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Gates Kingsley & Gates Moeller Murphy Funeral Directors

2500 Broadway St F125 Unit1127, Santa Monica, CA

OBITUARY

Patrick Andrew Barney

February 9, 1970September 9, 2020

Patrick Andrew Barney, born February 9, 1970, died peacefully in his home surrounded by his brothers on September 9, 2020.

Patrick is survived by his brothers Frederick, John, and Louis. He is also survived by his sister in law Laura Barney, niece Elizabeth Ryan Barney, and nephew John Patrick Weber Barney.

A friend to everyone he met. We were blessed to have a close friend of Patrick’s send us a note with this song, “Always Trust Your Cape” by Guy Clark.

These lyrics she thought captured Patrick best.

"All grown up with a flour sack cape

Tied around his dreams

He was full of spit and vinegar

He was bustin' at the seams

He licked his finger and he checked the wind

It was gonna be do or die

He wasn't scared of nothin' boys

And he was pretty sure he could fly

He's one of those who knows that life

Is just a leap of faith

Spread your arms and hold your breath

Always trust your cape"

Patrick had you at hello. A loving, fearless, warrior.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to The Aurelia Foundation – Creative Steps Team

www.aureliafoundation.org

Services

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Gypsy McKenzie

September 15, 2020

Patrick,
Great to know you through Fred. Though, I never met you in person, I know you were a great person! Thank you for sharing your life with us!
Fred thank you for sharing Patrick.

Gypsy

Andrew Denney

September 15, 2020

My deepest condolences to the Barney Family on Patrick's crossover to the spiritual. He and I were dear childhood friends during the grade school years. When my family moved to the new neighborhood, he was first kid I met in my new surroundings. Pat immediately made me feel safe, welcomed me, and gave me a sense of belonging.
In the late 70s, long before the invention of the word politically correct, he and I were placed in the basement of school in LD class. I say with great sense of pride we were learning disabled. My mother asked if I would ride the bus with Pat and protect him from bullies and assist him on and off the bus. In those days, no consideration for people with his challenges but he never needed my help. He insisted on independence, got the job done, and I don't recall him ever complaining or even acknowledge his challenges.
All the buses dropped off the kids in the same spot. Everyday we had to navigate through the ocean of normal kids to meet our beloved teacher, Ms Golden. This walk was difficult as other students were brutal in teasing us. One morning, a beautiful girl in a grade above us appeared as the sea of students separated. I actually had a secret crush on her. She says to me and Pat with the attention of every other kid around.... " Look who it is, it's Andy Denney who can't even read and his best friend who can't even walk, Pat Barney!" The kids erupted in laughter and my eyes began to well with tears. Pat responded with the most poetic beautiful combination of swear words I have ever heard in my life in describing this mean girl. There was brief moment of silence as the processing of what Pat said sunk in among the laughing kids. The silence broke when the loud laughing was now directly at the expense of her. Pat protected me more than I ever did for him in wearing his superman cape. Big love dear friend. Rest now among all other super heros in heaven.

Bridget Friend Laurin

September 14, 2020

Patrick has been a friend since grade school and later, an extended family member when my sister, Laura married Patrick’s brother, Fred years later. Patrick and I spent many nights together in Shaker Heights, Ohio eating Geraci’s Pizza and watching The Love Boat, Fantasy Island, and Wheel of Fortune. I cherish our talks about the Cleveland Indians, and will never know another soul who was genuinely more interested in others than he was in himself. I’m heartened to see his picture with Krissy as I have never met her but have heard so much about her. The Laurin Family’s hearts go out to Fred, John, and Louis. It is so hard to say goodbye. This photo is from last year in the UCLA pool moments before Patrick took off in the freestyle competition. There you are, John, right by Patrick’s side, as usual. Love and prayers to you all. Rest In Peace. Love, Bridge

shelley kramer

September 14, 2020

I remember Patrick and his enthusiasm at the hand and hand get togethers. He was articulate and I loved hearing him give his opinion on subjects. He loved to strike up conversations. He was adorable with Christy, and I am sure she will miss him. May he rest in peace and be looking down on us smiling from above.

Charles Christensen

September 14, 2020

I meet Patric at hand and hand with John wheeling him in for the first time. I could tell they felt welcome there like anyone that shows up. It's is an amazing place for me and other people to meet and get to know each other. Disabilities do not matter there it is all about love, giving and singing. Patric fell in love with that idea and never missed a week. Pat was big on music and would share his love of it. The beatles were high on his list and everyone would sing the song he would pick. He was always up even when he wasn't in the end. I would give him a hard time about something and he would give it right back with wit and quickness. Your going to be missed Happy trails to you my friend may you find peace and happiness like you gave to us.

Lisa Szilagyi

September 13, 2020

From the moment that Pat and John came to meet us at Creative Steps, they became family. Pat was the most caring, funny, upbeat person I have ever known. He was always thinking of others and always offering to help - no matter what the task at hand was. He loved to joke around, loved to sing, just loved being around his friends. He was always looking out for other people but never wanted anyone to worry about him. His spirit was larger than life and those of us who were lucky to know him will carry a piece of that spirit with us forever. You will be so missed my friend, but always in our hearts.

The cox Family Cox

September 13, 2020

Pat brought people together in amazing ways. He wanted the best for everyone. He always had amazing ideas. We all loved bantering with him and sharing celebratory occasions at Duke's. He cared deeply for Krissy and every life he touched. I loved how John would roll his eyes and shake his head when Pat had a better way of doing things.

John, Luis, and Fred are the best brothers who helped Pat have the fullest life possible.

Love the Cox Family

kristina Cox

September 13, 2020

My best friend, We had so much fun together, Dances at hand in hand, hanging out at CS and SBS, music, movies, parties, Spitfire at SM Airport, Dukes for celebrations, I miss Pat so much!
Love Krissy

Ryan Kotton

September 12, 2020

Patrick is a hero to me. He has touched my heart in ways that few people ever do; so pure, so real, so brave and unlike anyone I have ever met. From the moment I met Pat, I knew I had a lifelong friend. I got to know Pat in an intimate way as his physician and he would always crack jokes and made the best of every situation, even when things were pretty tough. I learned so much from Pat and the Barney family about commitment and love and gratitude. You have inspired me to be a better person, a better brother, and a better friend. I miss Pat's amazing sense of humor and his witty comments and jabs. I miss his constant reminders for me to shave. Your thirst for life was insatiable with your participation in zoom calls with your friends, music groups, playing golf, swimming, and being active in the community. We will miss you Pat, but I know you are up there watching down on us smiling in the way you always do. Love ya buddy!
- Ryan

FROM THE FAMILY
FROM THE FAMILY

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