OBITUARY
Ben Saint-Onge
March 13, 1969 – January 13, 2016
Ben “The Titan” Saint-Onge March 13, 1969 – January 13, 2016
Ben Saint-Onge, our strong, steadfast, unbreakable “Titan”, took his last breath peacefully at home on January 13, 2016, surrounded by his beloved wife and children. Ben leaves behind Wendy, his one true love. He also unwillingly leaves behind his main man Zak (son), and beautiful daughters Jaime and Raegan. All four brought immense light and joy into his life.
Ben grew up in Eastern Canada and joined the RCMP in 1992. This where he met a “smoking” young Wendy while at the Police Academy in Regina, SK. Ben’s first posting was to Gibsons, BC in 1993. It was here that he proposed to his sweetheart, and on September 24, 1994 they married and began their life journey together. Ben and Wendy joyfully added Zak to their family in 1996, followed by Jaime in 1999. Raegan’s arrival in 2001 completed their family.
Many civilian friends will be unaware of Ben’s truly exceptional career as a police officer with the RCMP. On the Sunshine Coast he was known as “Gentle Ben” – tough, but kind and fair. In 1997 he transferred to Langley Detachment, where he served as a uniformed member before developing a specialty in drug investigations. Ben spent the last fourteen years of his career in various specialized sections (during which time he was deservingly promoted), continuing to serve and protect in ways that the general public couldn’t understand but should gratefully appreciate. He was a gifted police officer, sought out for his skills as both an investigator and a teacher. As well, Ben received special recognition over the course of his 23 year career from both the RCMP and other police forces and families of victims.
Ben did not take lightly his time away from home and family; however, he knew that his efforts truly saved lives, brought justice, and positively impacted the communities in which he worked. Ben loved his job and his colleagues and was devastated when his illness made it impossible for him to continue. The people he worked with were not just his friends; they were his brothers and his sisters.
Forever missing Ben are his parents: father Ben Sr. (Diana), mother Myrna (Doug), and Robin and Maureen Insley, who loved Ben as surely, deeply, and truly as any parents ever could.
Ben will be desperately missed by his sisters: Michelle (Cameron, Kelsey, Harper, Darcy), Lisa (Brett, Brendan, Jenna), and Barbara (Makeda).
Finally, Ben leaves behind his “family by choice”: Jeff Scott, Nancy Birbeck , Beth Leatherdale, Mario Bourdages, Connie and Kirby Smith, and Dennis Ripley. There are countless others whom he loved, who loved him through years of joy and sorrow, and who never wavered in their support.
Our family is forever indebted to some very special people who helped care for Ben during his knock-down, drag-out, body-slamming fight with cancer (with a small “c”). Dr. Pippa Hawley and Dr. Christian Kollmannsberger patiently fielded our endless questions with professionalism and respect. They understood what needed to be said and when to say it.
It is very important to us to draw specific attention to Dr. Andre Bredenkamp. Our gratitude towards our “Dr B” knows no bounds. You came alongside us in our struggle and let us lean on you. We deeply appreciate the personal sacrifices you made to care for Ben and our entire family. It comforts us to know that Ben was in the best possible hands and received the best possible care.
For their gentleness, wisdom and kindness, their infinite patience and intimate understanding during Ben’s care, we are so grateful to Julie Bourdages, Leanne Upton, Marlene Upton, and Whitney Traversy. For their reliability and helpfulness throughout this entire ordeal, we deeply thank Sharon Woodburn and Paula McCaffrey, who never failed us when it came to obtaining medications and equipment. You will never know how deeply we appreciate all of you.
In lieu of flowers or gifts, please consider a donation to The Last Door recovery center (www.lastdoor.org/donate), a registered charity that was extremely personal and important to Ben. Alternately, donations may also be made in Ben’s name to bccancerfoundation.com. Donations in Ben’s name will be directed to the Personalized Onco-Genomonics (POG) clinical trials program.
Ben felt that Bruce Lee said it best: “Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.”
Farewell my sweet man, until we meet again. I will honour your memory always, and I promise you I will take care of our children with the same love, kindness and patience as you always did. (ok, technically I may not be as patient as you, but I promise I will try.) Thank you for choosing me. Rock out with Jimmy Hendrix, my love.
A Celebration of a Life Well-Lived for “The Titan” will be held at 1:00 p.m. on January 22, 2016, at Victory Memorial Park, 14831 28th Avenue in South Surrey. Reception to follow immediately afterwards.
