The Settegast-Kopf Company @ Sugar Creek

15015 Southwest Fwy, Sugar Land, TX


Alma "A.J." Jean Smith Oates

September 18, 1924May 1, 2020

AJ went peacefully to be with her Lord May 1, 2020 with her daughter by her side. AJ was born in Houston on Sept. 18, 1924 to EH and Alma Smith. She graduated from Lamar High School. Working at Humble Oil she met her husband Wallace. She is a charter member of SW Bible Fellowship, now First Colony Bible Chapel. She was a loving mother and 2nd mom to many. She loved to travel and was active in Christian Womens and Delphins. She is preceded in death by Wallace and her brothers Eugene Hudson and WA Smith. She is survived by her daughter, Carolyn Oates. Nephew, Bill Smith, Nieces, Marybeth Smith and Jan Tucker, nephew Bill Smith, and grand nephews Jeff and Cameron Smith. Visitation will be held at The Settegast-Kopf Co. @ Sugar Creek on Wednesday, May 6, 2020 from 5 P.M.-8 P.M. Graveside services will be held on Thursday, May 7, 2020 at Forest Park Lawndale at 11:00 A.M. Tribute and or words of condolence can be left at www.settegastkopf.com. A Memorial Service Will be held On May 16, 2020 at First Colony Bible Chapel 3610 Austin Parkway Sugar Land, Texas. At 2:00 PM However , if you are unable to attend in person, text or E mail Barbara, at the number below. John and Barbara Tillery jandbtillery@gmail.com 360-5089560


  • Visitation

    Wednesday, May 6, 2020

  • Memorial Service

    Saturday, May 16, 2020


Alma "A.J." Jean Smith Oates

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Sarah Cocking

May 19, 2020

Mrs. Oates came to my apartment for dinner once. She brought croissants. She reminded me so much of my grandmother. She was a very kind lady.

Katherine Oates Cronin

May 19, 2020

I was blessed to have Alma Jean as my Aunt. She was such a kind person. I have so many wonderful memories of her, Uncle Wally and Carolyn from both my childhood and as an adult. I can still hear her wonderful laugh! She had such a wonderful sense of humor and I enjoyed listening to her share with me many of her adventures over the years. I love you Alma Jean and you will be in my heart always.

Janet Smith Tucker

May 17, 2020

My dear sweet Aunt AJ. You spent your first Mother's Day with your mother in Heaven! My fondest memories of you are spending the summers with you. Marybeth and I would get on the train from Ponca City and you would pick us up. Many good memories at Rockport at the bay house. Sailing with Carolyn, swimming and riding bikes to "The Big Tree". And Galveston trips to watch the shrimp boats and eat at Guido's. You and Uncle Wally gave me my love of the water and for fishing which came in real handy since I married Bill. You helped build our kitchen in Coaldale and bought me my first piece turquoise.
I look forward to the day we will all be in the presence of our Lord and Saviour.

Marybeth Smith

May 11, 2020

I remember summer vacations at Rockport, going to the beach at Galveston and eating fried shrimp at Gaido’s.
We shared the same birthday, love of chocolate and cats.
So happy she is at rest from her earthly trials and is rejoicing in Heaven with her Lord and Savior.

Barbara Miller

May 8, 2020

I knew Alma Jean from our days in Christian Womens Club back in the 90's. A.J. was a kind, sweet, caring Christian woman whom I was privileged to know during my days in CWC when we met at the Hilton Westchase and later Pine Forest Country Club. My condolences to you, Carolyn, and all her nieces and nephews.

Betty Smith

May 7, 2020

I remember forgetting AJ was a relative since I considered her a friend. I don't remember the incident exactly but I remember being surprised that I had forgotten she was also a relative.
She was also fun to be with and helped me.... she brought several children to my house and helped with a weekly Bible lesson which often included 35 children when I lived in Houston. I'm glad we will be together in heaven with the Lord. She was always so realistic yet encouraging with her words.

Mary Kay Green

May 7, 2020

I knew Alma Jean through my mother Inez Beneke Green and uncle Frank Beneke, Jr. When asked, she graciously agreed to be a witness in the probating of my uncle’s will. She was the person you were always happy to see, no matter what the occasion. Thank you for sharing her with all the rest of us. Please know that those things that may make you feel sad now will one day come to warm your heart. My sincerest condolences since I cannot be there with you today.
Mary Kay Green

Debbie Moran

May 6, 2020

She most certainly was a second mom to our group of friends. I feel privileged to have had some visits with her at this time of her life and appreciate her friendship and Carolyn's. Carolyn, we will be your second family. You were a fantastic daughter watching over your mom.

Barbara Tillery

May 6, 2020

Dear Carolyn,
How John and I wish we had been given the chance to get to know your Mom better. Three years is definitely not enough time! However, it was enough time to appreciate and treasure her for the godly woman she was. She was always a vital presence at the chapel and any event we had. May you rest in the knowledge of her love for you and that she is now in heaven!
God bless,

Nancy Sprague

May 6, 2020

Dear Carolyn, Alma will be missed. She was full of life and love of people. Remembering all the happy times with you and your mom
around the table, eating talking and playing games for hours.


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