Robert F. Porter

It is with deep sadness that our beloved Robert F. Porter passed peacefully from this life at home in his loving wife’s arms on December 18th 2020. His memory will forever be cherished by his loving wife Olive. Robert was born in Brooklyn, NY and raised in Mahopac, NY. son of the late Robert Oren Porter & Pauline (Lightfoot) Porter.

Robert honorably served in the United States Navy attending Navy Nuclear Power School in 1980. In 1981 he qualified & certified in submarine construction & operations. During his career he had a unique insight into the considerations and engineering factors with ship deployments, casualties at sea, equipment maintenance, repair considerations, and crew training. Robert served on submarine USS Sea Devil SSN 664 during the cold war, receiving commendations from commanding Officer for his diligence and devotion to duty. Following his honorable discharge in 1984 Robert returned home from service to attend and graduate from Southern Illinois University B.S Industrial Technology. Robert was an accomplished Senior Marine Engineer with over 25 years with Naval Vessels, Military Auxiliary Vessels and Oil Industry Offshore Support Vessels supporting the US Navy and National Security. He provided electrical engineering support to the Navy PMS 400D Program Office, Navy Surface Warfare Center/Carderrock Detachment and the National Oceanic and Atmospheric Administration as well as well as receiving multiple awards including outstanding contributions to Strategic Sealift Design Team. Robert also provided support at the Washington DC Navy Yard to the Military Sealift Command Electrical Engineering. After his long career supporting Navy & National Security, Robert retired in 2018.

Robert married the love of his life Olive and they shared 22 happy years together.

Robert’s distinct personality and warm smiles were familiar to all who knew him. His jovial spirit, love of life, friends and family lives within all of us. Robert continued to enrich the lives of everyone he touched, and sharing his love of travel, music, mountain biking, hiking, and Vineyard Management. He was also an avid European car buff. He is beloved for his generous spirit that he shared with the world, and the deep and abiding love he held for his wife, family, friends & his Irish heritage. Robert loved world travel; and a had special place in his heart for Ireland, where so many happy memories were made.

Left to cherish his memory is his wife Olive; Robert, you are forever in our hearts and the bond of love will be unbroken for all eternity.

Robert is survived by his sisters Elizabeth D’Alessandro (NC) and husband Nick Leslie Friscia (CT) and brothers Richard Porter (Florida) & Thomas Porter (CA) His brother-in-laws James Fox, (VA) Patrick Fox,(England) Brendan Fox,(England) Gerald Fox, (Ireland) sister in laws, Anne Crossan, (England) Ann Fox, (England) Dawn Fox (VA) Anne Fox (Ireland) Beloved nieces Sarah Crossan, (England,) Katie Fox, (England) Jennifer Friscia (MA) Justine Porter (VA) and nephews Alan Richard & Daniel Crossan, (England) Liam Fox (England), Mark Fox, (Dublin) Karl Fox (Dublin) James Friscia (CT), Luke, Scott & William Porter, Michael D’Alessandro (NY) Cousins Angela Walsh, Tony, Seamus & Oliver Kenny, and many other close friends & relatives.

Due to Covid 19 Funeral & Memorial Services will be held at a later date.

Roberts final resting place will be in Ireland.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations be made to The Fisher House Foundation.

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Pat & Ann Fox

March 17, 2021

Farewell Lovely Man
Rest In Peace

James Fox

February 2, 2021

Bob was more than my brother in law, he was my good friend. He was a  generous man with a warm heart, he always had a kind word for everyone. I have wonderful memories of the times we spent together. Bob had a curious mind.  He and I enjoyed sharing life insights, we didn't always agree but we never let our differences affect our friendship. Bob had a great sense of humor, he fondly called me Fox and I fondly called him Porter.  He loved a good laugh, he especially enjoyed a good Irish joke and over the years I told him a few good ones. I have so many wonderful memories of Bob but one in particular sticks out. I was out in Sedona visiting Bob and Olive and on a freezing cold, snowy December night Olive decided we should both accompany her to a Tango dance class in Flagstaff, AZ.  Neither he or I were keen on going out in the weather but we did anyway and it turned into a really fun evening especially for Bob. He spent most of the class laughing his head off as he watched me step on the teachers and my various dance partner's feet as they tried so hard to show me how to dance the Tango. I never did learn but we had a lot of fun that night. I think we were both relieved when it was all over.  I could not have had a better brother in law. I will miss you Bob, but my fond memories of you I will cherish forever.  

Kathryn Maine

January 31, 2021

My husband and I met Robert and Olive a year ago at Fisher House in West Los Angeles. My husband Max was receiving treatment at the VA hospital so was Robert. We actually met in the dining room at Fisher House where we gathered for our meals and visited while eating. Robert was a pleasant man with a beautiful smile and a twinkle in his eye when he looked at Olive, you could see how much he loved her even though he said nothing. He’s a gentleman and Veteran you’ll be greatly missed....

Lynne Jay

January 26, 2021

My name is Lynne Jay and I want to express my deepest condolences to you, Olive. There are no words that can take away your loss and sorrow. I hope you can find comfort in knowing that I truly considered Bob a great friend and colleague.

Bob was a smart, kind, generous person with a terrific sense of humor. I can't even begin to tell you how sad I was when I learned that he had passed. He will truly be missed by me and all of the rest of us who had the great privilege of working with him.

Rest in peace my wonderful friend, Bob.