Messages of condolence and favourite memories of Ben may be left at www.victoryfuneralcentre.ca where they will be compiled into a book for the family.
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Remembrance of Ben " The Titan " Saint-Onge
Friday, January 22, 2016
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ADD A MEMORYSharon Woodburn
January 6, 2017
Wendy, Zak, Jaime, Raegan - almost one year later and I still think of Ben daily. Remarkable and a testament to Ben - since I mainly knew him as "Wendy's great husband that I quite approve of and would like to know better" ;) One of my life's pleasures was moving back here and reconnecting with your family. Thank you Ben for the touching and kind advice you gave me exactly a year ago. I followed it.
Scott Citrigno
June 22, 2016
Ben was a good friend and contributor to our online community. The Canadian Guitar Forum. Ben went by the name of Stratin2traynor and was a member since 2006. Although many of us never had the opportunity to meet him in person, he was well respected and a solid human being. He will be missed by many on our forum. Our condolences to his family.
Kal Sandhu
March 31, 2016
I grew with Wendy in Prince George and later met Ben during a cocktail party hosted by the Saint-Onges. I got a great first impression of Ben during the party and quickly learned of his love for music. Ben introduced me to "Limewire".... I thought it was coolest thing back then.... RIP Ben. Condolences to the family.
Kimberly Stark
March 31, 2016
I work with Wendy and attended the very lovely service for Ben. It is clear how much he is loved and will be missed. Thoughts are with your family always.
Jim McKay
February 12, 2016
Zak, Jamie and Regan....your Dad was a great friend. Always smiling and willing to lend a helping hand. He was there whenever he was needed. Always looking on the bright side...even through his fight. He always smiled.
Wendy, we don't think that you could have mail ordered a better man. Kind, gentle, laughing and always that smile.
We are so sorry that his time came way too early. But his stamp on the earth, and memories will live on through everyone he touched. Especially the ones who meant everything to him...the four of you.
Cheers to a good man.
Sonya and Jim.
Marine Lucas
February 11, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan, we first meet in September 2007: beginning of a wonderful life experience for me and beautiful memories. Being part of your family was such a priviledge!I had so many happy moments with you, the Saint-Onge five. Ben was so kind and generous, such a big heart! Thank you. Zak, Jaime, Raegan: you impress me so much, you are very inspirationnal, like your dad and your mom! It's hard to find the appropriate words....i wish i could just hug you and all would be said. Wendy, Zak, Jaime, Raegan: I am with you. I love you.
February 8, 2016
Having known Ben as a child and watching him grow to be the man he became, we are saddened to learn of his untimely passing. Know our thoughts are with the family he so loved. May his legacy be a guiding light for all.
The McElroy`s......Hellen, Rob, and Scott
February 4, 2016
Wendy, Zak, Jaime, Reagan,
The love and strength you have shown is inspiring. May your memories and the love of your family and friends bring you comfort. Please know that you continue to be in our thoughts and prayers.
Love,
The Sousa's (Jackie, Joe, Jordan, Joshua and Jenna)
Tina Deschenes
February 3, 2016
Ben was surely an uplifting, inspiring and loving human being. From where he's standing now, he will definitely intervene in many wondrous ways.... Sorry for your loss.
Tina Deschenes (childhood friend from back East).
Mike Wilson
February 2, 2016
Wendy and family, I lost two great colleagues that week.First Ben and then Chris Thomas. I went to Ottawa to represent our E Division family at Chris's funeral and to bring Ben's spirit to the service with all of our SDU family back east. after the service, several of us went out for dinner and toasted both Ben and Chris as we knew they were finally no longer suffering and hopefully together again. May they both rest in peace. Mike Wilson
Kirby, Connie, Jonah and Makenna Smith
January 31, 2016
The Saint-Onnge 5 were the first family we met when we relocated to BC in 2004 and we became instant friends. We feel fortunate to have shared many of the big events over the years including first day of school, trick-or-treating, memorable Christmas parties, Thai dinners, summer weekend day trips, Whistler vacation and dozens of back-yard BBQ's. Ben was someone that could make us laugh, tell a good story and always impressed us with his passion for music and books. He was an honest man, loyal friend and a great role model for our children. We will miss him dearly.
Tracy Messmer
January 31, 2016
A wonderful man who made all around him feel they are in the company of someone who will keep them safe. Thank you Ben for all your years of protection and for the wonderful family you help create. Wendy, Zak, Jamie and Rae we truly are sad, mad and humble that you have to go through this journey. You are not alone... you all have enormous love from family, friends and each other. It was plain to see on January 22nd how loved you all are...
