Ellen Adelkopf Herman

March 4, 1943November 8, 2020

Ellen Adelkopf-Herman, 77, passed away peacefully on November 8, 2020 at Trustbridge Hospice Care Center in Delray Beach, FL with her husband Bill by her side. Ellen was born in New York City on March 4, 1943, the eldest of 2 children of the late Arthur and Dorothy Grant, and stepdaughter of the late Meyer Shultz. Ellen was pre-deceased by her first husband, Stuart Adelkopf and her sister, Rochelle Grant.

Ellen moved to Yonkers, NY ca. 1950 and graduated from Yonkers High School in 1960. In 1961 she married the late Stuart Adelkopf and moved to Stamford, CT. After Stuart’s death, Ellen met Bill Herman and they were married May 31, 1992. Ellen and Bill moved to Delray Beach, Fl in 2008.

Ellen is survived by her husband, William B. Herman, her four children, Adam of Norwalk, CT, Gary (Kathy Leigh) of Silver Spring, MD, Wayne (Iliana) of Staten Island, NY and Tracy of Hamden, CT and two step-children Jaime Watson (Kevin) of Stamford, CT and Ian Herman (Liz) of Teignmouth, UK. Ellen's nine grandchildren were the light of her life; Stephanie, Robyn, Marnie, Derrick, Dylan and Benton Adelkopf and Emile, Maddie and Brian Watson.

Ellen had a very successful career as a Tupperware Sales Manager which led to many lifelong friendships. She was also the office manager at Stamford Wrecking Office Furniture Outlet from where she eventually retired. Ellen was very active with and held the position of President of her condo association’s woman’s club where her managerial and organizational skills shined.

Ellen enjoyed a jam-packed schedule that included theater, traveling, movies, lectures and loved nothing more than getting together and socializing and gaming with her wide circle of friends. Ellen and Bill traveled and cruised extensively and made planning the next adventure part of the excitement. Ellen treasured her family and friends and they were the center of her life. She will be missed by all those that knew and loved her. Her warmth, kindness and smile will be remembered in our hearts forever.

A graveside service will be held for Ellen at The Independent Stamford Lodge Cemetery on Hoyt St, Darien, CT. Graveside service will be held on Thursday, November 12, 2020 at 2 PM at Independent Lodge Cemetery located in Darien, CT. In accordance with the current social restrictions due to COVID-19, please be sure to bring a face covering and adhere to distancing standards if you plan on attending the service.

Memorial contributions may be made in Ellen’s name to The American Cancer Society or The Trustbridge Hospice Foundation of Palm Beach/Broward County.

The Leo P. Gallagher & Son Funeral Home in Stamford, CT is honored to assist the Adelkopf & Herman families with the funeral arrangements. To leave a message of condolence online you may visit the family guest book hosted on

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Gloria and Joe Sinaguglia

November 12, 2020

Dear Adam, Gary and family,

Sending you all our condolences on this profound loss to your family. Thinking of you during this sad time and wishing you peace through the days ahead.

Marge DiPippo

November 12, 2020

We have truly lost a wonderful person. Ellen was not only my friend but also the person I could always count on to give me help when I needed it and also the best organizer that I know. I will miss our February luncheon date in Florida. My heart goes out to Bill and her family. Sincerely - Marge DiPippo

Stanley and Fred! Rosenberg

November 11, 2020

Ellen was a very special and dear friend. She was always upbeat and full of energy. Her door was always open to play mahjong Mexican train and other games. She had so much energy that Ellan was the president of the women's club in our community. She will be missed by all.

Betty Ellis

November 11, 2020

I remember the day you called and asked if I would join you in your home to play canasta. It was my pleasure to do so and I was lucky to find a friend in you. You never said "no" if I called you and needed information or anything else. I will always remember your happy outlook and miss you.


November 11, 2020

My deepest sympathy to Bill and the Adelkopf family. Ellen was my "vent" sister. She would call me and tell me if something was bothering her and I would do the same. We loved and trusted each other with our innermost feelings. Sometimes it could be 5 AM since we are both early risers. My husband I always looked forward to our cruises with the Herman's. When my husband Rick died 4 years ago Ellen took me under her wing and helped me through the dark days. That was her way. RIP my BFF. Love and miss you forever.

Chris Sinatra

November 11, 2020

When I heard Mrs. A. was ill, hundreds of memories from over 50 years flooded my head and heart. From age 5, she was there. Birthday parties, playing in the yard (how come he’s not allowed to get dirty?) and games inside, camping, having lunch (“I’m not cutting your crust off, ya want that go home!”) and dinners (leftovers and Tupperware, the ultimate oxymoron in her home), She was always there. Even when she wasn’t there were notes, instructions, reminders... and I always got the last one... “Now you know the rules Chris, follow them!” I was family. Am family. And this hurts. A lot. Love ya. Miss ya. Thank you for always being there for me, teaching me, yelling at me (also a lot). Job well done. Love, your 5th

Leonard Pensiero

November 11, 2020

Ellen was a friend a wonderful person. She will be greatly missed by the crane road cronies. My condolences to bill and family.

Chris Connors

November 11, 2020

I am very sorry to hear of Mrs Adelkopf's passing ( doesn't feel right to call her Ellen even at 56.) A hero of my childhood and of my Crane road extended family. Very fond memories and I wish I could be there with you all.

Love Chris Connors

Keeva Epstein Crelan

November 10, 2020

Ellen, Bill, Tracy and me at dinner. Ellen was filled with smiles, laughter and joy. She brought everyone the same joy. Her husband, Bill cherished her, as she did him. She adored her children, grandchildren and countless friends. The father of her children, Stuart, loved Ellen and his children until his untimely passing at the age of 47. He would have been elated that Ellen had love throughout her life. She will be missed by all.

Karen King

November 10, 2020

Bill, Adam, Gary, Wayne and Tracey,

I am so sorry to hear of Ellen's passing. All of us King kids have known and loved Mrs. Adelkopf since we were babies. I remember her gaiety at her Tupperware parties, her laughter at the Crane Road Cronies festivities, and of course as the neighborhood mom who trusted my sisters and I enough to let us babysit her precious kids - whom she loved more than anything else in the world.

This world is less without your mom in it. She will never be forgotten. Please know what we share in your grief, and send our love and prayers to you all.


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