Elaine Marie Lufkin
October 27, 1941 – January 31, 2021
On Sunday, January 31, 2021, Elaine Marie Lufkin of Maple City (formerly Grand Haven), loving wife of Tom, loving mother of seven children, and grandmother to nineteen grandchildren, passed away suddenly while receiving loving care at Munson Medical Center in Traverse City, Michigan at the age of 79. She was surrounded by her loving family.
Elaine Marie Lufkin was born on October 27,1941 to Theodore and Dorothy Koski in Detroit, Michigan. As the oldest of six, she helped her father run Koski Pharmacy and helped her mother with her younger siblings. She was a devoted daughter and sister.
Elaine Marie met Tom on the bus at frosh camp during her first year at Wayne State University. The pair were rarely apart after that day. She married Tom shortly after graduation from pharmacy school on September 2, 1963. Tom and Elaine spent their lives growing a business, a family, and their communities. Tom and Elaine were forever in love. Elaine enjoyed walking on the sandy beaches of Lake Michigan, swimming elegant strokes in Bright Lake, and visiting her children, and, when possible, Europe. Her grandchildren will remember her open kitchen and open heart. Elaine was a gentle spirit and mother to all.
Elaine’s greatest joy was taking care of others and encouraging all in her humble, quiet way. She was a committed pharmacist who always served others before herself. She was an active churchgoer at Saint Daniel Church in Clarkston, Saint Patrick church in Grand Haven, and St. Philip Neri in Empire. While she worked tirelessly for social justice around the globe, one of her favorite projects was working on the Giving Tree–often organizing the distribution of hundreds of gifts to children in need.
She is survived by her loving husband Tom with whom she devoted her life to loving and raising her children. She will continue to be loved by her oldest son Christopher, daughter Anne (Riaño), daughter Susan (Faulkner), son Michael, son Robert, daughter Mary (Hoelscher), and daughter Bridget (Nicholson). She loved equally the spouses of her children: Nancy Ann Pierce, Camilo Riaño, Ermal Faulkner, Erin Hawkinson, Shelly (Sackett) Lufkin, Matt Hoelscher, and Stephen Nicholson. Even more incredibly she adored all of her beautiful grandbabies; Hannah, Jack, and Maura Lufkin; María Camila, Sebastián, and Pablo Riaño; Nicholas and Benjamin Faulkner; Theo and Helina Lufkin; Olivia, Maggie, and June Lufkin; Charles, August, and Ruby Hoelscher; and Elena, Tobias, and Joshua Nicholson. She is survived by three sisters and her brother: Mary (Birnbryer), Catherine (Schmidt), Judy (Martin), and Joseph Koski. She is preceded in death by her brother David. She was a devoted and loving daughter and sister.
A full celebration of Elaine’s life will be planned for this summer. The family will hold a private funeral mass at St. Philip Neri in Empire. In lieu of flowers please make a memorial contribution to Elaine’s favorite charities; The Southern Poverty Law Center (splcenter.org) or Catholic Relief Service(crs.org) and above all, live her legacy of loving one another unconditionally.
Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at www.covelltraversecity.com for the Lufkin family.
No public services are scheduled at this time. Receive a notification when services are updated.
Elaine Marie Lufkin
February 4, 2021
Rare are the times in our lives when we meet a person with the quiet strength of conviction and deed who exemplifies the true meaning of Christianity. Elaine was one such force in this tormented universe. She was always ready with an open hand and and an open heart. Thank you for the kindness and support you gave to me and to my family. Thank you for the mark you made on this world. I am forever grateful.
Maureen Street MD
February 3, 2021
Elaine will live forever in my heart. She lived the truth in her service to others and in her kind, selfless caring. I was a newcomer to the world of advocating for justice and through her I saw humility, acceptance, strength and love in all she did for others and felt encouraged to follow. As a woman in “our time” she quietly demonstrated the potential a woman can bring to the lives of her family and friends and all she met. Her patience was astounding – especially with training Daisy dog! I loved her like a sister and will miss our walks to the lake together, our chats and her yummy chicken and applesauce lunches.
Henri Nouwen says that our lives can bear fruit far beyond the boundaries of our chronologies. I so believe Elaine’s life has and will continue to bring joy, peace and love to many.
February 3, 2021
As only God would have it, you were an angel in the face of Elaine. Your gentle spirit and grace have been a blessing for me since God allowed us to cross paths. You will be surely missed while memories of your beautiful life will never fade. Tom, we love you and we are here for you.
Fonte and Nicole Love
February 1, 2021
Elaine was part of the social justice commission when I joined St Patrick's in Grand Haven. Always soft spoken. Always willing to lend a hand. I remember particularly her speaking to the congregation every year about Catholic Relief Services Rice Bowl campaign. Until I read your memorial page I had forgotten about her work with the Giving Tree. I volunteered at the Christian Community Center with Fr Jack LaGoe in the Children's Programs. The gifts she helped gather were sometimes the only gifts the children received each year. The Center, through Elaine's efforts, received upwards of 300 gifts each year. A classy lady with a heart the size of a giant. Your spirit lives on in the seeds you sowed. My condolences to Tom and the Lufkin family