San Francisco Columbarium & Funeral Home

One Loraine Court, San Francisco, CA


Cary Lee

September 17, 1964December 24, 2019

Cary Lee passed away suddenly and unexpectedly at the age of 55 on Tuesday, December 24th, 2019 in Emeryville, CA. He was a loving husband, uncle, brother, cousin and son.

Cary was born on September 17, 1964 in San Francisco, where he grew up and attended UC Berkeley and graduated from Golden Gate University with a BS in Business Administration. In his youth, he worked in the family's Supermarket business at Red Cart Market in Mill Valley as a meat wrapper. He also DJ'd with friends and worked at a computer store on Mission Street in the City.

In 1990, Cary and his family started the first PET CLUB store in Corte Madera. PET CLUB was Cary's lifework as he was instrumental in its growth and success. Cary oversaw the IT aspect of the business and was the primary Buyer for hard goods and treats. Cary also loved to attend the yearly Pet Industry Tradeshows at Superzoo, APPMA and the Global Pet Expo where he met with friends, business partners, and new vendors. He was an avid Photographer and traveled throughout the world taking beautiful scenic pictures. We will miss Cary and the Pet Industry will miss Cary too.....

Cary is survived by his wife Lily Li, brother Calvin Lee and sister-in-law Tina, nephew Cliff, brother Corey Lee, sister-in-law Jessica, nephew Cap, nieces Caye & Callan, and Parents Winfield & Debbie Lee.

1. Flower Shop: Sweetheart Florist 51 Ross Aly San Francisco, CA 94108 415-392-3098 https://www.sweetheartfloristsf.com/wreaths/1

2. Burial: Cypress Lawn Memorial Park Hillside Gardens Red Lotus I 1697 Hillside Blvd, Colma, CA 94014

3. Reception: Tai Yuan Seafood Restaurant 950 King Drive Ste 100King Plaza Shopping Ctr Daly City, CA 94015


  • Memorial Service Saturday, January 11, 2020


Cary Lee

have a memory or condolence to add?

Greg Melin

January 13, 2020

The Pet Industry has lost a Giant! When I first met Cary, I was a little intimidated, as he was Pet Club and Pet Club was Giant! But, after getting introduced, he could not have been more down to earth and even helpful. Cary has done so many great things, and knew everybody in Pet, and was the most interesting person to talk to about the state of the Pet Industry. The National trade shows will forever feel a little different without Cary there.
My Condolences to the family...
Greg Melin

Mari Hess

January 11, 2020

I have been working with the Lee family for 28 years. I have always enjoyed my
visits to the office, especially when
the whole gang was there.

Cary always had a smile on his face. He
was always laughing, joking and just bringing a great energy into the room.
He always got everyone around him
smiling and laughing too.
i will always have these happy memories
of Cary and will miss him very much
Mari Hess

RaChelle Lobre

January 10, 2020

There are so many memories.... the highlight of my move to Northern California was the Lee Family and Justine Kayne who introduced us.

Cary was a warm smile and incredible hug. When he was absent from the office during meetings, It was noticed. He was a supportive friend in all ways. His advice was always heeded.

Some of the best memories in my life included Cary. And the most memorable captures were done by Cary and Lily from the other side of their lens. Cary was talented, kind, honest, fair, crazy smart, funny and a beautiful soul.

My heart goes out to the entire Lee family. As I only spent a short number of years and the absence is palpable, I cannot imagine the emotions they are navigating through after decades of sharing such a wonderful life with him. My love and thoughts are with all of them.

All of my love ❤️


Amber Vander Dussen

January 10, 2020

Words cannot express the loss felt on the news of Carys passing. A void will surely be felt by us all. Cary, you were always a pleasure to work with. Never was there a time I did not see a smile on you face! The industry has surely lost a wonderful soul too soon.....

Dinean Farraher

January 8, 2020

I am so saddened by the passing of Cary. I only had the pleasure of working with him over the past few years but always looked forward to our meetings, phone calls. Cary has such enthusiasm for his business, even calling out a certain sku number in our last meeting, there was not a detail he didn’t know. I am sorry for the entire family and I feel lucky that I had the pleasure of knowing Cary, even if for a short time.

