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Judith Ellen Bernstein

May 26, 1956July 5, 2019


Judith Ellen Bernstein, 63. On July 5 , 2019, at her home in Chevy Chase, Maryland of metastatic breast cancer.

Judy was gifted with a deep intelligence and a wonderful sense of humor. She found great beauty and joy in the simplest of things and was an enthusiastic, knowledgeable patron of the arts, especially ballet. She was influential and respected in her long professional career at the law and government relations firm VanNess Feldman LLP, where she leaves many cherished friends. Her strong, passionate opinions informed a life lived on her own terms, guided by a true ethical compass, and a desire to help others. She was generous with her time to family and friends, and charitable to many worthy causes.

Judy demonstrated remarkable strength and determination in the face of her illness, yet staunchly refused to be defined by it. She maintained her dignity to the very end of her life. Judy’s love, grace, elegance and sense of style will be greatly missed by all who knew her.

Survived by her loving and devoted husband, David M. Grenadier. Daughter of the late Dr. & Mrs. Leon Bernstein. Beloved sister of Dr. David J. Bernstein (Dr. Stephanie Rost). Cherished Aunt of Michael M. Bernstein (Erin), Emily Bernstein, and Leon Rost. Stepmother of Abigail and Madeline Grenadier. Adored sister-in-law of Karen Grenadier, Robin Grenadier, Andrea Grenadier, the late Michelle Morrison, and brother-in-law Brian Grenadier (Angie).

A Memorial Service will be held on Wednesday, July 10, 2019, at 11:00 am, at Joseph Gawler’s Sons 5130 Wisconsin Avenue N.W. Washington, D.C Donations may be made In Judy’s memory to WETA Washington, D.C., Maryland Public Television, JSSA Hospice or Hope Connections.


  • Memorial Service Wednesday, July 10, 2019


Judith Ellen Bernstein

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Mary Carr

July 10, 2019

I am a receptionist at VNF and have worked with Judy for almost 30 years. Judy was always a special and sweet person and I will miss her very much.

Michael Freed-Thall

July 8, 2019

My cousin Judy had smarts and class. I’m so glad I got to spend time with her a few years ago when my wife and I visited Clymer, Pennsylvania with Judy, David, and Emily Bernstein. The Bernsteins and Thalls met in that tiny coal town at our grandparent’s when we were kids. Going back brought up all those good memories.

It wasn’t all nostalgia, however. I got to see what a strong and interesting adult my little cousin had become. When my mother battled breast cancer ten years ago, Judy’s support helped her immensely. They spoke every Sunday.

When I reached out last year during Judy’s illness, her response showed her grace and clear-eyed strength. Here is one short excerpt:

“My situation is not good. I have already outlived expectations which I credit to the care I receive from my husband. Isn’t it crazy that I finally was married at the age of 60? It was worth the wait, although I periodically am filled with guilt for getting sick six months after being married.”

A bow to the two wonderful David’s in her life.

Love, Michael Freed-Thall

Joan Elliston

July 7, 2019

I knew Judy throught Bethesda Sport and Health having met her over 25 years ago. I can think of so many positive attributes that Judy had, including thoughtfulness, loyalty, genuineness and kindness. I am so happy that she found Dave with whom she was able to share a portion of her life. In my mind she defined herself by what she did, and I loved this about her. Over the years, I grew to love and respect her so much!

Michael McBride

July 7, 2019

Judy was such a good and courageous Van Ness Feldman colleague. She will be missed greatly. Our condolences to David, who was a real blessing to Judy.

Erin & Mike Bernstein

July 6, 2019

Jeff Ellis

July 6, 2019

I have known Judy since she moved to Md. Her brother Dave and I have been best friends since then and I have been a part of the Bernstein family for more than 50 years. Losing Judy is like losing a sister. We all grieve in the passing of a kind, caring soul.
Jeff Ellis

Bonnie Wilson

July 6, 2019

Looking at this photo brings a smile to my face of just one of the wonderful memories I have with my best friend Judy.
We lost an angel this week, one that can never be replaced but we are all better people just having known her.
Rest in peace, my friend!