Becker Funeral Home


Alan M. Pitman

November 4, 1958November 8, 2020

On Sunday, November 8th, the Pitman family lost their beloved hero. Alan Michael Pitman was born in beautiful Bermuda on November 4th,1958 and grew up near Somerset Village. While attending Saltus Grammar School, Alan became interested in the arts and music. He began playing the trumpet at age 12. The instrument came quickly to him and he achieved Grade 7 (the highest) proficiency very quickly. He played many instruments and had a leading role in virtually every school production. The stage was his canvas; he was a natural thespian and fed off the audiences he entertained. He was also an accomplished athlete, representing Bermuda in field hockey and playing starting goalkeeper for Saltus. He continued his music studies at Mt. Allison University in Sackville, New Brunswick, Canada.

Moving back to Bermuda, he was invited to join the leading entertainment act on the island at that time, The Happening BDA. Alan sang, played trumpet, and helped vault the band to a new level – acting as a sidekick to the band’s leader, Jimmy O’Connor. The band enjoyed international success as well as winning contracts on several cruise ship lines. Alan then brought Bermuda to New Jersey, creating Bermuda Strokes Painting, a successful business that served the local community. He became involved in St. Andrew's Church in Westwood, a place that was deeply special to him, where he would discover his love of the Catholic Church and ultimately transfer his career to serving the Youth Ministry and Music Ministry, among others. He would also go on to serve the community of Sacred Heart Church in Haworth. Alan had a love for animals, the game of golf, volunteering, ministries, and spending time with his children and granddaughters. Alan will be laid to rest in his family plot at St. Anne’s Church in Bermuda, the same church where his daughter was married.

In honor of Alan’s memory, friends and members of the community are invited to pay their respects on Friday, November 13th, 4pm-8pm, at St. Andrews R.C. Church, 120 Washington Avenue, Westwood NJ 07675. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in his memory to: • Sacred Heart Church Youth Ministry - 102 Park Street, Haworth, New Jersey 07641 • St. Andrews Church Food Pantry - 120 Washington Avenue, Westwood, NJ 07675

Alan is survived by his parents Marion and Jack, his daughter Ashley and son-in-law Matt, granddaughters Violet and Antonina, his son Tyler and daughter-in-law Leah, his partner Jean Bradley-Brennan and her daughters Katie and Emily, his sister Paula Sue and her sons Chase and Cole, a houseful of devoted pets, and cherished extended family: MaryAnne, Paul, and Drew Melanson, and Anne and Angelo Pietrunti. His tireless love and devotion to his family, friends, and the Church will NEVER be forgotten.


  • Sacred Heart Church Youth Ministry
  • St. Andrews Church Food Pantry


  • Visitation

    Friday, November 13, 2020


Alan M. Pitman

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Dr.Brenda Brown

November 9, 2021

Dear Family Pittman ,
Alan’s presence radiates continuously.
BY HIS Grace ..

St .Andrews Parish

Cal Stempel

May 10, 2021

Saw notice of Alan’s passing in our Spring Saltus magazine today & am still coming to grips with my overwhelming sadness. I only knew Alan as an adolescent in School. My memories of Alan came flooding back: a keen soccer goalie & field hockey player at Bermuda’s SGS. I tried substituting as goal keeper when Alan shattered his knee-cap playing hockey but was terrified I wouldn’t do the job he did (I didn’t).

Playing clarinet along side Alan’s trumpet at school or in the ‘Shades of Grey’ group was an honor - I was fair, but Alan had something special that other musicians just dream about. He had an incredible musical gift and our leader Johnny & the rest of us knew it. Although we lost contact with one another after Bermuda, I think fondly of our school days often and had no idea we lived so close for so many years! It’s no surprise that Alan has been helping others all theses years- he always thought more about others than of himself even at a young age.

Heaven has gained a heck of a trumpeter & a wonderful, thoughtful & selfless man. I can just see & hear Alan & Bill Duncan (our music teacher, mentor & lifelong friend) jamming in the clouds.

My thoughts are with your family & friends.

Your old friend, Cal Stempel
Wilmington Delaware

Karen Delaney Dino

November 24, 2020

We are so sorry for the families loss. We always enjoyed talking to Alan when he was visiting Ashley and Matt.

Sending peace love and sympathy to all.

Karen and Phil Dino of Glen Rock.

Susan Frank

November 16, 2020

To Alan's friends and family, My two daughters knew Alan through Youth Group and we are all so saddened to hear news of his passing. He made the experience meaningful and valuable. His individual texts to the youth group members and the fun snacks & and activities he planned, and the attention paid to his teen members was so much appreciated. What a sweet, kind, faithful, and dedicated man. You are all in our prayers. The Frank Family

Teresa Marzulla

November 15, 2020

Alan you will be so missed by your Saint Andrews music minstry family. Thank you for keeping us together and guiding us a long the way. I will miss your beautiful voice and your spirit. It will not be the same with out you.


Teresa Marzulla and family.

Colleen Dargis

November 14, 2020

My impression of Alan and the impact he had on my life...

He was a man of many talents. He had a way with people that touched them deeply and I’m no exception. His musicality with his trumpet and his distinct voice could move me to tears, especially his rendition of Joseph’s song. I remember one time when I was in church after going to confession and I was feeling overwhelmed after just having had my 4th child, Lori. The responsibility of raising 4 little kids was weighing heavy on my heart. Alan asked me, are you ok? And I told him how I felt... he said, Colleen, after I had my son I felt very similar and you’re going to be ok. He gave me a hug and I felt, listened to and loved. He made me feel like I was the MOST IMPORTANT PERSON in the room. We shared our faith in God and I knew I had a friend in him❤️ When he came to St. Andrews from Bermuda, he did so because he fell in love. I remember him telling me about his conversion to Catholicism from being raised Protestant as a challenge but one that he was glad he took. He did not want to be separated from his children spiritually. Even though his marriage ended he stayed here, close to his children. I share these stories with you because I am saddened by the loss of so many close, important people in my life. I’ve admired him and now will miss his warm generous smile. When I reflect back on my life I realize how monumentally important my spiritual life was and IS. We formed a family outside of our home with a second home...St. Andrews, and Alan’s warm smile and big voice was a part of that. My prayer is that everyone could find a wonderful person like Alan in their lives. With a broken heart and profound sadness I share the treasure of his friendship with me . 💔

Kelly Jeanne Symons

November 14, 2020

I sang in St Andrew’s Music Ministry with Alan for many years. My Mother and I were just saying how much we loved him singing “Joseph’s Song” at Christmas. He was so talented and a nice person. RIP Alan

Sophia Brittan

November 14, 2020

I am thinking of the Pitman family and extended family that Alan was a part of during their time of grief. His community was lucky to have a man so generous and dedicated to improving the lives of those around him. My thoughts are also with his daughter and granddaughters who he was so present for always.

much love,

Elaine Barrett

November 14, 2020

To Alan's loving family and friends may the memories you have sustain you. To my beloved SAMM know that my heart is with you, as we remember our mentor and friend. SAMM was always more than just a choir because of the fabric of the people joined in love to make music. Alan's voice lifted us all to the glory of our creator and to see our own humility and grace. May he rest in peace. I will always remember him.

Meredith Wakefield

November 13, 2020

I am deeply saddened by the news of Alan's passing. I lost touch with him many years ago, but I still remember his kind nature and beautiful smile. From what I've read here, he left this world having made a huge impact on so many people. His was a life well-lived. My sincerest condolences to Marion, Jack and Paula Sue, along with his extended family and loved ones.