Eli A Abssy

May 25, 1939April 8, 2018

Born in Beirut, Lebanon on May 25, 1939, Eli was raised in Beirut and Spring Valley Illinois and lived in Evanston (IL), Houston (TX), San Francisco (CA), Fort McMurray (Alberta, Canada), Kuwait City (Kuwait), Endicott (NY), Lincoln Park (NJ), Kincardine (Ontario, Canada), Scarborough (Ontario, Canada), Salwa (Kuwait), Jacksonville (FL), and Naples (FL) before settling in San Diego in 2009.

Eli studied chemical engineering at Northwestern University (Class of ’63) and worked in the petroleum industry building and maintaining oil refineries until returning to graduate school at the University of Toronto obtaining his M.B.A. with a concentration in Economics (Class of ’75). He continued to pursue higher education achieving his ABD (All But Dissertation) designation focusing on energy supply/demand dynamics. He returned to the petroleum industry working as a petroleum industry economist at consultants and oil companies in Toronto, Ontario (Canada) and the Kuwait National Petroleum Company (KNPC) in Kuwait. From KNPC he shifted to pure finance roles at the Kuwait Investment Authority and the Gulf Investment Corporation up until the 1991 invasion of Kuwait by Iraq. Post-war he launched a consulting firm that sought to bring corporate finance education to the petroleum industry in the Arabian Gulf which he ran until retiring.

While Eli was an academic at heart and enjoyed the pursuit of knowledge he balanced that pursuit with a good dose of physical activity, soccer and basketball in his younger years, sailing in middle age and tennis in the last few decades. He found groups in Jacksonville, FL and most notably the Coronado Cays Wheezers and Geezers Tennis Group causing mischief in Coronado, CA.

He is survived by his wife of 54 years, Alma Ruth Abssy (Hendrich); sister Labibe Khouery of Beirut, Lebanon; sister Alice Absi of Beirut, Lebanon; sister Samira Chahine of Beirut, Lebanon, son Michael Abssy of Pasadena (CA), son Mark Abssy, his wife Alexis Abssy and grandchildren Miles and Spencer Abssy of Oradell (NJ).

In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to Saint Ephrem Maronite Catholic Church in Eli’s name. Donations can be made by contacting the Parish office.


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Ralph Haddad

July 15, 2018

From day one Eli treated me like his younger brother. Born in the same city, we pretty much had the same background and shared a common cultural heritage. We had a meeting of the minds and often understood one another automatically without uttering a word, such as in a particular incident at a restaurant which only Eli and I noticed, triggered an avalanche of uncontrollable laughter and tears to our eyes. I vividly remember this event because no one else had made me laugh that hard in decades.

During the thirty-five years that I have known him, Eli was consistently a gentleman, a man of his word, generous to everyone, kind to his friends, welcoming, caring for all his extended family, intelligent, unpretentious, understanding, unfailingly reliable and responsible.

Eli passionately cherished his family and was always doing whatever he could to contribute to his children's well being and success. This task was made easier with the strong help and support of soft voiced, always smiling, patient, loving and beautiful Jody whom he adored. I have never known a more coordinated and mutually committed husband and wife team.

Eli, I'm hoping to be with you again some day, that would be heavenly.

Tarek Sami Absi MD

June 22, 2018

Dear Michael and Mark, I am at a loss for words....your dad's passing is tremendously saddening though we all saw it coming. He was a great person and a wonderful friend. He will certainly be missed by everybody that knew him. These next few weeks and months will seem unbearable but these hard days will pass, too. My wife, Ghina, our daughters Elsa, Sarah and Celine hold Uncle Eli's memory in our hearts and in our prayers.

Samira, Alice and Labibe Samira Shaheen, Alice Abssy and Labibe Khouery

June 8, 2018

To Our Dear Brother, Eli
At the age of fifteen you left us for a new world and a new life. We missed you.
You grew up in the USA to become loving, protective and generous together with your loving wife, Jody, who was and still is supportive to her family and to us.
Eli, we will miss you again. You will always be in out hearts and prayers with your loving presence. Rest in peace, dear brother. Labibe, Alice and Samira

Don Patrick

June 3, 2018

The story you sent of our friend is wonderful. The Wheezers and Geezers of the Coronado Cay Tennis Group can't thank you enough.
As my Irish grandmother always said every time I left her, "May the Good Lord Take a Liken to ye."

Mickey King

June 3, 2018

Thank you for sharing the very loving memorial of your Eli. He really was a super man. My sons, Jonathan, Matt, Patrick and Michael all agree. He was the best. Loving thoughts to all of you. Mick

Fawzi Emad

June 3, 2018

I cannot find the words to express my sadness. Reading the story of Eli, I would be lucky to do half what he did even if I lived twice my life. I am sure he is busy up there finding places to go when we all join him. Eli and I were talking about getting together not long ago, and I would welcome the family to visit me here in Ojai. You would be most welcome.

Spiros Lavdiotis

June 3, 2018

We want to express to the family our deep condolences for the loss of our beloved Eli. May your heart and soul, my friends, find peace and comfort. Eli, you have gone from our sight, but never from our hearts. We are sharing your sorrow with love and friendship. Spiros and Vivian
May your memory be eternal.

Walid Moubarak

June 3, 2018

Eli was a good person and a close friend I will always cherish the good times we spent together in Kuwait. Please accept my sincerest condolences for the passing away of Eli and convey my deep sympathies to Mark and Michael. May God rest his soul in peace.

Salim Absi

June 2, 2018

I remember the pride of my father when he used to talk about Uncle Eli. I met with him in the early 90's, a loving, caring and guiding person whom you loved without an effort. I always remember his lovely, wide smile which comes from the depth of his heart, his generosity when I visited him and Jody in San Diego in 2006. Uncle Eli, we are proud of you.
We were hoping that you would be visiting us again in Beirut but God's will was different and time flew by. It is a painful truth to lose you. I recall the words of Khalil Gibran "Love knows its depth at the hour of separation." Rest in peace, Uncle Eli, rest in peace until our souls will meet again. You will always be in our hearts.

Alma Abssy

May 31, 2018

Remembering my husband
When I married Eli Abssy on October 19, 1963, my world expanded. He was a remarkable man whose life encompassed an incredible journey from his beloved home and family in Beirut through many lands and increasingly challenging careers. He was extremely hard working and always grateful for all the opportunities that came his way. His tireless intellectual curiosity led him into endless discoveries. Wherever we lived he left behind close friends who valued his counsel. He was a man of high principles. His life was celebrated in services around the globe. He was fiercely proud and protective of his family members. He strived to lead them into safe paths. His gift for loving and caring deeply was passed on to our two sons. We were blessed. He was delighted when his wry sense of humor brought smiles to faces. He traveled on April 8, 2018, and I am trying to cope with his departure. I feel very privileged to have shared fifty four years of marriage with him. I will miss him terribly.