OBITUARY

Brian John Lilly Jr.

April 12, 2001January 4, 2021
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Brian John Lilly, Jr., 19, of Scarsdale, NY met our Heavenly Father on January 4, 2021. Brian was born in New York, NY on April 12, 2001. A voracious student of life, Brian was an accomplished athlete, creative and big picture thinker. He was a loving and admired son, brother, grandson, nephew, cousin, friend and teammate. Brian graduated from Scarsdale High School in 2019, where he was the single recipient of the Henry David Thoreau award, given to a student who marches to the beat of their own drum. He overcame Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis (JRA) through a love of sports and competition. He adored nature and being outside in all kinds of weather. He loved skiing with his family, with favorite ski trips to Heavenly in Lake Tahoe, CA. Brian was a passionate rower in high school for the Pelham Community Rowing Association (PCRA). He was named the Most Improved as a junior and served as a team captain as a Senior. He earned a bronze medal at the Philly Youth regatta in the 8+ in 2018. He ran and finished the New York City Marathon in 2018 for the Arthritis Foundation Team. Brian proudly competed and finished the Ironman Lake Placid triathalon competition in 2019, requiring a 2.4 mile swim (3.9K), 112 mile bike (180.2K), and 26.2 mile marathon run (42.2K), widely considered one of the most difficult one-day sporting events in the world. As a D1 athlete, he was a member of the UC San Diego Men's Rowing Class of 2023. He helped the UCSD C boat to a 10th place finish of 21 crews in the Men’s Open 8+ at the 2019 San Diego Fall Classic Regatta. Brian was pursuing a BS in Real Estate and Development at UCSD. He worked summers in construction and interned in corporate sustainability management. He loved creating art and fashion design and was the founder of a mens streetwear brand, Pyrony. Brian learned to silkscreen the brand apparel until he found a production company for outsourcing so he could focus on his studies. Brian is survived by his parents, Brian Sr and Brenda (Hawthorne) Lilly, sister Virginia Lilly, grandparents Patricia Corrigan Lilly, Charles Hawthorne, Mary Peters Hawthorne, paternal uncles; Kevin (Debbie) Lilly, Michael (Michele) Lilly, Sean Lilly, Patrick Lilly, Brenden Lilly, Paddy (Pat) Lilly; maternal uncles and aunts; Stephen (Amanda) Hawthorne, Susan (Steven) Lawrence, Donna (Tim) Jackson, Raymond Peters, Carolyn (Allen) Rogers and many loving first and second cousins. Visitation hours: Thursday, January 14 & Friday, January 15 2021 4:00 pm to 8:00 pm Edwin L. Bennett Funeral Home 824 Scarsdale Avenue Scarsdale, NY Mass of Christian Burial for immediate family Saturday, January 16, 2021 10:00 am at IHM Catholic Church 8 Carman Road Scarsdale, NY. Mass will also be livestreamed from IHM Scarsdale website: • Funeral Mass Live Stream Link Private Burial to immediately follow Mass. In Lieu of flowers, please give to: • Pelham Community Rowing Association PCRA is a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization led by a volunteer board. 100% of all fees collected by PCRA are committed to maintaining and enhancing the program. PCRA offers need-based financial assistance to committed participants. https://gofund.me/316624d7

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Services

  • Visitation

    Thursday, January 14, 2021

  • Visitation

    Friday, January 15, 2021

  • Mass of Christian Burial

    Saturday, January 16, 2021

Memories

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Oren Iosepovici

January 17, 2021

It was my honor to have served as Brian’s Dean at Scarsdale High School. He was as genuine a person as I had met, and someone who I could always count on to do and say the right things. That was true when he was a student, and equally so when we asked him to speak as an alumni at our Senior Transition Day this past spring. I still remember being in awe of his accomplishments as a senior - marathon runner, crew recruit, and most incredibly an Iron Man Triathlete. I shared that last piece with friends at the time, as I was amazed by what he had accomplished. To Virginia, Brenda, and Brian Sr. - My deepest condolences, and know that the entire Scarsdale High School community mourns with you.

Amanda Hawthorne

January 17, 2021

Brian's life has touched so many. He is a part of each of those he has interacted with and with that he continues to touch others. It's like a ripple in the water where Brian is the pebble that sets it off.
I had the privilege to be chosen as his aunt for 9 short years. I remember meeting this sweet, full faced, yes ma’aming boy for the first time. He had a way of just pulling you in to his beautiful view of the world. Fast forward to tracking him online for the marathon and then the iron man. I was so proud of him. I was so in awe of his ability to set goals and stick-to-it-ness. Discipline of that nature is admirable.
God is holding Brian and he hears our hearts’ cries as we greave our loss. God continues to use Brian to share his story of love.
All my love – Amanda

Peter and Jennifer Godshall

January 16, 2021

Our families became close as a result of meeting through Edgewood School. Regardless of what it was that we were doing together, school fund raisers / sports / Cub Scouts / trips to Disney / etc, Brian always brought an incredible energy. The combination of his gentle personality, razor sharp wit, and unmatched sense of humor created a personality that simply lit up every room he entered. We are all better for having known Brian and can smile while reminiscing about good times, even as we are left with a gaping hole in our hearts. We love you and know that, by now you've got a circle of angels around you and you are making them laugh.

Kimberly Greene Family

January 16, 2021

Brian and my son Elliott laughed together and danced together during Mr Noble's SHS band class and before concert performances. A memory to embrace. Sending healing prayers, warmth, and thoughts from our family to your family.
~Kimberly, Elliott, and Isaak

Lauren Lilly

January 15, 2021

More happy memories

Nathan Yoder

January 15, 2021

I was a fellow student athlete with Brian at UCSD and every moment I got to share with him I cherish now. It's hard to put into words exactly what his friendship meant to me, but every interaction with Brian would make my day better. Seeing him even for a few seconds in between classes would be a genuine treat that I would think about for the rest of my day. I wish I could have more of those interactions in my life, but I know Brian has left a legacy on my life that I'll never forget and I thank him for that.

Lauren Lilly

January 15, 2021

Baby Brian Jr.

Devin and Lauren Lilly

January 15, 2021

We love you Brian Jr.

Nancy Riina

January 15, 2021

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Brian Jr. will always be remembered with so much love, may he Rest In Peace. Sending lots of love and hugs.♥️

Jason Noble

January 15, 2021

I was honored to teach Brian in the Scarsdale High School Band program during his four years with us at Scarsdale High. He was an immensely talented percussionist and an incredible person in every way: soft-spoken, a heart of gold, and a willingness to mentor each incoming class of new musicians without any hesitation. He leaves behind a legacy of kindness, warmth, and authenticity. My deepest sympathies to the entire family during this immense time of loss. May his memory be a blessing.

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