Mrs. Xiao Qiao Wen

我们怀着无比沉痛的心情宣布，我们挚爱的母亲、祖母、曾祖母、姐妹及朋友——温小巧女士——已于2026年6月9日在美国弗吉尼亚州里士满安详离世。她于1938年7月3日出生于中国福建省南平市。

在她丰厚而明亮的一生中，她以无私、智慧、幽默，以及对世界始终如一的好奇心，触动了无数人的生命。

小巧成长于一个有九个兄弟姐妹的大家庭，在兄弟姐妹中排行第二。自幼聪慧好学，学业优异，多才多艺。少年时期，她还曾代表学校参加全国乒乓球比赛。16岁时，她走上讲台，成为一名小学教师，将语文、数学和美术知识传授给一代又一代学生。

虽然不是家中的长姐，但由于很早开始从事教育工作，她始终关心弟妹和晚辈们的成长。直到今天，仍有学生记得她当年的教导与关爱。有人说，她是自己人生中的精神支柱；也有人说，她待自己如同母亲一般。她不仅教书，更用人格和爱影响着许多人的一生。

青年时期，小巧以微薄的收入帮助支撑家庭，含辛茹苦地养育了三个孩子。她是一位严格而慈爱的母亲，用自己的品格与爱，教会子女正直、善良、友爱，也让这个家始终紧紧相连。

后来，她来到美国，又陪伴五个孙辈成长。她辅导功课、准备饭菜，在家人生病时彻夜照顾，用日复一日的陪伴，把最深的牵挂与最好的爱都留给了家人。

五个孙辈后来分别从UVA、VCU艺术学院、康奈尔大学等学校毕业，无论是工作、自主创业，还是继续求学，都走出了属于自己的道路。

很多人或许不知道她的名字，但在亲友和邻里之间，“温姥姥”却一直是大家熟悉的称呼。人们提起她时，常会称赞她对子孙的用心陪伴，以及这个大家庭彼此关爱、团结和睦的氛围。

如今，一家三代人之间深厚的亲情与凝聚力，正是她留给家人最珍贵的财富，也是她一生最骄傲、最欣慰的成就。

若说她最喜欢的美食，或许是一碗热腾腾的白米饭、一小碟腐乳、一条香煎带鱼，再配上一瓣生蒜；兴致高时，还会来上一碗炸馒头蘸炼乳。那些简单而满足的时刻，如今都成为家人最温暖的回忆。

认识她的人都知道，她思维敏捷、精力充沛、个性鲜明。即使面对语言障碍，她依然能很快与陌生人成为朋友。很多人虽然不会中文，却都会用很标准的中文叫她一声“姥姥”。

她喜欢提问，喜欢分享，喜欢讲故事，也喜欢听故事。许多人虽然与她没有血缘关系，却依然把她当作自己的祖母一样喜爱与怀念。

甚至有一位原本不打算生育的年轻姑娘，在受到姥姥的影响后感慨地说：“我也想在将来成为一个像姥姥这样的姥姥，也想拥有像她孙女这样亲密的孙女，享受这样儿孙绕膝的幸福。”

她是一位终身学习者。她热爱历史、地理、科学和时事，对世界始终保持旺盛的好奇心。即使到了晚年，她依然每天写日记，记录菜园、健康和生活中的点点滴滴，从未停止学习与思考。

她尤其热爱园艺。在儿子家后院的菜园里，她倾注了无数心血。她种植的不只是蔬菜与花草，更是耐心、希望和对生活的热爱。家人餐桌上的许多食物，都来自她亲手照料的土地。

在生命最后的日子里，照护她的医护人员也深深感受到她的不凡。一位护士写道：

“照护她，是我们的荣幸。从你们一家人的坚强与彼此支持中，我们能感受到，她是一位多么了不起的女性。她的坚韧，也鼓舞了病区的每一个人。”

护士们还特意用她的心电图，为她的三个孩子和五个孙辈制作了一份特殊的纪念品，让这份爱与心跳，以另一种方式继续陪伴家人。

温小巧女士身后有八位兄弟姐妹、三个子女、五位孙辈、两位曾孙辈，以及无数深爱她、怀念她的人。

虽然我们因她的离去而悲伤，但我们也感恩她丰富而精彩的一生。她留下的不只是回忆，更是一个充满爱、善良、责任与坚韧的家庭，以及她曾温暖和影响过的无数生命。

她将被深深怀念，永远铭记于我们心中。

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ENGLISH TRANSLATION:

In Deep Memory of Ms. Wen Xiaoqiao

We announce with profound sorrow that our beloved mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, sister, and friend—Ms. Wen Xiaoqiao—has peacefully passed away on June 9, 2026, in Richmond, Virginia, USA. She was born on July 3, 1938, in Nanping City, Fujian Province, China.

