Henry it's been 5 years since your gone . Way too soon way too young . We all miss you  and it's still like yesterday since your gone . Sad that you can't be here to see the kids grow . Mom is with you now in peace . Her heart could never take your loss . We all love you 

Joey

9/29 your 44 th birthday and you should be here to blow out your candles ! It's so sad! We miss you Henry !! Hope mom and dad are holding you in their arms . Mom wanted to be with you , hugs and kisses my big bro ! The pain never goes away !!! I miss you
And my parents.

henry it's been a very tough time with us since your mom went home to be with you and dad . Please watch over this family and get us through these tough times . We miss you and mom so much .
Love you

Henry mom is finally coming home to be with you and dad. She lasted a long time and dealt with the pain of your loss for the family here since you are gone but her calling has finally come . If any person deserves to be in heaven is her . We will miss her terribly here but we know where her heart has been . Please look over our family as this will be painful in the loss of my mother in law . I will always love her and she will always be a special mom in my heart.

Henry it's been way too long since I've wrote on here . Wish we would of had the chance to watch our kids grow together. Mom never recovered since your gone we all miss you very much. 

Love Joey

Today four years ago, our lives were forever changed. We think of you every day. You would be so proud of your two sons who we love with all our hearts...rest with the lord my dear brother and watch over your children and god children... Your friends too they love and miss you as well... xo

Happy Birthday my dear brother miss you today and every day... Mom and your boys miss you lots.... I talk about you all the time with Christian he remembers the fun you two had... wish life was so different and that this was just a bad dream we love you xoxo

Henry happy birthday in heaven mom never was the same when you left the world  we all love and miss you 

Love joey

Happy Father's day in heaven!!!Your boys love and miss you !!  We have a huge void in our lives without you xoxo

Today is national sibling day, with tears in my eyes thoughts of my handsome sibling...xoxo Miss you Henry!!!!

thinking of you on easter and everyday love you miss you always love mom, Christian, Jacob, Theresa Joey and Joseph xoxo Prayers for your soul.......

Today is super bowl and its hard for us, we know sports was a big part of your life. we think of you every day no matter what .... but it times like this that make me realize how young you were and how much life was left to live... love you always never forotten!!!!

Its Christmas and its another day missing you my dear brother..The holidays are not the same without you. We love you and it hurts so bad words can not describe the pain.....

Dec 17, 2015 Three years ago today you were taken from your children and family..Our hearts are heavy Henry, the pain is the same as the day it happened. I always think of you and our deep talks, no matter what you found the good in even the bad people is this world... This taught me a life lesson. Life can change in a blink of a eye. I hope you knew how much you were loved.I prayer for that...The only comfort I have is the beautiful memories I treasure and those amazing boys and Henry they both are such kind boys... Don't worry they know all about their dad trust me they do....Rest in peace my gentle soul ..Mom is shattered and could never be repaired for the day you were called home she went with you.....as for being a mom as well I cant imagine the pain that she endures every day. We love you xo

Another thanksgiving with out you, time is supposed to heal not for us....We miss you more and more as time goes by and the boys all grow up in front of our eyes.....love you

Miss ya too Hank! Thinking about you as well bud, can't believe NY Mets are one win from World Series! Me, you and Murray buddy diehard jaded met fans! Those mets cost me a lot of dough and grey hairs over the years! Know your watching the games up there buddy! Miss ya guy!

Thinking of you rooting for the mets to win ,it surreal to watch it without you I miss you !!!! xoxoxo

Happy Birthday in Heaven, Henry. Miss you.  RIP

Your 42nd birthday is a day to reflect on the beautiful memories of you, I think of you every day and keep you in my heart.... my big brother!!! Miss you on your birthday and everyday... The day you were taken from us it left your mom and us broken.mom has never recovered.... We love your boys our gifts from you ....

Henry it's over 2 1/2 yrs now since your gone  I'm watching your kids grow up its just not fair sometimes and we take for granted how short life can be . Please be an angel around your kids they both need that protection from the outside world . We all hurt from what happened to you . Your mom and sister will never be the same .  Miss you buddy.

its another holiday with out you, people tell me time heals the pain, never..... i miss you always today and forever.

