Dear Paula and Emma,

I am so sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you. It's impossible for me to imagine what you've been through, but I think about you both often and hope things are getting easier.

Growing up, Dad told me dozens of stories from his childhood and in these Jim played a huge part. He fondly recalled the scripts Jim wrote and the two of them performed together at school and let me pour over the notebook of his incredible cartoons and sketches. Dad can still recite one of the poems Jim wrote when he was a teenager.

I always loved coming to Toronto to visit you. When I was little I knew Jim to be kind, loving and fun. As I got older I understood better why Dad admired him so much. He was talented, insightful and absolutely hilarious. The last time I met with you all he still had me in stitches and was bringing me up to date on all the latest music. Thanks to you Emma, I am lucky enough to have one of his beautiful photographs and it reminds me of him every day.

I've been incredibly fortunate to have such a wonderful uncle. I will miss him very much.

Love,
Sara

Dear Paula and Emma,
It has been a pleasure and an honour to know Jim. I will always cherish the memories of our friendship, many get-togethers and stimulating discussions. I'm sure that he is looking down on us all and sitting back and snapping some caps with the angels. 
Alex & Adija

Dear Paula and Emma: I wanted to start with a little anecdote about Jim. Jim invited me over for Christmas one year, but warned me that his house was very small, so small in fact that he said he had to go outside to change his mind. This was quintessential Jim. I just worked with Jim for over twenty years, he was an amazing colleague and a wonderful person. We had lots of fun working together over the years. My daughters Magdalena and Paulina also remember him fondly. My entire family sends their condolences. Our thoughts are with you. Very best, Bogda

Dear Paula and Emma:
We are very saddened to hear about Jim, but our thoughts are with you during this difficult time. 
We only met Jim on a few occasions, but we have pleasant memories of him as a very warm and welcoming person.
Aziz and Mary Jean

Paula and Jim,
I will miss Jim very much and will remember him as probably the funniest person I've ever known. He told the best stories and I always looked forward to his visits. He left us too soon but his memory will never fade.
Love Sarah

Dear Paula and Emma: I was very shocked and saddened by news of Jim's death.  The last time I talked to him he was enjoying retirement, travelling and pursuing his many interests. He was a great colleague in Preservation Services, UTL, from 1984 until his retirement in 2007.  His work was always meticulous and creative and his great sense of humour often made us laugh.  He often talked very affectionately of you both and of your cat and dogs. I remember very clearly my many interesting and lively conversations with Jim. He could always brighten up our day.  Sincere condolences to you both and the whole family.  Karen Turko

Very surprised and saddened to learn of Jim's death. From 1980 until he moved  to Robarts Library, he was a colleague at Sci-Med (now Gerstein). I didn't know him well but always appreciated the twinkle in his eye and his sense of humour then and later when  we crossed paths at library- related events or on campus. I also remember with delight how pleased he was when he knew he was going to become a Dad and when his daughter, Emma, was born. He took a series of gorgeous black & white closeup photos of the historic exterior details of the Sci-med Library (the original University of Toronto Library built in 1892). Fortunately, those photos now grace the walls of the Alice Moultin (meeting) Room, Gerstein. He was a man of many talents who was a pleasure to work with and who will be missed. Condolences to his family and close friends, Sandra Langlands.

Dear Paula and Emma,
I am so glad that I have Jim's photographs on my walls.  I am reminded of him every day when I see what he made with his creative eye.  He was a thoughtful, intelligent, interested and creative man and a very strong one.  I will miss him and our discussions of Haiku, the classics, and the innumerable other things that interested him.  My love and condolences to both of you.
Z

Dear Paula and Emma,
Jim was, indeed, so many things to so many people.  David and I have fond memories of sharing some very happy occasions with Paula and Jim over the years.  We listened to music in some small Toronto venues, walked over the Brooklyn Bridge together and actually ran into each other in Washington Square Park (what are the odds). Jim was warm and intelligent and a really great storyteller.  And the stories he told weren't always verbal--he captured a hundred different stories in the photo he took of people coming and going from  the Algonquin Hotel in New York.  It's one of my favorites and every time I look at it I think of Jim imagining the lives of the people he captured in motion.  Jim will always be captured in our memories.  Our heartfelt condolences Paula and Emma.

I am so sorry to hear about Jim. What a lovely man. Always such a warm and funny guy, and so helpful. Fondly remembered.

Jennifer Toews (Library, University of Toronto)

My sincere condolences for your loss, God Bless.

