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Edwin L. Bennett Funeral Homes

824 Scarsdale Ave, Scarsdale, NY

OBITUARY

Constance Fay Polin

August 29, 1931April 29, 2020

Constance Polin, a resident of Scarsdale since 1971, passed away on April 29, 2020 following complications from cancer. Born in 1931, Mrs. Polin grew up in the Bronx and moved to Florida as a teenager, graduating from Miami Senior High School. She remained forever proud of her roots in the Bronx and permanently moved back to New York in the early 1950s, where she attended classes at the Juilliard School of Music.

A classically trained singer, Mrs. Polin made appearances as a performer and also worked in her family’s toy business as a young adult. In 1957, she married the love of her life Raymond Polin, a university professor and author, and had five children together. Later, Mrs. Polin worked as a researcher with her husband with whom she co-edited Foundations of American Political Thought, a compilation of selected readings in US history that she made sure to complete and publish following his death in 2002.

In 1977, Mrs. Polin briefly received broad media attention when she became the first woman admitted to the Scarsdale Forum (then called the Town Club), which was a contentious decision at the time reached by the male-only civic organization following litigation and national news coverage.

Mrs. Polin is survived by her five children: Jane, Larry (Denise), Kenny (Cathy), Ellen, and Ted (Gina); and eight grandchildren: David, Steven, Melissa, Laura, Shira, Sammy, Moses, and Tessa. She was predeceased by her husband Raymond and sister Doris. In lieu of flowers, food or similar expressions of sympathy, the family suggests making a donation of food or funds instead to your local healthcare facility, food bank, or first responders in memory of Connie Polin.

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Sean & Suzie Kelly

May 9, 2020

Connie has been our next door neighbor for 12 years but I knew her even before then having grown up in Edgewood. My family and I enjoyed many, many joyful talks "over the hedge" between our properties. Connie had tidbits of knowledge from a long life lived purposefully. What we learned most from Connie was to keep positive; know things could always be worse; we have more strength than we realize and don't talk too long or else people will avoid you next time! She knew just when the right time was to stop the easy flowing conversations.
Some of our favorite memories are of when Connie had her apple tree in the back yard. She would invite my children over to pick them. She enjoyed talking with them, making them laugh and always showed such interest in their lives. She would boost them up, always with a kind encouraging word - as she did for all of us. She never forgot their birthdays, bringing cards and gifts. At the holidays she always had something thoughtful for us and at St Pat's we enjoyed her homemade soda bread. We've been so lucky to have Connie in our lives and we think of her often and miss her dearly.
Love to Ted, Gina and her family, from Sean, Suzie, Shannon and Scott

Jeanne Maroney

May 5, 2020

Dear Polin Family...we were so saddened to hear of "Grandma P's" passing. She was always so warm and welcoming, gracious, and witty, and her smile was truly infectious! We fondly recall times spent with her and Ted, Gina, Melissa, & Laura. We marveled at Grandma P's stories and loved to hear her laugh.

We hope that you are comforted by many shared memories and continue to feel her loving, joyous presence both within your own hearts and among and between you.

Much love to you all,
The Maroney Family (Jeanne, Steve, Dana, Evan & Kayla)

Joseph Dibbini

May 5, 2020

Connie was our customer, and friend, for 35 years at Wilmont Pharmacy. She was so loyal to us and our family, and so good to our girls over the years. Every Christmas, our family and staff looked forward most - more than anything else - to Mrs. Polin's Gingerbread Men (and women!) and her cinnamon chocolate chip biscotti cookies. The girls waited for me to come home from the pharmacy with them every year around the holidays - it made them feel so special that Connie would make one for each of my daughters that resembled her. She always knew how to acknowledge everyone she came into contact with and make them feel special. We will miss Connie so much. Sending our love to the entire Polin family.
- The Dibbini Family and Everyone at Wilmont Pharmacy

Ray Dotoratos

May 4, 2020

Dear Jane, Larry, Ken, Ellen, Ted and the entire Polin family,

We are all very sorry and sad to her about the loss of your Mom / Grandmother. As I had mentioned to Ken, your Mom was a great and classy lady and you could always feel her presence in the room because she cared and took such an interest in other people.

All through the years the Polin and Dotoratos families were always involved in music and your Mom was always there to support and encourage all of us. A personal note worth mentioning, when in high school I was honored to be approached by Ken who told me he and his Mom had discussed about my giving Ted violin lessons. I had never taught anything before and Ted would be my first student. I would trust a high school student to do babysitting before even considering teaching violin but your Mom, the perceptive person she was, must have seen something in me that she would entrust my teaching her son. I greatly enjoyed teaching Ted who in turn taught me how to teach. I'm still teaching to this day and in all those days since have taught many a student never forgetting how it all got started with those early lessons for Ted. Wonderful how one person's insight can ignite a lifetime of perseverance and meaning in another. Thank you Mrs. Polin.

