WILLIAM RANDALL RAY
August 13, 1955 – June 27, 2019
William Randall Ray (AKA Randy), 63, of Santee, CA, passed away at sea on June 27th, 2019, doing what he loved. Randy is survived by his wife, Karen, of 44 years, mother Shirley Ray, daughters Misty (Jesse) Rubinol, Rachael (Valentine) Chavez, Amy (Matt) Knippel, grandchildren Riley Rubinol, Cecily Rubinol, Mateo Rubinol, Amelia Chavez, Gabriella Chavez, Owen Knippel, Wyatt Knippel, Joaquin Chavez, 5 siblings, and many loving nieces, nephews, cousins, extended family and friends.
Randy served his country faithfully, 20 years active duty and 25 as a Department of the Navy civil servant. He enlisted in the US Navy in June of 1973. While his latest role as an Ice Pilot working with the Arctic Submarine Laboratory was his most fulfilling, he held several enlisted and officer positions during his career in the US Navy and was respected by men & women up and down the chain of command; seamen, airmen, captains and admirals alike.
When he wasn’t navigating glaciers & reefs to guide submarines safely to their destinations, he enjoyed music, sports, spending time with family & catering to his wife’s & daughters’ every want & need. He had dreams to retire from civil service in September of 2020 and to move to Tennessee with wife, Karen. Randy aspired to spend his retirement fishing Tennessee rivers, coaching little league and possibly even dabbling in community theater. Randy was a loving husband, father, grandfather, and a friend to every person he met – his passing is felt deeply by many near and far. In lieu of flowers, the family asks for your support in memorial contributions to Autism Speaks as Randy was a fierce advocate for all of his grandchildren.
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MIRAMAR NATIONAL CEMETERY
5795 Nobel Drive
Celebration of Life
William and Karen's Home
9556 Abbeyfield Road
WILLIAM RANDALL RAY
July 10, 2019
It's been nineteen years since I retired from the Arctic Lab, and left San Diego, so it's been a long while since we saw each other. You were truly a memorable and much-admired colleague. I wish your family comfort and peace in this time of mourning. You will be missed by all who knew you.
July 9, 2019
There aren't any words that can really describe what losing you feels like - the cracks in my heart hurt and it feels right now like I'll never be able to go a day without crying about how much I miss you or how much you're missing or what I'm going to go if I need a dad hug....
But...I'm grateful for the time we had with you, even if it was way too short. I'm glad my boys, nieces & nephews know you and I'm grateful for all of the stories and memories we have to share that will keep you alive for them and for all of us.
Thank you for everything....
I love music because of you...
My super hilarious sarcastic wit? All you.
The understanding that I am woman deserving of love and respect? You again.
My eldest son's smile? Yours.
I will miss you forever, Daddio, but I will always keep you alive in my heart....
Here is a link to the slideshow that my big sister created, sharing here for family & friends.
July 6, 2019
I haven't seen Randy in person since 1979, yet when we reconnected a few years ago it was if time was no matter. I could tell stories about our time stationed together, but I'll just say he loved his family as much or more than any man I've ever known, and his love for his friends was second only to them. I am so sorry that the world lost such a good man. He was my friend and I'm going to miss him. Rest in peace my friend. Rick
July 6, 2019
I remember when we were stationed together in San Diego, and then in Newport, and then at the University of Washington, and we were commissioned together... but my strongest memory of you, is when we were in the San Diego Navy softball finals, and Youngblood was at bat, and all we needed was one out to win the championship, and we were up by one, bottom of the ninth, bases loaded, two outs... and I was the pitcher and the count was 3 -2, and for some reason I always seemed to walk her, and you called time out, ran to the pitcher's mound from the outfield, and said to me, "If you walk her again, I will kick your ass." You ran back to the outfield, and I thought about it, and pitched her a perfect strike... Fair winds and following seas my dear friend.
July 5, 2019
I don’t know how you did it but despite your being at sea as often as you were, you set a tremendous example of what it means to be a loving and present father, grandfather, and father-in-law. Your quirky sense of humor and gentle giantness was a welcomed presence for me. I have zero doubt you’ll continue to live on in your daughters and grandchildren. Make sure to keep that goofiness on full blast while you wear those angel wings. Sending you love Sir and a heartfelt thank you for providing my brother, my nephews, and me with such a wonderful family. I’m so honored to be a part of it.
July 5, 2019
I will never forget the holidays the vacations I spent down there in that tiny house always adventure with the Rays we might never have seen eye to eye but I sure did love you and would brag about how smart my cuz is love you always in my heart
July 5, 2019
Uncle Randy, you were like a real life super hero in my eyes. From your military service to your constant love for your family, you were a true role model. You gave the warmest of hugs and your singing always calmed a child. Your presence will never be forgotten and you will be forever loved. Thank you for your services and thank you for all your love. Rest easy uncle Randy, we love you. ❤🇺🇸