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Rhonda Leigh-Rutledge
January 28, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime, Raegan and Families,
You are all in our thoughts and prayers as you move through this very difficult time. We never know when our time here on earth is limited, but this is far too soon! Hold each other tight knowing he continues to watch over all of you now and always!
Love from my family to yours...
Rhonda, Clark, Spencer and Anjali
Kevin Rolston
January 28, 2016
Ben, I will miss you my friend.
B,S,B&S PARKER
January 27, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime & Raegan.
We would like to share a story from Lethbridge, Alberta, November 2012. We were all there to watch Jaime and Sarah play in the U-14 National Soccer Tournament. Most of the parents from this team flew or drove to get there to be able to watch our girls play in such a prestigious tournament. Wendy and I (considering ourselves princesses!) chose to fly. Baron, Ben and some other parents were going to drive. In true Ben fashion he chose to drive alone but convoyed with the others, stopping for drinks, bathroom breaks and meals at the same times. As was always the case with Bens' out-of-town trips to watch Jaime play, he would cruise along with his ear phones in, rocking out to his music. (A little side note about your Mum, never fly in a twin engine little plane with her unless you really want your fingers devoid of blood!. Our little plane had a very choppy landing and it was not fun!)
Ben and Wendy were staying at the same hotel as most of the parents. We would all get together before and after games, hang-out etc. (The girls were sequestered away from parents!) Ben, (gentle, quiet Ben) would watch his daughter play with such pride, and although never cheered loudly (like some of us!) He kept a quiet strong presence that we knew was pushing his Will on Jaime to do well and play her best. He never got overly excited or boisterous (I think Wendy and I had that covered!) He would order his burgers with no bun but loved his bun-less burger all the same.
Always remember your Dad will be there watching every game; every achievement, and although not sitting in the stands he is; as he has always done, quietly Willing you to do well from above.
One afternoon all the men were going to watch a guy thing (maybe a football game) and the girls were going shopping. When I asked Ben why he wasn't going to the Pub and was staying with Wendy (I thought she was going to seduce him! but she was taking him shopping! Poor guy!) His response to my question was Happy Wife, Happy Life!
Wendy, Ben thought the world of you and had no hesitation in putting You before the guys, a rare find, I tell you!
SO
Zak, don't be that guy, take heed and be like your Dad.
Jaime, Raegan make sure you're guys always put you as their #ONE.
On the drive home, Ben was in the lead car and there was an accident that Ben had to swerve to avoid and was very lucky to have not been involved himself. Everyone stopped, Ben got out, all the men piled out of our van (women stayed with Brenden). There was an old man behind the wheel in a flipped vehicle. Ben and the men struggled to open the door and got the man out. Ben had super-man strength just when it was needed. The old man was going to be fine, but was in shock and very cold and he was covered with all the blankets that could be mustered until the Emergency vehicles arrived and took over from Ben. He was a Hero on this day too, along with many others.
You will never forget him, a true Hero!
Lots of Love.
Baron, Sandy, Brenden & Sarah. Xxxxx
Bligh Woodworth
January 26, 2016
Dear Wendy and family,
Wendy I still remember that special smile that Ben gave you as we shared time together in Sechelt, and I know that you still have today. He is an incredible man, and you, Zak, Jaime and Raegan were all so lucky to have him in your lives. He was a great friend to many, especially both Betty and I. We will always remember him fondly and he will remain a part of so many lives forever. God bless Ben and all your family Wendy. We are always here if you ever need anything. Love Bligh and Betty Woodworth.
Jeff Scott
January 26, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Raegan and Jaime,
I'm so sorry that Ben is gone. Thank you again for sharing his last days with me. Thank you for having me involved in the service. I was honoured. It was good to be able to spend so much time with all of you. All of my time in BC is filled with memories that I'll hold dear. Look after yourselves and each other.
Ben,
I miss you buddy.
Dawson Helders
January 26, 2016
Dear my second family, I am truly heartbroken along with you all. You are all in my thoughts and my prayers. Through the darkest of times remember that you are not alone and that your father/husband will always be with you wherever you are to go, looking down on you, silently guiding you. I am truly blessed to have known your loving Ben.
Love you all and stay strong.
Jakki Bowden-Green
January 26, 2016
Ben will be missed dearly by all who knew him. Though I only got to know Ben a few years ago I knew the first time Wendy and Ben invited me into their home I was privileged to have been part of their lives and the compassion and love they showed me was beyond compare. Thank you for letting me be apart of your lives.