Heartfelt condolences. Jim was a colleague at the University of Toronto Libraries for many years. Always a good person, a knowledgeable professional and a most helpful colleague. Repeating waht others have already said, a gentleman and a gentle man.

Miguel Torrens. Toronto

I like what Jane and Jim said -- Jim Ingram was a Gentleman and a gentle man. I always enjoyed talking with him, particularly about his interests, such as the South! Even when he was very sick he rallied when talking about Charleston, Savannah, and all the history of the Civil War. This is a a devastating and painful time -- Paula and Emma, you are constantly in my thoughts. There are so many lovely, lovely memories of time spent with the three of you, including holidays, Jim's photography shows and a very special memory of the last time we were together in New York. I will miss Jim very, very much. He was one of the good guys.

Jim was a Gentleman--and a gentle man.  He was quietly brilliant and brilliantly funny, interesting and interested.  The angle he viewed the world from was unique to him, and always fascinating and rewarding to catch a glimpse of.  His love of life, with all its pleasures, wonders and amusements, was only surpassed by his love for Paula and Emma.  We'll miss you Jim.

To Paula and Emma. I am so saddened to hear of the loss of a great man. Husband, father and friend. I have gotten to know Jimmie some 17 years ago and found him to be a very travelled man with lots of stories to tell. His love for photography (one will forever hang on my kitchen wall). His love for baseball. I cant tell you how mant Blue Jay games and Maple Leaf games at Christie Pits we attended together. He always knew the stats of all the players. But most of all, Jim was someone I could always call a true friend. He always worried about everyone else before himself. My deepest condolences to you both and your families. R I P Mr James Ingram. You will be missed by all you have met

Paula and Emma, 
Ken and I had the great pleasure of meeting Jim several times and so enjoyed his charm, his intelligence and his humour. We are sorry he's gone too soon. He will be missed. We'll raise a glass to a wonderful man. Our thoughts are with you.

Paula and Emma

My heartfelt condolences. I met Jim during one his gallery shows. Great photographer! A very warm, kind and caring man. You and Jim were always so down to earth and accepting whenever I bumped into you. He cannot be replaced but fondly remembered.

Rose

Dear Paula & Emma, 

Please accept my heartfelt condolences. I am very saddened to hear of Jim's passing ~ I can honestly say he was one the best people I ever met in Toronto. We sure had some great conversations - travel well Jim and See you on the other side !

I feel privileged to have known Jim as a friend for many years.

His sense of humour, his wordplay - how could he manage to be so incisive and yet so soft-spoken? How enjoyable it was to simply sit and watch old movies with him giving us the benefit of his artist's eye and history buff's knowledge. 

What a loss to you, Paula and Emma and all his family and friends. What dear memories we have too.

Elizabeth

Hi Paula & Emma,
Of course you most but everyone who knew and loved him will miss the modest man between us. Funny, smart, such great company. A wonderful photographer (he underestimated how great) did I mention modest? Funny? We will miss him terribly. Fran Hill and Leon Rooke

Dear Paula and Emma, 
I never met Jim but I knew him through your words, Paula, and he always seemed to be just the man so beautifully and lovingly described above. A life to be celebrated who loved those around him. 

I am so sorry that he had to leave you so soon. But from the fight he fought it is obvious that it was the last thing he wanted to do... 

With much love and many prayers for you and Emma during this very difficult time, 
Melanie

I'm so sorry, Paula.

I knew Jim for over 40 years - since our Ryerson days.  We kept in touch all that time except during our mutual incarceration at Princess Margaret's chemo wards when we were both unaware of each other's situation.  Since then we bonded even closer.  Just this week we were slated to get together and share war stories over some Wiser's Deluxe - had a bottle ready for you, Jim.

I remember when Jim first met Paula and would rhapsodize about Paola as he called her in his best Charles Boyer.  Then their marriage, then Emma, born one year to the day after our daughter was born.  I knew Jim pre-photography when he was an animator and filmmaker.  But best of all, I remember our innumerable pub crawls.  My God the shoe leather we shed!  Each crawl would consist of discussions around art, film, music, politics, philosophy, comedy,  the human condition, and, of course, the aesthetics of each and every place we visited along with its patrons - from the garish to the genteel.  And they all had value for Jim, each and every one of them.  Jim's 3 Rs were Renaissance man, Raconteur, and Rascal, a dwindling demographic further reduced by Jim's passing.  He was a joy to talk to, argue with, listen to, but above all, to laugh with.