Henry happy Father's Day in heaven we all miss you very much
As you always knew how I always built stuff I always wished I could build something to bring you back . Wish we could of continued to bring our children up together and grow old together . 
You will never be forgotten  in our family you are thought of every day and today especially on Father's Day we love you

Fathers day in Heaven....Miss you love you. Kiss dad for us...Your two blessings miss you,Christian is really having a hard time with this, he misses you at his baseball and basketball games routing him on. He has made us so proud. Jacob is such a loving little boy your twin....xo

Henry, I went to a party tonight ans saw a brother and sister together having laughs and spending time as friends and no matter how different we were,  we were siblings and friends. i  so miss u its not easy to miss a sibling/ friend  my heart really does ache love u

We so enjoyed your little munchkin yesterday. He is such a good boy, you would be so proud I thank god for the two precious gifts, your boys through them you will live on.  Miss you more than anyone would imagine , I think of my big bro every day. Want to hug you and tell you how much you are loved, til we meet again shine down on your boys!!!!

Henry, today is Mothers Day, I was blessed to spend it with my son and my mom, but the emptiness is still here. I cant express how much I miss you!! I just wish I could have one more of our deep conversations when we both got sappy, even miss your grumpy face, i love u big bro and i promise i will be the best aunt i can to your two amazing boys

Henry, Easter was bitter sweet I enjoyed watching Joseph enjoy the experience of egg hunts and dying eggs, and my heart was heavy because I know you are not here to enjoy your sons doing the same.  I miss you and love you dearly, you had a kind way , you always forgave so easily and never held a grudge, you never judged anyone, I hope that wonderful quality can live on in your handsome sons. xo

Henry, I think of you every day and miss you so much, lately I have you on my mind before I go to sleep. I always think back to our last conversation and I am so thankful for it being filled with laughs and thoughts of Christmas with our boys.  My eyes tear and I cry myself to sleep, I miss my big brother and all that made you the great person you were.  I just cant handle that your sons are missing out on a great dad.  Christian remembers you and often talks about the fun times you had together. It hurts me that Jacob will never know how you would call him your buddy and little monster because he was such a strong big boy.  I am so sorry I could not protect you the way you always protected me. I have so much pain and I guess I always will. No amount of time can pass to ever heal my heart.  Rest with the lord!! and please help me through xoxooxxoxo

Henry, watched Christian play basketball yesterday and it literally brings me to tears , you would be so proud and you would be rooting for him like I was. I love your boys so much.....I wish you were hear to see how much my son loves them too.  We were blessed....  xoox

Today was a hard day for us all, to some that would be silly but we all knew how much you enjoyed Super Bowl.  We miss you so much!!!

Henry, Today is Jacob's third birthday, I remember how excited you were when this little guy entered the world. Send your love from above today and forever to your little buddy. xoxo

Hi Henry. Can't believe it's been two years since we saw your smile. Rest in eternal peace my friend

Henry , it's been 2 yrs now since your life was taken from us. Words can't  describe the pain that your family feels . Life has not been the same without you.  Miss our talks together  and watching our baseball games.  you are now in peace with your dad  . Watch over your kids and family  miss you !

Today is a extremely painful day for all who knew and loved you.  Please watch over your sons. Two years ago a piece of my heart was taken away, You take life for granted at times until you realize in a blink of a eye your life can be changed for ever. I miss you Henry and pray for your soul to rest in peace.  I am trying to be strong,I tell Christian how much you loved him and enjoyed being his daddy it makes him smile he remembers you and all the good times you had! I pray that one day Jacob will know you through our stories and pictures of his daddy...You have given us two blessings and we are so grateful for them. Always know that you were special and that you were a good son brother amazing dad and dear friend.  I am thankful for the short time we had together and so sad for the time we will never get to have.  My son knows his godfather through me and pictures he will say Uncle Henry, that eases my pain to know that you will never ever be forgotten. I pray that you knew how much I loved you, but I find comfort knowing that we were always close and never stayed mad at each other it makes it easier for me to have no regrets, the only regret I have is not being able to save you...... Rest in eternal peace love your sister

Henry, wish you were here need a shoulder to lean on sometimes. Life is so tough, I miss you, Mom has never recovered from loosing you.  I think of you everyday, I cant believe this is reality. I want you to be remembered for being the great guy you were not how you passed. Time will never mend our broken hearts. xoxo

Think about you alot Hank! Up in alaska, thanksgiving today and you and your family is on my mind. I know your family really misses ya bud. Miss ya buddy, not the same coming home for holidays without swinging by to see ya. Your at peace brother, we all miss ya dearly.

