Peacock, Newnam & White Funeral and Cremation Service

1411 North Howe Street, Southport, NC


Thomas John O'Donnell

March 27, 1970March 20, 2020

Thomas John O’Donnell, age 49, passed away peacefully March 20, 2020. He was born March 27, 1970. He liked to go by the name “TJ”.

TJ grew up in Ridgefield, CT, and was loved by so many. Anyone that knew TJ, knew his love for music was his passion. He was a follower of many bands, and when we say “follower” - he literally would follow/travel with his favorite bands. Being at a music show was his place of peace.

TJ also grew up loving sports. He was a phenomenal soccer player. No matter what sport he played, he was good at it. An athlete he was. He also knew facts about every sport and every team.

TJ was so incredibly intelligent. TJ was full of information. He loved to talk and fill others minds with his knowledge. His favorite place to be was in a kitchen cooking. He was one heck of a chef! The kitchen was his place of comfort and where he was most happy and confident. Cooking was such a talent of his.

TJ was also a lover of animals. The tough TJ definitely showed his soft side when it came to dogs; especially his dog, Mickey (named after “Irish” Mickey). Mickey and TJ were best friends. Mickey was such a loyal dog to TJ, and was always by his side.

TJ will be missed by so many. The memories all of us have made with TJ will last a lifetime. The O’Donnell family thanks everyone for reaching out and sharing these cherished memories.

TJ is survived by is mother and father, Carol O’Donnell and Tod O’Donnell; his brother, Tyler O’Donnell; his sister in law, Isla O’Donnell; his niece and nephew, Mackenzie and Liam O’Donnell.

Online condolences may be made at www.peacocknewnamwhite.com.

Peacock - Newnam & White Funeral and Cremation Service, Southport, North Carolina.


No services are scheduled at this time. Receive a notification when services are updated.


Thomas John O'Donnell

have a memory or condolence to add?

Larry Dempster

March 31, 2020

As next door neighbors in Ridgefield, Barb & Larry Dempster remember the great soccer player. When he followed his parents to Southport, we remember "T J" as the chef. His parents are very caring & loving people who will always miss their pride & joy. Our hearts go out to the family at this very difficult time.

Jeff Humphreys

March 29, 2020

TJ and I became friends in high school like so many others. Ridgefield was such a wonderful place to grow up with amazing families and schools We both loved the Grateful Dead and all music really. He had an unmatchable quick wit and we laughed at each other’s expense on a daily basis. Anyone who knew TJ realized how smart he was, and he had a knack for remembering everything. During winter I would work with Tod and T and really enjoyed the time with them. Even though these two may have clashed from time to time I admired this father son dynamic, was actually jealous in a way. And of course Carol and Tyler made me feel like part of the family and this I’ll always cherish.
Years later we would all end up in North Carolina , with Tyler getting married to Isla and having 2 beautiful children . I was fortunate to be included in many Christmas dinners with T working away in the kitchen and the rest of us staying out of the way. T had such a knack for creative names and I can just hear him saying
“ hey Dad Humpys on his way in the Swedish hotrod he’ll be here any minute” . So many memories which I think of often. I think TJ is at peace but I miss him terribly and wish I had seen him more in recent years. I love you TJ and all your family. I’ll never forget you my brother.

Shawn Waddell

March 28, 2020

I'm going to be honest as I can about what I have to say about you T.J. I will never forget you my friend that's for sure. We had our disagreements from time to time but we were able to always work them out. You sure could make me laugh and cry also at times. We had many deep heartfelt conversations that I will cherish forever. I tried to be there for you as much as I could, whether it was bringing you a plate of food and a few words of encouragement. You had a heart as big as a giant in that small self of yours. I will forever go through this life remembering our times together. Rocky looks for you every time we ride by your house and I have caught myself doing that alot lately. I think he knows that you have moved on to a better place but know matter Rocky and Me always miss you my friend. I want to send my prayers to your family in this time of grief. I love you Brother may you fly to the Angels and let your spirit carry the. Rock on man!!!

Lou Anrico

March 25, 2020

My heart goes out to Carol, Todd, Tyler and the entire family on the loss of a truly great son, brother and friend. I have many wonderful memories of T.J and loved him like a brother of my own. Whether it was working together or just hanging out he was always a joy to be around. Constantly making you laugh, or having discussions about music, sports or life, I valued every moment I got to spend with T.J. He had a big heart, he always had your back and I will never forget him. His memory lives on in all of the lives he touched. Miss you brother.

Deanna Rivenbark

March 25, 2020

T.J. was such a big help to me for the last 3 years!He always made sure The Tiki Tavern was clean and running smoothly!But most of all he was my Buddy!He will always have a place in my heart!I pray for Mickey & His Family!If I can do anything to help,I’m only a phone call away!1-910-231-1855!
Love Dee Dee

Leenie and Will Dovel

March 25, 2020

We only met TJ a few times and that was quite a few years ago; however, we are such good friends with his Mom and Dad, Todd an Carol. TJ certainly came from very loving parents as well as a loving family. Our hearts ache for Todd and Carol to lose their child is just heart breaking and we are sending our love to them that they can cherish those many happy memories of TJ and know that he is no longer in any pain. They will get through this and we will be there for them as they walk this path. Love, Leenie and Will

Katie Thompson

March 25, 2020

O'Donnell Family,
We were so saddened to hear of the passing of TJ. He was our roommate in Southport several years ago and a dear friend. He taught me how to make "yankee gravy" and made us laugh every single day. We will miss him and we hold you and your family in our thoughts. He was one of a kind and I will never forget him. I know he's dancing to The Grateful Dead somewhere out there.
Katie & Ryan Uzdienski

Mike Carriero

March 25, 2020

TJ was always a great person to me. Especially since I was his younger brothers friend and could have hated me very easily. Always made me laugh and always treated me well. Had excellent taste in music, terrible taste in football teams, haha. Hadn’t seen TJ in a long time but will miss him dearly. Great memories of times spent with him to carry on with. A great person all around. Sending thoughts and prayers to Ty, Carol and Todd

Paul Kane

March 25, 2020

TJ and I were roommates for many years and went through a lot together. I considered him a brother to me. I can still hear his voice. I will miss him forever. All the best to his family.

Dave Sheahan

March 25, 2020

To the entire O’Donnell clan, our prayers and thoughts are with you. I cannot even begin to explain how t.j affected my life. From his diverse musical catalog, to his prowess in the kitchen, and most importantly his ability to make everyone laugh. And I am talking deep belly laughs! He had a way of making even the everyday aspects of life so much more fun and interesting. From introducing me to my first king crab leg, to my first Warren Haynes show, he was a special soul ! I mean this guy made moving heavy pieces of furniture fun. I reminisce of those times and all I can do is smile. Thank you for the laughs and tears my friend, You taught me one of the most important aspects of life....the ability to laugh at myself! And I know the Chiefs winning the super bowl was the icing on the cake. Let your soul shine down on us t and this world will be a better place!!!!