OBITUARY

Teddy Ted Edward Slape

September 2, 1934March 18, 2014
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OBITUARY of TEDDY EDWARD SLAPE

Teddy passed away peacefully on March 18 with his wife Jo Ann (Ritter) and daughter Tracey Flaherty by his side.

Born on September 2, 1934 he lived in Ontario until his teen-age years. At the death of his mother he moved to Upland to live with his maternal grandparents. He worked at Pete Benton's Service Station through his high school years graduating from Chaffey High School in 1952. Ted worked at Cochran and Nichols after school and continued on until 1957 when he was drafted into the U S Army. Upon discharge, Ted returned to Cochran and Nichols until 1961 when he was hired by Leininger and Short, working there for 20 years. During this time Ted was also partners with his grandfather and uncle in Lenard Smith & Company Security, which they started in 1953. In 1981 Ted left Leininger and Short to start his own company naming it American Tire Service. He retired in 1997 from the tire company and 2001 from the Security business.

Ted loved traveling, camping, fishing and genealogy and spent many hours with his family and friends sharing these hobbies. Ted served 2 two missions with his wife Jo Ann in the South Dakota Rapid City Mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. The first at 6th Crossing for six months and the second at Martin's Cove for eighteen months.

Ted was preceded in death by a daughter Deborah Ruth, and parents Roy Sidney and Winnie Fern. Ted is survived by his wife Jo Ann (Ritter); four children Stephanie Smith (Steven), Craig Slape (Cindy), Tracey Flaherty (John), and Kevin Slape (Rachel); grandchildren, Cassandra Eccles (Jared), Shaun Smith (Veronica), Chad and Corey Border, Kaelin, Karlie and Connor Slape; and great grandchildren Madison, Sonja, Quinnton and Charlotte Eccles, Sebastien Smith and many friends. The last week of Ted's sojourn here on earth were spent with his complete family and many friends close by reliving events of the past by sharing stories and looking at pictures of their many adventures together.

Funeral arrangements were made through Stone Funeral Home in Upland, California. Ted was interred at the Riverside National Cemetery in Riverside, California

Services

  • Visitation Tuesday, March 25, 2014
  • Funeral Service Wednesday, March 26, 2014
  • Graveside Service Wednesday, March 26, 2014
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Mark McConnell

April 30, 2014

Thundering Humility

In the Oscar winning film “A Man for All Seasons”, there is a line that I have been fond of ever since the moment that I first heard it. It's a complicated movie and I'm not here to discuss the plot, but in the movie, a man of honesty is asked to swear an oath to the King, but in so doing, he would have to push his own deeply held beliefs aside. So he makes a decision not to speak out, not to swear the oath, to keep silent. The problem is, that he is known as such a man of integrity that his silence speaks louder than any protest ever could. The line I've never been able to get out of my head is, “His silence thundered up and down the coast of England.” I love the imagery of that phrase.
I'm going to borrow a little from that phrase as I speak of Humility. When he think of humility, we often think of the life of our Savior Jesus Christ. He came to earth to fulfill his father's mission. A mission, that if successful, would allow all of Father's children to have the chance to return to live with him. Jesus Christ is the King of Kings, he is the Lord of Lords. His life deserved to be honored as no other life has before or since, and yet he said over and over, I am only here to fulfill my Father's plan. He sought no honor, he sought no adoration or adulation. He lived a life of Thundering Humility.
As I look back, I realize that many great men and women of the gospel have led lives where this characteristic, a Thundering Humility, is central to who they are. Gordon B. Hinckley, the former President and Prophet of the LDS Church could be described as a man who lived his life with Thundering Humility. The current President and Prophet of the Church, Thomas S. Monson could also be described this way.
Our friend Ted could be described this way. Ted served missions for the church and was always found to be in the service of others, but when someone praised him for the service that he rendered, he always passed it off with an “Aw shucks” sort of folksiness. When asked to work in any capacity in the church, he was always the first to volunteer if he possibly could. When asked to do anything gospel related, his was always the first hand raised, or if it wasn't, he would come later and say, “I think I can do that, but I have to check with Jo Ann first.”
When you praised Ted for the things he did, he always shrugged it off. But if you continued to praise him, if you pushed him, another side, rarely seen would emerge. He would say something like this. “Mark, I'm doing this because when I was younger and physically stronger, I didn't do enough. I worked too hard. I was away from my family too much. I was away from my beautiful wife and sweet children too much. I didn't do enough for my family.”
It was at times like this that I would chastise my friend and surrogate father. I would tell him that even if that were true, I didn't believe it, and I certainly didn't believe that his family felt that way, and that even if the remotest part of that statement was true, it certainly wasn't now. If it was at all true at one time, he had made up for it a thousandfold. See, Ted went out of his way in his retirement years to devote his life to two things, family and church. He succeeded admirably on both counts.
Some years later, I had the chance to work with Dennis Merrick in the church, a relationship that extends to this day. Dennis and I were surprised to find out that we both had similar conversations with Ted, and that Dennis had chastised Ted as well. But this humility is symbolic of Ted, it is symbolic of all of those who serve the Lord with all their heart, might, mind and strength. It goes something like this, “Father has done so much for me that I need to do more for Father.”

