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OBITUARY

Linda Faye (Miller) Carder

December 29, 1939October 3, 2019
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Linda Faye Miller Carder passed away October 3, 2019, at her home in Chapin, SC, after a long battle with Frontotemperal Dementia. She was surrounded by her loving husband of fifty-eight years, Kenneth, and their two daughters, Sheri Carder Hood and Sandra Carder Nash. She was preceded in death by her parents, David Mack Miller and Leila Leach Miller. In addition to her husband and two daughters, she is leaving her sons-in-law Kyle Nash and John Hood and five grandchildren: Katelyn Nash Aiken, Emily Nash, Michael Nash, Megan Hood, and Julia Rose Hood.

Linda was born in Johnson City, Tennessee, December 29, 1939, and grew up in Elizabethton, Tennessee, where she graduated from Elizabethton High School. Linda was a lifelong Methodist and grew up in First United Methodist Church, Elizabethton, TN. As a youth and young adult, she was active in church camps and the local church, district, and conference ministries. At the time of her death, she was a member of Salem United Methodist Church in Irmo, SC and an Affiliate Member of First United Methodist Church, Waynesville, NC.

She attended Emory and Henry College, graduating in 1961, with a BA degree in religious studies. As a first-generation college graduate, Emory and Henry had a lifelong influence on Linda, helping to shape her values, worldview, and sense of calling. It was in speaking in a local church on the importance of a church-related college that she remembered meeting her future husband, who was president of the youth group to which she was speaking.

Following graduation in 1961, Linda and Kenneth married, and Linda worked at East Tennessee State University while Kenneth completed his degree. They moved to Gaithersburg, MD, for Kenneth to attend Wesley Theological Seminary in Washington, D.C. Linda worked part-time at St. Dunstan Episcopal Church and audited classes at the seminary.

In 1965, Linda and Kenneth returned to their native Holston Conference where they served local congregations in Bluff City, Abingdon, Virginia, Concord, Oak Ridge, and Knoxville, Tennessee. Linda considered her primary vocational calling to be the nurturing of family as a mother, spouse, and later grandmother. She taught children’s Sunday school, led leadership training events for teachers, helped to initiate a preschool ministry Pleasant View UMC Abingdon, VA, and served in numerous outreach ministries. But her primary vocation was providing loving nurture and steadfast support for her daughters and husband.

When Kenneth was elected to the United Methodist episcopacy in 1992 and assigned to the Nashville Area, Linda’s exceptional gifts for organization and hospitality came to the forefront. Always the consummate organizer of family activities and celebrations, she regularly prepared large dinners without paid assistance. She insisted that the chores of housecleaning, meal preparation, and serving were themselves part of her gift to guests. It was also a reflection of her working-class values and genuine commitment to servant ministries.

Linda and Kenneth moved to Jackson, MS, in 2000 and Linda continued her supportive and servant ministries of hospitality. During her mother’s illness and subsequent death in 2001, Linda returned to Elizabethton, TN for several months to care for her mother. When Kenneth suffered a heart attack in 2002, Linda’s vocation as caregiver continued until his recovery. Upon Kenneth’s retirement as a bishop in 2004, they moved to Durham, NC where Kenneth joined the faculty of Duke Divinity School. In 2009 Linda was diagnosed with Frontotemporal Dementia, which represented her most formidable challenge. She and Kenneth subsequently moved to Chapin, SC to be near their daughters and grandchildren. As the disease inexorably diminished her capacities, she never lost her ministry of teaching and hospitality. Now she taught by being rather than doing and by receiving the love and care of others.

Linda’s lifelong practices of dignity, perseverance, self-respect, hospitality and generous love were so embedded in her identity that they prevailed through what has been called “the long goodbye.” Her life is testimony to the truth that though language and knowledge may pass away, love remains.

Two memorial services are scheduled. The first will be at Salem United Methodist Church, Irmo, SC, October 6, at 3:00 p.m., officiated by Bishop J. Lawrence McCleskey and The Reverend Gary Phillips, with visitation following. The second service is set for Tuesday, October 8, at 2:00 p.m. at First United Methodist Church, Waynesville, NC, with Bishop J. Lawrence McCleskey, Bishop Richard Looney, The Reverend Barbara Garcia, and The Reverend Keith Turman officiating. The family will greet guests following the service.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be given to the Linda Miller Scholarship Fund at Emory and Henry College, Emory, VA, or United Methodist Committee on Relief, USAgainst Alzheimer’s, or a charity of your choice. 101 K Street NW, Suite 400, Washington, DC 20005.

