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Casey Funeral Home

350 Slosson Ave, Staten Island, NY

OBITUARY

Joseph F. Carrasco Jr.

August 18, 1948July 8, 2019
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Joseph F. Carrasco, Jr.,70, died on July 8, 2019. He is survived by his wife Patricia; two daughters, Stephanie (Anthony) Loscalzo and Pamela (Enrico) LoCascio; a sister Maryann (Andrew) Scalera; a sister-in-law Diane (Brian) Scanlon; brother-in-law John Campanelli; five grandchildren EJ, Annalise, Anthony, Joseph and Lila; as well as many nieces and nephews. Funeral from Casey Funeral Home, Castleton Corners, Mass Friday 9:30AM St. Teresa’s Church, interment Moravian Cemetery. Friends will be received Wednesday 7-9 PM and Thursday 4-8 PM.

A Eulogy to My Brother-In-Law Joe

It was just a couple of weeks ago when Diane and I were having dinner with Joe and Patricia that I told Joe I was putting together my Bucket List. I asked Joe if he had a Bucket List. He said “yes, I will get it and show it to you”. He went into his bedroom and came back and handed me a blank piece of paper. He said he had done everything in life that he wanted to do. This should come as no surprise to any of us. It is an understatement to say that Joe lived life to the fullest.

Joe identified his purpose in life at an early age. That purpose was to entertain and bring happiness to everyone that had the privilege of being in his company. Joe had various nicknames that reflect the many roles he played in our lives. Throughout his life he was affectionately referred to as “Junior” by his family and friends that grew up with him. To the Scalera children he was “Uncle Junior.” To the Scanlon and Campanelli children he was “Uncle Joe”. At his favorite hangout, the Surf Club, he was widely known by everyone as “Joe the Cop”. When he was entertaining us at parties and special occasions during the Elvis era he was “Joe the King”. Those that were impressed with his full head of jet black hair, (whether natural or dyed!) would refer to him as “Joe Bouff”. But the nicknames he most cherished were those his 5 grandchildren gave him including; “Papa”, or ”Pop” or “Papa Joe”. Joe’s love for E. J., Annalise, Anthony, Joe and Lila was unconditional and he sincerely loved them all equally. While Joe wanted his grandchildren to thrive at their many sports and activities, unlike many of us critical dads, he never dwelled on how well they performed. Rather, he just wanted them to “enjoy everything”. Joe loved and cared about Brian and Megan in the same way. I am so grateful they each had their own personal relationships with Uncle Joe.

Over the 45 years that I was so fortunate to have “a Brother from another Mother” Joe and I shared many cigars and glasses of wine in our back yards. We used those personal moments to address our concerns and problems. We vented and complained to each other mostly about “trivial” things, but we also discussed those things we were grateful for. Joe often expressed to me how he knew he was blessed to have married Patricia. He recognized and greatly appreciated, as do we all, that simply put, she is an “extraordinary person” in every way.

Joe was “so proud” of Stephanie and Pam and he would say “not just because they are both pretty like me”. When he spoke about his daughters he would often become very emotional. He would say that although Stephanie and Pam were different in many ways, both were loving daughters, wives and mothers.

Joe was not a typical father-in-law. Like all fathers- in- law he could be critical of his sons–in –law! However, I can say without any reservation, he deeply loved Anthony and Rico. They were two of his best friends and he told me he was very content knowing that both of them would always take care of his daughters and grandchildren.

Joe loved attention! But not because he was conceited or egotistical. He wanted your attention so that he could turn it around and entertain you. For a guy that was the most handsome man in every room he ever walked into, NEVER did you hear Joe brag about himself! Joe’s happiness was truly measured by how happy he could make you. He believed it was his “responsibility” to make sure that you were enjoying yourself whenever you were in his company. And as we all know, we expected Joe to “get the party going”. Whether it was family or friends hosting a party, holiday, or special occasion, Joe was expected to “run the show”. It would start with Joe buying a “new outfit” for each and every occasion. Literally, 2 months before Annalise’s Graduation Party, Joe wanted to know what I was going to wear. I think my choice in attire often disappointed him. Next, he would ask us which songs we wanted him to sing. I found this ironic since he always sang the same 4 songs: Elvis- Suspicious Minds, Neil Diamond – Sweet Caroline, Tom Jones – It’s Not Unusual and Ricky Martin- Livin La Vida Loca. Recently, he added the song Shallow, since he was obsessed with Lady Gaga and more so with Bradley Cooper! As Stephanie said the other day in trying to lighten the moment, “Our parties are going to suck now!”

Thanksgiving Weekend is particularly special to our extended Family. It’s many traditions started decades ago when the Carrasco, Scalera and Campanelli families were joined together. Today it is “the holiday” that we all make sure we celebrate together. And while the menu is vast with the same exact food items every year, Joe and Diane actually schedule a day, months in advance, to go over their “lists”. Diane will always try to slip in a new dish and Joe will respectfully nix it. Joe would never allow you to break tradition. And of course the highlight food item is always Aunt Margie’s stuffing which Joe made every year. In fact, two years ago Megan actually filmed Joe making the stuffing, which Joe took very seriously. Of course, he bought a new outfit to wear for the video, including a professional style apron. Four hours later, after many retakes, we now have a video to pass down to the next generation.