A Thundering Humility!

Ted's service to his family and to his church is based on two things. First, the deep well-spring of Love that is in his heart and soul, and second, his faith in Heavenly Father and in his Son, Jesus Christ. Ted knew, as few others have known so deeply, that this life is but a probationary state, a time to prepare to meet God. It's why Genealogical and Temple Work was so precious to him in his later life.

He served in many other ways, one was as a missionary. Many of you know how he and Jo Ann served a mission, actually, multiple missions, in Wyoming. Ted and Jo Ann loved these missions and he would vividly, enthusiastically, relate the experiences that he and Jo Ann had on them.
He was also a missionary in another way.
Jo Ann is the first primary teacher that I remember. She has had a great influence on my life. So has Ted. Ted and Jo Ann also served as our home teachers for 26 years. The first part of those years, I was inactive in the church. They never pushed me to return to the gospel. Instinctively, they seemed to know that wouldn't work. What they did do was simply show me love and be my friend. I know that they spent time on their knees praying for me. It's simply who they are, for when help or answers are needed, there is only one place to go. That place is prayer, and they knew it.
I am very lucky to be blessed with wonderful parents. I am very lucky to be blessed with two sets of wonderful parents. That second set of parents is Ted and Jo Ann. I want their children to know that Ted and Jo Ann mean the world to me, and I am grateful to them that they allowed me to be the stepbrother they didn't ask for. But it was through their parents example of love and kindness, that helped bring me back to the gospel of Jesus Christ. There are others who also played a mighty role in bringing me back but Ted and Jo Ann are near the top of that list and they've given me a gift I can never fully repay. So when I think of Ted's missions, that mission means the most to me.
Two other things:
When I think of Ted, I think of Jo Ann. They are one phrase, Ted and Jo Ann, Jo Ann and Ted. They are what it means to have an eternal marriage, two becoming one. Those of us who are left, as Ted continues on his journey without us, face a difficult, almost insurmountable task. Somehow, Ted's family and friends, those of us who are here today to show our love and respect, must find a way to temporarily fill Ted's giant shoes until you two can be together again. Jo Ann, this room is filled with those who love you and are ready and willing to try.
Finally, and I have to end this before I completely turn into a blubbering mess, I'm reminded of something I posted on Facebook the day that Stephanie informed the Facebook world that her beloved father had passed on. I said to her that “Our thoughts are with the family and with Jo Ann because Ted was doing fine. The only problem with Ted is that Heavenly Father may have him changing a few tires. Other than that, he's doing great”.

The poet William Wordsworth described our time here on earth beautifully. Many of you know these words by heart. It seems fitting to recite them here on this occasion:

Our birth is but a sleep and a forgetting:
The Soul that rises with us, Our Life's Star,
Hath elsewhere its setting,
And cometh from afar:
Not in entire forgetfulness,
And not in utter nakedness,
But trailing clouds of glory do we come
From God, who is our home:

That, is the message of the gospel. We come to this earth from a heavenly home to learn, to grow, to be part of an eternal family experience, to serve others, and realize that the world doesn't revolve around us and when we've learned these things, Father calls us home.

