Ben Saint-Onge

March 13, 1969January 13, 2016

Ben “The Titan” Saint-Onge March 13, 1969 – January 13, 2016

Ben Saint-Onge, our strong, steadfast, unbreakable “Titan”, took his last breath peacefully at home on January 13, 2016, surrounded by his beloved wife and children. Ben leaves behind Wendy, his one true love. He also unwillingly leaves behind his main man Zak (son), and beautiful daughters Jaime and Raegan. All four brought immense light and joy into his life.

Ben grew up in Eastern Canada and joined the RCMP in 1992. This where he met a “smoking” young Wendy while at the Police Academy in Regina, SK. Ben’s first posting was to Gibsons, BC in 1993. It was here that he proposed to his sweetheart, and on September 24, 1994 they married and began their life journey together. Ben and Wendy joyfully added Zak to their family in 1996, followed by Jaime in 1999. Raegan’s arrival in 2001 completed their family.

Many civilian friends will be unaware of Ben’s truly exceptional career as a police officer with the RCMP. On the Sunshine Coast he was known as “Gentle Ben” – tough, but kind and fair. In 1997 he transferred to Langley Detachment, where he served as a uniformed member before developing a specialty in drug investigations. Ben spent the last fourteen years of his career in various specialized sections (during which time he was deservingly promoted), continuing to serve and protect in ways that the general public couldn’t understand but should gratefully appreciate. He was a gifted police officer, sought out for his skills as both an investigator and a teacher. As well, Ben received special recognition over the course of his 23 year career from both the RCMP and other police forces and families of victims.

Ben did not take lightly his time away from home and family; however, he knew that his efforts truly saved lives, brought justice, and positively impacted the communities in which he worked. Ben loved his job and his colleagues and was devastated when his illness made it impossible for him to continue. The people he worked with were not just his friends; they were his brothers and his sisters.

Forever missing Ben are his parents: father Ben Sr. (Diana), mother Myrna (Doug), and Robin and Maureen Insley, who loved Ben as surely, deeply, and truly as any parents ever could.

Ben will be desperately missed by his sisters: Michelle (Cameron, Kelsey, Harper, Darcy), Lisa (Brett, Brendan, Jenna), and Barbara (Makeda).

Finally, Ben leaves behind his “family by choice”: Jeff Scott, Nancy Birbeck , Beth Leatherdale, Mario Bourdages, Connie and Kirby Smith, and Dennis Ripley. There are countless others whom he loved, who loved him through years of joy and sorrow, and who never wavered in their support.

Our family is forever indebted to some very special people who helped care for Ben during his knock-down, drag-out, body-slamming fight with cancer (with a small “c”). Dr. Pippa Hawley and Dr. Christian Kollmannsberger patiently fielded our endless questions with professionalism and respect. They understood what needed to be said and when to say it.

It is very important to us to draw specific attention to Dr. Andre Bredenkamp. Our gratitude towards our “Dr B” knows no bounds. You came alongside us in our struggle and let us lean on you. We deeply appreciate the personal sacrifices you made to care for Ben and our entire family. It comforts us to know that Ben was in the best possible hands and received the best possible care.

For their gentleness, wisdom and kindness, their infinite patience and intimate understanding during Ben’s care, we are so grateful to Julie Bourdages, Leanne Upton, Marlene Upton, and Whitney Traversy. For their reliability and helpfulness throughout this entire ordeal, we deeply thank Sharon Woodburn and Paula McCaffrey, who never failed us when it came to obtaining medications and equipment. You will never know how deeply we appreciate all of you.

In lieu of flowers or gifts, please consider a donation to The Last Door recovery center (, a registered charity that was extremely personal and important to Ben. Alternately, donations may also be made in Ben’s name to Donations in Ben’s name will be directed to the Personalized Onco-Genomonics (POG) clinical trials program.

Ben felt that Bruce Lee said it best: “Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.”

