OBITUARY

Robert Alfred Barbary

May 13, 1933April 29, 2021
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Robert Alfred Barbary, of Scituate, passed away on April 29, 2021, peacefully, at the Pat Roche Hospice House in Hingham, MA. He was predeceased by his parents, George and Helen Barbary, his brother William, and his wife of 50 years, Joan Barbary (née Costello.) He is survived by his wife, Grace Joanne (Crowley) Barbary (née Dutelle). He is also survived by his six children: Paula (Patrick) Shannon of Baie-D’Urfé, Quebec, Maura (Janice) Barbary of Marshfield, MA, Kevin (Deborah) Barbary of Scituate, MA, Brian (Kay) Barbary of San Antonio, TX, Joanne (Jeffrey) Goguen of Gray, ME, and Kathleen (Randall) Lambert of Nashua, NH, and his grandchildren: James, Liam, and Conor Shannon, Kevin (Rebecca) and Sean Barbary, Justin and Emily Barbary, Robert and Katherine Morency, and Elizabeth Janiak. He will also be missed by Joanne’s children: Jay (Lisa) Crowley, John (Kerri) Crowley, and Janet (Joseph) Donato, as well as their children: Lucas Crowley, and Aidan and Maddie Crowley.

Bob will be missed by his friends, members of the community, and parishioners at Saint Mary of the Nativity in Scituate, MA.

Robert was born in Pittsburgh, PA, where he attended North Catholic High School and played guard for the Trojans’ football team. He was appointed to the United States Naval Academy, Annapolis, MD, class of 1955, where he played football for the Midshipmen. One highlight of his active duty service, after completing his degree, was to serve on the USS Heermann (DD-532) and stand as Honor Guard at the wedding of Princess Grace and Rainier III of Monaco in 1956. He was subsequently stationed at the Naval Air Station South Weymouth, at which time he met his future wife, Joan, and settled on the South Shore, first in Merrymount and then in his beloved Scituate. Bob received his MBA in 1971 from Boston College, and went on to have a successful career in the burgeoning high-tech industry. It would be a coin toss to state whether his allegiance and pride in having attended the Naval Academy was outrivalled by his support for Boston College football through the years. One thing is certain: in early December, “Go Navy!” was the only appropriate cheer in the Barbary household.

Bob’s greatest achievements came post-retirement: his work in the church and the community spanned many activities and programs. Parishioner of the Year in 2010, Bob was an active member of St. Mary of the Nativity Parish of Scituate. He participated as a daily communicant, Lector, Parish Council member, and Society of St. Vincent de Paul Conference member. His faith and his parish provided great comfort to him during both trying times and good. A veteran supporter of youth sports, and a seasoned coach, Bob never missed his grandchildren’s sporting events: his calm assistance from the sidelines or stands was always welcomed. There were weekends that saw him drive from the cross-country trails at Thayer Academy to the gridiron at Milton Academy and Williams College, or from Scituate to the hockey rinks at Phillips Exeter Academy. He had recently added curling to his routine, and had become surprisingly proficient in all things rocks, bonspiels, and brooms.

Bob cherished golfing. He was always eager for spring and his return to Men’s League at Widow’s Walk Golf Course. He regaled us with tales of competitions and wagers that seemed to imply high stakes; we knew, of course, that the amounts exchanged were meager, and much beside the point.

Bob will be remembered as having led an exemplary life of duty, honor, and decency. His love and commitment to family, whose numbers were extended again when he married Joanne in 2011, defined him. A deeply principled man, Bob’s dignity was respected by friends and family. His work ethic was unparalleled, and successfully passed down through two generations. While his grandchildren may never know the abject terror of color-coded chore charts (once a Midshipman always a Midshipman), they all experienced the wonderful warmth of his encouraging Bravo Zulu.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at St. Mary of the Nativity Church, 1 Kent Street, Scituate, MA at 10:00 a.m. on Thursday, May 6th. Family and close friends are invited to a private visitation from 8:00 to 9:30 a.m. at the Richardson-Gaffey Funeral Home, 382 First Parish Road in Scituate. In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to the Pat Roche Hospice House, c/o the NVNA and Hospice Charitable Fund, 120 Longwater Drive, Norwell, MA 02061 or the Scituate Community Christmas, 125 Mann Lot Road Scituate, MA 02066.

Immediately following the Mass, the family invites all those present to join them for a military funeral honors ceremony at Saint Mary’s Cemetery, Meeting House Lane, Scituate, MA.

For family and friends.wishing to virtually view the funeral Mass and military honors ceremony, please use the link below to access the livestream. Note that wifi reception can be intermittent at the service site. If any delays in reception do arise, a video of the services will be posted online soon after the ceremony.

Link for Livestream: https://vimeo.com/event/964048

Services

  • Private Family Visitation

    Thursday, May 6, 2021

  • Funeral Mass

    Thursday, May 6, 2021

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Len Poulin

May 13, 2021

I first met Bob as a young man early in my career at Centronics. Bob was an amazing leader, human being and friend. He was a mentor to me and I owe much of my lifelong success to him. My wife Mary and I will never forget Bob and pray for his entire blended family. The world is a better place because of him and you were all very blessed to have him so involved in your lives. Gob bless Bob Barbary, may he rest in peace, a rest so deserved, in the kingdom of heaven.

Fr Bob Thomas

May 5, 2021

Joanne
I was surprised to read of Bob's passing on to heaven - he will be greatly missed by you and at St. Mary's church- He will be remembered in my Mass and prayers - You will be especially in my prayers at this difficult time - Peace and Condolences - I am sure Bob has found eternal happiness -Fr, Bob Thomas

Stephen Ruth

May 4, 2021

May the Lord bless and keep you and comfort your wonderful family

Steve Ruth

USNA Class of 1955

14th Company

Fred Underwood

May 4, 2021

I am a classmate from 55. I reported to Heermann (DD 532) on Labor Day. Bob came aboard from a motor whaleboat in the middle of the Mediterranean Sea. We spent three days getting ready for this event. The crew was told that they didn't have to shave for three days ahead of his arrival and on the day of his arrival, the uniform of the day was optional. We tried to make him think that he had been sent to the USS Caine. It was great sport for us, probably not so much for Bob. We both served in Heermann until she was decommissioned in Dec. 1957.

I do offer my condolences while standing here waiting for my turn.
Fred Underwood

Karen McSweeney

May 2, 2021

Bob surly did live a life of duty, honor, and decency and he did it with great love and humor. His smile could light up a room. I will sincerely miss our talks and jesting about golf and where his ‘special’ spot was to find all the lost balls at Widow’s Walk.
I offer my sincere sympathy to all of Bob’s family and especially to Joanne.
Thank you Bob for a life well lived. You have set a great example to all.
Karen

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