Father has now called Ted home. I'm excited for him. He has begun a new and fantastic journey. This is not a time for sadness because the relationships that Ted formed here with us will exist forever. The only problem is that, for a time, there will be a hole in our heart until we are once again reunited with him. Until then, I will miss you, my friend.

I love you, Ted.

In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

April 26, 2014

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

April 25, 2014

Craig Cindy and family,

There really are no words to soothe a loss that is felt so deeply, though may it comfort you to remember that your father has left the best of himself behind...In your memory
in your heart, in your soul and in you.

May love and comfort "surround" you, and may you feel peace deep within your heart. "With Deepest Sympathy"

Our prayers and thoughts are with you all during this sad time. May peace and comfort be with your whole family at this difficult time.

With Love and Sympathy,
Mary and Grady

April 25, 2014

Dear Craig & Cindy,

In the memories you recall
and the hugs you share...
In the love and support
you offer each other...
May the pain of your loss
be lessened in time
as you find comfort
in the love that lives on.

We were so sad to hear about your father's death.

I remember meeting your parents when you got married. I know you all will miss him. I think it is one of the most difficult things to go through, is the loss of a loved one.

Take care!
Calvin & Peggy

April 25, 2014

Craig, Cindy & Family
May this sorrowful time allow you to reflect upon all the joy that you once shared with you departed loved one.

We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.

We pray Heavenly Father will give all of you peace and strength at this time,

Love - John & Carolyn

Leslie Wright

April 15, 2014

When thinking about Ted, I had so many wonderful thoughts starting with when we were children and he brought us those huge inner tubes home to play with in the pool....sometimes we would end up black from playing with and in them but we didn't care; we would get in them and see who could make the biggest waves in the pool...we had such wonderful times in those inner tubes, I have often wondered if Ted even knew just how much fun we had in those tubes??

Then I thought of the time we went to Fish Lake and camped out and I mean camped out because none of us had those kind of motor homes that had "facilities" in them that included showers etc, so we even cleaned-up in Fish Lake and it was COLD!! I remembered my mom would heat up water for the girls in the tea kettle for washing our hair and boy did that feel good!! But back to the fish, I remember we fished and fished and I am not going to say we did or didn't catch our limit or even over our limit all I remember is one particular evening, the men fried fish all night long, I mean if you went away hungry that night it was your own fault because there was more than enough food that night!! Fish Lake was a wonderful memory that I will never ever forget!!

Then there is the memory of going to the Colorado River every Memorial Day Weekend for I don't even recall how many years but I do recall it was many and I know it started out with just a few of us and it became quite a large group, but boy what fun we had....!! I remember it used to take us a couple of trips out to the bridge with the two boats that we had to take everyone out plus all of the stuff that we needed for the day, by the time we were going out for one of our last trips, it was taking I think 3 boats about 5 or 6 trips each to take all of the people and stuff out to the bridge for the day. Then the moms and the older daughters, boy I hated that day, went in on the earlier trips to get the food started for the gang, and the gang got to go in last....lucky dogs!! We had wonderful moments out at the River, I don't think there was anyone who didn't learn how to ski, unless they just plan didn't want to learn. This was another time that was special that we spent with the Slape family, but there were always some tires that needed some sort of fixing on these kinds of trips that took Ted's expertise!!

Finally, but certainly I'm sure not all I remember, are all the wonderful trips my parents went on with Ted and JoAnn and all the photos I would see when my parents would get home with all the smiles I would see from all of them!! That was certainly the best part, then on one occasion I actually accompanied the group (this smaller group grew also, strange how that always worked) in any case, I went to the Carribean and first hand got to see all the fun my parents and Ted and JoAnn had on these trips which made me want to go all the time, from not only the fun but the little capers between one another.....there was always just too much fun....

Ted always wore a bright smile on his face and always waved and said Hello....I will always remember his very happy face and demeanor until we meet again!

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