Raymond Milton Henderson

July 1, 1949January 29, 2018
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In Memory of

Raymond Milton Henderson

Ray passed away unexpectedly on January 29th, 2018 at his home in Cobb Island, MD. Ray was born on July 1, 1949. He was the son of Claude (Babe) Raymond Henderson and Sarah Magruder Edelen Henderson.

Ray grew up in Indian Head, MD, graduated from Lackey High School, and was a Life Scout. He spent many days working at the family business pumping gas and traveling and camping with his family in the summers.

Ray led a long, successful and acknowledged career in the Information Technology field spanning over 45 years working for Ford Motor Corporation, Honeywell, Oracle Corporation, SAIC and the MITRE Corporation, supporting both Federal and commercial customers. His career spanned numerous cutting edge projects highlighting the growth and evolution of the computer industry from the 1970’s through the present supporting large scale enterprise solutions. Many of the then-emerging technologies are now contained in case studies taught in college programs today. His career included supporting the growth of the space programs at NASA Cape Canaveral for the space shuttle and rocket testing at Wallops Island, major systems engineering and benchmark programs for Honeywell Federal Systems Division including The US Army Corps of Engineers, General Service Administration, Pension Benefit Guarantee Corporation, major programs for Oracle Corporation and SAIC including the Defense Logistics Agency, and the IRS, United States Marine Corps, Department of Census, and Department of Commerce while at the MITRE Corporation.

Ray has touched the lives of all those with whom he has worked in countless ways. On all of the programs and projects that Ray has supported, his friends and colleagues all have taken away fond and loving memories of him. Stories of working with Ray are always full of respect, friendship and his constant willingness to help others. He always took a personal interest in those with whom he worked, at the same time sharing his leadership, experience, friendship and wisdom.

The mold was truly broken with Ray, and he will be in our hearts and memories forever.

Ray’s real passion, however, was boating and being on or near water. Ray was happy just sitting on his dock with an ice tea or Diet Pepsi. Ray loved his boats. He had many boats over the years, from a small 15-ft to 35-ft Sea Ray. He spent countless weekends either working on his boats or fishing. Fishing on the Potomac River was his thing. If you ever went fishing with Ray, then you should have your own stories to tell about fun on the Potomac. Like all good fishermen, he had the stories of the “fish that got away.” However, he also had a sailfish on the wall, so some of the stories were probably true.

Ray is survived by his sister Ann Magruder Henderson Ducote of Indian Head, MD and her husband Andre J. of Harahan, LA. (both now live in Titusville, FL), nephew Brian James Ducote and his wife Jessica Lin, along with grandnephew Alexander and grandniece Mackenzie.

Ray has signed off from all his accounts and is now fishing full time.

In lieu of flowers please donate to either American Diabetes Association or American Heart Association.



  • Visitation Sunday, February 4, 2018
  • Funeral Service Monday, February 5, 2018


  • Burial

Raymond Milton Henderson

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Ron Telleysh

July 9, 2018

Gordon mentioned of the passing of Raymond to me. My heart is saddened and my heart is heavy. I can not express how great Ray was. He was a classy guy, loved by all, gave more then he asked for. The world has lost a wonderful person. I am sure we will all see him in heaven someday. Adios Buddy!

Ken Hills

February 6, 2018

I met Ray when I transferred to Honeywell's McLean, VA office in the mid 80's. Ray was one of those people who warmed up slowly but once he got to know you, WOW! I am better for having known Ray. I know most of you feel the same. My condolences to Ann and Andre. Raymond, may you Rest in Peace my friend.

February 4, 2018

we were neighbors for many years and kept in touch when he moved to Cobb Island. I just talked with him the last days. I was planning on visiting again. Ray was a kind and great neighbor. I was very sad to get a note from a fellow neighbor of his passing. Gary Wilson

February 4, 2018

The world has truly lost a wonderful individual and a true gentleman who was blessed with intelligence and personality. Rest In Peace Ray.

Gordon Burger

February 4, 2018

Ray's unexpected death has hit me pretty hard, as I'm sure it did most of his friends. The many characterizations of him as loyal friend, sweet man, genuine, dependable,,,,are all really true in his case,
I have known Ray since he was 18 .We first worked together in '67-68.where we, along with Gary Buete, began our DP careers with PhilcoFord.
Ray was as nervous at his first job out in the world as you might expect, but he handled it his good-natured way, laughing quietly when we rode him in fun.
I have many good Raymond tales, most all of them very G rated, here is one of the first. As soon as he could swing it, Ray bought his first new car, a Ford Gran Turino, and brought it down to Pocomoke. He told us after a week or so that he was regretting buying the car. Apppparently Babe had to go with him to take delivery, and was reading the warrenty/manual on the wat home. They discovered that the two of them together exceeded the weight limit for the car. He was worried he would void the warranty!
When I asked him what he was going to do about it, he said how would like to be the one that tells Babe he has to go on a diet?
That was the first I remember of his quiet, charming sense of humor. I'll miss him, I already do.
Gordon Burger
RIP Raymond, my pal

Shelagh Spilman Long

February 4, 2018

Everlasting peace to Ray and comfort for his family and friends. I worked with him for many years at Honeywell/HFSI and the memories are vivid - a wonderful sly smile and twinkle in his kind eyes. I remember his natural leadership, sense of humor and genuine friendship. HFSI has always been a special family and Ray, a cherished member. Memories will be kept close in thought and heart. Blessings...

Mary & Mike Fitzella

February 4, 2018

Mary and I were devastated to hear the news about Raymond. We had last seen him in October, when the three of us and Ken Hills spent the day at Cobb Island, just sitting on the deck watching the water. The day was topped off with dinner at Shymansky's.

I worked for Raymond in the Benchmark group for about eight years after I graduated from the Level 6 training program in 1979. I have never been a part of an organization like that since. Raymond's team was truly unique. We worked hard and we played hard. We spent most of our time on the road, either in Billerica/Lawrence or Phoenix, and we were like family.

Raymond rejected my first expense report. After a trip to Billerica, where I spent two weeks living on McDonald's, I submitted the report, spending about $10 each day on food. Raymond told me I had to spend more; it made everyone else look bad!

HUD, SNAP, and SCOAP are just a few of the projects that come to mind. Raymond was always there to support us, offering tips on how we might make a mix run just a little bit faster. When the troops started getting on each other's nerves, Raymond's calming influence always got us through.

No matter how much time passed between get togethers, we could always pick right up telling war stories of benchmarks past. He was a true friend, and we will both miss him.

Lisa Delahanty-Raymond.

February 4, 2018

Ray was my first boss at Oracle and at SAIC. He was also my friend for many years. He was kind and thoughtful. With soulful eyes and a way of communicating that made people trust him. He could make complicated problems so small and easy. I will truly miss him. He is gone too soon. I pray and believe he is at peace and truly happy. Much Love and prayers for Anne and Andre and all his family who feel his absence. I pray also for their comfort and peace.

Ruth Ann (Waters) Pinkman

February 4, 2018

I'm moved by all the beautiful tributes to Raymond. That is a true testament to the man he was.

Like others, I had the pleasure of boating with him a few times. Those were always great days!

He was my boss for a short time - always nurturing and supportive.

Thank you for being our friend. We will all miss you, Raymond.

Pedro Cadenas Jr

February 4, 2018

First met Ray while at Honeywell. He was a very generous man, great guy to work and fish with. He did love to fish! If we were not catching them, we were talking about them. Best part of the day after fishing and cleaning the boat was having dinner across the street. More fish stories! Nothing but good things to say about Ray. He will not be forgotten. - Pedro.