Love,
Ray, Hiromi, Keitaro, Tokito, Lori, Jamie, Shirley, Edward Dotoratos

Maria Thomas

May 3, 2020

Connie, you meant the world to me. I will never forget Gina telling me about that pocketbook I got you, or me meeting you at Gina's bridal shower and you telling me about who cares that I forgot my camera and that we could keep it all in our hearts. I know you didn't know this (unless Gina told you) but I used one of your Thank You cards (with a little musical note) for a bookmark. I have so any other little things to tell you about but I just can't think about it now. You will always be sorely missed, Love, Maria

Mariam Triolo

May 2, 2020

Ted, Gina, Melissa, Laura and the entire Polin Family,

We are so very sorry for your loss. Your mom was a very special person and we are blessed that she was a part of our lives. We will remember visiting so many years ago, playing board games and enjoying her yummy delicious treats. Also, her wonderful encouraging notes when John was born and the time you all vacationed at Disney. She was an inspirational lady and will be missed.
Wishing you peace and comfort,
Mariam, Tom, John and Katie Triolo

Ellen Polin Glassman

May 2, 2020

How lovely to read these generous and precious memories of so many who knew my late mother as an individual apart from her children, grandchildren and late beloved spouse. She was not completely defined by those who surrounded her (as I would not want my life to be defined by my marriage to my ex-husband or even my beloved children). Connie was a person with accomplishments of her own: talented, smart, gracious, funny, and strong willed. She also liked mustard and coffee -- but not necessarily together. She warned me to "beware of pity." It's been a good slogan to live by.

Maria and Patrick Gorordo-Daly and Daly

May 1, 2020

Dear Polin family,

We are very sorry for your loss. Maria met your mother and grandmother at White Plains Hospital as patients receiving radiation treatment. She had a positive attitude. She was very kind and gracious. We will always remember the delicious Irish soda bread she sent us.

We sent a donation to the Ossining Food Pantry in her name. We are remembering the entire Polin family in our prayers.

Jeffrey and Susan Kinkley

May 1, 2020

Dear Polin Family,

Connie was such a loving, talented, understanding (and patient!) soul, where to begin? How sorry we are that she is no longer with us, but she was always, always, a fighter, one who would never let anything or anyone get her down. She possessed a special strength. She shared it with her friends and passed it on, along with her talents, to her children and grandchildren. We can see her special smile, her lively wit, her grit--and her patience with us--in our mind's eye still today. How she loved her children and her grandchildren, her husband Ray, and the work they did together writing books on American history and politics. It was a labor of love in every way. As to her other accomplishments--I don't think I knew the half of it until I read the memories above.

When I first visited St. John's in 1978, trying to make a good impression on my future employer, it was Connie and Ray who came up out of the blue and introduced themselves, trying to make sure I was the one who came away with a good impression of the place and a feeling that I was welcome. They invited my family and me to their home many a time after that, before and after Ray's passing. Another highlight was meeting Larry, Ken, and Ted. Connie in her old age even came to my wedding in New Jersey. (The previous one, too, in Queens!) She shared her continuing research with me and told me that if she could sell books on ebay, a whippersnapper like me could, too! Yes, she supported some lost causes like that, but also many not-lost causes, like the St. John's graduate students who kept in touch with her. I remember the Mandelbrot she used to make and send home with us in baggies after our visits. She was never one for ethnic exclusivity; she mailed a delicious loaf of Irish soda bread to NJ every St. Patrick's Day, and holiday gifts for my son. Connie, we will all miss you terribly. You leave behind so very much, and all of it is good.

Love, Jeff and Susan Kinkley, Beaverton, Oregon

Jean Regan

April 30, 2020

To our special friends, the Polin family~
Words cannot express our heartfelt sorrow at the loss of your beloved mother and grandmother. Over the years we got to know her well, and she was always so gracious, so loving, so caring and so special. She brightened every room she was in and always made us feel so welcomed. We can remember enjoying her company after our trip to the Westchester County Fair when she shared her photo albums with us and made us feel like family. Of course, we can also never forget how special she made us feel at Christmas time when that box of “Grandma Polin Gingerbread Men” arrived in the mail. She was truly a gem, and we are blessed to have been able to enjoy her company. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. Love, Jean, John, Ashley, Courtney and John Michael.

FROM THE FAMILY

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