McHenry Family - thank you for sharing Steve with the VFW family on Fridays.  He was a blessing to everyone lucky enough to cross paths with him.  You are in my thoughts and prayers always, but especially today.

Remembering dear Steve today and thanking  God for the gift he was to so many. Thank you Jesus, that we can be assured we will see our brother again. We are confident that Steve’s legacy will be evident for many generations to come. 
Blessings and Peace and Comfort and the Joy of the Lord-
The Courey Family 

McHenry family the first year is the hardest after Steve's passing. My prayers and thoughts are still with you trying to navigate daily. I pray for comfort in your daily lives. Robin Peterson

I was looking at Steve's picture just today and remembering our grand adventures with Troop 271.
I miss very much my funny and loving friend. ❤️ We will meet again brother🙏

My deepest sympathy & condolences to the McHenry family.

He was the nicest, shyest guy in our class.  Saw him at Dixieline before we moved to Denver.  My girls went to school and bowled with his boys. RIP. Robin Peterson Eskew 

I'm sitting here in Tennessee waiting for the Celebration of Life to begin. My heart is so broken at the loss of this incredible man who nurtured so many young boys into manhood though scouting. His lovely example based in kindness and perseverance guided so many into achieving the rank of Eagle Scout. His relationship with the Lord was an inspiration for me during times of uncertainty.  I will miss my Fellow Knight...

In what can be an ugly world Steve brought beauty just being himself.  
I have many fond memories over the past years.  I met him through singing.  He would come to my home and sing in my driveway for my different social media shows.  It didn't matter i had zero followers.  He just loved to sing and his spirit was beautiful.  He gave me the confidence to try new songs with him.  
He volunteered at the VFW in Poway, where he was loved.  He made everyone that met him feel special.  He made people feel like matter.  He would dress  in these great outfits and get on the stage and just be himself.  He sang from his heart which was beautiful.  
He truly changed this world while he was here.  
He made my life better by him just being him.  
Steven McHenry was the definition of beauty and love and he was a true Christian.  I will miss him more then words can say.  He will be in my heart forever.
Love you Steve.

My favorite memory of Steve was watching him come out of a Dixieline supplies closet with supplies for his office. He says shhh do not tell HR aka Human Resources “I am coming out of the closet”.  I replied “Ok but if you go back in again I will have to say something”. We both laughed. What a sense of humor he had. He was great at double meanings. 

His kindness… will not be forgotten either. When I was depressed he always listened and gave sound advise. 

We frequently spoke of growing up in the 80’s and felt we were blessed to have such a wonderful experience.

Most importantly his Mississippi mud pie reigns supreme!

Until we meet again Steve…until we meet again.
Danette Diaz



Steve loved Boy Scout Troop 271.  As Scoutmaster, he really made it fun for the boys.  I remember him telling the boys he would dye his hair rainbow colors if a certain number of boys signed up for Summer camp.  They made their numbers and he dyed his hair.  Classic!  I think he had more fun than the boys!  Steve was one the kindest men I've ever known.  Great role model.  I am heartbroken.

Steve, AKA Mr. McHenry, was the Scoutmaster for my sons’ boy scout troop, Troop 271. Steve brought whimsey, joy, costumes and laughter to the meetings (yes, even mohawk and mullet wigs). He spoke from the heart — his messages about anti-bullying and stories about his experiences as a kid being picked on, stick with me today. But mostly, I learned from Steve to embrace dressing up for Halloween, to be fearless with gory makeup and to let your true, happy self shine through. Rest in peace … from one of the many, many people lucky to have known you. I wish I had seen you perform in your band … I can only imagine the radiance that emanated from your performances. I know that your light will always brightly shine on. 

Steve and I sang together at Madison High.  Ensemble was a close group at the time but most of us drifted apart over the years. I left Claremont and came back in the late 90s and was Steve’s neighbor for many years. He was my son’s Scoutmaster.  Steve was a loving, generous, giving man. He always had time for people. He gave his heart and soul to the boys in the scout troop, and I give Steve a lot of credit for helping my son grow into the man he is today. Steve is going to be missed. My heart goes out to his family.  I cannot imagine their loss.  

I worked with Steve at Handyman where he kept us all in stitches constantly. we also worked together at Dixieline for many years.
Steve was a AWSOME cook and an even better friend always let you know you had value even when you ticked him off! Steve I will miss you terribly your humor will be forever remembered!
your love of your Family and Friends is Forever!


Hi, I'm Eric Hanson. I sang with Steve in our singing group, Country Crossovers Band. He was always upbeat and carried his genre of music with our show flawlessly. He loved it and I loved singing with him and talking together. We were all robbed of a future I was greatly looking forward to in getting to know him better and better. I'm so sorry this happened. At 10 pm he and I were sharing a microphone singing together  arm in arm. I thought to myself that we were really becoming a good band. 34 minutes later he was gone. I will miss Steve for the rest of my life, and I'm so sorry for his family. If Heaven is real, I hope he is singing with Frank Sinatra right now. Goodbye for now Brother.

I worked with Steve at Dixieline a number of years ago. I have never met a person more comfortable in their own skin. Steve had a beautiful voice . I will always remember him singing cover songs by Lionel Ritchie. I’m glad I knew him . Rest In Peace Steve. 

Steve loved life. He liked to cook and plant his own vegetable garden. He liked to fish. He was one of the best singers in San Diego but was humble. Not an ounce of ego in his blood. He went to church and believed in Jesus. He like to dress up on stage while he sang the most beautiful songs. He loved to volunteer to help veterans at the Poway VFW and the Elks Lodge. He never took money and even donated any tips he got. I never met such a wonderful person in my life. God Bless you Steve and hope to see you in heaven.   

My last conversation with Steve took place while I was bartending at the VFW.  Steve said, "Dawn, you're someone who 'packs my parachute'".  To which I chuckled & replied "I'm not sure what that means but thank you".  He then explained the meaning of this saying, "Capt. Charlie Plumb was a POW.  Part of Charlie's now famous story was how he was recognized by a military veteran that had packed his parachute the day he was shot down.  Capt. Plumbs message is you never know who is going to touch your life, make an impact and possibly save your life."  Steve & I then joked a bit about how important bartenders are when people are thirsty and I responded with "Thank you Steve.  You always make me feel special".  Making people feel special was Steve's gift to the world and as it turns out, STEVE is the one who packed the parachutes of everyone in his life.        

OBITUARY

Steven McHenry

October 13, 1962 – March 25, 2022

El Camino Memorial - Sorrento Valley & Memorial Park

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