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Louis Joseph GARR Jr.

December 16, 1939October 23, 2019

Garr, Louis J., Jr. fortified with the Sacraments of Holy Mother Church on Wednesday, October 23, 2019.

Services: A Memorial Mass will be held at Our Lady of Lourdes Church, 7148 Forsyth Blvd., 63105 on Saturday, November 30, at 2:30 pm. Celebration of Life Reception will follow at the Saint Louis Club, located at 7701 Forsyth Blvd., 63105. In lieu of flowers, donations preferred to The Backstoppers Inc. (www.backstoppers.org) or to Birthright Stl (www.birthrightstl.org).

Surrounded by his family, Louis J. Garr, Jr., of University City, MO, died October 23, 2019, from complications arising from his more than year-long battle with a rare and aggressive non-Hodgkin’s large B-cell triple hit lymphoma. He was 79.

Lou is survived by his beloved wife of 56 years, Carol (nee Berarducci) of Ann Arbor, MI, and the couple’s six children, Mary Beth (John Schwarz), Joe (Marianne), Susan (Mike Koptik), Robert, David (Megan) and Anne (Paul Kraemer) and thirteen grandchildren, Frank, Maxwell, Kate, Maggie, Rose, Benjamin, David, Gillian, Louis, Sara, Owen, Joe and Lauren. He was the dear brother of Barbara (Tim) Doherty, Cecil Garr, and the late Max Garr and a dear brother-in-law, uncle, cousin, and friend to many.

Louis Joseph Garr, Jr. was born December 16, 1939 to Louis and Ann (nee Ares) Garr of Calumet City, IL. He was a south side Cub’s fan (who happily lived to see them win the World Series and dared to raise the W flag at his house in University City, MO). He loved the outdoors, the Boy Scouts and worked his way to Eagle Scout at age 16. Sadly, due to his fight with cancer, in 2019, Lou missed his first Father-Son and Father-Daughter Float trips since being invited to attend in 1978. Some of his happiest moments were fishing with his friends and family, teaching his “St. Louis” grandkids to drive and bestowing the “Shovel of Inspiration” that was given to each grandchild prior to their sophomore year in high school (a tradition that will continue). Lou could often be found sitting on the back porch (year round) listening to a sports game, reading a book or just enjoying the sounds around him. Perhaps from his Eagle Scouts training, Lou was a list maker. He made a list for anything and everything that he was doing or planning on doing or thought someone else should do. He was known to carry a piece of paper with him that read: I know that God has given me a certain number of things to do. I am so far behind, I will never die.” Garr graduated from St. Louis University in 1961 and St. Louis University Law School in 1964. While in law school, Garr married Carol Ann Berarducci of Ann Arbor, MI. He was a patron of SLU and a fan of its men’s and women’s basketball teams, and he has continuously held SLU men’s basketball season tickets since arriving at the school in 1957. While not his last gift to SLU, Lou donated his body to the St. Louis University Medical School to support medical education and research - "A True Billiken to the very end."

During his legal career, Garr was in private practice prior to joining the May Department Stores Company in 1973 as a real estate attorney. He was named vice president and senior assistant general counsel in 1978, senior vice president and chief counsel in 1984, senior vice president and general counsel in 1985 and executive vice president and general counsel in 1986. At the time of his retirement in 1998, the May Department Stores Company was the largest department store and specialty retailing company in the country, with annual sales exceeding $13 billion.

