Forina Ching Yu Ching
August 23, 1969 – July 10, 2020
Starting life in a typical Hong Kong family on August 23, 1969, Forina (Ching Yu) Ching lived an extraordinary life in both her birth place and later the beautiful California where she started her new family. Forina passed away peacefully on July 10, 2020 at Regional Medical Center in San Jose California after a courageous battle with cancer diagnosed in September 2019.
She might be a petite girl on the outside but for those who knew her well, she was a very resilient person and had never said no to any challenge in both life and work. However, while she was only being tough on herself most of the times, she was a very kind, caring and loving person and she always had unconditional love for her family.
In the fight with this terrible disease, she was always calm and positive and comforted everyone around her. Even in defeat, she was happy to join her loving mom in heaven. Surviving Forina is her father Hong Sang Ching, her brothers Chung Yu Ching, Kwok Yu Ching and her sisters Chui Yu Ching and Chiu Yu Ching. She is also survived by me, Chin Pang Kwan, the luckiest man in the world to marry this wonderful woman 21 years ago, as well as our precious son Antony Kwan. She was the second youngest in the Ching family and as described by her elder sister, she was the champion in the family. Forina had achieved the Master of Philosophy degree in Statistics in Hong Kong University, the best in Hong Kong. This was happening while her mother had suffered from a stroke in the most unfortunate time of 1989 and needed a lot of care. Forina stepped up and took good care of her mom while achieved the great academic result.
When she joined the current company where she and I had worked for more than 25 years, I also met my most significant person in my life and of course that was Forina. It was love at first sight and after I got to know her more, there was absolutely no doubt that she’s just the best ever. Putting all the personal preference aside, I had the most respect for her professionally. I had seen her thrive even in very challenging business situations but behind the scene, she was always putting in her best and in all the times, I couldn’t resist the Z-monster while she continued to finish her work even it was late hours. Despite her non-technical background, she learned programming on her own and became expert in different technical tools much faster than other colleagues and she always became the go-to person. However tough she was, again, anyone knew her long enough would not forget her signature laughter in the office. She always brought cheer, encouragement and the can-do spirit to everyone around her, even in the most uncertain time. Anyone who had ever worked with her, inside or outside of the company, were all deeply impressed with her professionalism and friendliness.
As her friends, everyone would also know her care and generosity and she always had the best ideas to gather everyone. You might remember the countless parties or activities that she hosted or organized. No matter whether they were holiday themed or just a birthday party or just for fun, she did her best in every aspect and always thought of some funny games and interesting activities. All she wanted was that everyone could have a good time and enjoy the friendship. Lilian Po, one of her best friend during the school time, shared the story when Forina invited her and another friend who worked together in a summer job, to her house to have lunch instead of eating junk food outside. From a grassroots family at that time, Lilian deeply appreciated the kindness and hospitality of Forina and her mom. I’m sure there were more stories to be shared and no doubt everyone would miss her as a good friend.
I would not hesitate to say again that I was the luckiest man in the world and she was my best partner and companion. Being a new family in an unfamiliar place with only a handful of new friends, there were a lot of challenges. I was really far from being a mature or successful person. I remembered I lost all my hair due to stress while we were dating. She continued to support me during the difficult time and I’m forever grateful. She was the one who gave me all the courage and energy to achieve what I thought were the impossible. I confessed that I did not listen to all her suggestions even though I knew those were for the best of me. She had the best patience, even it was decades of time. When we had our son, it was really the toughest time for us as new mom and dad. She devoted tremendous love to him and took good care of every aspect along his growth. To be honest, there were a lot of ups and downs and we were far from being the perfect parents and especially for Forina, she still had worries. It is still a long road for him but we were both happy that he has grown to be a kind person. Forina once said it was the happiest time in her life to see the birth of our son and even she is now up there, she will always watch out for Antony.
In memory of our beloved Forina in this difficult time of Covid-19 pandemic, we will have a simple funeral service conducted in Cantonese at Willow Glen Funeral Home to have family members and some close friends in United States to join on Sunday July 26 from 11:30am-12:30pm. This is by invitation only. If you want to pay your last respects to her in person, you may visit the funeral home between 9:30am - 11:30am on the same day and please observe all the safety measures including wearing a mask. You may also send flowers from the funeral home website (https://www.dignitymemorial.com/obituaries/san-jose-ca/ching-yu-ching-9261817 ). A live stream of the service via Zoom will also be arranged. I’m planning a separate online memorial via gatheringus.com to be hosted tentatively on July 31 6pm-8:30pm PDT (August 1 9am-11:30am HKT) so that friends and families from overseas in addition to those from the west coast can also join together. This event will be hosted in English but individuals may speak in the language they are comfortable with. Invitations will be sent later.
