William Edward Oakes
May 10, 1968 – December 1, 2018
It has been warming for our family to read the loving memories already shared about “Billy”. Thank you for your gift of memories that you’ve shared. Bill will be greatly and forever missed. Should you ever wish to see him again before heaven’s door, his son Tyler, seventeen-years-old, is a spitting image of his father. He has his dad’s voice, mannerisms, handsome looks, and a smile that lights up the room. Tyler was able to hold his dad’s hand as he passed. Bill was also surrounded by his sister-in-law and brother-in-law (Adria and Charlie Carson), nephews (Breydan and Peyton), mother-in-law and father-in-law (Wanda and Pat Brey), as well as some of his close friends. Bill’s niece Teyha was at his side as much as possible and even gave him occasional foot massages. His brother Steven is in good hands and having fun flirting with nurses in an area home now. Bill was a proud father and loyal to the core for all his family and friends. He was preceded in death by his parents Robert and Kay Oakes.
William Edward Oakes
December 18, 2018
Dad, I haven't had many words lately. My heart aches so deeply. I know you're up there, watching over me, I'm trying so hard to stay strong for you, but it's hard. There's never a minute that goes by where I can stop thinking of you and the great times we've had. I am so grateful that I got to spend my 5th grade year with you. I cherish those times when we'd toss a baseball back and forth at the Rolling Hills park, shoot hoops with the basketball you got me for Christmas in the front yard, go bowling, ride our bikes late at night, rent movies at RedBox, then go to Cold Stone (Stone Cold as you'd always call it) before we started our movies on the old OG Xbox, jamming out to Bob Marley's "I Shot the Sheriff" and other old school rap in the car. There are SO many other things I could list. I'm sure you're having a great time living it up there with God, Grandma, Grandpa, your old dog, and Pooters... that random cat that would always jump in our back yard! Haha, good times. To all of Steve's caretakers, thank you for your support throughout the years so my Dad and I could spend those moments together. Especially you, Peggy & Adria,
You're amazing people.
I love you Dad, forever. You were truly the greatest. I can't wait to see you again someday.
Love Your Son,
December 17, 2018
I have been waiting to share my own memories for lack of adequate words and strength. Bill and I met over 20 years ago through my sister Adria and her best friend Chrissy. Shortly after I finished high school in North Dakota, I had moved in with my sister in Tucson and began dating Bill. I fell in love with him, and within a year we created the most amazing gift together: Tyler Allan Oakes. I remember when Bill was looking in his closet for a shirt and asked “What do you think about ‘Tyler’?” for a name. It was as simple as that. Not everything that followed was as simple, yet throughout the years of parenting, Bill’s love for our son remained immeasurable. I remember when Bill painted my toenails when I was nine months pregnant. And when he magically whipped out a Snickers as they cleaned our newborn because I had mentioned hours earlier that’s all I wanted. Just a month before he became sick, he and I had a great heart-to-heart on the phone. We were trying to brainstorm how to help Tyler buy a better car between Christmas, Tyler’s birthday, and graduation. It was our last ‘normal’ visit, and I cherish it with all my heart. We joked we should have made more kids together, because Tyler turned out so great! (insert our laughter because neither of us felt we can take much credit). Then, in an unbelievable turn of events, I shared our cherished last phone call a week before his passing. That was the call that allowed me to pray with Bill for his salvation. I pleaded for him to help me decide whether-or-not to have Tyler return to ND or if Bill thought it was serious enough to have him stay. Bill insisted Tyler come back, but thanked me for sending him and reiterated how nice it was to have him there. Alas, within days, Tyler returned to his dad’s bedside to hold his hand as he entered eternity with our Creator. Bill certainly was one-of-a-kind. I love and miss him. Thank you for sharing your own love, memories, kind words, and prayers for the family- especially for T.
December 15, 2018
Billy, Stephen and I grew up together on Roberto Place. Billy and my brother Andrew got into mischief together and the memories of those days make me laugh. Over the last year, I have been spending a lot of days on Roberto Place tending to my parents and on most every visit, I spoke with Billy either in person or over text. We texted many times after I left town about Stephen or something strange he might see at my parents’ house. He gave me good advice when I needed a handyman to come over and he helped me laugh through some tough times with Mom and Dad. When I sat with Billy and Stephen and visited in person, it was very evident how much he cared for his brother. He did an awesome job! I feel so blessed to have reconnected with Billy this year and I will really miss him. God bless Tyler and your family. If there is anything I can do for you, please let me know. Maggie Dickens
December 14, 2018
I was sadden when I found out the news of William Oakes aka Billy's passing. I first meet him at Marshall Elementary, than two years at Secrist Jr high and 4 years at SRHS.He was a very kind hearted young man.. always treating other with a kind spirit. Definetely always had that awesome smile that he will be remembered by from so many of us .I'm so glad I had the opportunity to know you . May God hold your family in his arms in this most difficult time. May you now rest in peace.
December 12, 2018
I have nothing but happy smiling memories of Billy from high school. He was one of my many “Jock Big Brothers”. He always was kind and made me smile. I have wondered about him many times over the years and was truly sad to learn of his early passing. Prayers to his son and all his family and friends who love him. Rest In Peace Billy.
Michele Skyrm (DePalma)
December 11, 2018
Warm embraces for all who were touched by Billy. Prayers to you and your Family Billy. Rest easy my friend.
December 7, 2018
It always hurts to hear a friend has passed, the only piece of good I can find from it is the wonderful memories we will always have of Billy, Santa Rita wouldn't have been the same if I hadn't met this kid, we started off rough but by gradution i coudnt ask for a better bud. My heart and prayers go out to everyone touched by his passing. Too young, never forgotten.
Susan Montalvo Williams
December 7, 2018
Billy was a friend throughout our school years, starting at Marshall. I have thought of him over the years many times, as I remember him as a boy and young man, who was always kind, fun and a gentleman to the girls. We all thought he was gorgeous and sweet! We lost touch after graduation, but I have not forgotten him, nor will I as long as I live. I pray and know he is at peace, watching over us all. It has hit us all very hard to think that such a good human being is gone. When we saw him at the reunion his smile lit up the room, and we had a chance to tell him how much we loved him. Rest in peace Billy.
December 7, 2018
I have fond memories of Billy from our years at Marshall elementary, Secrist, and Santa Rita. I remember him as a great athlete. Everyone wanted to be on his team when we were playing dodge ball, around the world, or kick ball. He was fast and strong. He always had a beautiful smile. It was so great to see him at our 25 year reunion when we got Justin to call him and begged him to join us. We were all ready seated at our tables. He did come and joined in the fun. I will cherish these special memories! Rest In Peace Billy!