 years. You, Lori & the girls have been such a large part of my life and I am sorry you won't be here with us to see what the future has in store, but I know you and Romain are watching over us constantly. Thank you for the memories, shorty!

Love,
Kelly

I cannot put into words the sorrow I felt with the news of your passing.  I have the highest amount of respect and admiration for you and your beautiful family.  Your family embodies everything I cherish about my practice and I am truly saddened our time was cut short.  May you rest in peace and know I will look after your loved ones to the best of my ability.

We are so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved Scotty. We were lucky to know him, especially Katie, who got to spend many hours hanging out with him as part of the "A Team".  His smile and love of life were infectious.  We will treasure our memories of him forever.  Please accept our deepest sympathies.

Scotty-you are the bomb! Making things happen so your family, you friends, your business ventures and God sing your praises! Bless you and all the inspirations that you have left us with to live our own lives a step or two higher than we would have otherwise. You aren't done ( :) ) since your leading by example will be inspiring us for generations to come! I love you!
Curtis (neighbor, friend, daughter-daughter IU-Bloomington soulmate).

Lori, Nicole, Samantha, and Serena, we are so sad for your loss!  We have known Scotty's parents and sisters over time, and value our interactions with your extended family past and present. You have a very loving, beautiful family and hope you know that others do share your loss, and know that there are many around you to  turn to for comfort. Rest in the knowledge that Scotty is in God's hands. Rejoice in the time God gave you with him, it was a gift!
Mary (Collier) Purcell and Sylvia Collier (daughter and mother) It is one of the saddest things in life that a child leaves before a parent. Stay strong for each other!

Scotty, you were the best!  I could not help but smile when I was around you.  You were the hardest worker I have ever known.  You pulled so many all-nighters to get things done; yet, you never complained.  You would be there the next morning, smiling as usual.  You were blessed to be a ladies' man - a loving wife and three loving daughters.  You will always be here in our hearts.

So sorry to hear this.  Scott was a great guy who I worked with for many years.  He was always willing to help me out and taught me so much over the years.  I will miss hearing about his fishing adventures.  Rest in peace buddy, thanks again for everything.

We will miss you cousin! Your obituary is right on; anyone who even passed you in the street would be affected by your sweet spirit. Our hearts are with you, Lori, the girls, and then entire family. We love you all so so much!!
Melinda, Eric, Auntie Jan, Pam, Mark, Ian and Justin

My condolences on your loss.  Scott was a great guy and I was lucky enough to work with him on several projects through the years.  I was also lucky to get to see him recently at the Medical Show in Anaheim.  He was good with a laugh and always cracked you up - big smile, big heart.  My prayers and thoughts are with you all.  He was so proud of his girls and spoke  highly of all of you - we were lucky to know him and have him in our lives.

Goodbye Scotty- You had a big smile and an even bigger heart. Your kindness and your laugh will be be missed by all. My prayers for you and your beautiful family.

We lost a great man. He was always so full of life and energy that it is impossible for me to imagine him gone. I send my sympathies to everyone whose life, like mine, was touched by his compassion, generosity, and love of life. This especially includes those closest to him: I'm so sorry for your loss, Lori. And to Nicole, Sam and Serena: I envy you for having such a great dad and my sorrow for you is too deep to express.

I got to know you better on our Mission Trip where you always had a smile (and were there assembling Sam's tent!) We were so happy to welcome you as a Hoosier Daddy and will miss your wonderful attitude and smile.  Godspeed

Absolutely beautiful video.  Very moving and touching.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  Scotty was very connected in his life with family and friends and he will be sorely missed.  I wish you all the peace and love the universe can offer you.
Love,
Sara Stenger

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Scott Kendall Wickstrom

July 21, 1961 – March 2, 2017

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