Retirement offered Lou the opportunity to attend daily mass and to gather with friends and those who would become new friends at breakfast eateries around town talking about the events of the day. However, those who knew him know that Lou never really retired. Lou loved to work his mind and to be challenged every day. During his “retirement”, in addition to working with colleagues at Moses CPA doing income tax returns (where he liked to handle the difficult ones), he was passionate about his work as a trustee for the Lay Family Foundation and enjoyed seeing young people benefit from scholarships for higher education. For the Lay Family Foundation, Lou handled real estate transactions and other corporate matters but also was able to exercise a creative muscle that had yet been tapped in his life working with artists and commissioning many works of art for the Lay Center for Education and the Arts in Louisiana, MO, a sculpture park donated to SLU by the late Henry Lay, Lou’s mentor, co-worker and friend. This past April, Lou was proud to participate in the blessing and dedication of a significant sculpture, Westward Journey, a 25-piece life size bronze sculpture by Reynaldo “Sonny” Rivera depicting a Missouri wagon, travelers and animals headed for the beginning of the Santa Fe trail. Lou and the team he assembled worked with the artist to assure every aspect of the installation of the piece was perfect and would last forever.

The family knows that if Lou were writing this obituary, the list he would have prepared in connection therewith would have included a special thank you to the doctors, staff and especially the nurses at Cancer Care Center at Missouri Baptist and Siteman Cancer Center at BJC for their care, kindness and compassion during his treatment. Lou faced his diagnosis and the many difficult treatments in the way that he did most things - with a positive attitude, and a list.


  • Louis J. Garr Sr., Father (deceased)
  • Ann Ares Garr, Mother (deceased)
  • Carol Ann Berarducci Garr, Wife
  • Mary Beth (John) Schwarz, Daughter
  • Joe (Mariannne) Garr, Son
  • Susan (Mike Koptik) Garr, Daughter
  • Robert Garr, Son
  • David (Megan) Garr, Son
  • Anne (Paul Kraemer) Garr, Daughter
  • Barbara (Tim) Doherty, Sister
  • Cecil Garr, Sister
  • Max Garr, Brother (deceased)
  • Maxwell Garr, Grandson
  • Frank Garr, Grandson
  • Katherine "Kate" Schwarz, Granddaughter
  • Margaret "Maggie" Schwarz, Granddaughter
  • Rose Garr, Granddaughter
  • Benjamim "Ben" Koptik, Grandson
  • David Kraemer, Grandson
  • Gillian Koptik, Granddaughter
  • Louis Garr, Grandson
  • Sara Kraemer, Granddaughter
  • Owen Garr, Grandson
  • Joseph "Joey" Garr, Grandson
  • Lauren Garr, Granddaughter


30 November

Memorial Mass

2:30 pm

Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church

7148 Forsyth Blvd.
University City, MO 63105

30 November

A Reception to Celebrate Lou's Life will follow Mass

St. Louis Club

7701 Forsyth Blvd.
Clayton, MO 63105


Louis Joseph GARR Jr.

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Ed O'Brien

November 10, 2019

Carol and Children,
Colette and I are saddened by the news of Lou's passing. Our sincere condolences. You were both great for us over he years, especially the hockey years at Webster, dragging the players all over the city and sometimes over great distances. We were successful on the ice, but much of the success was attributed to players' parents like you, involved, encouraging, and cooperative.
We fondly remember these times, and the original Blues games with you, Lou, the Roux's, the Finnerty's, Leary's, etc.
Heads up and spirits up! Please remember us to the kids, especially David and Robert. God bless you and your family

Mark Hood

October 28, 2019

Lou - was a gifted and talented man that worked tirelessly throughout each and everything he did. Blessed to call him a friend.

Thomas Hays

October 27, 2019

Lou & I worked together many years at May Company. He was always there with sound advice and time to help with a difficult issue. The best part of working closely with him was his positive outlook on everything. Not long ago he told me about the precious shovels given to each grandchild and that emphasized the human side of Lou.When we ere travelling or had some down time he loved to talk proudly about his family. He was a wonderful man and I will miss him He is at peace after that long struggle with cancer. My condolences to Carol the children and grandchildren. Tom Hays


Lou with a huge fish


Young Garr’s - Guess which one is Louie? Cecil, Barbara, Max, Louie.


Lou with a huge fish


Young Garr’s - Guess which one is Louie? Cecil, Barbara, Max, Louie.


Dad and his sister Cecil


Joe giving Dad packing advice