Thomas Jeffrey O'Connor

May 15, 1953February 4, 2021

Thomas J. O’Connor, local legend and the 12th of 13 children born to Jerome and Frances O’Connor, passed away on Thursday, February 4th.

Born and bred Mission Hills, Tom attended Grant School & St. Vincent’s prior to Uni High, where the ‘Bossman’ was a varsity quarterback for the Dons.

Tom had an illustrious 30-year career on the waterfront. His company, AMMEX Tank International, continues to serve the Navy today.

Tom married Therese Finete; together they had their only child, Taryn, and remained best friends until his parting day. He is survived by Taryn, his dog Ghost, and seven siblings.

Funeral Mass will be held at St. Vincent de Paul on February 15th at 10am with a rosary at 9:30am.


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Gary Beck

February 20, 2021

Tommy, for the early years of football or over the line on the block, you were always an inspiration with the O'connor Heart. My thoughts and prayers to the Family. I will always remember our talks and your kindness at Christmas for the Hills Brothers & Sisters
Gary Beck

Sally King

February 16, 2021

Dear family of Tom O'Connor,
It is with great sadness that I send this letter of condolence. It is never easy losing a loved one. I hope all of your great memories of Tom will help you endure the road ahead.
Sally King and sons
Paul Vazquez
Phillip Vazquez

Pete Oriol

February 15, 2021

Therese and Taryn and O'Connor family,
I never went to kindergarten, I will never forget my brother Gil told me make sure you don't cry your first day in school. He said put your head down if you feel like crying. I sat at my desk and seen these 2 kids with freckles I have never seen anyone with freckles so I put my head down on the desk. These 2 guys were Tom & Pat. Shortly after that day Tom became a true friend. I admired Tom's scholastic intelligence ,also his athletic ability.
Growing up with the O'connors and everyone from that era was a gift. Tom at most is one I will never forget , even though our careers were distant I always thought of Tom. Something about childhood friends that are engraved in our hearts & history. I always heard of his accomplishments . When I did see him later in life (now and then) he mostly talked of his and Terese's daughter Tayrn.
Growing up Tom was not as tall as I was but I always looked up to him. God bless you Tom and your family.

Danielle Noe-Griego

February 14, 2021

Therese and Taryn,

I am so sad to hear of Tom’s passing. I will never forget one of our infamous New Year’s Day parties when Tom sang “Ain’t too proud to beg.” Wow could he sing that song.

Tom, you will be missed, but your girls are so very loved and will always be okay.

Tom Davis

February 14, 2021

Rest In Peace Tommy O’Connor. God bless you and your family. You will be missed.

Robert George

February 13, 2021

Sorry to hear the sad news. Playing for Saints back in the day I knew Tom was a tough young man. Great memories in 1979 at Arizona street. Always had friends around him. Still had a lot to offer people.

Nancy Gagliardo Balestreri

February 13, 2021

I was saddened to learn of Tommy’s passing.
I met Tom back in 1985. He was a kind, generous, adventurous man with a bigger-than-life personality.

I will forever be grateful for the support and compassion he showed me when I lost my mom.
He helped me through the darkest, most difficult time of my life.

My late husband, Joe “Balaboo” Balestreri, always loved Tom.
I know they are dancing in the heavens as I write this.

Tom will hold a special place in my heart indefinitely.

My sincere condolences to Terese, their daughter, and the O’Connor family.

Barry Pollard

February 13, 2021

During my late adolescence and early teens in High School I met this guy at University High School. I was only one of a handful of Black students at Uni and I met Tom and . His entire family loved me and my family as we both grew up.
He instantly became my life-time best friend. We had adventures throughout our lives that I will always treasure and love. I loved this man and his family and it continues today.
My heart broke when I heard of his passing and his loyalty, friendship and selflessness will be missed.
Tommy, much love my man, will see you on the other side!!!!!!

Gabino Morales

February 11, 2021

I had the privilege of knowing Tom for over 18 years , he was always the most generous and fair person with everyone of the people that not only knew him but also his workers-friends ,throughout his waterfront days!
You Will Be Missed!
May you rest in peace.

John Sand

February 10, 2021

I am so glad Charlie Glazener and I stopped to visit last year, and got the picture of Tommy and Shaun with Charlie, among the most memorable photo’s I have taken. I missed out on much fun being away from San Diego. Fond memories of Dennis working at Foster’s Freeze, jumping off Cabrillo bridge with Timmy, and Tommy in his fedora. Peace In Our Savior’s name to the O’Connor family.