Lillian E. Evans Allen

April 16, 1920February 28, 2014

Lillian Allen, 93, died at her St. Louis home on February 28, 2014.

The third and youngest child of Andrew Julius and Lillian (Laurey) Evans, she was born in her grandmother’s Charleston, South Carolina home in 1920. Her father joined the army when she was two and, in the succeeding years, “Sister” as her family called her, lived at a variety of military posts around the country, including Fort Benning in Georgia, Fort Sam Houston in San Antonio, and on two occasions Schofield Barracks in Hawaii, departing the second time shortly before the attack on Pearl Harbor.

She lived in San Antonio on and off for nearly a decade during the 1930’s and 1940’s and fondly thought of it as home. After graduating from Incarnate Word Catholic High School in San Antonio, she took college classes at Incarnate Word, at Stephens College in Columbia, Missouri, and at the University of Hawaii. In 1949 she accompanied her parents to their new post in Germany. Returning in 1950, she settled in Washington, D.C., where her brother Andy was living.

In Washington she met Philip Allen, an economist with the Federal Reserve and a former Army officer, whom she married in 1953. The couple lived in Washington’s Virginia suburbs and had two children, Stephen and Christopher, born in 1954 and 1958. In 1968 the Allens’ stay in the Washington area was punctuated by a two year trip to Liberia, West Africa, where Phil worked for the U.S. State Department. After Phil retired in 1980, the couple moved to San Antonio, Texas. They later lived in Houston and in 1995 moved to St. Louis where Chris had taken a job. Phil died in 2007, sister Liz in 1984, and brother Andy in 2001. Lillian's two sons and five grandchildren remember her affectionately.

She will be buried next to her husband at Jefferson Barracks National Cemetery, St. Louis, Missouri on March 14, 2014. Flowers or a donation to the American Heart Association ( are equally welcome.

Condolences may be sent to Stephen Allen, 7595 S. Willow Way, Centennial CO, 80112 (303-741-1563) or Christopher Allen, 11802 Country Club Dr., St. Louis, MO 63131 (314-872-3022).


  • Mass of Christian Burial Friday, March 14, 2014

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Laura Isensee

April 30, 2014

I came to know Lillian because my sister Elizabeth married her son Chris. What comes to mind immediately when I think abut Lillian/Mamee is her smile. I'm sure that she didn't ALWAYS have a smile gracing her face when I was with her, but that's the impression that I have.

Graciousness is the second thing that comes to mind when I think of Lillian. She always was gracious, whether the occasion was hosting dinner for myself and others at her and Philip's home, or interacting - along with Philip/Gash - with her/their St. Louis grandchildren - Sarah, Claire, and Matthew - at Chris and Elizabeth's homes.

I especially remember the dinner that Lillian prepared for us probably 15 years ago - there were so many courses, and everything was so visually pleasing, that I wondered how Lillian could have prepared everything herself, but she did! I always enjoyed hearing about the period of time when Lillian and Philip, and their 2 sons, lived in West Africa when Philip was with the State Department.

There is one more comment about Lillian that I must make. She was a very, very strong person/woman, just as my own mother was. The last time that I saw Lillian was on a visit to St. Louis with my own mother in 2009. I remember with much fondness observing my mother and Lillian chatting with each other and comparing notes, if I remember correctly, about their husbands' participation in the military. They were both smiling and clearly genuinely enjoying each other's company.

It so happens that my mother died just 1 month after Lillian. I am fortunate to have the above lovely memory of both of them, smiling, gracious, and strong!

Chris and Steve, I'll make a donation today to Doctors Without Borders in memory of your mom. I hope this is OK with both of you and I hope it would be OK with your mom. I think this charitable organization probably has a greater need for funds right now than the American Heart Association. Please know that you and your families continue to be in my thoughts. And I wish that MY memory was better, so I could include other remembrances.

Laura Isensee


March 16, 2014

Since Elizabeth Allen (married to Lillian's younger son Chris Allen) and I are close sisters, we have raised our children together even those many miles distance us. Over a decade ago, Lillian became a grandmother ("Mamee") to our three children; I cherished how she was a strong matriarch who proudly raised two fine men, Uncle Chris and Uncle Steve. I fondly appreciate the traditions we created with Mamee over the years, including our after Christmas visits, New Year's Eve celebrations and annual summer vacations in St. Louis.

