Alexander-White-Mullen Funeral Home and Mt Lebanon Cemetery

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Raymond "Ray" Patzius

January 19, 1939March 11, 2020
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Raymond “Ray” Patzius, 81, of Maryland Heights, MO passed away peacefully at his residence on Wednesday, March 11, 2020 with his wife, Andrea, by his side. He is preceded in death by his parents, John and Lena (nee Tumminia) Patzius; brother, Lebert Patzius; and sister, Josephine Peridotti. Ray is survived by his loving wife of 63 years, Andrea (nee Anderson) Patzius; dear daughters, Debbie Patzius (Skip Winheim), Diana (Ron) Krazer, Doris Patzius, and Donna (Chuck) Patzius-Hill; grandchildren, Sarah, Michael, Danny, Kristina, Richard “Ricky”, Alisha and Kelly; great grandchildren, Ryan, Marissa, Lola Malia, Scarlett, and Lennon; brother, John Patzius; and “adopted” son, Dan Trtanj. Dear friend, cousin, and uncle of many.

We celebrate and honor his remarkable journey and extraordinary life. To Ray, family was everything and he was never not there for his family his whole life. To his family he was the one and only man his daughters could fully trust in every single way. They were blessed to learn many valuable lessons from Ray over the years, among them: Unwrap your candies before the show begins; If your job is your passion, you’re the luckiest person in the world; Family is everything; You have a choice of a good day or a bad day; You can't rush quality, There's only 12 notes; Go tune up, now let's jam; The song has ended, but the melody lives on.

Ray was the founder, guitar teacher, and music director of Patzius Performing Arts for 48 years, a business he built with his wife, Andrea, who is the dance director. He married Andrea at 18 and together they built an extraordinary life together. They were soul mates, in love, and lucky to have found one another. Music was his passion and he was a versatile, master guitar player, role model, artist,and music teacher with countless students and friends over the years that he made a profound impact on. He was the voice of reason, an inspiration, and the go-to-person for many people in his life for advice and guidance. One might say that he had two roles at the performing arts studio as music teacher and studio psychologist.

It’s very hard to find words to properly express the level of inspiration & influence he had on so many. He will be missed by his family and live in their hearts forever. Farewell to the truly wonderful, Mr. Wonderful, a title that his students bestowed upon him and he graciously embraced.

Friends may gather to celebrate Ray’s life on Monday, March 16, 2020 from 4 p.m. until time of memorial service at 7 p.m. at Alexander White Mullen Funeral Home. Expressions of condolence are encouraged at www.alexanderstlouis.com.


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Raymond "Ray" Patzius

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Sherry Patzius/ Lauderdale

March 19, 2020

I remember my Uncle Ray looking like Elvis Presley when i was little😅 i had.a crush on my own Uncle. He would alwsys pick every stinkin piece of white fat out of the ham on Christmas and Grandmas. And if the cheesecake was gone? U know who ate it all!!!! Mr Womderful, thats right. Then i tried to sing in his basement one Christmas and he said Sherry, im sorry but u cannot hold a tune ----😅😅😅😅😅 course i new that already. Least he spoke the truth. He was always positive and he called and said why didnt u come to my Christmas party one time? Is it cause my Debbie and u arnt talking? 😕 i felt bad so i made sure i came this last one and brought my dada to see his brother. Have a nice picture of the two . thank u for all u did Uncle Ray.

Isabel Kenney

March 17, 2020

My sisters and I grew up at the dance studio. Now I'm one of their teachers and my son, Louie, takes dance. For the past 25 years or so my family has been beyond blessed to know the Patziuses. They’ve been family to us.

My sisters and I remember getting rides home from the studio with Ray on Monday nights which was Andrea’s night off at the time. He would stop and get White Castle and Andrea wasn’t supposed to know. Eventually she made Monday night “spaghetti night” knowing that he wouldn’t stop for White Castle if there was spaghetti waiting for him at home.

To know “Mr. Ray” was to love him. He saw the good in people and was a friend to all. A word I believe describes him well is “constant”: faithful, dependable, unchanging. We used to kid that he was going to live forever. He and I were talking about this at the studio just a few weeks ago. He will live forever, in our hearts.

I'll miss the sound of his voice at the studio, the way he sang our names when we walked in the door, and the sound of him jamming in the next room while I teach. I'm so glad Louie got to know him. My mom reminded me last night how Ray, without realizing it, would refer to Andrea as Grandma to Louie. He might say, "here, go give this to Grandma," and none of the 3 of them seemed to notice. I guess it just felt natural to them, but it made my heart melt.

Ray was like a Grandpa to me and so many others felt this way as well. He is an inspiration to us all, to choose joy every day, to love the people around us, and be a ray of sunshine to all who cross our path.

Lots of love and prayers for the Patzius family!