Wendy, Jaime, Zak and Reagan I am always here for all of you. Love Jakki
Mario Jutras
January 26, 2016
Dear Wendy and Family,
Ben was a very special person, and a great soul. It was an honour and a privilege to have known Ben. I will forever cherish those years we spent together on SDU. He was always the voice of reason. If SDU were a music group, Ben would have been our George Harrison, "the quiet man". God bless the Titan.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in these difficult times.
Tara MacLEAN
January 26, 2016
Wendy, Zak, Jamie, and Reagan
I had the honour of working with your Husband/Dad, and I want you to know how sorry I am for your loss. It isn't fair that he was taken from you. I remember him as the fun guy who knew all about the latest electronics and was keen to share his thoughts on them. Ben made a difference and his legacy will live on in everyone who knew him. I didn't get a chance to speak to anyone at the funeral, but wanted to let Zak and Wendy know that I don't know how you held it together during your moving speeches. I was touched and know there wasn't a dry eye in the entire place.
Your husband and father will be missed, and again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
Martine de Leeuw
January 26, 2016
Wendy, Zak, Jaime, and Raegan, I am so sorry for your loss. Your husband/ father was an amazing man. Wendy you were part of what made him amazing. And kids, you have in you what resonated in your father. Hold on to that to help give you strength during these tough days. I met Ben in Training in Regina. Seems like yesterday. I thought he was a nice guy then but the man I got to know and work with in Gibsons, BC was far better than I had imagined. Truly a "Gentle Ben" but a force to be reckoned with when needed. Yet it was his smile and contagious giggle that stand most in my memory of him. A zest for life. If I had photos of these moments we laughed while working together I would share them but the non-digital age was upon is so they remain only a treasured memory where I will hold them close and draw on them when I need a pick me up or good laugh. Ben will be there.
I know that while Ben is dancing among the stars he will be watching over you. So on a starry night, look up, grab a star and close your eyes. Ben will be smiling back at you.
Rest in Peach Titan.
January 26, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime & Raegan, Ben was truly "one of the greats", no amount of words can ease the pain you are all feeling, but be sure he is watching down on you and wishing you a life of Love and Happiness. God Bless. Baron, Sandy, Brenden & Sarah.
Sylvie McKenven
January 26, 2016
Dear Wendy and family. I am writing on behalf of my mother Jacqueline, my sister Louise and her husband, and my own family. We don't know each other but we have been communicating with my cousin Ben, Diana as well as Ben's sisters throughout Benny's terrible ordeal. Please know that our hearts go out to you and your children. Losing a life partner/Father so early in life is a tragedy that is incomprehensible. But we do believe that Benny is still with all of you, watching over you..... We send you our deepest thoughts and sympathy.
Monique Hardy
January 25, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime, and Raegan - my prayers will continue for your family. Your Dad is nearby and watching over you. Of that I have no doubt. I know he will be smiling as you continue on living extraordinary lives! Keep on Saint-Onge Strong! With Love and continued prayers.
January 25, 2016
Dear Wendy;
My heart goes out to you and to Zak, Jaime, and Raegan. I'm so very sorry for your loss, and I wish I could write something to help bring comfort. Know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Much love,
Teri Leslie
Peter Beka
January 25, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegen
It was an honour and selfless gesture to share Ben the "Titan" with us. He was received as a role model, dedicated father, and inspiration to the young adults striving to become men in our community. We are saddened for your loss, and our hearts and prayers are with you. May his spirit live in those who celebrate and love him.
Gillian Davis
January 25, 2016
I'm so sorry for your terrible loss, Wendy. Reading through all of these messages is heartbreaking and so lovely at the same time -- Ben was such a remarkable man, and so loved by so many people. I hope your memories and all the love and thoughts expressed by friends and family here are of some comfort to you and the kids in the months to come. With all my love, Gilly xo
Leah Prasad
January 25, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan,
There are simply no words to express how deeply saddened we are that you have lost your dear Husband/Father. Ben was one in a million and his Celebration of Life Service was a true testament to that. I have never heard such words of endearment, love and humour. Though I left with a heavy heart, it was still uplifted by all the anecdotes, messages of encouragement to you all and the profound words of love from those closest to him. Our thoughts, love and prayers are always with you.