Our visits together in St. Louis were very nice. While she still entertained in her home, she set a beautiful table with silver and china and was a gracious hostess. When Elizabeth prepared one of her incredible feasts, Mamee ALWAYS arrived dressed elegantly with coifed hair, make up and jewelry. I recall many occasions where Mamee would marvel at technology and often started lively conversation with, "Did you know Joan that...." She was an engaging guest! She always kept me updated (with great pride) on her Colorado grandchildren - Leslie's rising management career and Andrew Allen's keen programming/technology skills. I always enjoyed hearing her recount the day she and Gash scurried between Harvard's Business School and
Law School graduations; they both were proud of their sons' achievements in life and academics, but never gloated.

Mamee's Christmas List always included our three children, Andrew, Logan and Audrey; one year she gave five year old Audrey a little rag dog with "Audrey" monogrammed on the dress.

As Elizabeth prepared one of her amazing dinners, I would attempt to organize Piano & Guitar Recitals before dinner at the Allen's Salem Estates and Country Club Drive homes. Performers included her grandchildren (Sarah, Claire & Matthew) as well as Andrew and Audrey Koltz. Mamee showed pride in their performances and also loved when Steve and Chris played with Liberace-like talents. She loved petting Angel, the Allen's poodle, and asking the children questions when we herded them into the living room.

One summer, Mamee expressed great compassion and caring when I arrived in St. Louis with a broken wrist with nerve damage issues. Her own health was very challenging at the time but she was VERY kind to me during that extended July 4th trip to St. Louis. (Elizabeth and Chris were amazing!)

I know Mamee's spirit will be present as our two families gather again at Macaroni Grill for the annual New Year's dinner. We'll reserve your favorite ten-top round table, Mamee.

May you rest in peace, reunited with Gash/Philip in heaven.

With God's grace, we pray your sons and their families take comfort knowing you lead a full life.

Love, Joan and family

Travis Wagner

March 15, 2014

Auntie Lil - You will always be remembered and hold a special place in my heart! I am grateful that you were able to meet my wife and kids recently, and it was a great pleasure visiting with you again in San Antonio. You will be missed, but won't be forgotten.
Much Love - Travis, Stephanie, Harper & Elliott Wagner, San Antonio, TX

Cathy-Evans Geib

March 15, 2014

Auntie Lil and Uncle Phil were such a great part of my life in Falls Church area and later in San Antonio. My two sons remember them as "stand in god parents" and were such a help with them when they were little. They will always be remembered as special family members. My heart goes out to you Steve and Chris and know you will miss her !!!
Cathy Evans Geib

Dayna Beard-Isensee

March 14, 2014

Dear Chris, Elizabeth, Sarah, Claire, and Matthew,
I am sorry for your loss and the grief you are experiencing. I pray that you find comfort in reflecting upon the memories created by the vibrant long life Mamee lived with so much spirit.
With much love,
Aunt Dayna

March 11, 2014

Debbie and I send our condolences to all those family members who knew Lillian well. Debbie and I only met her on a few occasions since she did not live much in Texas after we met her. But we know she was a very important and well loved member of the St' Louis clan" and beyond. She lived a very long life and was able to share it with her family nearby for most of those years. I'm sure that was a big comfort to her for her entire life, and perhaps especially so in her last years as she grew weaker. We hope that fond memories of her will be a comfort to her loved ones in the days and years ahead.


Ted and Debbie Isensee
Sugar Land Texas

Stephanie Kass

March 11, 2014

Auntie Lil, whenever I think of you a smile ALWAYS comes over my face! I have such wonderful memories of going to your house in Virginia when I was younger and getting to know Chris and Steve during that time period. I feel blessed for the many visits we had with you (and Uncle Phil and Chris and his family) here in TX and even more blessed that our children had the opportunity to get to know you. Two of their favorite memories are eating with you at La Fonda and hanging out at your "winter" home here. We will definitely miss you! Love, Stephanie

March 11, 2014

What an incredible life you had, Auntie Lil! From your adventures and travels as a girl to your adventures, travels and parties as a young woman, to your marriage to Uncle Phil and the births of your two remarkable sons. No matter what came your way, you always embraced life. You added so much to my life and also to the lives of my children. You were definitely one-of-a-kind and we shall miss you.
Love, Kay

March 5, 2014

Dear Auntie Lil, you were so much a part of my life growing up, beginning with our time spent together at "Gamma's" house in San Antonio, while the men of the family were at war. You always visited my family in later years & then lived close by when we moved to Arlington. I was a Junior Bridesmaid in your wedding to Uncle Phil at age 14 - I remember the occasion & my dress so well - it was a special honor for me! You were my family away from family while I attended Southern Seminary & I spent every holiday & long weekend with the Allen Family. So many great memories - you were the BEST Aunt & will be missed by all who loved you so much. Susie Fugelsang