Kelly Ruesing

March 16, 2020

Andrea and family,

For 9 years I had the pleasure of seeing Ray 4 times a week as I flew in the door, ran past him and into my class(es) I was teaching. He was always quick to give a complimentary, cheerful greeting - on stressful days his greetings were a Godsend. It was just impossible to be "down in the dumps" around Ray. One Saturday, I was teaching a group of 5 year olds. I noticed a spider walking across the floor. I'm terrified of spiders! We were all huddled in the corner screaming when I realized that I was screaming the loudest. Recognizing that I was the adult and I had to fix things, I quickly sprang into action. I ran out of the door yelling for Ray. He literally dropped what he was doing, walked away from the conversation he was having with a parent and ran into the room behind me not having a clue what he was getting into. When I pointed out our problem, he simply grabbed a tissue & disposed of the spider while telling everyone that everything was okay and dubbing himself Mr. Wonderful the Hero! That describes Ray to a T. He was and will continue to remain Mr. Wonderful, our hero. The world is a better place because of Ray! Thoughts and prayers are with you Andrea and family. May you find peace and comfort in this difficult transition and may Ray live on in our hearts forever.

Donna Clark

March 16, 2020

Andrea, Debbie, Diana, Doris, Donna and family,

Gary my husband and I Loved to visit with Ray while waiting for our Granddaughter to finish her dance lesson each visit at the studio. He was about 10 years older than us. Ray's music over lapped ours which we enjoy immensely. We all talked about all the old favorite songs. He was
so enthusiastic and a joy to talk too.

Kylie our Granddaughter age 9 has a guitar that she tries to play on her own. When her guitar string broke she was devastated! I mentioned it to Ray and he told me to have her bring it in. He not only replaced the string for her, but tuned the guitar as well. She was thrilled!

We were so fortunate to know him. He gave us so much joy and also to our granddaughter Kylie Williams. Kylie loved to draw pictures for his picture board. She told me she plans to continue drawing pictures for him, as she knows he will still see them.

With Sympathy,
Gary, Donna Clark & Kylie

Ann Patzius

March 15, 2020

Last Wednesday, I lost half of myself. My love, my partner, my friend, my confidant, my soul mate. I love him so much. Hard to be in the house without him. I will carry on with everything for him and my children, who I am so blessed to have. Stay with me Ray, I need a spirit soul mate. My heart is broken. Hope I survive and heal. I was so luck to be with him when he passed. He fell asleep and looked like he was at peace. Thanks to all for your kindnesses.

Richard Dunn Family

March 15, 2020

Dear Andrea,
I am so sad that you lost Ray. Since Kelly told me, I keep picturing him in my mind. I took that image to Adoration and gave my sorrow and prayers to the Real Presence for Ray. He will never be forgotten in my prayers as long as I live.
Love, Rich and Judy (from above, for she loved Ray so much)
Kelly (Dylan, Connor, and Emma) Derek and Candice

Debbie Boenker

March 15, 2020

I’ve known Ray,Ann,Debbie Diana,Doris and Donna since we moved across the street from them in 1965. I was 9 years old. I became friends with Debbie almost the first couple of days and then I met the rest of the family.
Ann, Ray and the entire family have been such a wonderful part of my life. Ray, Lebert, John and Lou played at my wedding, and we wouldn’t have picked any other band than them.
I think every girl on Charleston Dr., had a crush on Ray, at one point of time.
My husband and I bought the house I grew up in, across the street from them 11 years after we got married.
Ray, who I affectionately called “Rainman,” and I had many wonderful mornings drinking coffee and discussing all about life and I used to take him in my truck to Home Depot, or Lowe’s to get whatever materials he needed for any project he was working on at the time. I’ll miss all of those beautiful, wonderful times. My heart ♥️ goes out to Ann and the whole host of family and friends.
You will be greatly missed Rainman. Love you always
Love, Debbie and Luke Boenker and Cindy Mitchell ♥️

Victoria Amos

March 14, 2020

Most of my memories are when they came to
Grandma & Grandpa's Every Sunday for I don't know how many years? I always waited for them.. We had so many good times..I will always remember how awesome that was..

Janet Kelly

March 14, 2020

I am so sorry to hear about Ray’s passing. I always enjoyed talking to Ray and getting his opinion on current events. I can hear him say, Jan you know what I think? And I always wanted to know.

He was an inspiration to many and he will be missed.

My thoughts and prayers are with the entire family.

Janet Kelly

Vicki Brown

March 14, 2020

Ray welcomed everyone who walked into Patzius Performing Arts with open arms, laughs and words of wisdom. I waited in the lobby a couple hours twice a week while my daughter was in class. During that time, he entertained me with guitar playing and roped me into singing. We laughed about a lot, talked about travel, his backyard and he told me the best stories- how he and Andrea met and where he'd played. I could go on forever about the stories. He also enjoyed teasing my daughter cause she'd challenge him at times. He was not just a light, but a beam that shown for miles... everyone will miss him. Love you all and let's always keep Ray alive in our hearts...