Rob Dunn

January 18, 2021

May God give you continued strength & courage during your time of bereavement Olive. It is impossible to know the depths of your grief & sorrow. Take comfort in knowing that you loved a man who served his God, his country, and his family. Bob's love for you was evident by the light in his eyes whenever he looked at you. He was so proud of you, your bravery & tireless encouragement as you battled his health challenges together. You lived every moment with love, devotion & kindness for each other. Bob was a man that I am honored to call my friend. He displayed courage, strength & commitment & his warm personality evoked lasting friendships.  
At this time of disbelief & sorrow you yourself have risen above all the challenges of Roberts passing during a worldwide pandemic with courage, grace, dignity & strength.  
I hope that you can find comfort knowing that he is home now rejoicing in the heavens. Knowing Bob he will be watching over you & protecting you !  

“Those we love don’t go away, They walk beside us every day, unseen, unheard, but always near, Still loved, still missed and very dear.” 

Rosalyn Ben

January 16, 2021

Hi, my name is Rosalyn Ben. I, my husband, and Son met Mr. Bob and Ms. Olive at the Fisher House in West Los Angeles California. It is a moment that will be forever etched in my mind. The light of Jesus Christ in their lives was evident and bright as the noonday sun. When his wife Olive told me of his passing, it was comforting for me to know that he was with our Lord and I would see him again one day. Although he and his wife were busy, they were never too busy to stop, pray, and share loving and kind words of encouragement. It was rare to see one without the other. When the name of Jesus was mentioned, an indescribable joy would flood Bob’s spirit and show up in his eyes, (sometimes to the point of tears), and in his gentle yet contagious smile. Bob and his wife Olive will never be forgotten by my family and I. I mention the two of them because they were truly one. Bob was easy to love, I feel privileged to have known him, and I will forever miss his tangible presence.

Mike & Carla Williams

January 13, 2021

Our deepest condolences to you our dear friend Olive on the loss of your beloved husband Bob.

Words cannot express how much Bob meant to Mike & I. His departure from this world is a great loss and leaves a tremendous void for those who loved him.
Both you and Bob are rare, loyal, true & trusted friends that we could depend on in a time of need. We are grateful to have shared this special friendship with you both.
Bob and Olive were also a charming couple who loved each other very much and they had sincerity, vision and a mature approach to the challenges they faced.
Our time spent together, our many trips shared were always filled with fun & laughter. Bobs great smile that could “light up a room” will never be forgotten. Our visits throughout the years will remain in our hearts forever.

Bob you lived a life filled with courage and integrity. We commend you for that. We are saddened that a great man like you, so brave, so full of life, with a vibrant entrepreneurial spirit and so much to give to the world is taken from us so young.
All that you were remains enshrined in our hearts and our memory .

Again Olive, Mike and I wish to express our deepest sympathy in the great loss of your beloved husband and our cherished friend Bob.

We mourn with you and can only hope that in someway your heartache and grief may be lightened by the commiseration of so many of your friends and family who share a strong sense of personal loss as well.

Bob “May God hold you in the palm of His hand” until we meet again.

Erma Mickens

January 6, 2021

Where do I begin, with all of the memories of our dearly departed and beloved friend Bob.

I first met Robert and Olive a few years back when they became guests at the Greater Los Angeles Fisher House. From the moment we met I can honestly say it was a genuine connection of true friendship and bond.

No matter the reason, need, or question Robert and Olive were very supportive to the entire Fisher House staff, family, friends, visitors and anyone interested in being a part of our greater mission and serving our nation heroes and keeping their family safe.

Our home away from home facility was honored to serve and provide lodging every time our friends needed a safe place to reside, even in the mist of this pandemic Fisher House has been supportive in this lovely family‘s health care journey.

The honesty, love, and support this family has showed to me personally and to our entire Fisher House family crew has been exceptional and I’m glad to say that I had a chance to get to know Bob and his lovely wife Olive they made a huge difference in my daily work life and in my bond with friends. It seems like just yesterday we were having our Derby Day Celebration for our Annual Fisher House Anniversary. We were all sitting around the table saying a prayer breaking bread and showing each other genuine consideration.

I will miss his candid nature and his generous spirit, I remember our lunch outings and market runs with good lovely wife. These were small yet cherished memories Of love and friendship.

Olive, may God bless you and keep you I am always a phone call or a text message away. I love you and I send you my heartfelt condolences.

Brendan Fox

January 3, 2021

It is with great sadness that we learned of Bob's passing on 18th December 2020. Bob was a wonderful husband to my sister Olive and they shared 22 Happy years together. He was a kind, softly spoken, intelligent and incredibly brave man as he battled his illness over the last few years. I have fond memories of our time together in Ireland when I tried to persuade him that Guinness was a better drink than an average lager. He had a lovely smile and remained upbeat and positive throughout his illness. Olive has cared for, loved and worked tirelessly to make Bob as comfortable as possible and our thoughts are with her as well as Bob's family at this time.
Brendan, Iris, Liam and Katie.

Mykael Badon

January 2, 2021

Mr. Bob always greeted me with the sweetest, most genuine smile. He held a manner of respect that you just cant come across very often anymore. I will always appreciate and remember how he never treated me like "the help" at Fisher House. He and Ms. Olives's presence at Fisher House was always a beacon light. I enjoyed seeing them every time they had to come through no matter the circumstances - as tough as they were. Mr. Bob was a fighter, his strength radiated from his person, it was inspiring. I hope that one day I am so lucky to find the type of love he and Ms. Olive shared. It was beautiful, passionate, and undeniable. I will miss him dearly