Judy K. Haney (Borders-Menning)

April 3, 1947April 20, 2018
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Judith “Judy” Kay Haney (Borders-Menning), 71, a beloved mother and sister, passed away on Fri. Apr 20, 2018. Judy was born in Middletown, OH and preceded in death by her parents Kelly and Ruth Borders (Drake), and her husband, Dwight Haney. Judy is survived by the father of her children, Jimmy Joe Menning; a daughter, Michelle McLeod (Menning) and her husband Randy of Prunedale, CA; a son Jason Menning, who is currently serving in the U.S. Army, and his wife Dulce of Harker Heights, TX; a sister, Jeanne Borders of Middletown, OH; and a brother, Steven Borders of Seattle, WA.

Judy and her sister Jeanne, being only 15 months apart, were always close friends. They enjoyed the same things, music, dancing, riding bikes around the neighborhood, playing with cousins and friends. In 1970, after the tragic and sudden loss of their father, Kelly Borders, they were there for each other and vowed that they would stay that way. Even though Judy’s travels took her far from Middletown, they remained close friends. They visited as often as possible, and still enjoyed some of the same things as when they were children. Their Mother would always tell them that no one would ever be closer or a better friend than a sibling and she was so right.

A younger brother, Steven Borders, was born in 1960. Being a bit older, Judy loved pushing Steven around in a stroller, taking walks in the neighborhood. Taking care of a younger brother, prepared her for her most important job and one she loved the most; taking care of her own children, Michelle and Jason.

Judy was a graduate from Lemon Monroe High School in 1965.

She was a free spirited artist who enjoyed painting with oils, acrylics, water colors. She loved to draw and sketch. She spent many hours crocheting shawls to throw over her shoulders when she was cold and baby blankets (hoping to need one for her own) to give them to family and friends. She loved to paint Christmas ornaments, garden gnomes, stepping-stones and frogs for her garden and any other creative outlet available to her.

Her children also inherited Judy’s creative talents. Jason is a talented artist working primarily in charcoal drawing, pencil sketching, and computer graphics. Michelle loves photography and creating jewelry. Judy loved all of Michelle’s jewelry creations and was her biggest customer.

She loved the traveling and the beautiful outdoors – camping, horses and our cats; Prissy and Rascal who are keeping Judy company in the next life, and Elvis and Priscilla who are wondering when Judy is coming home.

Her daughter graduated from Lemon-Monroe High School and moved to California. Michelle’s brother joined her a few years later and then followed by Judy. She lived with them in Mountain View, CA and they eventually settled in San Jose, CA, for 30 years.

Judy’s son Jason joined the U.S. Army right after he graduated. Michelle and Judy were able to visit Jason and Dulce while he was stationed in Germany. Judy said it was one of the best trips of her life. She was excited that we stopped in France where Michelle was born. Judy was looking forward to seeing Jason retire from the military this summer.

Randy’s work took the family to Chula Vista, CA, for a short time, and then to Prunedale, CA. Judy loved to walk the rolling hills of the community, stopping to talk with neighbors on her hours-long strolls.

Judy enjoyed a long career in the optical field. She also worked as a Secret Shopper for a couple of retail chains, and as a Food Demonstrator for several contractors.

She was waiting for grandchildren of her own. But she was blessed to inherit a large clan of four grandchildren – Julie Riley and her husband Allen, Cheryl McKeel and her husband Bill, Kirstin McLeod and Matthew McLeod – and three great grandchildren – Hayley, Rien, and Luke – through her daughter’s marriage to Randy.

These things and the people in her life made her happy.

Judy will be deeply missed and will forever be remembered in our hearts. She was a beautiful soul who touched the hearts of everyone around her.


  • Celebration of Life Saturday, May 12, 2018

Judy K. Haney (Borders-Menning)

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Sylvia Loftis

May 7, 2018

I met Judy in the mid 90's when I first entered the optical field. We were members of a small posse of awesome opticians who worked and played together for a number of years. Even after several years and different life experiences sent us in different directions a few of us remained close even though miles separated us. I will always count her as a good and faithful friend. I am glad we shared some of our lives together. I send my sincere condolences to Judy's family and friends who, I know, will miss her terribly.

Jeanne Borders

May 7, 2018

For as long as I can remember you were always by my side. You were the best big sister I could have ever dreamed of and somewhere along the way, we became best friends. I will forever remember the last three weeks you, Michelle, and I spent together. Those were the best days of my life. I didn't think I would have to give you up so soon and I miss you terribly. I love you so much and you are forever in my heart.

Pauline Rosenthal

May 5, 2018

To Michelle and Randy and all of Judy's family:
From All of the staff and myself at Bayside Community Mortuary;
Thank you for allowing us to care for your precious Mother. May you all be comforted by all the wonderful moments you shared. I pray God's comfort to you all now and in the future at those times when you'll need it the most. Respectfully,

suni ford-rose

May 4, 2018

Judy was like a second mom to me, although we dint always get along! While I am glad you are finally at peace with no pain or health problems, none of us were ready to lose you yet ~ My heart hurts & misses you, but I know you are with all of your loved ones in spirit. I swear I felt you last night ~ telling me you are happy & will always watch over us <3

Maureen McNeil-Finerty

May 1, 2018

Judy was such a great woman, mom & friend. My family was truly blessed to have Her in our lives/hearts. Our deepest sympathies to her friends, family & our Dear friends Michelle & Jason her wonderful children.

Thank you Judy for being so wonderful to Us.

We Love & Miss you So Much.


Michelle McLeod

April 29, 2018

I miss you SO much, mommy! I don't think I have ever cried so much as I have this last week. Why is it we never appreciate what we have until it's gone?

I am thankful I was finally able to have lunch with you at Mimi's Cafe. I knew you would love the French Bistro-like atmosphere. And the food was so good!