OBITUARY

Krystyna S. (Kasprzyk) Tabor

March 15, 1943June 9, 2018
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Krystyna Tabor resident of Surprise, AZ formerly of Chicago, IL

Blessed Beginning March 15, 1943 Met the Lord on June 9, 2018

Krystyna was born in Tarnow, Poland on March 15, 1943. She met then married the love of her life, Edward, on November 21, 1963. They had a daughter, Lilla, the following year. In Jan 1967 the family moved to Chicago where Krystyna continued to be a working mom. Edward and Krystyna later welcomed two more daughters: Violeta in 1968 and Agatha in 1974. Krystyna became an American citizen in 1986. Krystyna was an inspirational woman to everyone who knew her. Her courage, love, and compassion have not been equaled. She was an avid reader and especially enjoyed mysteries and Agatha Christie novels. She enjoyed travelling with her family and friends and loved to explore new places with her endless curiosity of the world. Once retired, she, Edward and Agatha moved to Surprise, Arizona in 2002. Krystyna frequented the many art festivals in the Phoenix area. Her love of travel continued and included many cruises to places as varied as Hawaii, the Caribbean, Alaska, and the Panama Canal. She also enjoyed showing her grandchildren the Grand Canyon and was able to visit Bryce Canyon with Edward, her daughter Agatha and son-in-law Travis in 2017.

She will be sadly missed by her husband, Edward Tabor, her daughters, Lilla Tischler, Violette Bernauer, and Agatha Stedman, her sons-in-law, Steve Tischler, David Bernauer Sr, and Travis Stedman as well as her grandchildren, Victoria and Lucas Tischler, and David Bernauer Jr. She also adored her grand-dog, Dobbie, who often visited. She was predeceased by her grandchildren Brian and Joshua Bernauer.

The visitation for Krystyna will be held on Friday, June 15 at Surprise Funeral Home 16063 W. Bell Road from 5-9pm. A mass will be held on Saturday, June 16 at St. Clare of Assisi Catholic Church 17111 W. Bell Road at 10 am immediately followed by an entombment at Holy Cross Cemetery 10045 W. Thomas Rd, Avondale, AZ. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in her honor to the Arizona ALS Foundation https://secure2.convio.net/alsa/site/Donation2;jsessionid=00000000.app278b?df_id=34440&34440.donation=form1&NONCE_TOKEN=5B741C54BABB34593BF478183698D2DC

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  • Visitation Friday, June 15, 2018
  • Rosary Friday, June 15, 2018
  • Funeral Mass Saturday, June 16, 2018
  • Entombment Saturday, June 16, 2018
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Biography

I was born Krystyna Kasprzyk in Tarnow, Poland. The saying, "It takes a village to raise a child" certainly applied to me. I was raised not only by my mother but also my Babcia, my aunts, and occasionally with the help of the government. I did not have a carefree fun-filled childhood. Instead, I was raised in a hard-working but poor extended family that consisted of aunts, uncles, and cousins all living in crowded quarters. I shared some stories of my childhood with my three daughters.

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Violette: I remember hearing stories about Dachau and family member’s experiences there. Hearing these stories from my mom gave me a real appreciation for the struggles people faced during the war. Mom also told me stories about playing in the schoolyard and I particularly remember a story about one of her friends laughing so hard she began to fart.

I had a lifelong love of learning: my favorite subject was history. As a girl, I enjoyed a physical activity like playing games with my friends and playing sports like soccer. I continued my education in the U.S. at Triton College where I studied engineering.

When I came to the U.S. in 1967 with my husband, Ed, and toddler I did not speak English. Most people were friendly and helpful while others were less tolerant. I used to read cheesy romance novels to help me learn English since they are written on a lower reading level. My in-laws already lived in the U.S. along with some of their relatives. Being in Chicago, there was a large Polish community. We made many friends that shared our history and language. I became best friends with Kathy, Ed’s cousin. We stayed in touch for the rest of my life.

