Carol L Withee
October 16, 1930 – November 16, 2018
SKOWHEGAN - Our sweet Pollyanna slipped away on the snowy morning of November 16th, encircled by the love of her family, and leaving behind a legacy of kindness, friendship, generosity, and laughter. Carol Lorraine (Taylor) Withee, affectionately known as “Mum”, “Meeme”, and “Aunt Carol”, was born in Belfast on October 16, 1930. The daughter of Frederick and Vera (Hasty) Taylor, she viewed the world through deep rose-colored glasses, finding silver linings and hidden blessings in each and every moment. Fiercely devoted to her family, community, and church, she will be remembered for the mischievous twinkle in her eye, “must-go” dinners served from Country Crock containers, her unbelievable gift of gab, and her endless, unconditional hugs. She was a one-woman correspondence committee who loved music and never told a story in 20 words that could be told better in 200 (or 2000). Habitually early to any gathering, she dispensed cookies and crackers to her grandchildren in pairs because “you need one for each hand” and always wanted a “sliver” of each pie available for dessert. Gifts were opened with meticulous precision and wrapping paper was preserved for decades. As a hostess, she would detail the entire contents of her cupboard, pantry, or fridge just in case something she offered tickled your fancy. After growing up in Moscow, she graduated from Bingham High School in 1949 and Skowhegan Commercial School in 1952. She met the love of her life, Robert Withee, in a dark (bowling) alley in 1953 and they were married in Skowhegan nine months later. Together they raised their two daughters on Fairview Avenue and spent quality time at their camp in Sunshine Valley on Flagstaff Lake. For years, she coordinated volunteers for the CUMC diner at the Skowhegan State Fair, volunteered with numerous civic organizations (Women’s Aid Society, Redington Home, RFGH Auxiliary, Faith Sharing, Community Chorus), and fondly cherished her relationships with the farmers she worked with while employed at the USDA. Predeceased by her parents, stepfather Russell Adams, and brother Elwood Taylor, she is survived by her husband Bob; daughters, Jan “Jannie” Downing and husband Dennis, and Karen Lewia and partner Kirk Karkos, all of Skowhegan; five grandchildren, Alissa Downing Gervais and husband Ted of Corinth; Nathan Downing and partner Danielle Lavertu of Carrabassett Valley; Ian Downing and wife Shannon Brown of Boston, MA; Sam Lewia and wife Allison of Milford, MA; and Jacob Lewia of Skowhegan; two great-grandsons, Jasper Benjamin Downing and Colby Elwin Gervais; a nephew, Mark Taylor, his wife April and their family; special cousins and their families: Dawn Elizabeth Bersani, Luciann “Midge” Merrill-Pomerlow, Madeline Taylor, and Doug Bird; the “Over the Hill Gang”; her Siamese cat, Su-Ling; and countless other family and friends from all over the world. In lieu of flowers, sit down for a game of Mille Bornes or Rack-O; write a letter or telephone an old friend; smile at a stranger; and share a few hugs with those around you. Live your day a bit brighter so maybe together, we’ll put back into the world what she gave us. For being sad and gray when the world has already lost potentially its brightest light, is to do her legacy an immense disservice. Oh, by the way... A celebration of life will be held on Sunday, December 2nd at 1pm at Centenary United Methodist Church (Dr. Mann Road, Skowhegan). Visiting Hours will from 3-6pm on Saturday, December 1st at Smart & Edwards Funeral Home (183 Madison Avenue, Skowhegan).
Memorial donations can be made to the Centenary United Methodist Church, 113 Dr. Mann Rd., Skowhegan, Maine 04976 or to the Somerset Humane Society, PO Box 453, Skowhegan, Maine 04976
She is survived by her husband Bob; daughters, Jan “Jannie” Downing and husband Dennis, and Karen Lewia and partner Kirk Karkos, all of Skowhegan; five grandchildren, Alissa Downing Gervais and husband Ted of Corinth; Nathan Downing and partner Danielle Lavertu of Carrabassett Valley; Ian Downing and wife Shannon Brown of Boston, MA; Sam Lewia and wife Allison of Milford, MA; and Jacob Lewia of Skowhegan; two great-grandsons, Jasper Benjamin Downing and Colby Elwin Gervais; a nephew, Mark Taylor, his wife April and their family; special cousins and their families: Dawn Elizabeth Bersani, Luciann “Midge” Merrill-Pomerlow, Madeline Taylor, and Doug Bird; the “Over the Hill Gang”; her Siamese cat, Su-Ling; and countless other family and friends from all over the world.
Predeceased by her parents, stepfather Russell Adams, and brother Elwood Taylor.
- Viewing Hours Saturday, December 1, 2018
- Funeral Service Sunday, December 2, 2018
Carol L Withee
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December 7, 2018
Heaven gained the most precious angel. Carol was an amazing lady. A heart of gold and we were blessed with the ultimate hugs. I will forever cherish her smile and embrace her gift of kindness that she left amoung us.
This world is a better place because she lived.
December 1, 2018
I always enjoyed Carol's smile and good natured personality. I volunteered with Carol at Redington Fairview General Hospital's information desk and she will be missed. Carol would always me how my cat was doing when volunteering as she talked about her siamese cats with love and admiration. The last time I saw Carol was at the annual volunteer banquet in September and she was so happy when I sat at the same table. Long before I volunteered with Carol I knew her through CUMC and remember her being actively involved in the church then and imagine she was still active in the church community in more recent years. Carol's upbeat attitude would shine brightly each and every time I saw her. I will remember Carol fondly and her spirit of kindness and generosity towards others is felt strongly, even after her passing. My sincere condolences to Bob and the rest of the family at this difficult time.
November 30, 2018
To Bob and family. Our sweet Carol. The most thoughtful and sincere woman that has graced our lives. She was such a good friend to mom and dad and our family. I will miss her calls. "Just checking in" she'd say. She truly was an angel of God sent to give joy and love. With sincere sympathy for your loss.
Pam Washburn Arsenault
November 20, 2018
My deepest sympathies are with you Bob, Jan, Karen and families. I remember, with great warmth, Carol and my office relationship with her. I always called her my office "Mother" as she always was present in my ups and downs of life and offered such sound advice. I also will never forget her wonderful sense of humor as she and Esther Jackson would turn our office into a "laugh riot"!! I know you all have a treasure trove of wonderful memories as do I. I hope you find solace in your memories of this dear soul.