Paul Bennett VanDoren Sr.

April 28, 1977April 8, 2018
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Paul Bennett Van Doren, Sr., 40, of Woodson Terrace, MO passed away suddenly on Sunday, April 8, 2018. He is preceded in death by his mother, Joan Van Doren; maternal grandparents, Dorothy Van Doren (nee Schick) and Charles Bennett Van Doren; baby brother Scott; brother-in-law, Derel Lee Stevens, and grandma-in-law, Carlene Marshall. Paul is survived by his loving wife, Amy Jean (nee Stevens) Van Doren; sons, Paul Bennett Jr. "P.J.", Grant Stevens, and Trey Marshall; mother-in-law, Gloria Jean Stevens (Michael “Roc” Pearson); brothers-in-law, Scott Marshall Stevens and Derek Mitchell Stevens (Terry); good friends, Brian Busby and William Thweatt; foster sister, Kathaleen Groves; and aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces and nephews, great nieces and nephews, and many friends and co-workers.

Paul was dedicated to his family first and foremost. Paul was a helper. He was so humbled by his childhood, he couldn’t do anything but help whomever and wherever he was needed. Paul was 2nd Degree Mason (Not Currently Active but it was in the works). Paul was active in his son’s DeMolay and Squires Organizations. He loved his politics and the economy and studied them immensely--he loved his numbers. Paul received his Associates in business administration from STLCC Florissant Valley and his BA in business administration with an emphasis in economics from Lindenwood University. Paul was fun, outgoing, bubbly, and very sociable. He made a friend everywhere he went and he was a great conversationalist. Paul was a very hard worker, he was medically discharged due to asthma from the Army Reservists and he was an over the road trucker for a period. He was most recently an office support assistant for the State of Missouri in the Department of Corrections with the Division of Probation and Parole. Paul loved his video games and often played with his sons. He was a great man that is deeply loved. He left this plane a hero and is a hero after.

Poem by a friend:

THAT’S PAUL ALRIGHT The guy who would give you the clothes off his back Now when things got serious believe me, he cut folks no slack Family oriented, detailed, précised in numbers For he embraced strangers just as he would the neighbors Hard working man, he made the work environment fun But when it was time to clock out: You wouldn't believe how fast Paul would run Where you going Paul I would ask him He say, YOUNG I gotta get home 2 the family The love and energy he has for his family was plain to see Even though the physical journey was cut short Paul you left your legacy People would remember, you exited this life a hero Great deed performed in your last moments Many are left however with sorrow Full of laughter, a conversationalist a very open mind He would surprise you about different subject matters, ask anyone about him: they would remark he was KIND Huge impact on people when he crossed their paths Always have a good word, or said a joke that would make you laugh Great example how a family man would do for others regardless morning, noon, or night That genuine spirit, a guy who would help others: YUP that's PAUL ALRIGHT By: Valerie Elizabeth Young Copyright © 2018 Valerie E. Young. All rights reserved

Friends may visit on Saturday, April 14, 2018 from 4:30-8:30 p.m. at Alexander-White-Mullen Funeral Home in St. Ann, MO. Memorials are appreciated to Back Stoppers and the St. Charles Masonic Lodge #241. Expressions of condolence may be offered at


  • Visitation Saturday, April 14, 2018

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Robert Miller

April 13, 2018

I'm truly honored and blessed to have known Paul for the period of time I did. He was such a dedicated man to his family and wanting to make things better. I enjoyed talks about current events going on along with video games, etc. I have lots of memories that I treasure about Paul which means dearly to me. Some people called him a hero, but one another word that comes to mind when thinking about Paul is "inspiration." Paul was such a kind man that he'd do anything to help others as people have mentioned. For that reason helping others is heroic, but also defined as inspirational. He was such a family man and given that he strived to give the best for his family truly impacted me in a way that showed me this is what I'd like to be like. I know his boys will continue on his legacy and make him proud. I miss you dearly my friend you're one of a kind.

Brandy Zimmerman

April 13, 2018

I didn't know Paul at all. My son is friends with his son, they aren't close but they are friends. When we found out this happened my son was broken hearted he said to me mom my heart breaks for this family, I looked at him and said son mine does to. I just want to pay my condolences to the friends and family who lost this father friend/family. Losing someone is never easy, My thoughts and prayers are with the family/friends.

Barb Letford

April 13, 2018

I wasn't really that close to Paul but as the years went on Paul became like a big brother to me. I'm glad I got to see him last month. You are a hero and you will be missed greatly. So keep watching over your family! Love ya!!

Stephanie Vaughan

April 13, 2018

You will remain alive in our hearts and we will miss you deeply.

Sara Miller

April 12, 2018

I am honored that i was able to know Paul. He was a great man who loved his family. He always went above and beyond to make sure they were taken care of and always went out of his way to help others. In my eyes he is and always will be remembered as a hero! I have some great memories of him and i am glad we got to see him last month. You will always be in our hearts Paul. Watch over Amy and the kids!! Love Ya!

Kathy Van Doren

April 12, 2018

My dearest cousin Paul, you were an amazing husband and father!! You were such a handsome little man. You grew into a handsome man. You are loved by so many. I remember always going to visit you & your cousin Jeff. You two were hilarious!! Your mom & I were so close, unreal. We were only 3yrs apart from each other, being Aunt & niece. I will always love you & miss you sooo much. You left this world a hero, nobody will forget that!! Love forever, your cousin!!

Amy Van Doren

April 12, 2018

Baby, dear husband, there are so many what if's I have and so many why's. I just hope you know how much I love you, and I will love you until the day I die and beyond. This was not supposed to happen. We had so many dreams and plans. You worked so hard to get us where we are, we were finally seeing the light, the silver lining, and your life was cut too short to enjoy any of the hard work you put in. I need you most right now, I hope that I can get through this, I hope I can raise our sons in a way that gives you pride. You were finally becoming that "cool dad"! Well know that you were always cool to us. Our sons will live on in your legacy. You are my HERO! I love you Baby, please wait for me.
Your wife,

Tina Van Doren

April 12, 2018

I am very proud to say that Paul was my cousin and the man and family man he became. Through his struggles in life he overcame all. Paul was very charismatic and he would outshine you on any subject. Your children will surely have your outspoken charisma and politeness to carry on. Life taken too early for someone so determined. You were always loved and we all were just beginning to see where you would have been. Love and miss you my cousin.