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Pleasant Valley Funeral Home

4303 Pleasant Valley Road, Vernon, BC

OBITUARY

Terry Douglas Pakenham

July 15, 1951April 24, 2020

Terry Douglas Pakenham, 68, passed away in the comfort of his own home on April 24, 2020 surrounded by his loving family after a courageous 14 week battle with cancer. He is survived by his wife Jean and their two sons, Colin and Clay (Emma) of Vernon, BC, brother in law George (Erna) Majkut and loving extended family, Jeremi (Ana), Joe and Kate. Terry is further survived by numerous nieces, nephews and extended family.

Terry was born in Kimberley, BC on July 15, 1951, son of the late Clayton James & Ethel Pakenham, also predeceased by his brother James Pakenham.

Terry served in the RCMP for 25 years with postings in Cranbrook, Terrace, and Vernon BC. While he moved through various positions within the force, his true passions were in crime prevention and forensic identification. As a Forensics Officer he covered some of the most high profile cases witnessed in Vernon, BC. He retired from the force and went to work for the City of Vernon as the Manager of the Safe Communities Unit for another 12 1/2 years. Terry was chairman of the Jean Minguy Memorial RCMP Youth Academy for several years and served on many boards, including the John Howard Society, Restorative Justice Society, Partners in Action and the Schubert Centre, as well as another 20 other notable North Okanagan boards and committees. Terry was a true visionary and enjoyed contributing to the betterment of his community. He continually and unselfishly gave of himself because he believed in people.

Our family would like to thank these thoughtful people for the wonderful care given during Terry’s battle with cancer - our family doctor Dr. Jeffrey Kwantes, Dr. Harold Yacyshyn, Dr. Scott Ainslie, Dr. Hamish Hwang, Dr. Ghee Hwang, Dr. Chris Cunningham, and Dr. Ed Hardy. We would also like to make special mention to the outstanding and loving Palliative Care Team 2, Jacqui, Elizabeth, Treena, Jessica, Michelle, Sarah, Haley, BSW - Beth, OT’s - Tennille, Laura, Community Care - Heather, and Diane, and the Safeway pharmacy staff.

To every friend, family and community member who reached out through thoughtful emails, texts and phone calls - Sharing beautiful memories and shared experiences with Terry - a deep and profound thank you. Your virtual support has provided our family strength during this difficult time.

We will have a memorial remembering Terry that will be announced in the future once safe to do so following current social pandemic concerns and restrictions.

Services

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Bill & Kristy Charlton

May 13, 2020

To Jean, Colin and Clay
It is with our utmost sadness that we express our condolences for the loss of Terry. He was such a kind, thoughtful and personable gentleman and an amazing role model to so many. It was always a privilege, Jean, to have Terry join us for our meetings and to have him share with us his opinions and tremendous wit. Your deep love and support for each other was always apparent to me and it was a privilege for me to have been involved in both your lives. Our thoughts are with you.

Sharon Durant

May 11, 2020

Jean, Colin, Clay (Emma),
Our heartfelt condolences to each of you. Jean, you and I met so many years ago now and I am blessed to call you my friend.
I have been so fortunate to know Terry. I first met Terry through you, then my business and later by serving on various committees with and for Terry including the Safe Communities Action Plan Steering Committee. It was an honour to be part of an amazing concept that originated with Terry and continues to serve our community helping so many. Terry was a significant part of the social service organizations offering his expertise in crime prevention, he certainly helped us at the Crisis Line. He was always proactive, never reactive. My daughter and I were fortunate to take the first of his many Self-defense for Women courses.
Terry's contributions to our community go far beyond what is mentioned above. May he always be remembered for the caring man he was, the incredible service he gave, his kind smile and wonderful sense of humour.
May your memories of a devoted husband and father carry you through this difficult time.
Love Sharon, Steve & family

Teresa Hwang

May 8, 2020

Ghee and I are forever grateful to Terry and yourself for your generous support of our Uganda mission fundraisers. Terry's handiwork of his exquisite pens crafted out of wood, as well as his beautiful wood turning vessels, they have given me the most lasting impression, and wonderful memories of a most kind, thoughtful and generous gentleman.

He will be missed...... but very well remembered 🙏❤

Pamela MacIntyre

May 8, 2020

Terry was such a kind soul, a remarkable human being and he will be missed. I wish we lived closer to you all so we could have shared many memories together. I will never forget being in your wedding Jean and the beautiful day we all had. It was such a great experience and being part of your day was such a cherished time together. I still have the picture of all of us together and it makes me smile. You both looked so happy and I remember Terry’s sharp uniform and how beautiful/handsome you both looked. Thinking of you all and sending much love today and always. With deepest sympathy. Xoxo

Sheila Nelson

May 8, 2020

Condolences to you Jean and the family. Terry was such a mentor for many of us! He will be dearly missed.
Sheila and Ken Nelosn

Ross Genge

May 6, 2020

A deep sense of loss to hear of Terry’s passing. He was the consummate gentleman, mentor, and family man. He will be missed. Our sincere condolences Jean, Clay, and Colin. Ross and Roz Genge

Robert & Sharon Herringer

May 2, 2020

Dear Jean and Family, We are feeling a deep sense of sadness on Terry's passing. He was greatly respected and loved by all those who had the pleasure of making his acquaintance. Robert served under Terry's leadership with Vernon Safe Communities unit for a good number of years. Terry's devotion to this program and to the community was exceptional. Our community has suffered a very large loss. We salute his many achievements, his over-the-top community involvement, and for being a genuinely sincere person who really cared -- not to mention a great sense of humour. He will be missed.

John Way

May 1, 2020

With sincere condolences and deepest, deepest sympathy from Bavette and John Way at Inglewood.

Kevin Drover

May 1, 2020

First and foremost my sincere condolences to the family. I had the pleasure of working with Terry while I was posted at Enderby detachment. Terry was on ident. He was the consummate professional at all times. I learned many things from this man and his sense of humour was always the highlight of our time together. Nothing but respect for this fine gentleman.

Allan Smith

April 30, 2020

I remember Terry's work with the Vernon Judo Club when my daughter and I were there. He was hard-working and dignified but also casual and fun. Given all the work he gave to our community, there must be many people here who have much to thank him for. My daughter, Sarah, and I sure do.

No one operates in isolation. So I'd like to thank you, Jean, and the boys for the support you gave him that helped enable his generosity.

Sincerely,
Allan Smith

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