The Prasad Family
Krishna, Leah and Tara
Joanne Johnson
January 25, 2016
Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan,
I want to recognize what a privilege it was to get to know your Ben, and Dad when we all spent the weekend together at Deka Lake! We all had so much fun....from the killer breakfast (Ben and sous chef, Wendy), the water fights, swimming, sipping on a few, card games, laughter, great conversation and most memorable the strumming of guitar while Ben and Greg "jammed" in the evening around the blazing fire!! Those are the great memories I have of your Ben/Dad. Thank you. I'm glad to have been a part of some cool times spent with you all. He will be missed. I'm so sorry for your loss. Joanne xo
Juergen Ostrinski
January 25, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan. Words cannot express how sorry we feel nor how much we will miss Ben. A truly great man a Titan in every sense of the word. Our biggest regret is not meeting and knowing Ben (and all of you) sooner. The courage and love you have demonstrated is an example for us all. You are TITAN strong and we are sure Ben is, and will be, so proud of you all.
The Ostrinski's Susan, Juergen, Kyle, Carson, and Cole
John Buckley
January 25, 2016
Wendy Zak,Jaime and Raegen, I am so sorry for your loss. I had the honour of meeting Ben on a number of courses over the years. Not only was he a true professional but he always struck me as being a genuinely good man. I know that at this time words seem to mean so little but in the years to come I hope that they will bring some degree of comfort. You can all be very proud of who he was and what he stood for. He will be missed by many.
Julien Couture
January 25, 2016
My sincerest condolences Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan for your big lost. I will never forget the young and strong man sleeping just in front of me while in training in Depot, which was Ben. I am sad but Ben is not suffering anymore. Ben will always be there for you. Rest in peace Ben
Lisa Hill
January 25, 2016
Ben may be gone but he will never be forgotten. We will always be there for all of you.
Love,
Lisa, Brett, Brendan and Jenna
Robert Boivin
January 25, 2016
Mes plus sincères sympathies à la famille de Ben sénior avec qui j'ai travaillé à Montréal au contrefait. Mes prières vous accompagnent.
Robert Boivin
January 25, 2016
"If tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane, we'd walk right up to Heaven to bring you home again" ... Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. - Mark and Shelley Hepburn
David Doubleday
January 25, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegen
I am so very sorry for your loss. Your father was a wonderful man who was loved and respected by many. Of all of his joys in his life, his family was the source of his greatest joy. I did not know Ben as well as I would have liked, but I know he had an undying love and devotion to his family. I know he would want you to smile when you think of him and remember all of the good times and laughs you shared together. Ben is in all of you and will always be a part of you. He lives on in each of you. Take great care of each other and know "The Titan" is smiling down on you every minute of everyday!!
Mathieu Doyon
January 25, 2016
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief. Sorry for your lost. Ben was a special colleague and friend to me. I had the privilege to work with him at SDU. We (the RCMP family), are with you, stay strong and our prayers go out to you the Saint-Onge family.
Shiv Achari
January 25, 2016
My sincerest condolences to you, Wendy, Zak,Jaime and Raegan. As much as I was aware Ben was fighting the courageous fight, I am so very saddened to not have him here with us. I will miss my dear friend. He was a Titan indeed. On many of our road trips and days at work, we compared our workout routines and nutrition etc. I will remember his attempts to tune his guitar for several hours only to play a chord or two. Rest in peace my brother.
Lisa Stuart
January 25, 2016
Such a tragic loss of a great man, father and husband. Zak, Jaime and Raegan, your mother needs you now more than ever! Take good care of her. Love you Wendy, for the wonderful person you've always been and a loving mother whom I've always admired.
Annie Tilsner
January 25, 2016
My very deepest sympathies to you and your entire family,Wendy. Je suis peinée d'apprendre le départ de Ben même si ses souffrances sont terminées. C'est toujours tellement triste de savoir que des jeunes personnes quittent ce monde quand on sait que beaucoup de personnes âgées demandent à l'univers d'aller rejoindre ceux et celles qui les attendent...Perdre quelqu'un qu'on aime est la pire épreuve que la vie peut nous confronter. Qu'elle peut être parfois si injuste et si difficile à accepter....J'ai constaté à travers tes écrits Wendy,que Ben était une personne de très grande force et a su démontrer toute la détermination qu'il a pu....Maintenant il quitte pour un éternel règne sans souffrance et plein de bonheur. Bon courage à toi et tes enfants dans le déroulement de cet épreuve. Mes sincères sympathies à toute la famille....