Violette: Mom used her incredible strength and bravery to flourish in her family's new life in the US. She told stories about trying to shop and make her way. I remember her telling me about looking at a pair of shoes in a store window. The salesman in the shop looked at her and gestured toward the shoes. She indicated to him that she did not speak English, but he told her to come in and kindly helped her. That story showed me how an act of kindness could stay with a person. I often think of that story when faced with a situation where I can choose to be kind to a stranger.

In 1968 Violette was born. We lived in Chicago. When she was older the four of us would take walks after dinner. Sometimes we would walk to the Benjamin Franklin dime store or get some ice cream at Baskin Robbins. Both Ed and I worked a variety of blue collar jobs. At one point, I tried home party jewelry sales to make extra money. The extra jobs also allowed our family to always take a vacation together. We often went to Florida – always a road trip, sometimes packed into the car shoulder to shoulder or without air conditioning. One year we traveled out west to see the Rockies and Yellowstone Park. The five of us had a great time hiking in the mountains and seeing all sorts of interesting animals as well as the famous geysers. In 1978 we were able to take Lilla and Violette to visit Poland. I was able to spend time visiting my family: my mom, my cousins, and their families. I showed the girls beautiful churches and cathedrals, the town where I grew up which still had brick roads, castles, salt mines, centuries-old architecture, and natural attractions. We visited Niagara Falls, Arkansas, Las Vegas, and Wisconsin Dells. For our 20th anniversary, Ed and I celebrated by going to Hawaii. We had a wonderful time and Hawaii is so beautiful. Once Lilla and Violette were out of the house, we began to take cruises with Aggie. Aggie, please add some detail

Violette: Aggie was born in July 1974. Mom now had three daughters. She was the perfect mom for girls. She had a great sense of fashion and style. She always dressed impeccably and never left the house unless she looked beautiful.
I worked in quality control for a number of different employers, but family and friends were my true passions. It was tiring, but I sometimes worked more than one job to ensure that my daughters were able to go to college and achieve a higher standard of living than I had. No matter how busy Ed or I got we made sure that our family had home cooked healthy meals. When my girls lived at home, they ate well and maintained their figures. I introduced them to many Polish favorites like golabki and pierogi. Along with Polish foods, we continued many Polish traditions like getting our Easter baskets blessed, Śmigus Dyngus, sharing an oplatek, and setting an extra place at our Christmas Eve table.

Violette: Because of her difficult childhood, mom was able to show empathy and understanding. She was a strict but compassionate mom. After prom, I was in a car accident and broke my nose. I remember waking up the following morning and noticing that my nose was crooked. Not wanting to look in the mirror, I went downstairs to ask mom if my suspicion was true. Mom says, “Let me see,” then grabs my nose and re-breaks it before I knew what hit me. Then she yells for me to hold it in place! Unfortunately, this was not the only time she would visit me in the hospital, but she was always a strong and loving supporter. In hindsight, those visits must have been incredibly difficult for her, but she rarely wavered.

In 1996, my first grandchild, Victoria, was born. I loved being a "Babcia" and spoiling my granddaughter with adorable outfits, chocolate, and love. In 2000 I became Babcia to two boys, Lucas and David Jr. These were my first boys! I spoiled them just as much as I spoiled Victoria.

In 2002, Ed was able to retire and we moved to Arizona along with Aggie. Now my grandchildren were able to visit and I had all day to spend with them. Everyone was able to swim in the pool, tour the Grand Canyon, and visit other local attractions. Ed and I were able to enjoy on cruises. We visited Alaska, the Panama Canal, Hawaii, and the Caribbean. We made lots of new friends and went out to dinner, movies, and coffee. We ladies also went to local art and wine festivals, out for breakfast, and met for coffee weekly.
Retirement also gave me a chance to pursue some hobbies. I began collecting dolls. I never had a nice doll growing up, so these dolls meant a lot to me. I also collected some Lladro figurines. I loved to go shopping or at least window shopping. Shopping with my girls and going out to lunch was one of the highlights of them reaching adulthood. I also had more time for reading. I got a library card and enjoyed checking books out of the library.

