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18000 Interstate 45 S, The Woodlands, TX


Jeffrey Mark Bender

May 29, 1951March 16, 2020

Jeffrey Mark (“Luke and John Elvis Presley Mickey Mantle”) Bender, age 68, went to walk his daily 10,000 steps in the Great Beyond on March 16, 2020 after fighting a long battle with renal cell carcinoma. Jeff was a loving husband, father, and grandfather. He was born in Lewisburg, PA on May 29, 1951, spent his childhood in Orwigsburg, PA and lived in The Woodlands, TX the past 26 years. He also had a home at Smith Mountain Lake, VA, where he and his wife, Jenny, had created their dream home, and liked to spend summers.

Jeff graduated from Blue Mountain High School and Penn State University. Jeff worked in Human Resources for 34 years. He was with ARCO and ARCO subsidiaries including Vastar for 27 years and Apache Corporation for 7 years as Vice President of Human Resources. Jeff was a devoted father to his two daughters and loved being their soccer coach and watching them grow up to share his love of running. A lifelong runner, Jeff became an avid walker in his later years.

Jeff was preceded in death by his mother, Joanna Boehmer Bender, and his father, Frederick Bender. He leaves behind his wife of 46 years, Jennifer Bolton Bender, daughters and sons-in-law, Jessica Gorman (Joshua) of Scottsdale, AZ and Janelle Phelps (Andrew) of Eagle, ID, and his four precious grandsons William Gorman, Hunter Phelps, Benjamin Gorman, and Grady Phelps. Also left behind are his brother Frederick Bender (Susan) and his sister Linda Fiscus and loving sisters and brothers-in-law and nieces and nephews. Jeff had a huge network of friends and family, and he never met a stranger.

A memorial service will be held at a later date when loved ones can travel safely and celebrate his life together.

In Lieu of flowers the family request donations be sent to Jeff and Jenny’s Egypt School for Girls, G11 – El Ma’mal; checks made out to “Springboard-Educating the Future” mailed to Bill Pearce, Apache Corp.(Springboard for Education) 2000 Post Oak Blvd, Suite 100, Houston, TX 77056 or a charity of your choice.


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Billy Johnson

March 30, 2020

Jenny to you and" the Girls", as Jeff would always say as we discussed our family, my condolences and prayers for Gods comfort to be with you in this time of grief and reflection.
I met Jeff in early 1990 as we both relocated to the Dallas area to assume roles on the Arco Oil & Gas HR Team. Jeff was instantly a valuable colleague, and loved to talk about any subject matter that was on the table. Over the years during my career with Arco, Vastar, Southern Company, and beyond, We stayed in touch with occasional phone calls. always talking about our family and our last call was about 8 months ago, we talked about the joys of being grandparents.
It a joy to see the legacy Jenny that you and Jeff have with your children, grandchildren, and an abundant number of friends.
May God bless you all!
Billy E.Johnson

Frederick Bender

March 28, 2020

The days have been very long for my wife Susan and me since 9:30 AM March 16, 2020.
To this day I remember May 29, 1951. I was 4 1/2 years old and Linda our sister was 8 years . I still can envision when Mom and Dad drove up to our house 41 S. Water street Lewisburg, Pa..
And there was our brother Jeffrey.
He was my very best friend , always available, humorous and had so many genuine traits this space would need to be a book.
Our family and friends will always remember Jeffs' middle initial (LOVE) of Life,People and Principles for mankind!
Fred Bender

Tom DeScioli

March 27, 2020

During our years together at ARCO I found Jeff to be a good friend, a trusted HR professional and an inspiring leader. Although we hadn't seen each other in quite a while we kept in touch via email and phone and enjoyed talking baseball and reminiscing about the dragons we slayed during "the good old days". I will miss those chats we had together.

My prayers and deepest sympathy to Jenny and all the family.

Tom DeScioli

Ken Schutt

March 25, 2020

To the Bender Family:
I am saddened by Jeff's passing and I want to express my deepest condolences to you all on the loss of your husband, brother, Dad, and Grandpa .
My earliest remembrance of Jeff probably 20+ years ago was seeing him and Dave Salvette out jogging and walking on the cart paths or bike paths in "the Point" during my weekend runs. We would run or walk a while and then take different routes. Jeff was such a positive, uplifting presence - always more interested in you than himself. He made the day feel a little brighter after every brief encounter. If he saw me out other mornings on his way to pick up Starbucks and bagels he would always slow the car down to wave and shout out "hey you're looking strong today" even though I was dragging in the summer heat. When I was unceremoniously "retired" a couple of years ago, I reached out to the only one I knew I could trust to talk over the shock of losing a job. He talked me through it and looked over my situation with me and provided comforting advice - "You're going to be OK, you will get through this"- and he was right of course.
 I think I am just one of many lives outside his immediate family and closest friends that Jeff lifted up by being who he was  - a genuinely selfless, optimistic and compassionate man. He brightened the world and will continue to brighten our memories.

Jack Beal

March 24, 2020

Worked with Jeff In Philly around 1980. He was an absolutely super young man who was destined to have a super career and family. Had some wonderful times and so sorry our
paths did not cross much in later years at Arco. So sorry, God Bless Jennifer and the family.

Betsy Hoberman

March 24, 2020

We still look for Jeff on the walking paths. We miss his happy gentle spirit proudly showing us how many steps he did, encouraging our dog to slobber him with kisses and joking the mosquitos won't bite him because he was radioactive from his chemo. Despite his illness, he was positive and sunny. Jeff was friendly to everyone. He was devoted to his wife, Jenny who was his high school sweetheart. He adored his two daughters, Jessica and Janelle and was proud of them. He loved the additions of his sons-in-law, Josh and Andrew, and of course his four precious grandsons. We admired Jeff and will miss him greatly.
Michael and Betsy Hoberman

Maureen Moke

March 22, 2020

I had met Jeff over 40 years ago when I was working in ARCO Chemical's HR Dept., and we remained friends over all those years. I worked for him briefly and had so many laughs and fun memories during the years we worked together. We stayed in touch, mainly through facebook and email and the very rare phone call, over the years after Jeff and his family relocated to Houston, and I always hoped that we'd meet again. So sad to realize that will not happen. He is one of my absolute best memories of ACC! My heart goes out to you, Jenny, and Jessica and Janelle, and I was always so happy that he fought for enough years to have those 4 beautiful grandsons! Rest in peace, Jeff ❤

Marjie Podzielinski

March 21, 2020

Jeff was a wonderful soccer coach and mentor to my daughter, Julie .
We were truly blessed to have his friendship. Sincere condolences to your family as you celebrate his life. God bless you all 🙏🏼❤️

Sheree Dixon

March 21, 2020

Jenny, we are so very sorry in your loss. We will miss talking to Jeff and seeing him walk around the neighborhood. Please let me know if you need anything. Jim and Sheree Dixon

Jenny Bender

March 21, 2020