Mike Petrilli
January 25, 2016
In training (depot) he was known to me as BIG Ben. A powerful man with great stature who had the ability to throw, flip, arm lock another man. But, most importantly, he knew how to house that power and energy which made him a great person and police officer. I'd like to extend my sincere condolences to the Titan family, an even strong name.
Kathy Lakatos
January 25, 2016
Our deepest condolences from our family to yours. We are truly saddened by the loss of Ben. If there is anything that you need we are here.
The Braun family
Julie M
January 25, 2016
He was the quiet fan at soccer and volleyball. So sorry for your terrible loss. Thinking of you and your family.
Julie and Em
Stéphane Guitard
January 25, 2016
To Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan, my sincere condolences. I met Ben when we were in grade 7. He had just moved with his family to Bathurst, N.B. We became best of friends. We were told we were total opposites and inseparable. Unfortunately, we lost touch when he moved for training, but recently kept in touch by texting. My parents and I were deeply saddened by his passing.
Ben Sr. once told us you (pointing to Ben) take care of him (pointing to me) and you (pointing to me) take car of him (pointing to Benny). I took that message to heart.
Stéphane Guitard
Kelly Watson
January 25, 2016
Our deepest condolences Wendy, Zak, Jaime, and Raegan. Many fond memories from the Sunshine Coast. Our son Mike remembers Ben and commented how the school kids had so much respect for him. He will be missed.
Wendy Cummings
January 22, 2016
Our deepest sympathy to Wendy and family. Too young, too soon. Thank you "Gentle Ben' for your service and friendship while posted on the Sunshine Coast.
Sunshine Coast RCMP (formally Gibsons and Sechelt Detachment)
January 22, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan,
Words cannot begin to express the sadness and grief we feel for your family. You continue to be in our thoughts and prayers and our hearts go out to you.
We have had the privilege of witnessing your family's courage, support and love for each other throughout the relentless battle of this unyielding disease... it has been nothing short of Inspiring.
May you continue to draw on those strengths and memories to buoy you up in the times ahead. We pray for peace and comfort for your family.
Sincerely,
The Verhagen Family
(Mark, Cheryl, Connor and Brayden)
Nathalie and Gary Parker
January 22, 2016
Wendy and family, We are saddened to hear that Ben passed away. Our heartfelt sympathies.
Paul Darbyshire
January 22, 2016
Wendy, I am so sorry to learn today that Ben has died. I have very fond memories of my time working with Ben. I admired his strength, dedication and his ability to lead others. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Nathalie Bosfet
January 22, 2016
To Ben's beautiful family & to his Mom & Dad. He will be missed by his old friends from the East Coast. I have a lot a fond memories of him growing up and having fun hanging out with "the gang". Playing cards, listening to music & laughing!! He will be truly missed by all of us! Thinking of you all.
Hope Voykin
January 22, 2016
Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan, We are sorry that we will not be with you in person tomorrow, but we will be thinking about you all and sending positive wishes and prayers. Words cannot express the sadness we feel for you at this time. You are a beautiful family. Together your strength, courage and love will get you through the coming days. We know you feel the love and support from so many people who care about you all so much. Sending lots of love, Hope, Matt and Mitch xoxoxo
January 21, 2016
Hi Wendy. I will not be able to attend the Celebration of a life well lived tomorrow but I will be thinking of you and your family. I am so sorry that Ben lost his very tough fight with cancer. The strength all of the Saint-Onge Five have shown over the past months is unbelievable. Ben was a great husband and father and the Ben I knew was an awesome Mountie. Take care of yourselves.
Laurie Williams Nanaimo
Laurie Williams
January 21, 2016
Hi Wendy. I will not be able to attend the Celebration of a life well lived tomorrow but I will be thinking of you and your family. I am so sorry that Ben lost his very tough fight with cancer. The strength all of the Saint-Onge Five have shown over the past months is unbelievable. Ben was a wonderful husband and father and the Ben I knew was an great Mountie. Take care of yourselves.
Larry & Jeannine Cochrane
January 21, 2016
To Ben`s family and his Mum & Dad who we both know here in New Brunswick. We are very sorry to hear of your terrible loss. Out thoughts and prayers will be with you all as you go thru the most difficult time in your life to date. God Bless you all and me he give you the strength to get through this. Larry & Jeannine Cochrane, New Maryland, NB.
Pierre Beaudoin
January 21, 2016
Dear Ben Sr, Myrna, Wendy & Children,
It is with great sadness that Edmonde and I learned of the untimely passing of your son Benny in the prime of his life. As parents, we certainly feel your sense of loss and share in your pain.
