You Don’t Get to Erase Us”

Let me be very clear.

My father, Andie Cowart, passed away on June 23, 2025. My brother and I,  his biological children , were not told he was sick. We were not told he had died. We found out by accident, on the day of his funeral, because I Googled his name and saw the obituary.

We weren’t “unreachable.” We were deliberately excluded , by his longtime girlfriend, the same one who spent years trying to push us out of his life. She succeeded in the end: she kept his children away from his death, his funeral, and likely anything else she could hide.

Let me repeat that:
We, his children, were never told.
Not even a phone call. Not even a message.
Not even a chance to say goodbye.

My brother had to run into a funeral halfway through, grieving in real time. I found out too late to even make it.

This was not a mistake. It was a choice.
A calculated, cowardly, shameful choice.

We are not the side story.
We are not the afterthought.
We are his blood, and you don’t get to erase us.

To anyone who sat at that funeral and pretended like his children didn’t exist, you were part of that silence. Whether you knew or not, you sat in a room built on omission and kept comfortable by someone else’s control.

So now I speak. Loudly. Publicly. Unapologetically.

We are Andie Cowart’s children.
We should’ve been there.
And your guilt won’t be buried with him.

Antoinette Cowart,
His daughter. Not yours to hide.

This photo was shared with me by his nephew, Frank Boswell, Uncle Andie's sister, Jewel Cowart Boswell's youngest son. He didn't know where it was taken, but the photo was a picture of the Cowart brothers, Albert, Ander , Adrouis ( my daddy ) and Andie. We know a good time was had wherever they were then, but what a time they're having now reunited in Heaven with the rest of the family! Missing all of you!! Until we're all reunited again......
We love and miss you all ❤️
Your niece and the rest of your family,
Your niece, Valerie Cowart ( Montgomery, Alabama )

This was 1980 something Uncle Andie got a flight ✈️ to Syracuse for his niece Veronica’s Wedding then He decided to hop in the car with us and ride back from New York to Montgomery Alabama JUST TO BE WITH FAMILY. He Loved his family and we Love Him
This picture was taken in Pa. At a rest stop on the interstate, that’s Tiffany in his arms, and Shawn standing (both his Linda and Mike kids) we had a great time driving back to Alabama. We Love and miss Him.
Mike & Linda Vickers 
Montgomery Al.

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Andie Cowart

February 5, 1935 – June 23, 2025

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