Shirley Grabner

June 8, 1948December 1, 2013

Long time teacher, Shirley A. Grabner, 65, died on Sunday, December 1, 2013, at Ray Hickey Hospice House in Vancouver. She was born on June 8, 1948, in Colfax, WA, as the oldest of four children to Allan C. and Marilyn (Catherman) Barger.

When she was young, they lived in Vancouver, where her father taught at Evergreen High School. They moved to Port Orchard where she graduated from South Kitsap High in 1966. At the University of Washington, she majored in education & theatre and graduated in 1972. She chose to become a teacher and follow the career of her father & grandparents. Over the next 38 years she taught children in grades K-8, in Tukwila and then Vancouver, and also coached volleyball and basketball. After moving to Vancouver in 1980, she first taught at Lady of the Lourdes and then Silver Star Elementary in Evergreen Schools, where she received the PTA Lifetime Achievement Award. After 22 years at Silver Star, she retired in 2010.

On August 16, 1996, Shirley married Richard L. Grabner in Las Vegas, NV. They bought their home in Vancouver, where they have lived for the last 17 years.

In 1999, in addition to teaching, Shirley became an Interior Designer and in 2006 completed the Feng Shui Consultant Training Program. She became a most sought-after Consultant, writing four books to explain Feng Shui & its applications.

Her mother Marilyn Barger and brother Fred A. Barger predeceased her. Surviving are her husband, Richard Grabner, stepson Scott Grabner of Portland, stepdaughter Richelle Grabner and grandson Michael Grabner of Battle Ground. Also surviving are her father Allan C. Barger; brother, Winslow Barger; sister, Barbara (Frederick) Bugenig; niece Jordan Barger; nephews John Allan Barger, Benjamin F. and Joshua Bugenig, all of Puyallup, WA; mother-in-law Patricia (Gil) Kopplin, Eugene, OR, and brother-in-law Fred (Joyce) Grabner, Dumfries, VA. Many cousins and many friends will also miss her.

The service will be held at Salmon Creek United Methodist Church on Saturday, December 14, at 1:00 p.m. Interment will be at Willamette National Cemetery. Donations may be made to the Shirley Grabner Memorial Fund for children of Silver Star Elementary at Wells Fargo Bank.



  • Visitation Friday, December 13, 2013
  • Funeral Service Saturday, December 14, 2013


  • Interment

Shirley Grabner

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Bernice Welch

December 30, 2013

Shirley you were my best friend. We did a lot of crazy things growing up but most of all we enjoyed life and our families. I will truley miss you. I will have the wonderful memory of you, Rick and I laughing over our last cup of coffee together. God Bless you for being my friend. Love you always Bernice

December 16, 2013

Weren't we ALL blessed by Shirley?! I was blessed to have Shirley as my cousin; she was always sunshine and Love caring. I cherish you, Shirley. Always, Mary

December 14, 2013

Go to my facebook a tribute to wife Shirley My Special Angel

December 13, 2013

It was a special blessing to know our cousin Shirley. She loved life and cared so much about others. It is precious to read all the notes from former students who loved her and it is apparent how much "Mrs. Grabner" impacted their lives. What a tribute to her of a life dedicated to helping children! We are grateful for the times we had with her. We long for the time when God, in His due time, will wipe away all tears and sorrows and death will no longer plague the human family. We pray for His Kingdom to come and for the blessings to flow to all. Sending love and hugs to you, Richard, in your time of sorrow.
Lovingly, Earleine (cousin)

December 13, 2013

Richard, sending prayers to you and your family, unfortunately I never met Shirley but she sounds like an incredible lady. Thinking of you, Sandy Main Yaniw-class of '64.

Cheryl Gribskov

December 13, 2013

Deepest sympathy for your loss. What a fulfilling life she led, and she was lucky to have you.

heather dascenzo

December 12, 2013

you will forever be in my heart

Heather Dascenzo

December 12, 2013

I had the pleasure of having Mrs. Grabner as my second grade teacher. She has made such a positive impact on my life. She was a great teacher and was always so kind to everyone.I will forever remember her and the great memories of my second grade year i shared with her.All 3 of my siblings and me got the chance of meeting her. Broke my heart to read her passing.

Holly Dascenzo

December 12, 2013

Mrs. Grabner was one of my favorite teachers at silver star and I had great memories with her in second grade when she taught me. She was always so wonderful and nice to her students, I will never forget her.

Anthony & Daphne Alexander

December 11, 2013

Mrs. Grabner taught our daughter at Silver Star Elementary 10+ years ago and she was wonderful. We couldn't have asked for a better educator. She was caring, professional, and made learning fun for our daughter. She was also a very patient stage director who dedicated countless hours to putting on school plays that we always enjoyed. God Bless her. She will be missed.