Henry, The holiday season is approaching, and my heart is heavy of course.  I miss you so much, I remember a lot of laughs and always remember being there for each other through all our hard times.  I think of you everyday , Christian plays basketball now and you would have enjoyed watching him play. Your boys made you so proud to be their dad.....  xoxoxo Theresa

Henry, You would have been just 41 today.  Too young to be away from your sons, and your family.  The pain is so bad it feels like yesterday that you were ripped out of this world.  I know you are with the lord on your birthday but I want you here with all of us.  I miss you my dear brother I will cherish the short time we had together xoxo Theresa

Mike vesci entered the spirit world the other day. At least his pain stopped and although it's sad, the alternative could've sadder, miss you both and love you dearly

Miss ya Hank! Not the same without ya bud. Mike passed away bud, sure you and mike are heading out for a cold one together. May both you guys be at peace!

Henry, today one of your dear friends has passed, Mike was a great friend to you before and after your passing.  He reached out to your son and arranged play dates for Christian and his son Michael. He truly showed he cared about you, even supported you in court.  May you and your dear friend rest in eternal peace. May god help his wife and two children through this difficult time and may they know Mike touched a lot of lives.  God bless.

Missing you today and everyday xoxo Miss our talks and our laughs

I haven't written on the page in a while even though I speak almost everyday to you as I look at your picture on my dresser as I get ready. A lot of changes going on in life, wish you were here always to experience them. Not a day will pass where I don't miss you my brother,,,, love you

Henry, today is your son Christian's 8th birthday, He misses you so much and remembers all the good times and fun things you did together.  He will always treasure that.  No words can describe the pain I feel as look at this beautiful boy grow up without his dad.  I miss you so much and I prayer for your sons...  Please watch over him on his birthday as well as everyday. We love you !!!!!

Miss ya Hank! Seems like yesterday we were having a beer together talking about how bad the Mets are bro! Your always in my thoughts!

Henry it's been awhile since I wrote my words just have been lost to write on here. Our family misses you so much  . Mom has never been the same since your gone  her heart was crushed .  I miss our talks about sports  being able to watch both ball games. Together on holidays  we were supposed to grow old together in our family and watch our kids grow .  Your sister is strong but  took a chunk out of her heart .  Bitter/sweet  . We all miss you so much please watch over your mom and kids  love you


Henry you are always in our hearts. Miss you coming to our office for Nick. Rest in eternal peace.

Henry, miss you so much i think of you everyday.  Having a hard time. I have the same dream all the time that everything was just a night mare and not reality.  You will always hold a huge part of my heart and I struggle with you being gone.  I smile all the time with my son and I thank god for him because he gets me through my darkest moments, no family should endure  this pain. Mom will never be the same , she is so frail and weak cries for you and your boys everyday.  The people at the rehab center all know you through mom, and I.  Henry i just hope and pray that you knew what you meant to us all . You have the dearest friends anyone could have asked for.   I love you Theresa

Happy Father's Day I was with Christian today, it is so sad that you are missing out of your wonderful sons. May you rest with your dad and know we will always love and miss you.

It does not get any easier, the pain is and will always be a part of who I am now.  I miss you so much everyday it hurts me to see how much your missing.  Your amazing boys are such a huge piece of you, when I am with Christian I feel peace.  Henry I always knew we had a special bond, but to let go of you so young it is unbearable.  Mom is not doing good at all Please watch over her and send her a sign you are at peace.  We love you.

Henry today was a beautiful day, Your son Christian made his first communion and he was extremely handsome in his white suit. You were missed dearly and Christian kissed and sent a balloon to you which was so sweet. All your dear friends were at the party.  We spoke of you a lot today.  I love you always..

Henry  you would of been proud of your sister today  she was your voice   You were heard across the room today  . We all miss and love you so much .  I haven't been able to write here lately  but I think of you all the time .  I wish you were here with us even though you are in gods hands now .  Love you

Henry, your friends were right by my side today.  They loved you so much. I will always think of you and will always love you.  No time will ever be enough.  You are gone way too soon.  Our hearts will never mend.  Rest with the Lord. We love you

Henry, miss ya buddy! Was thinking of you today and are talks about the NY Mets and how we always thought this would be the year. But at the end of the year disappointed! Your family is deeply missing ya man! I wish I could have one more chance to hangout with ya buddy. I know your sister is holding everything together and your sons miss ya dearly. Rest in peace bud!

