OBITUARY

Jennifer A. Rubin

February 1, 1974November 28, 2010

Jennifer A. Rubin February 1, 1974 November 28, 2010

Jennifer A. Rubin of Rock Tavern, NY entered into rest November 28, 2010 at Danbury Hospital in Danbury, CT. She was 36 years old. Jennifer was born in Patterson, NJ on February 1, 1974 to Mark L. and Barbara (Ebert) Rubin. Jennifer was an amazingly beautiful person in every aspect of her being. Until the age of 17 she enjoyed life as a vibrant personality who lit up any room she walked into. In 1991, the summer before her senior year in Washingtonville High School, Jennifer was in a tragic automobile accident in which she sustained a traumatic brain injury. Her life was forever changed and she remained severely disabled as a result of her injury. But with all Jenn’s limitations, she continued to light up a room with her laughter and big smile. She carried herself with great pride and dignity and had unbelievable courage to move forward with her life and live every day to its fullest. Because of all the special people who cared for and loved her, Jenn woke each morning with a smile on her face, excited to start her day. She touched all who knew her and her ability to capture everyone’s heart was beyond compare. Jenn was truly a Blessing and the world around her was made better because she was there. Jennifer is survived by her loving parents, Mark L. and Barbara Rubin of Rock Tavern, NY; sister, Amy and her husband Jeff O’Connor ; nephews, Ryan and Tommy O’Connor all of Moorestown, NJ. She is also survived by her best friends, Christine and her husband Patrick Boisvert and their children Ian, Aaron and Lily of New Milford, CT and Suzanne and her husband Scott Benz and their children Mary, Dianna and Jackson of Danbury, CT. Visitation will be held Thursday, December 2 from 5-8pm at David T. Ferguson Funeral Home, Washingtonville, NY. Funeral Services will be held Friday, December 3, 10am at David T. Ferguson Funeral Home, Washingtonville, NY. Burial will immediately follow in Cedar Hill Cemetery, Newburgh, NY. Donations can be made in memory of Jennifer A. Rubin to Ability Beyond Disability, 5 Berkshire Blvd, Bethel, CT 06801 Arrangements under the direction of Thomas A. Murray of David T. Ferguson Funeral Home, 20 North Street, Washingtonville, NY 10992, 845-496-9106. For further information or to leave condolences for the family please visit www.davidtfergusonfh.com.

Services

  • Visitation Thursday, December 2, 2010
  • Funeral Service Friday, December 3, 2010
  • Burial Friday, December 3, 2010
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Jennifer A. Rubin

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Mark Rubin

February 21, 2011


In Remembrance of Jennifer

Millions of years and countless generations of loving fathers and mothers came before us. Each was blessed with a child to whom they carefully entrusted their genetic gift of life, a unique code that comprised all that they had ever been and all they ever were to be. Most are now nameless and faceless, but the love, guidance and caring they showered upon their children made sure that the gift of life was to be safely passed on to those yet to come. In February of 1974, this ancient wonder from ages long past arrived into our unsure but immensely appreciative arms; we called her Jennifer.

Although we were never to know all who had come before us to carry this wondrous gift through time, we realized the immensity of its power and significance of what had been given to us and we loved her with all our heart and soul. With unending patience, love, countless bedtime stories, silly games and songs, careful guidance through the maze of challenges that growing up brought her way and many wonderful heart to heart talks, we nurtured this blessing into a very special young woman. All who met her were warmly touched by the gentle gift that so many in the past had worked so hard to pass on. The warmth of a billion sunrises that came before her was radiated everywhere she went and to all who came into her presence.

In 1991, a terrible twist of fate tried to take this endearing wonder of the human spirit away from us. Through oceans of tears, prayers, unfathomable medical miracles and the gentle nudging of God, Jennifer Ann survived; our gift of the ages was to continue her journey. But this time her path would be very different and infinitely more challenging. Each step was to be made without words to make her thoughts known or the ability to understand what was spoken to her by those around her. Wracked with pain from a thousand wounds to her physical body, she continued to take each step forward to a hopefully better place; it was a very slow and challenging path.

In the spring of 1993, God led us to the place where Jennifer was to continue her passage through time, Squire Court in Brookfield, Connecticut. It was here that He sent His special messengers to carry on the work that medical science could no longer do. Over the course of 17 years a small handful of very special people continued the efforts of those who had come before them. With much time, thoughtfulness, patience, caring and love, our small parcel of life rose from the ashes and once again was to spread her now very unique brand of warmth and sunshine to all those who were fortunate enough to be touched by her.

But for mortals time is not infinite and our journey of life must end. For Jennifer that moment was November 28th, 2010. For those who knew her, the world is now just a little less bright, life a little less happy. Never will a presence like hers again come to be nor will anything ever quite take the place of the light she brought into all of our lives. But in the larger order of things, we must not lose sight of the truly great gifts she worked so hard to leave behind for us. Through her endlessly long path of recovery, she taught us to have patience because not all things that we ask for will come right away. With her genuine appreciation of every simple act of kindness and caring, she showed us that the joy of non-material things is far more powerful than all the riches in the world. And through her body language she taught us that the greatest of love and happiness are felt through the smiles, gentle touches, laughs, hugs and warm glances given by those around us.

After countless millennia, the beautiful chain of life lovingly passed on by all those who came before Jennifer has now been broken. She cannot do her work anymore so only we who are left behind can pick up her gifts and again begin their passage into the future. May each of us warm those whom we encounter with a bright smile, let us laugh uncontrollably at the simplest of pleasures, and give us the strength to reach out to others and gently touch their hearts with our warm glance. Jennifer did all these things without ever uttering a single word. Let us all learn from her and share with those around us these very special gifts from the past that she tried so hard to teach us.

Sue Broughton

December 14, 2010

Peace be with you Jenn. I am a better person just for having known you and I will always remember you. Fly special girl and sing among the angels. XOXOX

Christina Shand

December 7, 2010

Mr.& Mrs Rubin& Amy,I find our sophisticated language horribly inadequate at a time like this, I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for you

Linda Brown

December 6, 2010

Mark and Barbara, You have been friends so long. I am so saddened by your loss of Jennifer and the terrible accident that changed the lives of so many people years ago. At the same time, your grace through all these adversities inspires me every day. Linda B (California)

December 5, 2010

Dear Mr. and Mrs. Rubin:

I was so very sorry and saddened to hear of your loss of Jennifer. I worked with her for five years at Squire Court and have been back many times in the past year. I cannot imagine Squire Court without her. Whenever I returned she always greeted me with a smile and a wave. My thoughts and prayers are forever with you.

Barbara Snow, Brookfield, CT

Laura Taffet

December 4, 2010

How lucky you were to have had Jennifer for 36 years - she got her strength and courage from both of you and from Amy. Prayers for your peace of heart and healing.

Jeffrey Rocke

December 4, 2010

Mr & Mrs Rubin,
I am sorry to hear about Jen. You are in my family's prayers.

Jeffrey Rocke

December 4, 2010

Mr & Mrs Rubin,
I am sorry to hear about Jen. You are in my family's prayers.

Marilyn Van Tine

December 3, 2010

Mark - I'm so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine anything more painful than losting a child. May faith sustain you during this very difficult time.

December 2, 2010

Dear Mark,Barbara and family,
You have been in my thoughts and prayers these past few days. We have lost a very bright light and I feel so priveledged to have known Jenn and her wonderful family.I'll miss her warm greetings and big smile when I go to Squire Court.

Cindy Tilles