Throughout her rich and luminous life, she touched countless lives through her selflessness, wisdom, humor, and unwavering curiosity about the world.

Xiaoqiao grew up in a large family of nine siblings, where she was the second child. She was intelligent and studious from an early age, excelling academically and displaying many talents. During her youth, she represented her school in national table tennis competitions. At age 16, she became a primary school teacher, imparting knowledge of Chinese language, mathematics, and art to generations of students.

Though not the eldest sister, her early work in education meant she always cared for her younger siblings and the younger generation. Even today, former students remember her teachings and affection. Some say she was a spiritual pillar in their lives; others say she treated them like a mother. She not only taught academics but shaped many lives through her character and love.

During her youth, Xiaoqiao supported her family on a modest income, raising three children with hardship and devotion. She was a strict yet loving mother who taught her children integrity, kindness, and mutual affection through her character and love, keeping the family tightly bound.

Later, she came to the United States and accompanied five grandchildren through their growing years. She tutored their studies, prepared meals, cared for them through the night when they were ill, and through daily companionship, left her deepest care and greatest love for her family.

Her five grandchildren later graduated from universities including UVA, VCU School of the Arts, and Cornell University, each charting their own course—whether in work, entrepreneurship, or further studies.

Many may not know her name, but among family, friends, and neighbors, “Grandma Wen” was always a familiar name. When people spoke of her, they often praised her devoted care for her descendants and the atmosphere of mutual love, unity, and harmony in this large family.

Today, the deep family affection and cohesion among three generations is the most precious treasure she left to her family and the greatest achievement and source of pride in her life.

If we were to name her favorite foods, it would perhaps be a bowl of hot steamed white rice, a small dish of fermented bean paste, a perfectly pan-fried Beltfish with a clove of raw garlic; and when the mood struck, a bowl of fried buns dipped in condensed milk. Those simple, satisfying moments have become her family’s warmest memories.

Everyone who knew her understood her to be quick-witted, energetic, and distinctly spirited. Even facing language barriers, she could quickly become friends with strangers. Many people who do not speak Chinese have learned to call her by a very standard “姥姥” (Grandmother).

She loved to ask questions, to share, to tell stories, and to listen to them. Though many had no blood relation to her, they loved and cherish her memory as they would their own grandmother.

One young woman who had not planned to have children was so influenced by her that she reflected: “I too want to become a grandmother like her in the future, and I want to have granddaughters as close as hers, and enjoy the happiness of being surrounded by children and grandchildren.”

She was a lifelong learner. She loved history, geography, science, and current events, maintaining an ever-keen curiosity about the world. Even in her later years, she wrote in her journal every day, recording details of her vegetable garden, her health, and moments of daily life, never ceasing to learn and reflect.

She had a particular passion for gardening. In the vegetable garden behind her son’s house, she invested countless hours of care. What she cultivated was not merely vegetables and flowers, but patience, hope, and love of life. Much of what appeared on the family table came from the land she had personally tended.

In her final days, the healthcare workers caring for her were deeply moved by her remarkable spirit. One nurse wrote:

“It has been our honor to care for her. From the strength and mutual support we witnessed in your family, we could feel what a remarkable woman she was. Her resilience has inspired everyone in our ward.”

The nurses even specially created a memorial gift for her three children and five grandchildren using her electrocardiogram, allowing her love and heartbeat to continue accompanying her family in another way.

Ms. Wen Xiaoqiao is survived by eight siblings, three children, five grandchildren, two great-grandchildren, and countless people who loved and cherish her memory.

Though we grieve her passing, we are grateful for her rich and wonderful life. What she leaves behind is not only memories, but a family filled with love, kindness, responsibility, and resilience, as well as countless lives she has warmed and influenced.

She will be deeply missed and forever treasured in our hearts.