Mary "Mel" Ellen Arnold

September 28, 1928July 13, 2010

Mary Ellen “Mel” Arnold passed away peacefully with family near her side on July 13, 2010 at the age of 81. She was born a Midwest gal on September 28, 1928 in Muncie, Indiana. Mel grew up to have a weakness for a man in uniform and met her husband Dick Arnold, a marine, at her High School in Richmond Indiana. They married and moved to New Mexico before settling down in Ventura CA where she has resided for the past 57 years. Upon losing her husband after 30 years of marriage Mel worked for the County of Ventura until she retired in 1994. Mel enjoyed spending time with her two sons and grandchildren, traveling, dinner with friends, playing in several bridge clubs, was active in “Friends of the Library”, Library book club, and being a valuable docent to the Ventura County Museum.

Mel survived by her two sons, Michael Arnold of Carmichael Ca, Scott Arnold of Ojai Ca, and grand children Hilare, Gavin, and Kayla Arnold. As well as many close friends and extended family. She is preceded in death by husband Dick Arnold and Brother Bob Maley.

Services will be take place 12:30 P.M., Tuesday July 20, 2010, at Ted Mayr Funeral Home, 3150 Loma Vista Rd., Ventura ,with the Reverend Dan Hull officiating. Burial will follow at Ivy Lawn Memorial Park, 5400 Valentine Rd., Ventura.

In lieu of flowers memorial contributions may be made to Ventura County “Friends of the Library”, P.O. Box 403, Ventura, CA 93002.

Arrangements are under the direction of the Ted Mayr Funeral Home & Crematory, Ventura. Condolences may be left at


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Toni McKean

August 15, 2010

Dear Mike and Scott,

After they were both widowed, your mom and my dad Mac McKean began dating. (I think they'd known each other while they were both still married...I know both original couples had a gang of friends and a busy social circle in Ventura.)

Anyway, as their relationship grew, we kids of Mac (seven of us, all with families), got to know and love Mel, too. She was a great companion for my dad, and an honorary member of the McKean family.

At that time, i took over raising my grand-daughter, Noel, after her mother abandoned her. And Mel became even more dear to me. She helped me with her wisdom and kindness and concern. She totally supported me in this unexpected phase of my life.

And one Christmas (maybe about 94), she gave Noel a "snow-cone" machine. We still use that machine for my younger grandchildren. And when Noel (now married) was here helping with the little ones last month, she made dozens of snow-cones--and remembered back to when she received it from your mom!

Your mother was a very special person who made a wonderful impact on the McKean family. None of us will forget her.

i hope your grief will be eased by the knowledge that your mom had such a positive impact on us--and the world!

Toni McKean

July 25, 2010

Dearest Mike and Scott, Hilare, Gavin, and Kayla and all the other Arnolds:

I first met Mel in 1987. She was instrumental in my coming to work for the County in the Resource Management Agency's Environmental Health Division. She was my shepherd through the hiring process and made me feel like we were long-lost friends. Until her retirement in 1994, I found Mel to be a real "post" on which to lean. She always had words of encouragement as I faced different obstacles in the work environment. Outside of work, we got together every so often and our times together were always delightful. I'll always remember her laugh and how lively she was. I felt so comfortable in her home.

As long as I live, I will never forget your mom and grandma. She was so special and endearing.

God Bless you all,
"Sam" (Sharon) McKinney

Jessie MacLeod

July 24, 2010

In 1954 I attended Washington Elementary School. My 4th grade teacher was Mr. Arnold. I still have vivid memories of that class, as do my two friends who are still my best friends today. I recall that one day after school the three of us went over to Mr. and Mrs. Arnold's house that was across from the school on Hurst Street. Mrs. Arnold gave Mr. Arnold one of her necklaces for him to swing in front of us and hypnotize us! We thought that was the greatest thing on earth that day! I remember recently telling my dear friend, Pat Erhet, the story, and other stories about that wonderful year in school. Pat told me that Mrs. Arnold was her neighbor and that one day she would introduce us and we could talk about that and other memories. Sadly, that never happened, and those two dear ladies are no longer with us. I just wanted to share a happy memory of your parents from those days long ago. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to all your family. Sincerely, Jessie MacLeod

John Maley

July 23, 2010

I will always treasure memories of being with or talking with Aunt Mel. She always made me feel special. I will honor her by trying to be as kind and generous to others as she always was.

July 22, 2010

Dear Mike and Scott,
My prayers are with you.I'll always remember your mom as a dear,pleasant person and the special times she shared with our dear ''Mac".
Kevin Mckean

July 22, 2010

Dear Mike and Scott and families,
We were saddened to hear about your wonderful Mom. For many decades, Mel was always so kind to our family. We enjoyed seeing her often in the 1980s, and also before and after as well. We know your amazing Father and Mother are together again, and probably enjoying a wonderful party with all their neat friends, including our parents. On behalf of the entire family of Mac and Maggie McKean, we want to offer our deepest sympathy to you. Patrick and Cindy McKean and family

Susan Morgan

July 21, 2010

I met Mel in 1979 when I was 24 and started working for the County. She was a mother figure to me (my mom and dad were out of the country), she was so good to me and I just loved her. Mel always gave me the best advice, without ever judging me. Mike and Scott, Hilare, Gavin and Kayla, I know you know how blessed you are. To have Mel in our lives, we have all been blessed.

Terry Penny

July 21, 2010

Dear Mike and Scott and family, your mother was a wonderful person. Maggie and I was so blessed to know her. I remember the time when your mother and the the rest of the golden girls came an surprized me on my 50th birthday, wow what an nice expression of love. Yes , its true she will be missed, just keep that legecy of Love

Alisa Houck

July 20, 2010

Dear Scott and Mike and family, I am so sorry for your loss! Your Mom and Dad were very dear friends to my Dad and to our family. I remember gatherings at parks and other places including a camping trip to Ensenada with your Dad's class. Your Mom was always very kind to me. I am thinking about you all today as you remember her...I love the picture you chose for her obituary. That's how I see her. With a smile and a sparkle. Sincerely, Alisa Houck (Lisa Henson)

Shanon Bower

July 20, 2010

She always felt like a member of our famliy. We love and miss her. You are in our prayers Mike, Scott and family. Paul, Shanon, Nick, Jason and Eve