Henry, may you be at peace.... My heart is so heavy today a piece of our family is so missed. I love you and always will words can not describe how i feel right now, I feel  as if we lost you all over again,  Til we meet again big brother watch over your boys as well as your godsons......

We are praying everyday for justice Henry. Never ever forgotten........

Henry Happy Valentine's Day to a wonderful father, son brother, brother in law, godfather and dear friend. We all love you and miss you terribly.  xoxo

Henry this is a hard weekend for all who knew and loved you.  It is the Super Bowl and it was a fun time for you.. We miss you more than you would ever know.  Our lives will never be the same and all these fun times you should now be enjoying with the two most precious boys  you created.. Life is not fair for sure we love ya theresa

Henry, Jan 22nd  is Jacob's 2nd birthday. Watch over him.... Happy birthday to your beautiful son....  We love him and always will.  Theresa

Henry, I miss you so much today and everyday, Went to see mom today and you are always on our mind. We just look at each other and we know that we need you.  Spent tuesday with Christian and it was so nice to be with him, a little piece of you. Jacob will be two soon and we wish we could just hold him.. Please know we always think of him.  Love you Theresa

Although we haven't spoken for many years I am still so bothered by you being gone...maybe it's the mom in me now but I wish more then anything you were able to see your boys grow. It's so strange how when we hung out I never thought of us as being parents an now that's what hurts the most...the missing out on things we never dreamed about. U were a great  person and your legacy will live on thru those boys.

I am so sad, missing you and watching our mother so sick, be her guardian angel I wish you were here with me we always went through good and bad times together. Love you

Henry mom is in the hospital and all she does is cry for you it is truly so sad how much she misses you and hurts everyday and while she lays there sick our mother's love for you is so unconditional. Watch over her please...

Henry yesterday was christmas I wrote you but I guess things I said were not permitted, I wished you a merry christmas in heaven. Christian was with us for the eve as like your tradition with him. Mom did a lot of crying we all did. Joey parents think of you too.  It will never be the same with out you and we will continue to pray for you and justice.

Henry wish u would of been here for Christmas we had a great fish dinner . u would of loved it. wasent the same without u here. Your mom was very sad . shes a different person since your gone. among your sons growing up wish you could enjoy mine.  miss you

Miss ya Hank! Won't be the same without during the holidays. You were a good friend!

Henry, everyone here at CSD want you to know that we miss you dearly.  We still have a memorial of you in our office.  I look at you every single day.  Miss you....Ann Marie

Henry its now 1 year since your live was taken from us . we are all hurting inside. christian hurts very bad for you. your mom looks like a lost soul since your gone. i still feel that i havent woken up from a bad dream. so unreal . we all miss you and love you so much .

Today is a extremely hard day for all of us. It is one year that you were taken away from us. Too young, too soon and too many lives forever changed.  Your sons lives have to go on without their daddy, Christian has beautiful memories of you. Unfortunately Jacob will never remember how much you loved him.  Henry I hope you see how much you are loved and missed.  Your family and dear friends are hurting.  The world was a better place with you in it for sure. Mom is so heart broken and she prays for you everyday. Not a day goes by with out us mentioning you. Gone but never ever forgotten. Theresa

It's a year ago that you were taken away and it still hurts . I hope you  somehow know how much you meant to the people who knew you . You are never far from our thoughts . rest easy bro

Yesterday was your memorial and as sad as the church was, I felt you could see us. I miss you everyday still and yesterday was nice to feel close again. Your sister and Joseph are amazing people and your mom is in good hands. Christian is getting so big and I don't see him nearly enough. Hope you are in peace this Christmas and Ill see you some day,

Today we had a special memorial mass for you. All of your family and close friends were there to celebrate your life. Everyone had beautiful things to say and shared wonderful memories.   We love you Theresa

It is thanksgiving today and i am thankful for the time we had together love you theresa

Today is my 36th birthday.I went to court this morning and made sure I was there. No matter what Henry i will be your voice. I miss you terribly and my birthday wish would be to have you back not reality but I can wish and pray for justice. Love You Theresa

In our thoughts every day. Thanksgiving will not be the same without you watching football and enjoying your dinner.  We will not have any games on we just can not do it without you.  Our lives are forever changed and I look at things in life so different now. I really do not sweat the small stuff any more and I truly thank God for every day with my family. I just want to talk to my brother again.  xoxo Theresa

Henry its been over 11 months now watching christian grow up he misses you so much . we all miss you its like a dream every day that we wanna wake up and say its not true that your gone. we are your eyes and ears right now and we will always protect your image and remember the good person you were . your memories are with us your picture is on our fridge we will never forget you .

