Paul R. Desilets

June 2, 1942August 2, 2013

Paul R. Desilets, 71, lost his battle with cancer Friday night at Jordan hospital surrounded by his loving family. Paul, the only child of Jeannette A. (Lamarre) Desilets and Adelard J. "Whitey" Desilets, was born in Fall River, Massachusetts, on June 2, 1942.

Paul met the love of his life, Claire, at the Massachusetts College of Pharmacy in Boston, Massachusetts. He was a long-time resident of East Sandwich, Massachusetts, where he and Claire raised their family. Paul served in the Army and was stationed in Fort Riley, Kansas, during the Vietnam War where he first became active in the Boy Scouts. He later served in the Army National Guard for 20 years at the Massachusetts Military Reservation. As a proud American, Paul always flew a flag in the yard. He worked as a pharmacist for over 40 years on Cape Cod and the South Shore, most recently at Adams Pharmacy in Provincetown. A proud and loving husband and father, Paul’s life was centered on his family with involvement in the Boy Scouts, SHS marching band, and beekeeping. Paul also loved the time that he spent volunteering with the Senior Environmental Corps, especially when water sampling in the salt marshes of Sandwich. Even before retiring, Paul was kept busy by his wife in their beekeeping hobby and they maintained over 50 hives on family cranberry bogs in Sandwich, at Green Briar Nature Center in East Sandwich and at local vegetable and holly farms. Those who knew Paul from across the pharmacy counter, through Amsoil, or from his long-term service with the Barnstable County Beekeepers’ Association know that Paul was always ready with a joke to make you laugh.

Paul is survived by his wife, Claire (Canning) Desilets, his son and daughter-in-law Jean-Paul and Kathryn Desilets of Punta Gorda, Florida, his daughter and son-in-law Andrea and Chris Agostino of Ayer, Massachusetts, his daughter Danielle Desilets of Weymouth, Massachusetts, and his grandson Vincent Agostino.

Services at the National Cemetery in Bourne will be private. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Paul's name to the Wounded Warrior Project,


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September 29, 2013

Just learned of Paul's passing. I worked with Paul at Cape Cod Hospital many years ago. Paul made the world a little brighter for those who knew him. He will be missed by many. Condolences to the family and friends.
Karen Rodman

John Wolf

September 3, 2013

I was surprised and saddened to hear of Paul's recent passing. As one of his Amsoil customers, I found him to be a friendly and decent man, always ready with a smile and a humorous comment. I suppose it was characteristic of him that he gave no clue as to the fact that he was ill-I had no idea. He was a decent, friendly, hard-working man, and he will be missed by me and many others. My condolences to his charming wife Claire, and to his family.

Pam & John Ashcroft

September 2, 2013

So very sad to read about Paul. I cannot imagine you without him as you were always or "Bee Couple". I am so overwhelmed to think that he is no longer around, he was so much a part of our bee lives.

I remember so many fun things about him, his wry sense of humor about bee things, and it helped us cope when things didn't work out a they should have, such as when our bees swarmed one summer!

I shall never forget you Claire, your unending help and wise counsel on all things bee-related. But most of all your kind heart and always ready to reach out with thoughtfulness in all things!

When you go out to your bees, Paul's spirit will be there with you, smiling down and making sure, all will be well and saying "you're Golden"! That's how I shall remember you always!

With deep affection,

Tekla & Dick Cote

September 2, 2013

We were saddened to learn of your recent loss of Paul.

You bath shared so much with your profession, your love of beekeeping and your family. It must be a difficult time.

Please accept our sympathies.

Ed & Judy

September 2, 2013

Words cannot describe how saddened Ed & I are to have heard about Paul.

As you know, my memories of Paul go back 30+ years with CVS. What a hardworking, dedicated man and just a good, honorable person. It was such a pleasure to be reacquainted through the beekeeping. Same Paul...

We are so very sorry. Our hearts and prayers go out to you and your family. With love,

Angie, Albert, Harry, Lucy & Charlie

September 2, 2013

Dearest Auntie Claire,

How sorry I was, and still am, over the loss of Uncle Paul. We wish you the best over this trying time. I have been thinking of you, the girls and JP ever since I heard the news. Our prayers and thoughts are with you. Much love,

John & Deb O'Connor

September 2, 2013

John and I were so sad to hear about Paul. We hope you are able to find comfort in family and friends while your heart mends.

Ian, Dierdre, Chris, Arlene & Jackie

September 2, 2013

All of us at Long Pasture want to express our deepest condolences to you and your family and closest loved ones over the loss of Paul.

I know Paul's respect of others, love of nature and witty personality was recognized by all and we were and will continue to be honored to have your involvement at the sanctuary with beekeeping.

We all wish you strength and serenity as you reflect on your lives together. We all look forward to seeing you here on the sanctuary and know it brings you comfort and happiness!

Andrea Desilets Agostino

August 29, 2013

Dad - I can't say good bye. And I won't, knowing that you will always be with us. We're so heartbroken. Every morning I wake up thinking, hoping, this was a bad dream. But then as I wait for your morning email, I know it's true. I'll miss your smile and the crinkles at your eyes. I'll miss your teasing Dee over politics. I'll miss your calling Mom “your bride.” I could fill books with everything that I love about you. You taught us kids respect, pride, patriotism, humility, kindness, and laughter. You set my standard for what a loving husband should be. And what a proud father should be. Thank you. I love you. -Andrea

Karen E

August 28, 2013

I didn't know Paul, but I know his daughters. It seems like they both inherited something of his old soul though they are of these times. You can sense their deep roots to very solid people — in their values, easy laughter, and willingness to work hard and care little about what people around them might think.

Take care of each other, D and Dre, and don't be shy about shining your light. My condolences to the whole family.