James Neil

August 7, 1930April 10, 2018

He loved the Dodgers so much that he even tried out for the team at Ebbets Field in 1947…. James was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York and loved his Brooklyn Dodgers...

James Neil, age 87, passed away peacefully on Tuesday, April 10, 2018 at his residence in Denver, North Carolina

He served honorably in the United States Army during the Korean War while he was stationed in Japan.

James dedicated his life to his beloved wife Rosemary and his family.

He worked in the banking industry and later for the Long Island Railroad before retiring in 1983.

After retiring, Jim and Rosemary purchased 14 acres of land in Bainbridge, New York. They loved and enjoyed spending time with their grandchildren and raising sheep. After many long winters in New York, they were Florida bound where they enjoyed the sun and warmth there.

James will be best remembered as a great husband, father, and father in law, grandfather, great grandfather and friend to all who knew him.

Just like his father, James was always soft spoken and a true gentleman.

Those left to cherish Jim’s memories and carry on his legacy are his son: William “Bill” Neil and special companion Gayle Joyner of Denver and Faison North Carolina; four daughters and son in law: Kathy Neil of Unadilla, New York, Patricia “Patty” Revans of Navarre, Florida, Mary Neil-Piece and former husband Jimmy Pierce of Sidney, New York, Lynda and John Abbott of Endicott, New York; twelve grandchildren: James “LJ” Neil and fiancé Anna Felong, Diane Zenker-Halcomb, Dana Carter and former husband Jason Carter, Andrew Revans, Brandon Revans, Wesley Pierce, Connor Pierce, Krysten Boccasini and husband Nick Boccasini, Michael Neil and wife Kelsea, Lisa Neil and husband David Rosselli, Brian James Neil and wife Stephanie, Seth Abbott; fourteen great grandchildren: Landon Boccasini, Lucas Boccasini, Treyson “Trey” Neil, Alissa Rosselli, Nicolas Rosselli, James Rosselli, Emily Neil, Matthew Neil, Jenna Holcomb, James Holcomb, Dylan Holcomb, Mason Carter, Anthony Carter and Cheyann Revans; former daughter in law: Mary Ann Sorrese; two step grandchildren: Mary Ellen Arthur and husband Joe, Christopher Collom and wife Virginia; four step great grandchildren: Marley Arthur, Maxwell Arthur, Chloe Collom and Abigail Collom.

Jim was the son of the late William Neil and Catherine Loggie Neil. He was also preceded in death by his loving wife of 55 years, Rosemary Fendler Neil who passed away in 2007 along with a sister Mary Neil who passed away in 1963.

The family will receive Guests from 3:00 PM ~ 7:00 PM, Saturday, April 21, 2018 at Carothers Funeral Home, 412 South Main Street, Stanley, North Carolina. A buffet available to the family and guests will be held from 4:30 PM ~ 6:30 PM with Grandpa's Ice Cream Soda's at 7:00 PM.

Memorial contributions in lieu of flowers are asked to be sent in James’s memory to Hospice & Palliative Care of Lincoln County, 900 Dontia Drive, Lincolnton, North Carolina 28092.

Fond memories and expressions of love may be shared on Jim's guestbook at

Carothers Funeral Home of Stanley is honored to be serving the family of James Neil.


  • William Neil, Deceased Father
  • Catherine Loggie, Deceased Mother
  • Rosemary Fendler Neil, Deceased Wife
  • Mary Neil, Deceased Sister
  • William "Bill" Neil, Son
  • Gayle Joyner, Bill's Special Companion
  • Lisa Neil, Granddaughter
  • David Rosselli, Lisa's Husband
  • Alissa Rosselli, Great Granddaughter
  • Nicolas Rosselli, Great Grandson
  • James Rosselli, Great Grandson
  • Brian James Neil, Grandson
  • Stephanie Neil, Brian's Wife
  • Emily Neil, Great Granddaughter
  • Matthew Neil, Great Grandson
  • Kathy Neil, Daughter
  • James "LJ" Neil, Grandson
  • Anna Felong, LJ's Fiance'
  • Patricia "Patty" Revans, Daughter
  • Diane Zenker-Halcomb, Granddaughter
  • Jenna Halcomb, Great Granddaughter
  • James Halcomb, Great Grandson
  • Dylan Halcomb, Great Grandson
  • Dana Carter, Granddaughter
  • Jason Carter, Dana's Former Husband
  • Mason Carter, Great Grandson
  • Anthony Carter, Great Grandson
  • Andrew Revans, Grandson
  • Brandon Revans, Grandson
  • Cheyann Revans, Great Granddaughter
  • Mary Neil-Pierce, Daughter
  • Jimmy Pierce, Mary's Former Husband
  • Wesley Pierce, Grandson
  • Connor Pierce, Grandson
  • Lynda Abbott, Daughter
  • John Abbott, Son-in-law
  • Seth Abbott, Grandson
  • Krysten Boccasini, Granddaughter
  • Nick Boccasini, Krysten's Husband
  • Landon Boccasini, Great Grandson
  • Lucas Boccasini, Great Grandson
  • Michael Neil, Grandson
  • Kelsea Neil, Michael's Wife
  • Treyson "Trey" Neil, Great Grandson
  • Mary Ann Sorrese, Former Daughter in Law
  • Mary Ellen Arthur, Step Granddaughter
  • Joe Arthur, Mary Ellen's Husband
  • Marley Arthur, Step Great Granddaughter
  • Maxwell Arthur, Step Great Grandson
  • Christopher Collom, Step Grandson
  • Virginia Collom, Chistopher's Wife
  • Chloe Collom, Step Great Granddaughter
  • Abigail Collom, Step Great Granddaughter