Aggie: For as long as I can remember, Mom had a real sweet tooth. She always had room for dessert. Sometimes, she would claim that she was too full to finish her dinner, yet she was always able to fit in some sweet treat. Of course, if you confronted her (jokingly, of course) about it, she would deny it. Napoleons were one of her favorite desserts, and cookies, and pie, and chocolates, and candied fruit. It was a good thing that she was wonderful at baking! She was always treating us to homemade cookies, cakes, or coffee cake.

For our 50th anniversary, the whole family went on a cruise to the Caribbean. We were able to renew our vows with the ship’s captain officiating the ceremony. We had dinner as a family every night: my daughters, sons-in-law, and grandchildren. The cruise had something for everyone: swimming, gambling, eating, trivia contests, teen retreat, with crafts.

When David Jr was in 6th grade he did a Life Inteview with me. I thought it would be nice to include it here.

Life Interview Questions – Childhood

1. In what country were you born? Poland
What city? Tarnow (pronounced tar-nuv) in the southern part of Poland

2. Why were you given the 1st and middle names that you have?
My uncle gave me my 1st name. My middle name is my godmother’s. It is a Polish tradition to have your middle name be the name of your godmother or father.

3. Can you describe the neighborhood you grew up in?
Tarnow is a big city more than a “neighborhood,” so people were busier. There were no neighborhood get-togethers or BBQ’s. We mostly socialized with our family. I also grew up during the reconstruction after the war, so there was a lot of damage to buildings and roads. We did not have single-family homes. Everyone lived in apartment homes. Europe is much older than the US and Tarnow still had brick streets.

4. How did your family earn money? What type of jobs did they have?
The men in the family worked outside the home in mostly factory jobs. The women in my family took care of the household and the children. Some of the women took jobs doing laundry or cleaning for the wealthier people.

How did your family compare to other families in the neighborhood? Richer? Poorer? The same?
The section of the city where I lived was a poor section of town. Everyone was poor.

5. What kinds of things did your family spend money on?
Most of the money we earned was spent on bills, food, and clothing. There was not a lot left over.

6. What were you like as a child?
I was tomboyish
What did you like to eat?
Ice cream was a big treat
What did you do for fun?
Played games like Hide and Go Seek

What were your favorite toys or games?
I did not have any toys
What did you wear?
I wore dresses and Chuck Taylor type shoes
Did you have a secret place or favorite hiding spot?
No

7. What kind of school did you go to? Were you a good student?
I went to a lot of different schools. I was a good student
What was your favorite subject?
History
What was your least favorite subject?
Russian
Who was your favorite teacher and why?
My History teacher. She really knew how to make learning history interesting and fun.

8. Did you have any heroes or role models when you were a child?
Nope

9. How did your family celebrate holidays – Christmas, Easter, New Years? Did lots of relatives get together?
Lots of relatives got together. We would all gather at my grandmother’s house.
What traditions did you have year after year?
We had Christmas Eve dinner as a family. We would break blessed host and tell everyone our wishes for them in the coming year.
On Easter we would have breakfast together and then go to church.
What food was served?
Christmas Eve – no meat only fish. Fruits like oranges
Easter – Sausage, ham, and eggs

10. What was the best gift you remember receiving as a child?
We were too poor. I do not remember getting any gifts.

11. What big world events do you remember from the time you were growing up?
I remember when Joseph Stalin died because my uncle was let out of jail with the other political prisoners.

