Carothers Funeral Home

412 South Main Street, Stanley, NC


Richard "Dick" James Gayan

December 1, 1935June 20, 2019

Richard “Dick” James Gayan, 83, passed away peacefully from pancreatic cancer on Thursday June 20, 2019 at The Robin Johnson Hospice House in Dallas. Dick was born in Bessemer, Michigan to the late Lillian (Groenen) Kostac.

Dick had many hobbies and interests including woodworking, model trains, and traveling. He and his wife traversed the 48 states as well as Canada and Mexico on their Goldwing motorcycle. He enjoyed reading, music, and knitting as well. Professionally, Dick was a salesman, small business owner, and contractor. Dick was heavily involved in the establishment and construction of the South Mountain Retreat and Conference Center in Casar and volunteered there for over 10 years. Dick was a strong Christian and this camp was his ministry. Dick also proudly served in the United States Army and also served as a police officer in Milwaukee, Wisconsin.

Left to cherish his memory are his wife Irma (Arrowood) Gayan, daughter Shelley (Gayan) Cooke, sons Tyler Gayan and wife Melissa, Kyle Gayan, and step-son Greg Dellinger and wife Jayne. His sister Helen Kangas of Bessemer, Michigan and brother Robert “Bob” Gayan of Paradise, Texas are grieving Dick’s loss. Grandchildren include Nichole (Cooke) Winborne and husband Brett, Matthew Gayan, Miranda Gayan and great-grandson Aidan Cooke.

A celebration of Dick’s life will be held at 2:00 PM on Monday June 24, 2019 at Crossroads Church, 101 Beaty Road, Belmont. The family will receive friends from 12:00 PM to 2:00 PM, at the church, before the service. Reverends Ronald Lee and Wayne Preusz will offer words of encouragement and hope to family and friends that gather to remember Dick.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to Crossroads Church, 101 Beaty Rd., Belmont, NC 28012 or the South Mountain Retreat and Conference Center, 142 Mace Road, Casar, NC 28020.

Fond memories and condolences may be left at www.carothersfuneralhomestanley.com.

The staff at Carothers Funeral Home in Stanley is honored to serve the Gayan Family at this difficult time.


  • Lillian Kostac, Mother
  • Irma Gayan, Wife
  • Shelley Cooke, Daughter
  • Tyler Gayan and wife Melissa, Son
  • Kyle Gayan, Son
  • Greg Dellinger and wife Jayne, Step-son
  • Helen Kangas, Sister
  • Robert "Bob" Gayan, Brother
  • Nichole Winborne and husband Brett, Granddaughter
  • Matthew Gayan, Grandson
  • Miranda Gayan, Granddaughter
  • Aidan Cooke, Great Grandson

  • Crossroads Church
  • South Mountain Retreat and Conference Center


  • Receiving of Friends Monday, June 24, 2019
  • Celebration of Life Service Monday, June 24, 2019


Richard "Dick" James Gayan

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Sharon Lochaby

July 8, 2019

Dick will be greatly missed by his fellow woodturners. I’m so sorry I was out of town and was not able to join you for his celebration of life. Irma, my prayers and thoughts will be with you and your family during this difficult time,

With love and sympathy,


Lisa Napier

July 3, 2019

I am so sorry for the passing of Mr. Dick. My daughter Salem introduced us when she worked at the Belmont McDonalds. She had looked for him ever since she left that job and is truly devastated by this news. We are very sorry for the loss of such a lovely person. Thank you for befriending my daughter Mr. Dick. We won't forget you.

Cathy Neill

June 24, 2019

The Gayans were wonderful friends and next door neighbors for many years on Sunnybrook Drive in Charlotte. My thoughts are with all the family. A life well-served! Cathy Sink Neill

Carl and Wendi Beam

June 21, 2019

Irma and family, so sorry to hear about Dick's passing. We're so thankful God has made a way that we will see him again. Praying that God wraps each of you in His comforting arms during this time of loss. Love to you all, Carl, Wendi, Tyler, Andrew, Anna Grace, Jordan and James

Glenda Hoyle

June 21, 2019

Dear Irma and Family,
So sorry to hear of Dick's passing. I'm so thankful that I got to know you and Dick and enjoyed that friendship over the past 20 years. May God be with you now and in the days to come with His special love, comfort and peace. Thoughts and prayers, Glenda Hoyle, Pickens, SC