July 10, 1946 – July 4, 2020
Mattie Bigby was born on July 10, 1946 and passed away on July 4, 2020 and is under the care of Merkley-Mitchell Mortuary.
Graveside Service will be held on July 30, 2020 at 2:00 pm at Miramar National Cemetery, 5795 Nobel Dr, San Diego, CA.
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Thursday, July 30, 2020
July 30, 2020
July 29, 2020
Thank you for being a constant and loving example of kindness, empathy and understanding in action. Thank you for the seeds of wisdom you planted, nurtured and watched blossom over the years. I’ll never forget the comfort of your voice, the sunshine in your laughter or the magic of watching you leap and catch a blue bird in flight. I’m grateful for all of the prayers you prayed for me, for the patience you had while waiting for the prayers to take and for the faith you had in me all along the way. Thank you for talking me through and loving me through all of my mistakes. I love you Mom. Rest In Love and Light ❤️
July 27, 2020
My grandma, and my second mom... I wish we could go back in time and know about the sickness earlier that took you away from us way too soon. Even though physically you were here, mentally you were gone for years. It was so hard to see you like that. Growing up, I went with you everywhere. All the walks we went on. Taught me how to negotiate at yard sales, cook any and everything, that I don’t need a man to fix things... I actually fixed two lights at home, rewiring them and they work. If you hadn’t taught me to get on my hands and knees and do it myself, it probably would still not be working. I owe so much to you. I know as a kid, I was influenced often and acted out in ways I shouldn’t have... but I grew out of it. I wish you could have seen me graduate college. I know you would have been so proud of me. I wish you could just see how things are now. For years I thought you would just wake up and by you normal self again. I miss you. So much. Thank you for being yourself and helping me grow into the independent woman I am today. I love you grandma.
July 24, 2020
Rest in peace mom, I am so thankful for everything . My mom was the pillar of my family and in many ways a one woman show. She was the kind of woman that could fix the sink and then turn around and make dinner for her family. I miss those dinners terribly and so I learned to make her sweet potato pie because it was not the holidays without it, I taught the recipe to my girls and they made a few last Christmas. My mom gave the best advice ever on anything from cooking, plumbing ,legal advice, relationship and career choices; she would always be spot on. She had an awesome heart and was giving and kind. She was a strong woman and I questioned her integrity often. We had our fights and it taught me forgiveness. She dragged me to church every Sunday and it planted the seed of spirituality in my heart. I am grateful, blessed, and proud of the strong, beautiful, sweet woman I called Mom. Rest in peace as I know you're in a better place. You are an angel now living on through me . With all my love, Christina Bigby
July 23, 2020
R.I.P. Mattie Bigby † ...2nd life | 2nd mom 🇺🇸 1989/90 During my High School year in San Diego,CA as exchange student I met Mattie as the mother of a good friend from school. When my official School year was over and I wanted to extend my stay for some time, Mattie offered me to move over and stay with the whole family and organized a room in the full house of hers and then later also at their very nice neighbors house, Sandy & Thelma. Mattie with her great loving heart and a house full of kids already, took me kind of like another son (from abroad) and treated me and gave me the good feeling like being just another member of her family. since then I called her my ‘2nd mom’. Mattie past away and I want to thank her for all the love, goodness and her care during my school year and all the years after, welcoming and inviting me the many times I came over to visit the family and my good friends I found back then at Madison High. I feel grateful and want to thank you for everything you have done for me, giving me a place to stay, caring for me like a mother does, teaching me also lessons in life which I growing up in Germany as a I would consider spoiled only child would never had the chance to experience, like how wonderful and also crazy sometimes it also can be to live and grow up in a big family, passing on your wisdom and life experience and explaing the American world to me and for always having an open ear and good advice when I had questions or concerns. Thank you, Mattie. ...in the crazy times in which we currently are, I feel sad and bad that I can’t be there for the funeral which takes place today, be with the family and share the time and holding each other on this hard day. I promise as soon as things get back to a certain level of ‘normal’ and travels to the US are kinda responsible again, I will come over guys. Whenever you need me I’ll be there for you as Mattie was for me..... be strong. Love you all 🇩🇪❤️🇺🇸
Monique (Nikkie) Tompkins
July 23, 2020
Aunt Mattie was more than my Aunt she was a second mom to me. She always accepted everyone to include four legged fur babies. She never judged and always encouraged me through life’s challenges. I know she is in a better place with her brothers, mother and father. She is at peace with god now! Aunt Mattie Rest In Peace and know you will be missed. Thx you for all you have done for me in my life!!
July 21, 2020
I send my deepest condolences to the family. You never really have the right words for when someone as great and loving as Mattie moves beyond this worldly existence but I will try my best to get out what I'm feeling. I was saddened by her struggles with health for the last few years and it was such a thing that my heart broke for her because I knew there was nothing I could do mend her health. Now in this new sorrow I can only hope her light that shined so brightly and her extremely kind spirit is in the next realm feeling all the love we send without sadness nor pain. Sending my loving vibes to her family..who I consider my family too. Also hoping those vibes reach up to the heavens where she can to feel my love.
Daryl and Tavy Perry
July 18, 2020
Aunt Mattie never wavered. She was always so sweet and soft spoken. We went to California to see Her in 2015 and it was a great visit and I will never forget the big huge she gave me and my husband.
Take your rest Aunt Mattie.
We love you dearly,
Mike and Joey Cleary
July 17, 2020
Words seem so inadequate to fully express a loss of loved one . Mama Mattie as I call her , is such a loving soft spoken human being . I remembered many years ago , every time I'd stop by to see Robin and Ry . I would sit and Mama Mattie would be there sitting with us and just asking about how life is etc etc ..
she's the type who would do anything to help someone in need .
She will be sorely missed and never forgotten .
We love you Mama Mattie . Rest In Peace now . Please give my Dad a huge hugs for me . 😢😢😘🙏
July 12, 2020
To the Bigby Family
She is gone home to be with the lord, she is in a better place .
Rest in peace Mattie
We love you , but God loved you best.
Love you , your sister
Mary and family
July 10, 2020
I want to let the family know that they are in our prayers in this time . Please ,even though we are in Virginia ,let us know if u need anything i will do my best to help
Love you family in laws
Will miss Mattie so much she always made me laugh when she was here visiting . now she and ronnie can make everyone in heaven laugh together again