Garrett Funeral Home is caring for the family. A message of comfort may be made to the family at www.garrettfuneralsandcremations.com

Services

  • Memorial Service Tuesday, October 8, 2019

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Clayton Childers

October 9, 2019

Dear Bishop Carder,
May God bless you and keep you close throughout these days. May you know the still small voice of God whispering in the wind grace and peace. May your family find peace and comfort in these days as friends surround you in love and prayers - even from a distance. For your journey with Linda lovingly shared and the wonderful words of tribute remembering Linda's long life of leadership through service and faithfulness is an inspiration and encouragement. May the gentle parent of all hold you extra close in this time.
Clayton

Yoknyam Dabale

October 7, 2019

Dear Babah Bishop Carder and family,

I just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I am deeply sadden for your loss but comforted by the fact that your wife experienced an extraordinary type of love by your care of her for the past years until her transition to God.Thank you for showing us an example of true love. Sending love and hugs.

Yoknyam Dabale ( former student, at Duke University)

Yoknyam Dabale

October 7, 2019

Dear Babah Bishop Carder and family,

I just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I am deeply sadden for your loss but comforted by the fact that your wife experienced an extraordinary type of love by your care of her for the past years until her transition to God.Thank you for showing us an example of true love. Sending love and hugs.

Yoknyam Dabale

nancy and david banks

October 7, 2019

Our family wants to express our deep sympathy to Ken and his family. Linda was a beautiful person and we are blessed to have has Ken and Linda at Concord United Methodist Church for many years. Love, Nancy, David, Bill, and Debbie Banks

Cheryl (Huffaker) Davis

October 6, 2019

Sheri, Sandra, Mr. Carder and extended family, My heart goes out to each of you. Keeping you in my prayers during this transition. I have been blessed to read about your family’s journey through the past several years. Reading of the love story of Mr. and Mrs. Carder as well as the girls and their Mom over the years was beautiful. Praying for peace and comfort while rejoicing in the fact that you will all be reunited one day. Much love to all of you.

Grace imathiu

October 6, 2019

It’s been a few years ago now, but I do remember sitting with Mrs Carder at dinner and then that evening, I preached for the Tennessee Annual Conference as Bishop Carder’s guest.

Then more recently I joined in with the many around the world who sat with Ms Linda through Bishop’s Facebook postings.

The two of them became my teachers on how to attend to “what is of ultimate concern”. Faith.

Him, waiting for her to “return” as he combed her hair and said “I love you”. And then I cried with joy the days she “returned” even for a moment and said to him “there you are!” or “you are wonderful!” or “I love you!” or the day they both had communion and the day they both said the Lord’s Prayer
so many Holy moments!

Thankyou Linda and Bishop for allowing me to sit with you and your family through this amazing and trying journey.
I owe you. I love you.

May God’s amazing grace comfort and strengthen you during these difficult days.

W. Glenn Hill

October 5, 2019

May God's love, mercy and grace be with all the family in the loss of Mrs. Carder, wife, mother, grandmother and mother-in-law. Love and prayers. W. Glenn Hill, former Secretary of the Memphis Conference, retired Elder.

Martha Manuel

October 5, 2019

Bishop Carder, you and your family have my sincere thoughts and prayers as you celebrate Linda’s life of love and service.
Martha Manuel, retired Office Manager/Administrative Assistant CMT, Memphis
Conference

Romia Jeter

October 5, 2019

Sending sincere condolences to you Rev. Carder, Sheri and Sandra and the entire family.
May you each find comfort in the hope of being re-united in Eternity, as well as GOD's love and grace.

Love and Sympathy

Romia Jeter

Russell Gallimore

October 4, 2019

Bishop Carder and family: Carroll and I send love and prayers for your comfort. You were my bishop in the Memphis Conference. Peace to all. Rev. Russell N. Gallimore, retired clergy, Jackson, TN

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