For Joe, eating meals was a major social event. If you were going to spend a day with Joe, the night before he would call you and ask you where you wanted to go for breakfast the next day. Immediately after breakfast, he would ask “Where do you want to go for lunch?” During lunch he would ask you “where do you want to go for dinner?” However, Joe ALWAYS chose the restaurant for dinner. He would respectfully ask you for a suggestion but tactfully sway you to the Italian restaurant he really wanted to go to. I would often suggest a restaurant I knew he would reject just to irritate him a bit.

Joe had strong convictions of right and wrong. He was proud of his Catholic faith and often told biblical stories to his grandchildren. However, these stories would include a comical “Joe Carrasco flair” that portrayed the stories in a manner that did not “exactly” send the intended message of the proverb. While Patricia would have preferred Joe to attend church more consistently, Joe said he and God had a “special arrangement.” I don’t doubt it.

I can only hope heaven is ready for Joe Carrasco. I am sure Smitty, Georgie and some of the other West Brighton crew are preparing the welcoming celebration for Joe. They better stock up on Barolo and Marie Brizard!

While Joe has left an irreplaceable void in our close Family, we will make him proud as we move forward together in his honor. God bless you Joe. I love You Always, Brian

Services

  • Visitation Wednesday, July 10, 2019
  • Visitation Thursday, July 11, 2019
  • Funeral Service Friday, July 12, 2019
  • Committal Service Friday, July 12, 2019

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Victoria Davis

July 11, 2019

Patricia, i feel so sorry and sad for you, your daughters and your family... ,i just heard about Joe's passing,,,so unexpected,,,i will keep you all in my prayers...we have such fond memories of Jr.....John and i had tears in our eyes tonight just talking about old times and days gone by remembering him from years ago..,,,,,wish we could give you hug and extend some comfort to you,,,the support of your family will get you through the hard days ahead,,,so sad,,,support each other,,,my sympathy to Stephanie and Pamela..so sorry about you father,,,,he loved you all so dearly,,,,Vicky and John Davis

Stephanie Dolan

July 11, 2019

Many, many hearts are broken over the loss of our beloved Joe. I have never met someone so devoted to his family and friends, and who had such a love of life, especially when it came to food , wine, and being surrounded by those he loved. His energy was infectious, as was his happiness at any gathering, big or small. I had the true privilege to know Joe for more than a few years, and I will cherish the time I spent in his company, as it was one of the most special relationships I’ve ever had. My husband , Michael , was also lucky enough to have met Joe, and loved him from the moment they sat down to talk Italian food. That is the the Joe we will remember and love forever more.❤️

Jose Antonio Ames

July 11, 2019

My wife Karina Carrasco-Ames and me, Jose A. Ames, were very sad to hear about such a big loss, we will never forget his smile, the great person he was, his wonderful kindness that is an example to all, what a gentleman, we will never forget him, since I met him in 2006 at Calvin Klein he has always been the same kind person every single day, it was an honor to have been working with Joe, he will be missed by all of us.
Our deepest condolences and heartfelt sympathy to all in his family.
Jose A. Ames
Karina Carrasco-Ames

Nita Fitzpatrick

July 11, 2019

I know a lot of people in CKI will truly miss Joe, including myself. He touches so many people with his kindness and smiles. I’ve known Joe as long I been been working in CK. We go back since Mr. Klein days and he was just a descent and giving human being. He called me “Ni” short for my nickname. I will miss that.

Stephanie LaTesta-Barr

July 10, 2019

What an amazing man Junior was! He was the 'cool' cousin; the 'life of the party'. He would always make others laugh. What a wonderful quality. He will truly be missed. My heartfelt sympathy to Patricia, Stephanie, Pam, Diane, Brian, and their families.

Keep 'em laughing in Heaven, Joe!

Love you all!
- Cousin Stef

Sylvia DeFazio Frenette

July 10, 2019

So very sad to hear...such wonderful memories growing up, with Junior, Josie, Uncle Dutch, and my cousin Toni. Summers at Palisades amusement park, where we went every summer, in the 60,'s. Junior would go on the rides with me and Toni, and we both had the biggest crush on him. Rest easy, Jr, and give Mom and Uncle Dutch a hug from me and Toni...

Julie Campanelli

July 9, 2019

Uncle Joe was the light of every room. I’ll never forget someone who always turned my frowns into smiles. I love you forever. Rest in sweetest peace.

Bob Siemer

July 9, 2019

Joe (Junior) was one of the "good guys". He was a long time friend. He was always a gentleman. I would think that he was a good husband, father and grandfather as he always talked about his family with me. He will be missed but fondly remembered. RIP "Junior".

Gary and Gina Johnson

July 9, 2019

We are overwhelmed with sadness on the passing of our good friend Joe. Years of fun times and his wonderful sense of humor will remain in our hearts forever. We are praying for you and your family. God's love and grace are always with you. Our deepest sympathy to Pat, Stephanie, Pam and their families.
Love Gina and Gary Johnson

James and Maura Hotchkiss

July 9, 2019

The last time I saw Junior was at Brian Jr's wedding and the memory I have when I think of him is a gentleman of ageless grace.

The last time I saw him was the first time I saw him in over 20 years, and he made me feel that no time had passed, rather than two decades since we last spoke. Then and always, he made me feel like family. He was always so easy going, friendly, and nice and the world is now a much sadder place without him .

Junior, you will be missed by everyone that ever met you and called you a friend.

My deepest condolences to Patricia and family.

James

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