Sunday, July 26, 2020
Forina Ching Yu Ching
Matt & Rhoda Rosen
July 31, 2020
It was quite some time after joining OOCL that I had my first chance to work with Forina. She was kind of intimidating because she was very knowledgeable, seriously professional and focused. That initial intimidation melted away when I saw the great galaxy of Disney characters in her cube and heard her famous laugh. Then I knew what a warm, friendly, and generous person she was in reality. That impression only grew stronger over our years working together. - Matt
The focus, dedication and passion that Forina showed in her work will always be an inspiration. The remembrance of her smile, laughter, sweet bean dessert will always bring back good memories we all shared in the office. I will treasure the video compilation CD she helped to compile for our wedding shower. - Rhoda
Eternal rest to you Forina.
We can barely imagine the hole that is left in the hearts and lives of Keith and Antony and Forina's other family members. We hope that you find peace and strength over time and that your memories of her continue to be bright and comforting.
All our Love,
Matt & Rhoda
July 26, 2020
Your smile and voice will never leave us, rest in Peace.
July 26, 2020
I have always enjoyed working with Forina and always looked forward to getting her advice. I can say part of who I am now is because of what I learned from her. If I try to recall what happened to company parties, her laugh will always come to mind, and how competitive she was at party games, I will miss that, we will all miss that. Rest in peace Forina.
July 26, 2020
It has been a blessing to have a wonderful friend like you to walk through our secondary school, university and master study together. Your laughs were always bright like sunshine that warmed my heart. Thanks for the many fond memories we shared.
Rest in peace and meet you again in Heaven.
(P.S. The photo was taken with our secondary school friends when we celebrated the graduation of bachelor’s degree in 1991)
July 24, 2020
It has been pleasant to work with you and to know you, Forina. I'll always remember how we practiced and performed together for the Chinese New York office celebration, specially when people said that was the first time for a Chinese Kongfu dance being performed in the office event; I'll also remember your brisk walk in high heels that I couldn't catch up with on the road of long morning commute. I particularly respect your professionalism, result driving working habit, you are truly an asset to any team you've participated in. Your kindness glued team together, your laugh and your positive altitude had driven many projects to move forward despite the complicated situations. Even when you were terminal ill, you kept your smile on your face whenever I saw you in the office. You were a warrior facing the end of the life with incredible amount of courage. I'll forever remember you as a colleague, a friend, a fighter in life, rest in peace.
July 24, 2020
It was a pleasure working with you.
Rest in peace.
July 23, 2020
Always happy to see Forina and Keith in our business trips, no matter in San Jose or in Hong Kong. Thanks for organizing all those gathering (lunch, dinner, party, shopping, etc), all best moments we had. The photo was taken on 16-Jan-2010 in Hong Kong, just few days before I left Hong Kong. I told you my move to Australia and you were shock, we talked for awhile and you gave me tremendous support.
See how beautiful you are, Forina. Your smile will be missed, but will always be remembered by all your friends and family members.
Take good care, Keith and Anthony.
July 22, 2020
ISDC San Jose will definitely be different without you, Forina. I am blessed to have known you, worked with you, learned from you and spend time on business trips with you. I will never forget our impromptu drive to Niagara Falls. We decided to drive there, take pictures and head straight to the airport with some time to shop before our flight. That’s definitely one of my most memorable business trips with you. Your excitement when you talk, your passion for UI design, data analysis and every work that you do, your fishball curry and chicken wings, your infectious laugh, our casual chats, and most of all your friendship, will definitely be missed but will always be remembered.
To Keith and Anthony, my sincerest condolences. You’re in my prayers at this time of sorrow.
July 21, 2020
Dear my beloved sister,
I want to tell you that you are always in our hearts. Don't worry your family, we will always with them.
Chean Wei Wong
July 21, 2020
We’ll miss you dearly. We will always remember the wonderful times that we shared, whether it’s our photo experience in Japan, or our little adventures in Lake Tahoe. Thanks for always caring for us and making sure we are comfortable whenever we visit. Rest well, and may we meet again one day in God’s kingdom.
Jade and Ah Wai
July 19, 2020
My dearest darling sister, how can i find the words to say to tell of how i miss you. I miss our little chats. The way you'd listen to me moan. Living life without you is so very hard to bear and I'd give all I have to waken and to see you standing there. We will be reunited in Heaven!
Your youngest sister
Claudia & Colin Ching
July 18, 2020
My beloved sister,
Losing you is a heartbreaking and excruciating to Ching family. Everyone in Ching family is loving you and missing you so much.
Your face, your voice and your smiles will forever be remembered. Our happiest moments in the family gathering and trips in USA, Canada and Singapore will never be forgotten.
Although you are apart in miles, we are always together in hearts. Rest in peace and live with our mother happily in heaven.
May the love and support of your family and friends give you comfort and peace in this sorrowful time. Please accept our heartfelt condolences to you and Antony.
Claudia & Colin
July 16, 2020
I'm thinking of you. I missed those days when you were around. I will always remember your smile, your laugh and your kindness. Thank you for what you have done for us. Goodbye my friend and see you in heaven.
July 15, 2020
Forina was a lovely and intelligent girl. Her father is the in-law of my sister. Our family first met her at her San Jose home and stayed a week there before heading south to Los Angeles.
Her family and my family used to meet for dim sum and dinner.
She was loved so much by her family. It's sad for Ching family to see her go.
Our deepest sympathy to her family both Ching and Kwan.