  • Memorial contributions in lieu of flowers are asked to be sent in James’s memory to Hospice & Palliative Care of Lincoln County, 900 Dontia Drive, Lincolnton, North Carolina 28092.


  • Receiving of Guests and Gathering of Friends Saturday, April 21, 2018

James Neil

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Lori DeSalvo

April 21, 2018

I was blessed the day the Neil family embraced me into their family. A lonely 3 year old who knew nothing about unconditional love. Jim & Rose taught me you didn't have to be perfect to be loved. Bill, Kathy, Patty, Mary & Lynda called me the 5th sister. Jim was a soft spoken gentleman who blushed easily. Mary could always get him to blush. I will carry the memories and their love for the rest of my life. ...I love you James Neil and can never repay you for saving me and treating my daughter, Olivia like one of your own grandchildren. God bless you. RIP -Lori.

Mary Ann Sorrese

April 18, 2018

I am honored and blessed to have loved and had James Neil (Dad) in my life. A wonderful, kind and gentle soul of a true gentleman first comes to heart and mind. He had the grace to even laugh at himself with a blush and that innocent smile we all loved.

When I met the Neil family, he made me feel welcome from the gitgo. I admired his love of family and unending devotion to Rose. I can hear her calling him, stretching out his name, “Jim”, and he’d respond without hesitation as you could feel the unconditional love and loyalty. How wonderful that I got to share the pride of his legacy whenever I accompanied the family or went where people knew him, including my own family who all admired and loved him.

The fun of knowing Jim Neil really took off when he finally retired and moved to a memorable home in upstate New York. He and Rose shared it with everyone, especially the grandchildren. It was a home for the family but for me and the kids it was a grand adventure to travel up from Long Island. It became a magical place with a farm house and barn, sheep, dinners around a big table, summer BBQ’s, snow sledding, ice cream sodas at night and mystery stories of the house. There was always room for everyone, and lots and lots of laughter that created great times and formed wonderful memories.

I was impressed how he easily managed camping, moving to Florida and adapting to whatever the environment was. I loved hearing his stories about the history of the civil war, Brooklyn and the Dodgers at Ebetts Field. It didn’t take more than some tea and cookies for him to be happy.

A good soul has been received in heaven. As Jesus releases his arms of welcome there will be rejoicing reuniting with Rose and others before him. I can only imagine that he also has a glorious view of lush green hills and heather.

May the care and love of all those around the family be of comfort as we get through these days ahead. May faith be the foundation that will reassure that he is at peace.

Linda Harp

April 18, 2018

Kathy and family.....we are very sorry for the loss of your Dad, we are here for you, cherish the you💜

Sherry Edwin

April 18, 2018

I have had the pleasure of knowing the Neil family for over 25 years when I first met Kathy when she started working at McDonald's. James was the sweetest and kindest man. You could see the love in his eyes when he spoke of his family. Prayers and love to all of you.

Mary Ellen Arthur

April 18, 2018

I wish everyone in the Neil family the comfort and peace knowing he lived a wonderful life and was loved by everyone. I'm blessed to have special memories growing up with him and the Neil family. My favorite memories are spending time in the house in Bainbridge, the hill in the winter time, the sheep, of course the ice cream sodas and root beer floats he always made for me.

Vincent Petrarca

April 14, 2018

My wife Mary (Crowley) always loved being around Aunt Rose, Uncle Jimmy and their beautiful family. I also had the opportunity to visit them when they lived on Long Island and experienced first hand their love and hospitality. I know how sad it is to have lost a loved one, now is the time to be strong and always cherish the memories of this beautiful person. Vin

Ann Crowley Vaccaro

April 13, 2018

Please accept my condolences to all my cousins and their family. I have nothing but fond memories of Uncle Jimmy he was always kind and loving towards myself and my family. You will be in my prayers.

Arleen (Crowley) Cohen

April 13, 2018

Billy, Kathy, Patty, Mary, Linda & grandchildren
I am so sorry for your loss. Your dad was so kind & loving to all of us from 8th Street.
I remember all the laughter & joking that happened whenever all the families got together. They were special times when Aunt Rose & Uncle Jimmy came to visit. Mary & I always spoke about the wonderful relationship your parents had!!!
He will be missed