Ingrid E. Flager

May 20, 1917August 10, 2010

Ingrid Elisabet Selkämaa Flager, 93, died peacefully surrounded by family at Big Bend Hospice in Tallahassee, Florida, on August 10, 2010.

"Inky" was born at home May 20th, 1917, in Warren, OH, to emigrant parents Edvard Selkämaa (Alavus, Finland) and Johanna Pesonen (Voikka, Finland), who met on the ship to America. Ingrid grew up speaking Finnish, learning English when she started public school along with the other immigrant children. An avid reader in Finnish and English, she imparted a love of letters and learning to all her children. She performed recitation and theater, sang, and played violin at social gatherings during her teens. A graduate of Warren G. Harding High School in 1935, she elected to stay in Warren with friends of the family and finish school after most of the town's Finnish workers left for employment in Baltimore. She joined her mother there and graduated at the top of her class from the University of Maryland School of Nursing, Baltimore in 1938, with further study at Columbia and Johns Hopkins, then worked as a Public Health Registered Nurse until the beginning of WWII. Commissioned as an Army Lieutenant, she served in the 107th Evac Hospital, which was nearly encircled in the Battle of the Bulge, and followed the fighting all the way to Germany and the liberation of the concentration camps. She met George Flager, her future husband, at an Army dance during a lull in the fighting after D-Day. They were married in Pilsen, Czechoslovakia on June 1st, 1945. George stayed in the Army and Ingrid became an Army Wife, raising six children and moving 19 times before settling in Tallahassee in 1964. As a Registered Nurse at FSU's Thagard Health Center she enjoyed a third career, finally retiring to a quiet life in the country. Preceded in death by George in 1987, she spent the following years in typical Finnish solitude, enjoying her reading, gardening, walking, and spoiling each new grandchild in turn.

Surviving family (and spouses) include Christopher Flager (Lois) (of Tallahassee), Jan Flager (Lanell) (of Jacksonville), Johanna Weekley (Alan) (of Tallahassee), Nancy Vines (Bob) (of Atlanta), Mark Flager (Laura) (of Coral Springs) and Stephen Flager (Debbie) (of Tallahassee); grandchildren, Kristen, April, Brian, Tammie, Gina, Nicole, Mae, Harrison, and Madison; great-grandchildren, Wesley, Tyler, Justin, Taylor, Evan, and John.

She was a longtime member of Blessed Sacrament Church, was a member of the church choir, and appreciated the home visits in her later years. The family wishes to thank everyone who helped Ingrid spend all but the last few days in her familiar home of 40 years, especially Beverly Gilyard. Ingrid was cherished by all who knew her, and is remembered as a person who never had an unkind word to say about anyone, ever. She will be interred with George at Culley's Meadowood Memorial Park in a private ceremony. The family suggests donations to Big Bend Hospice, or any Alzheimer's organization.

Arrangements are under the direction of Culley's MeadowWood Funeral Home, Tallahassee, FL.


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Steve Kujawa

November 4, 2017

Ingrid was such a blessing to us in the choir at Blessed Sacrament. She and George were good friends of mine and wonderful witnesses of Jesus and his Church. I will remember her at Mass and in my daily prayers.

Steve Kujawa
(Choir director)

Jeanette Gipson

August 20, 2010

May God bless you and your family. Jeanette Gipson

August 18, 2010

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Chris and Nancy Scott

Jim Williams

August 18, 2010

Our deepest sympathies during this difficult time. She sounds like a remarkable woman, greatly missed, lovingly remembered.

Rolf and Paula Ohlson

August 17, 2010

When mothers die, when you lose one of the cardidnal points, when you lose two breaths, then you lose a glade. When mothers die then grow the shrub anywhere.

Bless all of Ingrids family!
Rolf and Paula Ohlson
Stockholm - Sweden

Norma Brown

August 16, 2010

May God Bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Melinda Marbes

August 16, 2010

Ingrid clearly was not only a loving mother -- but a special soul.

Thankfully, her spirit lives on in the memories of those who knew her and she continues to touch many hearts.

God bless,


August 16, 2010

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. Love,
Jane (Kinninger) Braile

Nancy Vines

August 16, 2010

God’s Word teaches us “Honor thy Father and thy Mother.” Today, as I always do, I honor my Father for giving me and my siblings a gift ~ our Mom. And I honor my Mother for giving me and my siblings a priceless gift ~ herself. From Mom came unconditional love and lessons about God’s love, along with lessons from her handy wooden spoon. From her example, my faith sustains me. From my Mother’s love flowed every beautiful thing … my love of Scripture, words, poetry and languages, reading and writing, music and singing, art, nature, honest labor, and compassion for others. Thank you, Mom, for enriching my life in ways beyond measure. My memories of you will inspire me to be more, give more, serve more … to find joy in the sunlight, to share love without limits, to be the woman you raised me to be. Never gone from my heart, never far from my thoughts, it’s only “Bye for now, Mom,” until I see you in eternity. I extend a very special and heartfelt thank you to my brother Christopher Flager, my sister Johanna Weekley, my brother Stephen Flager, and my Mother’s nurse and friend, Beverly Gilyard. You gave our Mother her freedom and watched over her so lovingly. You have my unending gratitude.
With all my love and with my family’s love,
Nancy Elise Flager Vines

August 15, 2010

Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Love Bill and Cathy Kinninger