I just opened that bottle of Wiser's and poured you one.  To you, Jim.  I cherished you and will continue to do so.

Jim, remembered with glass in hand and an audience at the table, was a great raconteur, telling stories of his travels and those who had crossed his path in life, seeing humour in the human condition. He will be missed.

Such an amazing man and a wonderful friend. We will miss him so very much. All my love Paula, you and Emma are in my thoughts and prayers.

Dearest Paula & Emma, Although it has been a few years since we have been together we will always remember Jim's sense of humour. Big hugs to the family. Love, Janet & Pete Broadley

Dear Paula, Emma and family, may his love carry you through the challenges ahead.

Dear Paula and Emma: Please take care of each other during this very difficult time. 
Ruth MacLean

Dear Paula and Emma, 

I am so sorry for your loss. I have missed Jim's presence in the neighbourhood. I will now hold him fondly in my heart.

Eleanor Patterson

Paula, your Jim sounds like such a lovely man.  Wish he could've joined us at a writers' conference.  We would've tipped a glass of wine (or two!) and shared our mutual passion for history.  I know we would've been great buds.  Our prayers are with you during this awful time.

Paula - your Jim sounds like such a lovely man!  Wish he could've joined us at one of our writing conferences.  We would've tipped a glass of wine (or two!) and shared our passions for history.  I know we would've been great buds.  Much love to you in this awful time.

Please accept my heartfelt condolences on the loss of your loved one.  May God give you strength and comfort during this difficult time. Ps 46 : 1

Paula, Emma and family,

We offer our deepest condolences to you.

We consider ourselves blessed to have had Jim in our lives, even if for a short time. It has been an honor and a privilege to have known him, to have been able to raise more than a few glasses of wine with him and Paula, and to have two of his personally signed masterpieces hanging on our walls.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you at your time of unimaginable loss.

With love,

Ken Doige and Kathy Milsom

What a special man! He obviously touched many lives. Wish I'd had a chance to meet him.

Carl Sagan wrote: we live on an insignificant planet of a humdrum star lost in a galaxy tucked away in some forgotten corner of a universe in which there are far more galaxies than people . Maybe but Jim was a significant galaxy- all on his ownso full of wonder, love and life. The light he shone on us all will last a very very long time. 
Love to Emma and Paula!

Paula & Emma: I am thinking of you both during this difficult time. I remember celebrating your anniversary with you & Jim, Paula. The evening was filled with laughter and warmth and is a memory I will cherish of you as a family. My condolences as you navigate this challenging path. 

Sincerely,
Carrie

Jim's sense of humour was intelligent, distinct and unpredictable and his delivery of some funny idea was always priceless.  He made many a routine day at the Science and Medicine library memorable. Many people commented that he could have been a comedian but sometimes it's hard to package what makes someone special. He was our very own court jester.  Martin and I are very sad that this wonderful man of many talents has left the world.  He was such a kind friend.  Our deepest sympathies to his loved ones Paula, Emma and extended family.

Jim will be missed by his next door friends, of over thirty years.  He was a wonderful neighbour and will be remembered fondly.

With love to the family,

The Wilder's

Loved Jim's sense of humour and care for others! He had a way of saying things simply and directly yet kind which was always insightful and what I needed to hear! I'll miss him,  for sure!

To Jim's family, my deepest condolences. On one of Jim and Paula's trips to Arizona, my husband and I were able to have such a good visit. They went to see the air museum and many other sights that Jim photographed. He took a photo of a colorful bench and desert flowers in front of our home. I'm thankful we had such a wonderful chance to talk and share food and wine. Roz Fox

Jim's gentle, witty humour is what I'll miss most.  He liked to laugh and could make me laugh out loud.  He was intensely curious about everything, always engaged with the world, watching, listening, creating, unobtrusive but very present, cutting edge in his thinking, old-fashioned in his elegance and humility.  They broke the mold, Jim.  Love, Barbara

On behalf of my Father, Jim Parnell (now deceased), who spent many entertaining hours with Jim discussing all sorts of topics as they enjoyed their traditional Labatt 50. 

My memories of Jim were discussing photography and going to one of his photography showings.  I proudly came home with one of his photographs which to this day still hangs proudly in my family room.

With my sincere sympathy
Pam Van Loo & James Parnell

I have one of Jim's photographs hanging on my wall. It'll serve as a constant reminder of the beautiful life he lived and the wonderful man he was.

OBITUARY

James Ralph Ingram

April 28, 1947 – May 30, 2016

Jerrett Funeral Homes - St. Clair Chapel

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