OBITUARY

Theodore John Van Bebber

June 24, 1930November 5, 2013
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Theodore John Van Bebber (Ted) Born June 24, 1930 in Willits, California and was raised by his grandparents Charles and Nina Van Bebber. His mother was Dora Van Bebber. Ted passed away peacefully in his sleep, surrounded by his family on November 5, 2013 in San Rafael, California. Ted graduated from Willits High School in 1948 and was drafted into the Army shortly thereafter. He was assigned to the 59th Company where he worked as Military Police and within two years was promoted to Sergeant. During his two years of service, he was stationed in Korea. Ted returned from the military and graduated from Golden Gate College in 1958 with a degree in Accounting. In April of 1959 he married the love of his life, Sharon Diane Hussey. They lived in San Francisco, Pacifica and finally settled in Marin County. Ted is survived by their four children, Loree Van Bebber (Butch Bailey), Lisa McKissick (Ron), TJ Van Bebber (Katie Straley) and Kathleen McGarvey (Mike). Ted has 11 grandchildren, Dustin (Kayla), Cristina (Brad), Kelly, Kristyn, Michael, Matthew (Kayln), Teddy, Katherine, Melanie and Ian and three great grandchildren, Jordan, Everett and Kennedy. Ted is survived by brother Charlie Louwaert and sisters Nina Bettencourt (Ray), Madeline Louwaert (Carl Sealock) and sister-in- law Nina Louwaert. Predeceased by brothers Frank Louwaert and Michael Louwaert. Ted worked for Bechtel/ Fremont Group for over 20 years. He loved to take vacations and cruises with his family. His most memorable trip was a cruise to Alaska with the entire family! Ted was an avid gardener; he enjoyed genealogy and loved his country. He was a devoted husband, an inspirational father and an extraordinary grandfather. Teds wishes were to be cremated and to be interred in Willits cemetery. The family will have a private graveside service at a later date. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations to be sent to the William F. Harrah Senior Center 1501 Baechtel Rd., Willits, CA 95490 or to your favorite charity . On Friday, November 8th, 2103 at 10:30 AM a Celebration of Life ceremony will be officiated by Deacon Jim Myers at St. Vincent's Church located at 1 Saint Vincent's Drive, San Rafael, CA. Reception to follow, contact Keaton's Mortuary for information.

Services

  • Memorial Service Friday, November 8, 2013
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Theodore John Van Bebber

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Cristina, your oldest (and favorite!) Granddaughter.

December 2, 2014

I love you grandpa... I miss you everyday. I look up at the stars and moon and think of you. I'm so thankful for all the amazing times we had. Breakfast is still my favorite meal... Especially if I'm eating it at night! I miss you grandpa and I always will... I know you're watching from above and I hope I can make you proud. I love you to the moon and back...

December 5, 2013

POEM BY NINA BETTENCOURT (TED'S SISTER)

We are gathered here today “November 8th 2013” for a celebration of Ted's life.
Everyone is here—his Children, Grandchildren, Siblings, Nieces, Nephews, Friends and Wife
Ted was very practical and intelligent and successful in his life
He was Steadfast, truthful and honest and always supportive of me
He was truly a perfect Gentleman and Brother
He was happy, sensitive and caring. I could go on forever
We traveled with Ted and Sherri to places galore
Went on cruises, tours, train trips and many more
Sibling's sleepovers were fun; we ate lots, played games, reminisced, and slept on the floor
Ted loved the Opera, plays and any kind of entertainment and he loved to dance
We would all go Square Dancing every time we got a chance
It made me so happy that Ted and Ray genuinely liked each other
I think Ray considered Ted another brother
Over the years we not only traveled together and had lots of fun
We had business ventures together that we established in younger years, and business actually got done
We closed up the books—everything was done
We headed off to dinner that was the reward we had won
So today I think Ted would like us to reflect on the good times we all had together
And cherish the love and respect we had for each other
My heart aches for myself and everyone else that is here
As we all love Ted—that seems so very clear

December 5, 2013

MY DAD MY HERO
By T.J. Van Bebber
TODAY IS THE CELEBRATION OF LIFE OF MY DAD. AS THE PAST FEW WEEKS HAVE GONE BY I HAVE WACHED MY FAMILY COME TOGETHER IN SUPPORT OF THE HERO AND THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE MY MOTHER. I WANT TO THANK MY MOTHER AND SISTERS FOR ALL THEY DID WITH ME AND MY FAMILY THIS PAST MONTH. IT WAS EASY RIGHT, THAT IS BECAUSE THE HERO TAUGHT US TO DO IT.
MY DAD WAS A GREAT FATHER, GRAND-FATHER, GREAT-GRANDFATHER, HUSBAND AND REPUBLICAN.
HE WAS SUPPORTIVE OF MY THREE SISTERS AND ME IN ALL THAT WE CHOOSE TO DO WITH OUR LIVES. HE WOULD GUIDE US AND GIVE IS ADVICE, BUT MY SISTER DID NOT ALWAYS FOLLOW IT.
HE WAS UNDENIEABLY AWSOME.
UNTIL WE SEE EACH OTHER AGAINKNOW THAT WE WILL ALWAYS HAVE YOUR LEGACY IN OUR HEARTS AND MINDS.
I WILL MISS YOU EVERYDAY. AS A FAMILY WE WILL MAKE IT THROGH THE GREIVING TIME.
THANKS FOR ALL YOU DID FOR ME AND YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY WICH IS PRETTY MUCH EVERYONE YOU MET OR WE BROUGHT HOME.
GOD TRULY GIVES BLESSING AND WHAT CAN I SAY MY DAD IS THE ANGEL GOD GAVE TO US.
BY FOR NOW.