12. When you were a teenager, what did you do for fun?
Going to the movies was a real treat.
Did you have a favorite spot to “hang out?”
By the movie theater
What time did you have to be home at night?
10 o’clock pm
Did you ever get into any trouble?
Uh, I don’t think so, no
Where there any phrases that were popular when you were a teenager?
No, just one. Young good looking girls were called, “Babka” which means old lady.
What did you like to wear?
I wore whatever I had. I had only a couple of dresses


Life Interview Questions – Adulthood, Identity
1. What was your first job?
In an office as a mail girl
What did you like or not like about it?
I liked meeting a lot of people. There was not too much that I did not like about it.

2. How did you meet your spouse? What did you like about him?
I met him in a club while out dancing with my friends. I liked his eyes.

3. When did you get married? How old were you? Where did you get married? What was your wedding like?
Married on November 21, 1963. I was 20 years old. We had a very small wedding with only our parents as witnesses. We were married in Moczczenica (Mosh-tsa-nitsa).

4. What makes your spouse special or unique?
Well, because he is nice.

5. What’s your favorite story about each of your children?
Lilla- She was so happy every time she got a new sister.

Violette- A boy named Kenny was bullying her older sister. One day when she was about 6, she picked up a stick and “beat the crap” out of him.

Aggie- When she was little, she really liked cake. I made a cake for the school bake sale. When we went to the parent-teacher conference she begged in front of the teacher, “Can we go by that cake because we have NOTHING to eat at home.”

6. What is something funny or embarrassing one of your children said at an early age that you’ll never forget?
When Violette was in Poland with us at 10 years old we were in a store. It is not customary to shave your legs in Europe. Violette looked at a saleswoman and said, “Look at that woman, she is such a pig, she did not even shave her legs!”

7. How did you feel about raising your children? What was the best part?
The best part about raising my children was that they turned out to be smart, beautiful, and loveable.
What was the hardest part?
The hardest part was having to go to work.
What makes you proud of your children?
They grew up to be good people.

8. What is the best thing about being a parent?
Watching children grow and learn and then having grandchildren.
What is the best thing about being a grandparent?
Being able to tell my daughters, “I told you so.”

9. What is your favorite book and why?
Any Agatha Christie mystery novels because I love mysteries.
What is your favorite movie and why?
South Pacific – I love musicals

10. What have been the three biggest news events during your lifetime and why?
1. Stalin dying because part of communism fell.

2. Finding out that we were going to America

3. When you (David) were born. After your mother lost your 2 brothers, I did not know if I would have any more grandchildren. You were a miracle.

11. If you won $1million tomorrow, what would you do with the money?
Help my children. I would help hungry people in America. There are so many people just at our local food bank that need help.


Life Interview Questions – The Present, Aging, Life Lessons, and Legacies
1. Who do you trust and depend on?
Dziadus

2. What do you remember about your 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, & 60’s? what events stand out in your mind? How was each age different from the one before it?

20’s – coming to America
30’s – having my youngest child
40’s - getting my citizenship
50’s – my grandchildren being born
60’s – retiring

How was each different? I got older (ha ha) I got smarter and wiser.

3. What is your most cherished family tradition? Why is it important?
Always Christmas Eve. Christmas Eve has always been a special tradition for my family.

4. Are there times of your life that you remember more vividly than others? Why?
Right now because it’s happening hee hee. I remember my 1st years in the USA because it was such a change. There was a huge amount of learning and making new friends and meeting new people.

5. What have been the most influential experiences in your life?
Owning my first house. Since I grew up poor, it was the first thing that I felt was really mine.

6. How do you define a “good life” or a “successful life”?
Smart children who were never in trouble

7. If you had the power to solve one and only one problem in the world, what would it be and why?
Hunger or violence

8. What have you liked best about your life so far? What is your happiest or proudest moment?
I have loved retirement. My proudest moment was getting my citizenship.

9. What would you like your children and grandchildren to remember about you?
I want them to know that I love them very much.

10. If you could write a message to each of your children and grandchildren and put it in a time capsule for them to read 20 years from now, what would you write to each?

I would tell them to have a good life and that I am proud of them. I want them to remember me. I don’t know, that’s all.