Darryl Pettinelli

July 21, 1963March 3, 2018
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Pettinelli, Darryl J. - 54, of Scituate, passed away peacefully at home after a long battle with cancer. Beloved husband of Deborah (Phelps) Pettinelli, with whom he shared 29 years of marriage. Proud father of Max and Cal. Loving son of Carole and Damien Pettinelli of Lewiston, ME and Quincy, MA, and brother of Marla Pettinelli-Brown and Jason Pettinelli.

Darryl will be missed by many caring aunts and uncles, cousins and in-laws, friends and colleagues. He was a 1981 graduate of Lewiston High School (ME), where he excelled at baseball and soccer. He received his bachelor’s degree from Bentley University in 1985, where he met his wife and many life-long friends. Upon graduation, he went on to a career in sales and management. Darryl had a great sense of humor, and loved nothing more than laughing with family and friends. Any free time was spent doing what he loved: traveling, watching soccer, biking, or sitting on a beach.

Visiting hours will take place on Thursday, March 8th from 4-8 PM at the Richardson Gaffey Funeral Home, 382 First Parish Rd., Scituate, MA. A funeral service will take place on Friday, March 9th at 11 AM at St Luke’s Episcopal Church, 465 First Parish Rd., Scituate. Relatives and friends are respectfully invited to attend.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Massachusetts General Hospital Cancer Center online at


  • Visitation Thursday, March 8, 2018
  • Funeral Service Friday, March 9, 2018

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Twylia Fannin

March 18, 2018

It was a privilege to know Darryl. He left an imprint on the hearts of everyone who interacted with him. I'm no exception. I will carry it with me to the end. Love and blessing to Darryl's family and friends.

David & Carol Gemelli

March 12, 2018

Carol & I express our sincere sympathy on the passing of your beloved son Darryl.

Phil & Penny Kirkham

March 12, 2018

'Tis better to have known and lost, than to have never known him at all!' I was proud to stand next to Darryl on the terraces, i loved visiting the Cape, both places felt like his spiritual home. I’m shocked and sad that he’s gone, it’s an injustice that he’s been snatched so young!

I was privileged to have known the sparkle and I am proud that he held me in such high regard.  It’s almost 20 months since he told me that he was going to win, I'll respect him forever for not giving up, I will miss him every day, if he's listening, seize the day, keep smiling, where ever you are it's now a better place than it was before.

May the force be with you!

Mike Klaus

March 9, 2018

I give my deep sympathy to Darryl's family and other friends. He was a wonderful spirit to have in my life, and I am grateful for the many memories of friendship and comradeship. I worked with Darryl for many years, and enjoyed some travels with him that will always be a part of me. I am sorry that I am so far away and have not been able to help him through this last journey.
It has been a blessing knowing Darryl.

LeAnn Nowak

March 8, 2018

I only knew Darryl briefly after Deltek purchased Wind2 but he always showed a genuine concern for the staff that worked for him. I could always call him to see what was going on in the A&E industry, he knew more about it than anyone. Darryl was indeed a good guy, one of the best. My sympathies to his endeared family.

Neil Holmes

March 8, 2018

Deb, Cal and Max – I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to know what you are feeling now but I know that your husband and father will always be with me, and I know his spirit will forever live through you.

I will miss Darryl tremendously. I have known him for 30+ years, starting when we each had our first jobs together; we began our careers at the same company, at the same time. We had to travel together frequently, sharing hotel rooms as we did our work.

We had a blast together. He loved music and we had many of the same tastes – going to a concert with Darryl was so much fun. He had a distinct laugh that always kept me laughing. What a great sense of humor!

He is one of the best people I have ever known. One of the many, many things I admired about Darryl was that he was always so calm, even when things were in turmoil. I would try to follow his lead but could never pull it off the way he did.

In large part, I am who I am because of him. He had a huge impact on my life. He will always be my friend.

Jon Bornstein

March 8, 2018

I heard of Darryl from the Deltek crew well before I met him! The billing - smart, funny, engaging - met expectations and then some! Even though we didn't work together, we spent enough time together in the Woburn office that Darryl quickly became one of my favorite people.

I will always remember his kindness and sense of humor, and will live my life in a way that would make Darryl proud.

Best wishes to the Pettinelli family.

Jon Bornstein

Patrice Cappello

March 8, 2018

I cannot express the sorrow I feel over Darryl's passing. He was one of a kind. He was a great colleague and an even better friend. He was intelligent, kind, caring, a devoted family man and truly one of the funniest people I know. I will miss that laugh. What a huge loss to so many of us. And to the Pettinelli family, I send my deepest condolences. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. I pray that your memories bring you comfort during these incredibly sad days. God bless you Darryl.

Bryan Zeigler

March 8, 2018

Darryl was truly a great man. He was not only the best manager I ever worked for, but the best person. He always put others first and had an amazingly positive outlook. Never missing a chance to discuss his family, he was a very proud dad and husband.

I already miss our weekly calls.

Adrian Anastas

March 8, 2018

So very sad to hear of Darryl's passing. I still remember the first time he walked into the London office. His kind manner and infectious grin soon had everyone warming to him. I don't remember many times when he wasn't smiling. He once described living in London's west end as living in a fantasy land, and his way of seeing things, and describing them was truly remarkable. He was great inspiration for me in and out of work, and I can only offer my heartfelt condolences to his family.