December 5, 2013

“OUR DAD”
By Lisa Van Bebber

Our dad…he was a great friend, a fantastic brother, an amazing husband, an exceptional father and grandfather. He was all about making people happy, doing nice things for others
We took many family vacations together Dad loved to plan and organize parties, and gatherings. One of his favorite events every year was the family Christmas party with all his relatives. If he had his way he would send the invitations out in August so everyone would get it on their calendars.
Dad would always proof read for us and he would get out that little red pencil, we would cringe to see those red marks all over the page, but we would make every single change because we knew it would be a better paper after he was through with it.
Dad was a planner; he even planned for the inevitable moment when he couldn't do taxes anymore. He's been teaching us over the last few years to do our own. (Uggghhh) We all resisted him, but he kept insisting. I know all of us would have preferred a few more years of practice.
Dad loved to read to the grandchildren. When we were at the house, our kids would look forward to naptime, because naptime involved reading about 20 books maybe a light snack, I'm pretty sure there was no sleeping involved at all.
Dad supported us in all our endeavors…..I remember getting a card from mom and dad saying how proud they were of my accomplishments at work and then a number of months later I quit work to stay home with my kids I received another card from them telling me how proud they were of me being a stay at home mom and taking such good care of my children. This kind of unconditional support was what we received our whole lives.
I can think of another story- it's about my parent's neighbor Michelle. One day she was telling us how she thought her succulents were doing SOOO well. Month after month, they were thriving, (even though she would forget to water them or do anything to them) She was so proud of her green thumb until one day she caught my dad out there watering, adding fertilizer and pulling out the dead succulents and replacing them with new ones. This is what my dad was like about so many things. He would just quietly do for others. This was our Dad…
TODAY WE WISH TO HONOR OUR DAD AND CELEBRATE HIS LIFE

December 5, 2013

Prayers of the Faithful for Ted Van Bebber


Ron McKissick

7. We pray for those who mourn Ted's death that they may find strength and consolation in the hope we have through the resurrection of Jesus from the dead.
Lord in your mercy,
Hear Our Prayer
8. May the prayers of Mary, the Mother of God, who stood by the cross
as her son was dying, help those who mourn and be with all of us in our
time of need.
Lord in your mercy,
Hear Our Prayer

Deacon Jim Myers:
God, our shelter and our strength, you listen in love to the cry of your people; hear the prayers we offer for our departed brothers and sisters. Cleanse them of their sins and grant them the fullness of redemption
We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

December 5, 2013

Prayers of the Faithful for Ted Van Bebber


Michael McGarvey

5. For all of us assembled here to worship in faith, that we may be gathered together again in God's kingdom
Lord in your mercy,
Hear Our Prayer
6. For those who have fallen asleep in the hope of rising again, that they
may see God face to face.
Lord in your mercy,
Hear Our Prayer

December 5, 2013

Prayers of the Faithful for Ted Van Bebber


Katie Straley

3. The family and friends of Ted seek comfort and consolation.
Heal their pain and dispel the darkness and doubt that comes from grief.
Lord in your mercy ,
Hear Our Prayer
4. For all who are sick and suffering, that they receive healing hope and
tender love, and for caregivers all over the world that they will
continue to be a source of love and guidance to us.
Lord in your mercy ,
Hear Our Prayer

Butch Bailey

December 4, 2013

Prayers of the Faithful for Ted Van Bebber

Presider: God, the almighty Father raised Christ his Son from the dead; with confidence we ask him to save all his people, living and dead:

Butch Bailey

1. For Ted, who ate the body of Christ, the bread of life, that he may be raised up on the last day. Lord in your mercy, Hear Our Prayer
2. Many friends and members of our families have gone before us and await the kingdom. Grant them an everlasting home with your Son. We pray especially for Ted's brothers, Frank and Mike and for Vincent Sendner. Lord in your mercy Hear Our Prayer

Ray Bettencourt

December 4, 2013

A READING FROM THE SECOND LETTER OF PAUL TO THE CORINTHIANS
Read by Ray Bettencourt

Brothers and Sisters. We know that the one who raised the Lord Jesus will raise us also with Jesus and place us with you in his presence.
Everything indeed is for you, so that the grace bestowed in abundance on more and more people may cause the thanksgiving to overflow for the glory of god.
Therefore, we are not discouraged; rather, although our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.
For this momentary light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to what is seen but to what is unseen; for what is seen is transitory, but what is unseen is eternal.
For we know that if our earthly dwelling, a tent, should be destroyed, we have a building from God, a dwelling not made with hands, eternal in heaven.
The Word of the Lord

Kathleen & Loree Van Bebber

December 4, 2013

A Reading from the Book of Ecclesiastes
Read by Kathleen Van Bebber and Loree Van Bebber

There is an appointed time for everything,
and a time for every affair under the heavens.
A time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to uproot the plant.
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to tear down, and a time to build.
A time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance.
A time to scatter stones, and a time to gather them;
a time to embrace, and a time to be far from embraces.
A time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away.
A time to rend, and a time to sew;
a time to be silent, and a time to speak.
A time to love, and a time to hate;
a time of war, and a time of peace.
What advantage have the workers from their toil?
I have considered the task that God has appointed
for mankind to be busied about
He has made everything appropriate to its time,
but has put the timeless into their hearts
without people discovering, from beginning to end,
the work which God has done.
I know that there is nothing better than for people than
To be happy and do good while they live. That each of them can eat and drink and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is a gift of God.
The Word of the Lord