Miss ya bud! Always looked forward to catch up with you and todd when I came home for the holidays to see family. Its not the same without henry. Your sister holding everything down for your family you should be proud. Taken too soon bud! Miss ya my friend!

My heart is so heavy as we approach the holidays. I love you and think of you everyday. Your always on my mind. You were a gentle giant.  Taken from us way too soon. Your son Christian misses you so much. He is only 7 and should have never experienced this. You will always be my big brother....xoxo Theresa

I went to a wedding this weekend and my cousins that know you were there. It was a nice time listening to them go on about "what a great guy you were" , and "how funny" , but most of all , even people like my cousins who knew you briefly , knew you had a great heart, love you

Yesterday was your godsons 2nd birthday. We all were thinking of you and missing you of course.  Christian came over and spent time with us. We love you Henry

Not a day goes by that I do not think about you and the family and friends you've left behind.  Your two young sons will not know what it's like to grow up with a father, a friend, a coach, a mentor.  Your sister has turned into quite a woman.  It's a shame that it took this for us to reconnect after all these years.  You would be so very proud.  She will fight and see that you get the justice you so deserve.  This didn't have to happen.  You've left a lot of family and friends with an emptiness that will never be filled because you are gone.  All we have are memories.  Memories that I will personally cherish and hold near and dear to me.  I hope you know how special you were to me and I hope one day we will meet again.  xoxo Lisa

My heart is broken, and I have a hard time going on without you in my life. I miss my son with all my heart. I do not watch sports any more, I cant watch any games with out you. I will always love you and I think of you before I sleep and when I awake. Til we meet again rest in peace. `Love Mom

Praying for the justice you deserve. So many people love and miss you. I miss your silly laugh.  Mom is having the hardest time. We pray for your boys every night. We want to make sure they know how much you loved them. You never even got to see Jacob turn one.  You brought two handsome boys in this world and we are blessed for that.  We took Christian pumpkin picking this weekend and he put a mustache on his pumpkin we all smiled and new that was for you. I love you Henry and always will remember my big brother.

Don came up to visit and Darren sent a text that he was going to Washington , but how it felt weird without you, miss you

Henry its 10 months  think of u all the time. time will never heal the pain the family feels and justice will never bring u back . lifes really unfair sometimes . among your kids not growing up having a father my son will never know his uncle .  Miss you

Missing you.... Always thinking of what could have been. We were always there for each other. So sad, so sudden so unreal.

I sit here sometimes when I have no answers and you were the one I would call. I still want answers from you, I felt like you were one of the only people that understood me. I'm talking with your sister more, she is being very strong, you would be proud. Christian is a great kid, looking more like you.. Miss you henry

Happy 40th Hank! You were a true friend, and loved by my family! Wish we could have had one more beer together bud. Love, Matt and Davitt Family!

For some reason my last message didn't show. I stopped by your sister's to see your mom and her for your b'day. Your sister is being so strong, you would be proud, I am. Your mom looks well, I gave her a Redskins blanket and then went out with Darren , Kyle and Kenny. We loll miss and love you

We just want to thank everyone for the birthday prayers. It helped us get through a extremely hard day. It is so nice to hear wonderful things about 
Henry and how much he was loved. It is amazing how so many of you reached out to us after so many years as passed since he touched your lives.  That shows the power of friendship. We thank god for his life and for his friends support. Love Theresa Raftrey and family

Henry  cant celebrate your 40th birthday without you being here we all miss you and it doesnt feel real that your gone . i couldnt even face your mom today . being a parent now i can never imagine what shes going through right now. gone way 2 soon . love you

Henry, today would've been your 40th Birthday. It had been a few years since I had last seen you, but not a day goes by that I don't think about you. I went home to visit in June and every single time I passed by your house I couldn't help but to feel such anger and sadness. You were taken from your family and friends way too soon. You're in a better place, but your family and friends miss you immensely. I continue to pray that the right thing will be done and justice will be served. Your memory will live on through your beautiful children.   You will never be forgotten. Happy Birthday in Heaven! xoxo

9-29-1973    Happy 40th Birthday  You asr so missed and loved by all.

OBITUARY

Henry T. Raftrey

September 29, 1973 – December 17, 2012

Harmon Funeral Home

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