Farewell my sweet man, until we meet again. I will honour your memory always, and I promise you I will take care of our children with the same love, kindness and patience as you always did. (ok, technically I may not be as patient as you, but I promise I will try.) Thank you for choosing me. Rock out with Jimmy Hendrix, my love.

A Celebration of a Life Well-Lived for “The Titan” will be held at 1:00 p.m. on January 22, 2016, at Victory Memorial Park, 14831 28th Avenue in South Surrey. Reception to follow immediately afterwards.

Messages of condolence and favourite memories of Ben may be left at where they will be compiled into a book for the family.


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Sharon Woodburn

January 7, 2017

Wendy, Zak, Jaime, Raegan - almost one year later and I still think of Ben daily. Remarkable and a testament to Ben - since I mainly knew him as "Wendy's great husband that I quite approve of and would like to know better" ;) One of my life's pleasures was moving back here and reconnecting with your family. Thank you Ben for the touching and kind advice you gave me exactly a year ago. I followed it.

Scott Citrigno

June 22, 2016

Ben was a good friend and contributor to our online community. The Canadian Guitar Forum. Ben went by the name of Stratin2traynor and was a member since 2006. Although many of us never had the opportunity to meet him in person, he was well respected and a solid human being. He will be missed by many on our forum. Our condolences to his family.

Kal Sandhu

March 31, 2016

I grew with Wendy in Prince George and later met Ben during a cocktail party hosted by the Saint-Onges. I got a great first impression of Ben during the party and quickly learned of his love for music. Ben introduced me to "Limewire".... I thought it was coolest thing back then.... RIP Ben. Condolences to the family.

Kimberly Stark

March 31, 2016

I work with Wendy and attended the very lovely service for Ben. It is clear how much he is loved and will be missed. Thoughts are with your family always.

Jim McKay

February 12, 2016

Zak, Jamie and Regan....your Dad was a great friend. Always smiling and willing to lend a helping hand. He was there whenever he was needed. Always looking on the bright side...even through his fight. He always smiled.
Wendy, we don't think that you could have mail ordered a better man. Kind, gentle, laughing and always that smile.
We are so sorry that his time came way too early. But his stamp on the earth, and memories will live on through everyone he touched. Especially the ones who meant everything to him...the four of you.
Cheers to a good man.
Sonya and Jim.

Marine Lucas

February 12, 2016

Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan, we first meet in September 2007: beginning of a wonderful life experience for me and beautiful memories. Being part of your family was such a priviledge!I had so many happy moments with you, the Saint-Onge five. Ben was so kind and generous, such a big heart! Thank you. Zak, Jaime, Raegan: you impress me so much, you are very inspirationnal, like your dad and your mom! It's hard to find the appropriate words....i wish i could just hug you and all would be said. Wendy, Zak, Jaime, Raegan: I am with you. I love you.

February 9, 2016

Having known Ben as a child and watching him grow to be the man he became, we are saddened to learn of his untimely passing. Know our thoughts are with the family he so loved. May his legacy be a guiding light for all.
The McElroy`s......Hellen, Rob, and Scott

February 4, 2016

Wendy, Zak, Jaime, Reagan,
The love and strength you have shown is inspiring. May your memories and the love of your family and friends bring you comfort. Please know that you continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.
The Sousa's (Jackie, Joe, Jordan, Joshua and Jenna)

Tina Deschenes

February 3, 2016

Ben was surely an uplifting, inspiring and loving human being. From where he's standing now, he will definitely intervene in many wondrous ways.... Sorry for your loss.

Tina Deschenes (childhood friend from back East).

Mike Wilson

February 2, 2016

Wendy and family, I lost two great colleagues that week.First Ben and then Chris Thomas. I went to Ottawa to represent our E Division family at Chris's funeral and to bring Ben's spirit to the service with all of our SDU family back east. after the service, several of us went out for dinner and toasted both Ben and Chris as we knew they were finally no longer suffering and hopefully together again. May they both rest in peace. Mike Wilson