Although we had lost sight of Benny upon my transfer from Saint Quentin Detachment, I have fond memories of a playful and vibrant young boy who followed his path and grew up to become such a pillar for his community, his family and his friends. You can be proud.
Edmonde and I wish to extend to you and your family our deepest sympathy and heartfelt condolences.
Bon courage.
N&J
January 21, 2016
Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Reagan;
We have known your Titan for many years, from living in your home, to our families coming together again on our return to Canada. It is an honour to be chosen to be part of your family and it gave us the privilege to see as a family member how much he loved you all. We can't take away the pain of losing your best friend, soulmate, your dad, but we are thinking of you and are always here for you.
N & J
Shaun Ali
January 21, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan, our hearts goes out to you all for the horrific loss that you
Rob Cormier
January 20, 2016
Dear Wendy and family,
I was very saddened to hear about Ben's passing. Although I have not had the opportunity to spend time with you guys during the last few years, the pleasant memories from the past will remain with me forever! I hope you can find peace and courage during this difficult time. My sincere condolences!
Mario Bourdages
January 20, 2016
Ben was a great Man, A kind Man, A gentle Man,A great Husband, A great Father! May you Rest in Peace "Titan".
We are truly sorry for your loss. Our deepest sympathies go out to you and the kids Wendy!
Be kind to each other as Ben would have wanted!
Lovingly Remembered, The Bourdages
Manuel Pizarro
January 20, 2016
Dear Ben, Wendy and beloved children. I had the great fortune to call Ben my RCMP trainer. I learned many things from Ben but I will always remember, as I dove into the darker side of drug investigations, Ben said... no matter what happens now, never stop fighting for what's right. I made mistakes Ben.. but I fought for what was right. your photos and stories will be shared with my girls... Thank you. God bless you and your family. From the Pizarro family Chantale, Everest, and Catalina.
Arnold Hadley
January 20, 2016
Dear Ben Sr, Wendy & children
Maurise and I are so sorry about your loss. We fully understand and have a very deep sense of appreciation of what you are going through. We wish to extent our most heartfelt condolences. Stay strong
Arnold & Maurise
Michel Gosselin
January 20, 2016
Bonjour Ben,
C'est avec beaucoup de peine que Danielle et moi, avons appris le décès de ton fils, Ben The Titan Saint-Onge . Comme tout le monde le dit, nos enfants ne devraient pas nous précéder dans la mort mais le destin en a décidé autrement. Nous désirons te présenter nos profondes sympathies à toi et ta famille qui vivez des moments difficiles. Tout le monde connait au moins une personne dans son entourage qui souffre de cette maladie qui détruit l'être humain dans tous ces sens.
Au plaisir de se revoir dans des moments plus joyeux. A+
Danielle & Michel
2016-01-20
Bert Hudon
January 20, 2016
Wendy and family, Ben Sr and Myrna: I was one of Ben's instructor at Depot and worked with Ben Sr in the past. My wife and I had the pleasure to attend Ben's graduation and to sit at the same table in the drill hall. I would like to offer you all my most sincere condolences. Bert Hudon, S/S/M ret.
January 19, 2016
To Ben Jr's family, my most profound sympathies. Our hearts and prayers are with you. I worked with and still have occasional contact with Ben's dad, Ben Sr, here in New Brunswick... My heart felt sympathy to you my friend and hope we'll get to meet in the near future, maybe for a round of golf and a toast to Jr.
Rick Daigle and Louise
January 19, 2016
Wendy and Family: This is so hard to have to write on an obituary and especially for one such as for Gentle Ben...He was such an incredible guy and we enjoyed those times that we had together while in Sechelt and Gibsons ( the Sunshine Coast)...As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine we trust that you may feel some what comforted by the love and support of your family and us as your friends...Our thoughts are with you Wendy during this very very sad time within your lives.....
Penny and Linton ROBINSON
Cobble Hill, B.C
Gail &Vince Arseneau
January 19, 2016
As a friend of Ben's sister Michelle, I know he must have been very special. So sorry for your loss and may God richly bless the future as the 4 of you continue on without him. May the mountains of memories give you all comfort and keep him near.
Teresa Higo
January 19, 2016
I didn't personally know Ben - but our kids went to the same school. I am so truly very sorry for your loss Wendy & family.
Kal Sandhu
January 18, 2016
Dear Wendy, my deepest condolences to you and your family. May Ben's love for you and the children give you the strength to rise above difficult days. RIP fellow Mountie.
