Pacific Beach – La Jolla Chapel

4710 Cass Street, San Diego, CA


Carmine John BUA

September 10, 1938June 16, 2020

Carmine John Bua was born in Brooklyn, New York on September 10, 1938. He passed away on June 16, 2020, in San Diego. He grew up in an Italian neighborhood, living in a one-bedroom apartment with his parents and younger brother. He often shared fond memories of his humble beginnings and playing stick ball in the streets of Brooklyn.

An excellent student, he graduated from Fort Hamilton High School and City College of New York where he was Cadet Colonel of the ROTC Pershing Rifles. He graduated with a BME in 1959. After graduation he served two years in the U.S. Army as a 1st. Lieutenant and as a Major in the Army Reserves from 1962 to 1968. He continued his education after leaving the Army, earning MME and MBA degrees from Stevens Institute. In 1964 he moved to San Diego and worked for Rohr in Chula Vista. He attended law school at night at USD and graduated with a JD Degree in 1968.

After passing the bar exam he began his law career in private practice specializing in corporate, business and securities law. He was active in various community and business activities which included Director, First Western Bank, Chairman of the San Diego Draft Board, President of the Pacific Beach Lions Club, Trustee on the San Diego Community College Board, volunteer tutor for READ San Diego, Arbitrator with the American Arbitration Association, Judge pro tem San Diego Superior Court. He was a proud member of The CCNY National Society of Pershing Rifles.

Carmine met his future wife Susan during law school and they were married in 1966. They resided in Pacific Beach where they raised three children - Michele, Mark and Monica. His greatest pride and source of happiness was his family.

To describe Carmine would be a challenge - he lit up a room with his outgoing personality and keen interest in everyone he met. Upon meeting someone for the first time, he would pepper them with questions about their lives and find out every possible detail. He loved telling jokes and making people happy - even at his own expense. He was often prone to having “fluke” accidents which he always turned into a funny story. People loved Carmine and he returned the favor!

His many hobbies included golf, tennis, country western dancing, skiing, ballroom dancing, “Jeopardy,” shoot ‘em up movies, “The Godfather” and reading books on history. He and Susan enjoyed many wonderful travel adventures the world over. Carmine especially enjoyed their many cruises together.

In 2010 Carmine suffered a massive stroke which left him unable to talk, walk, and completely paralyzed on his right side. He dealt with this devastating event with dignity and acceptance until the end. We thank the entire staff at The Nazareth House for their loving care, and friends too numerous to mention who visited throughout his confinement.

He leaves behind his wife Susan, son Mark, daughters Michele (Christian Golden), Monica (Francisco Levine), 5 grandchildren - Fiona, Daniela, Lucas, Estela and Mia, and brother Salvatore and his wife Kathryn.

A private family funeral will be held at St. Brigid’s Catholic Church in Pacific Beach, with a Celebration of Life gathering at a future date.

We take comfort in knowing that you are in a better place, Carmine, enjoying a perfect round of golf and a fine Cabernet! Rest in peace.


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Carmine John BUA

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Michele Bua Golden

July 6, 2020

Hi friends, I wanted to share my remembrances of my Dad:

I’ve been reading through all the sweet cards, emails and texts I received after Dad died, and some clear themes have emerged: Force of Nature. Larger Than Life. Someone even called him a Titan, which was my absolute favorite.

Carmine was truly unforgettable, and we all have cherished memories of him. They typically involve his playful nature, boisterous sense of humor, or some sort of mishap that became Bua family legend. But they always involve his generous heart.

I, of course, have many wonderful memories of my Dad:

When I was a preschooler, Dad founded the Flying Buas, a family circus act that was more about long introductions, dramatic build-up and excessive bowing than actual acrobatics by me and subsequent kids.

When we were little, Mark and I received boxing gloves one Christmas. They weren’t meant for us to fight each other, but rather to spar with Dad, whom we would always miraculously “knock out.”

He was obsessed with a life-sized stuffed gorilla named Vito to the point that we were essentially a family of six.

When I was in college, he would always leave messages on my answering machine as his vampire alter ego, Count von Bua.

Whenever he’d open a bottle of wine he would sing “La Donna e Mobile” — in fake Italian.

And he made many, many attempts to buy his grandchildren’s belly buttons from them.

All of us know what a long goodbye it has been between Carmine’s stroke and his passing, but now we can focus on the best parts of his life — the goals he achieved, the fun he had, the friends he made, and the family he loved.

I know that Mom, Monica and Mark would join me in saying thank you, Dad, for supporting us in every possible way, encouraging us to do our best in life, always being there for us, and most of all, for loving us every step of the way.

Alex Ruskewich

June 30, 2020

Dear Susan
Carmine and I were friends for over 60 years. We both grew up in Brooklyn and then went on to CCNY. We were both in the ROTC and spent time in the Army in the early 1960’s. Our friendship was more than just as classmates. After our time in the Army we returned to NY and together with George Gillen spent many funny hours together. Since we realized we had to work, in the end of the 60’s we all went different ways; Carmine to San Diego where he met you, George to New Jersey, and I to Vienna. In spite of not being geographically close we still remained friends. The last time we all met, together with our wives, was at the South Street Seaport. In tht 80’s where you were probably tired of hearing our stories. We will always remember the happy times with him. May he rest in peace.

Virginia McCaffrey

June 28, 2020

Dear Susan
I was so sorry to hear about Carmine’s passing. I am a friend from his early days in New York. Alex, Carmine and I hung out together with a bunch of other people. I did come to your lovely wedding. I do hope you and your family are doing OK and I send my sincere sympathy. Carmine was such a nice person to be around. May he Rest In Peace. Take care. Ginny MCaffrey

Joseph A Marino

June 19, 2020

To the friends and family my friend carmine Carmine Come on and I Both attended CCNY in the late 50s we both were active members of the Newman club on campus. He was deeply involved in the Persian riflesWhere he demonstrated his leader ship. Love to all and may he rest in peace

Mark Bua

June 19, 2020

Hello friends! I received many wonderful messages from friends over the past few days. For those of you asking about making a charitable donation in his name, please donate to Best Defense Foundation, an officially licensed 501(c)(3) charity helping World War II veterans travel to the battlefields on which they fought to preserve our American freedoms we have today! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸


Bill Scott

June 17, 2020

Dear Susan and Family
I was very sorry to learn of Carmine’s death.
He and I met at CCNY through Pershing Rifles. We enjoyed each other’s company and since we both lived in Brooklyn we often rode the subway together. It was a long trip from Brooklyn to 138st and Amsterdam Ave.
Carmine was a very bright, charismatic man.
I have often thought of him and our time together and it always brings a smile to my face.
Bill Scott

Cristina Lira Murphy

June 16, 2020

Dearest Moni, Susan & family...
We deeply regret Carmine’s passing away today. What an exceptional man, we loved him so much and will never ever forget him. We accompany the whole family in these sad and difficult moments.

A big hug and lot’s of love to each and everyone from the Cruz Lira family.

June 16th, Santiago de Chile.