Barbara Hallacher

January 8, 2020

I met Cary and Glenn on a trip in Italy almost 20 years ago. We became fast fiends, talked and laughed our way through Italy. We continued our friendship by email and in the summers when my family visited the Bay Area from Hawaii. Cary even sent us cat toys to try out with our pets. Cary was always so generous, thoughtful, and kind. We had many adventures in San Francisco, met his family, and enjoyed the wonderful food his mom cooked. I was honored to attend Cary and Lily's beautiful wedding. Cary's passing was such a shock and way too soon! I know his family and friends are broken hearted. I wish them all comfort and peace. I am so grateful to have known Cary and will truly miss him.

Heather Donaldson

January 8, 2020

Cary, a man always willing to share a smile, will be forever missed! The pet industry has lost a great man. And our family lost a dear friend! My biggest boy respected you so much. Scott always called on you first about everything. Thank you Cary - I know I’ve said it to you, but thank you for everything you mean to Scott! My boyz always begged to come in and say hi, they begged to make the trip to see Mr. Cary and the family. There was a time in our house where we all shed tears and shared memories about you. They asked what we could do to help. I don’t know why you were called to move on, but I know you are making someone else smile. And they are so lucky for that! Our last trip the week before Christmas, will forever be my happiest memory. I am so glad we all decided to come see you. It was a debate, take the kids, leave them, me go, me stay with the kids. In the end, we made the right choice and all saw your smile one last time! You will forever be in our hearts Cary! With much love and respect, Heather, Scott, Brenton, Gaege, Ryles and Zeke

Tim Taft

January 8, 2020

I have no words right now to express my gratitude for having Cary as one of my dear friends! I met Cary back in 1994 and it was such a fun friendship over the past twenty five years. He was so genuine, had the most amazing sense of humor, was so honest and pure, and quietly BRILLIANT! He was such a peaceful soul! So many funny stories come to mind from trade shows to his and Lily’s wedding. As much as my heart is broken for the passing of a dear friend, my thoughts and prayers go out to everyone who knew him as everyone loved Cary! Corey, Calvin, Tamm, Ryan, Jackie, Glen and all my friends who I know have lost a man with the most incredible loving spirit!! What an incredible man!

Gordon Chan

January 8, 2020

Too Soon ...... are the words among our mutual friends on Cary passing.

My deepest condolences to the Lee family. I live overseas and just got back to US on the 29th and was looking forward to catching up with Cary in the New Year when I heard the sad news of his passing.

I meet Cary when we were both 15 years old and we stay friends over the next 40 years. Even though in recents year we have not met up as frequent, when we did speak, we would pick up where we left off as if it was yesterday.

Cary was kind enough to introduce me to his family, and I recall visiting the 1st Pet Club (Corte Madera) when it was under construction. I was always in high respect on how his father and uncle work together and how all the brothers from both families work together in establishing and growing their business. It speaks volumes to the tight knit-ness of the Lee Family Clan (Three Plus Generations).

I last spoke with Cary a year ago on the phone and we discuss some of life’s regrets and things we were looking forward to in life and we wanted to catch up the next time I was in town. For those who know Cary, he has a wonderful sense of humour, and not a mean bone in him. He was a true gentle man.

Rest in peace Cary, knowing that you were well love by your family and friends. You will be missed my friend.

Gordon Chan

Robin Griffith

January 7, 2020

Cary shared a love of music with my Dad Bobby "G". They spoke on the phone 3 times weekly and Cary would write out the monthly play list of CD single hits on the charts. My Dad informed him of my love for all Animals and how much I disliked animal cruelty and took every stray I could off the streets to give it a home.. Well as we all knew Cary was an Angel at ❤. Such a lovely person to know. To my surprise I received a care package the following week loaded with all kinds of goodies from his pet supermarket.. Thank you Cary. We love you and will miss you deeply. May you rest in eternal peace our sweet dear friend..