C Division Veterans
January 18, 2016
Cher Ben Sr. & famille,
Tous les vétérans que tu as côtoyer lors de tes affectations à la Division 'C' de
1963 à 1977 sont peinés d'apprendre la triste nouvelle du décès de ton fils Ben Jr.
de la Division 'E' et t'offrent à toi et toute ta famille leurs plus sincères condoléances.
Tes amis de la Division 'C' vous souhaitent de
traverser cette rude épreuve avec le courage qu'elle exige.
Dear Ben Sr. & family,
All the veterans that had the pleasure to work along your side in 'C' Division from
1963 to 1977 were sad to learn the news of your dear son's death Ben Jr from 'E' Division.
We wish you and the family our most sincere condolences. Your friends from 'C' Division
wish you he courage that such an ordeal requires.
Your friends from "C" division
January 18, 2016
We are sorry for your loss. I have never met you, but know "Kojak Ben" as a former "brother in the service" Suzanne and I offer you our most sincere condolences and pray for you all. Suzanne & Don BOUCHER, Bathurst, NB
Olive Mazerolle
January 18, 2016
Ben Sr, Wendy & children,
I only worked with Ben for a few months at J Div. HQ as he was loaned to our unit while he waiting to depart for Depot. I remember him as a "gentle giant" who was so looking forward to becoming a member. It saddens me to hear of his passing. Please accept my sincere condolences and may God bless you all.
Claudia Wytrwal
January 18, 2016
Wendy, Zak, Jaimie and Reagan...I'm so sorry for your loss. He was an amazing man through and through. My deepest condolences.
January 18, 2016
Wendy and family...sorry for your loss. He was far to young. Stay strong and know that God is surrounding all of you with his love. Jill Hewitt
January 18, 2016
Dear Wendy and your lovely family. Wendy - my little flower girl. So so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you, and words cannot say it all.
Be strong in the memories that you have made together and have faith that he is not gone but just away.
love Aunty Edda and Uncle Pete
January 18, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan. I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Deb Parker
Holly Lavin
January 18, 2016
Sorry for your loss, Wendy. Thinking of you and your family at this time...
Michelle Baly
January 18, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan,
Ben ('the Titan") - such an amazing husband and father - so devoted to you all. We are so sorry for your loss and our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. We hope all your wonderful memories will bring you comfort over time. Love, Michelle and Shawn and family
January 17, 2016
Dear Wendy and Family. We were so sad to hear about the loss of Ben. We remember the good times we had on the Sunshine Coast all those years ago. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Dave and Venessa Kalist and family.
Selkirk, Manitoba.
Kim Vlchek
January 17, 2016
Dear Wendy, Zak, Jaime and Raegan,
I am deeply saddened by the loss of your beautiful husband and father, Ben; The Titan. His valiant fight against this dreadful disease and the strength you all displayed throughout these incredibly trying months has left me in awe.
Wendy and I became friends at the ripe old age of thirteen and I had the pleasure of meeting Ben a few times in the early years of their marriage. While I didn't know Ben well, he was one of those people that you immediately like and respect. My first impression of Ben was of a man who is both strong and kind. It's no wonder Wendy fell madly in love with him. I wish I'd had the pleasure of spending more time with Ben. His chosen career leaves me forever grateful. It is courageous, dedicated and brave heroes like Ben who make our world a little safer. We are so thankful to him.
I wish you strength in the coming months as you struggle to put one foot in front of the other. Your world has imploded and the void left by Ben's passing must be enormous. May you hold on tight to each other and share in lifting one another up.
Sending much love and heartfelt condolences,
Kim and Steve
Mike and Bernadette Insley
January 17, 2016
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
January 16, 2016
Our heartfelt condolences over the passing of your beloved "Titan". Our thoughts are with all of you during this difficult and painful time. Lots of love, Loretta and Don xoxoxox
January 16, 2016
Wendy & Family - Sending my deepest sympathy on the passing of Ben Jr. It is with sadness that we the RCMP Veterans of N.B. together with he RCMP Veterans and active member of the RCMP in Canada learn of the passing of Ben Jr. ROGER D'ENTREMONT (Bathurst, N.B.)
Tim HOBAN
January 15, 2016
Wendy & family - The passing of a loved one such as Ben Jr., has saddened the hearts of many within and outside our RCMP Family. The veterans of RCMP NB Division share in the loss of a family member. Tim HOBAN- President RCMP VA NB Division